Your Marriage Matters
209 episodes - English - Latest episode: 3 months ago - ★★★★★ - 17 ratingsThis podcast is for couples that are engaged to be married or seriously dating with an eye on getting married. We are here to help you prepare for a long life together before you even say I do!
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YMM 136 An Amazing Interview with Matt and Julie Barnhill On Crucial, Critical and Casual Needs!
February 23, 2022 08:23 - 30 minutes - 56 MBWhat's up gang? A few weeks ago in our podcast YMM 133 we introduced you to the subject of Relational Needs in a relationship and provided the resources for everyone to take the Relational Needs survey! Click Here to access that podcast and the resources. This episode we introduce you to Matt and Julie Barnhill of Barnhill Counseling and Associates, our friends, mentors and co-laborers in building more vibrant, healthy marriages, who will take our understanding of the subject to an ent...
YMM 135 ... 4 Keys To Making Our Marriage Last 35 Years!
February 16, 2022 09:30 - 16 minutes - 29.6 MBHey gang ... It is the Wednesday after!!! After Valentine's Day, our 35th anniversary and, the launch of our first book YOUR Marriage Matters - 52 Great Conversations To Build A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage! What a wild and crazy week this has been already and it is only Wednesday. WOW! One of the things we got asked a lot on Valentine's Day is "what is the secret to staying married for 35 years"? We have been asked that question, or some version of it, a number of times through the y...
YMM 134 ... Valentine's Day Special Edition! 3 Simple Things You Can Do To Make Valentine's Day AMAZING This Year! Hey
February 09, 2022 09:23 - 15 minutes - 27.8 MBValentine's Day Special Edition! 3 Simple Things You Can Do To Make Valentine's Day AMAZING This Year! Hey gang ... It is Valentine's Day week and we are so excited for so many reasons but three reasons really stand out! While we "should" be telling our spouses and loved ones how much they mean to us all year round, this week we really focus on saying I LOVE YOU! We have three easy and simple, but powerful, ways in this podcast for you to say it in a special way! This Valentine's Day...
YMM 133 GAME CHANGER ALERT!!! Knowing What Makes Your Spouse Feel Loved!
February 02, 2022 09:07 - 15 minutes - 29 MBIn this week's episode we are sharing the chapter from the book "Let's Talk About Sex Baby" and focusing on the conversation "What Makes YOU Feel Loved" in the chapter! What we can learn from this conversation and the Relational Needs Survey is this: We have 3 main Relational Needs that, when met, make us feel loved! Our 3 main Relational Needs are not likely the same as our spouse! Yet, we try to make them feel loved by giving them what makes us feel loved! Do you see where there migh...
YMM 132 ... Interview With Trevor and Catie Bird of Durango Harley Davidson
January 26, 2022 09:00 - 1 hour - 135 MBYMM 132 ... Interview With Trevor and Catie Bird of Durango Harley Davidson Trevor, Catie, Millie and Reese Bird From minimum wage employees to owning Durango Harley Davidson Trevor and Catie Grace Bird are a great example of what happens when a couple creates a compelling "shared vision" and sticks to what they believe God has called them to! You are going to love their story complete with what they themselves refer to as "dark times"! Open, transparent and compelling these two are g...
YMM 131 The Power of "Shared Vision"!
January 18, 2022 23:06 - 27 minutes - 51.2 MBYMM 131 ... The Power of A "Shared Vision"! Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matters episode #131! In this podcast we are going to look at how we can level up our relationship by getting behind a compelling "vision" for our marriage that goes beyond just surviving! A "shared vision" can turn a bad marriage into a good one and a good one into a GREAT one! And, the benefits of finding a central driving force in your relationship go way beyond even thriving together! In this episode we will discuss:...
YMM 130 The Fundamentals for Building A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage!
January 12, 2022 09:00 - 24 minutes - 46.1 MBThe Fundamentals for Building A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage! Hey gang ... Welcome to Your Marriage Matters episode 133 - The Fundamentals for Building A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage! Since we are doing a "restart" on the podcast, and new YouTube channel. we felt like it was important to go back to the fundamentals as a reset for everything we are going to be covering in the days and weeks ahead! The fundamentals we are going to be covering during this episode are simple but powerfu...
YMM #129 ... We're Back!
January 04, 2022 21:25 - 22 minutes - 41.3 MBWhat is up? We are so very excited to be back podcasting after a little over a year of. So many things have happened during 2021 we wanted to catch you up on everything. Plus, we really wanted to give you a preview of what lies ahead in 2022 ... it is so exciting! Our focus is going to be taking our relationship to an entirely new level. In this podcast we give you a little insight into just what that is going to take! Click Here To Watch the Podcast! Here is just some of what lies ahea...
YMM #128 ... 4 Questions To Ask Yourself To Make 2021 A Great Year!!!
December 09, 2020 09:00 - 18 minutes - 17.5 MBAre you set to make the most of 2021? Answer these 4 questions and we promise you will be! To say the least 2020 has been a really tough year! So, how do we turn the page and make the next year something special in our lives. Take the time to do this simple exercise we are sharing with you over the next 2 weeks and you can make your 2021 something extra special!!! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #127 ... How Can You Possibly Be Thankful This Thanksgiving?
November 25, 2020 09:30 - 18 minutes - 17 MBWith all of the craziness that we have experienced in 2020 how in the heck can you be thankful this Thanksgiving? Well, if you know anything about Team Jacobus then get ready! We are going to show you how you can be thankful no matter what! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #126 - Post Election 2020 ... What The Heck Do We Do Now?
November 11, 2020 09:00 - 21 minutes - 20 MBIt is a week after the elections of 2020 and we still aren't sure who is president. One side says they have won and the other says it was stolen! So, what can we do? We focus on what is within our control and we take action! We make things, good things, happen that we can dictate. Today we give you some very important strategies and tactics to deal with these very uncertain times! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #125 ... I Got YOUR Back No Matter What!
November 04, 2020 09:00 - 12 minutes - 23.3 MBIn this episode, an excerpt from our webinar "Tough Talk for Tough Times", we look at what it takes to have each other's back no matter what. Believe it or not, what helps us bond together as a team is understanding how imperfect we both are separately and how strong we are together! We trust you will enjoy this episode! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #124 ... The Power Of A Shared Vision!
October 28, 2020 22:47 - 18 minutes - 34.6 MBIn this episode we are going to talk about the power of a Shared Vision! We are wrapping up our first long road trip since we went to full time living in a RV. So, it seems appropriate that we share how your shared vision can propel your life, and your marriage, forward as well! We encourage and challenge you to work at developing this skill of dreaming big together so that you can build a more vibrant, healthy marriage and experience everything, and more, you dreamed of when you said "I D...
YMM #123 ... Fight NAKED Our Best Marital Advice!
October 21, 2020 16:12 - 7 minutes - 14.7 MBFight NAKED Our Best Marital Advice! This weeks episode is another excerpt from our recent webinar "Tough Talk for Tough Times" and it is a great acronym N A K E D that we use to teach one way to handle the inevitable conflict that is a part of every healthy relationship! If the acronym doesn't work the try, literally, fighting naked. It will stop any argument in its tracks! We trust you will really enjoy this episode! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #123 ... Fight NAKED Our Best Marital Advice!
October 21, 2020 16:12 - 7 minutes - 14.7 MBFight NAKED Our Best Marital Advice! This weeks episode is another excerpt from our recent webinar "Tough Talk for Tough Times" and it is a great acronym N A K E D that we use to teach one way to handle the inevitable conflict that is a part of every healthy relationship! If the acronym doesn't work the try, literally, fighting naked. It will stop any argument in its tracks! We trust you will really enjoy this episode! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #122 I Am NOT Your Enemy!
October 14, 2020 08:00 - 12 minutes - 23.6 MBThis is a "Tough Talk for Tough Times" (a webinar excerpt) ... I Am NOT Your Enemy! One of the very best strategies Christie and Jim have learned in the last couple of years. Once we decide we are not "against" each other during tough times but actually on the same team ... it is a game changer! We trust you will enjoy this episode! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #121 Can This Marriage Be Saved?
October 07, 2020 08:00 - 16 minutes - 31 MBWe get this question way too often but, the answer is always the same ... absolutely! A heads up ... you are going to get two very different answers from Christie the professional counselor and Jim the coach and Divorce Care teacher and that's ok. You may find one answer more to your liking than the other! What you will find the same coming from both of them is that it may not be easy and it may take a while, that said, we promise you it will be worth it! If you want to sign up for the...
YMM #121 Can This Marriage Be Saved?
October 07, 2020 08:00 - 16 minutes - 31 MBWe get this question way too often but, the answer is always the same ... absolutely! A heads up ... you are going to get two very different answers from Christie the professional counselor and Jim the coach and Divorce Care teacher and that's ok. You may find one answer more to your liking than the other! What you will find the same coming from both of them is that it may not be easy and it may take a while, that said, we promise you it will be worth it! If you want to sign up for the...
YMM #120 Are You In A Season of Struggle?
September 30, 2020 12:54 - 18 minutes - 16.7 MBAre You In A Season of Struggle? Has 2020 created a challenge for your your marriage? No worries ... not only can you survive all of this craziness, you can actually thrive! In this episode we share with you 5 tips you can use today to get and keep your relationships vibrant and health! To register for the "Tough Talk for Tough Times" webinar on Wednesday, October 7th at 7p CST go to www.yourmarriagematters.com/webinar1. We look forward to your joining us! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #119 ... Who Are We? Why Are We Here? And Why Should You Care?
September 23, 2020 08:00 - 17 minutes - 33.3 MBWe learned a long time ago that every audience member, face to face or virtual, has the same 3 questions going through their mind when listening to us. In this episode we will answer those 3 questions! Who Are We? Why Are We Here? And Why Should You Care? Well, we definitely want you to know more about who we are and why we do these episodes but more importantly we want to answer the question ... why should you care! We trust this recording will encourage you in your relationship! Ji...
YMM #119 ... Who Are We? Why Are We Here? And Why Should You Care?
September 23, 2020 08:00 - 17 minutes - 33.3 MBWe learned a long time ago that every audience member, face to face or virtual, has the same 3 questions going through their mind when listening to us. In this episode we will answer those 3 questions! Who Are We? Why Are We Here? And Why Should You Care? Well, we definitely want you to know more about who we are and why we do these episodes but more importantly we want to answer the question ... why should you care! We trust this recording will encourage you in your relationship! Ji...
YMM #118 ... 5 Things It Takes Take To Pull Off An Amazing Journey, and Marriage!
September 16, 2020 08:00 - 25 minutes - 47.3 MBWhat does it take for a couple, like the Jacobus' to successfully complete an incredible 3,700+ mile journey of a lifetime from Arlington, Texas to Bar Harbor Maine? It takes the same Mindsets, Strategies, Tactics and Skill Sets that it does to build an incredible marriage. In this episode we will share with you the 5 critical Mindsets that we can all work on and leverage to build the life together we dreamed of when we said "I do"! We invite you to join us on Facebook at Your Marriage M...
YMM #117 Our First YouTube Episode ... Why YOUR Marriage Matters!
September 09, 2020 08:00 - 9 minutes - 8.85 MBYes ... you can find the video of this podcast on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5uhr3weF9GzCwyJbkITJOw In this episode we talk about why YOUR Marriage Matters to so many people including yourself and we give you some tips on how to make it it the one you dreamed of when you said "I do"! YouTube here we come!!! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #116 ... We Have An IDEA! It Is Finally Time To Take "ACTION"!!!
September 02, 2020 11:53 - 18 minutes - 16.9 MBDo you struggle with making "big decisions" in your marriage? Well, here is a process we use that can help! We are in week five of our series on making important decisions in our lives and we are using the acronym I D E A. Inspiration, discussion, education and now finally "ACTION"! Grab a notepad and a pen ... it is time to learn a great strategy! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #115 ... We Have An IDEA! Get Educated BEFORE You Make A Decision ... It Is SOOOOOO Easy These Days!!!
August 26, 2020 08:00 - 19 minutes - 17.7 MBIn this episode we discuss how important it is to educate ourselves before we make a decision! And, with all of the tools we have available today ... how easy it is too! Grab a pen and pad ... you are going to want to take some notes!!!
YMM #114 ... We Have An IDEA! How To Have A Productive Discussion ... About Anything and Everything!!!
August 19, 2020 08:00 - 22 minutes - 20.7 MBWe are in our third week of this series ... We Have An IDEA! How To Have A Productive Discussion ... About Anything and Everything!!! The "D" in the acronym is for "discussion" and in this podcast episode we "discuss" how to make your conversation a productive one and we share an awesome process you can use to really make great decisions!!! Grab a pen and paper. Seriously, gran a pen and a pad. You will enjoy learning "The Ben Franklin Method" for decision making!!! Jim & Christie Jaco...
YMM #113 ... We Have An IDEA! How Inspiration Played A Huge Part In Going Full Time In A RV!
August 12, 2020 23:08 - 26 minutes - 24.1 MBCurrently we are in a 5 Part series on how we made the decision to go and live full time in a RV! Is the series we are using the acronym I - Inspiration D - Discussion E - Educate A - Action In this episode we discuss the role inspiration played in our process and how inspiration can energize your marriage! Grab a pen and a pad ... there's homework! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #112 ... We Have An IDEA!
August 05, 2020 08:00 - 25 minutes - 35.1 MBFirst, thank you for all of the kindness you shared with us last week after hearing our Covid story! It was much appreciated. This week we share with everyone the answer to a question we get a lot these days ... how did you two decide to sell everything you own, including your home, and go live full time in a RV? We are going to share with you the process we used and you can use too when making a decision! Grab a pad and pen and take notes! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #112 ... We Have An IDEA!
August 05, 2020 08:00 - 25 minutes - 35.1 MBFirst, thank you for all of the kindness you shared with us last week after hearing our Covid story! It was much appreciated. This week we share with everyone the answer to a question we get a lot these days ... how did you two decide to sell everything you own, including your home, and go live full time in a RV? We are going to share with you the process we used and you can use too when making a decision! Grab a pad and pen and take notes! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #111 ... Podcast Reset! Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow!
July 29, 2020 15:20 - 23 minutes - 33.2 MBSorry we missed the last month podcasting ... we went through a brutal personal battle with Covid 19! We are using this podcast to reset everything, get a fresh start, share with you about our struggle with Covid and ... let you know where we will be headed with the podcast in the future! Spoiler alert ... we have some fun stuff coming! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #110 - 5 Questions ... Week Five! The One BIG Question We Should Be Asking Daily!
July 01, 2020 17:00 - 15 minutes - 14.1 MBWe are wrapping up our 5 week series of tough questions to help us all build a more vibrant healthy marriage with the one big question we need to be asking ourselves daily! We trust you will enjoy this week's podcast! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #109 - 5 Questions ... Week Four! How Do YOU Stack Up In the 2 Most Important Marriage Skills?
June 24, 2020 08:00 - 23 minutes - 22.1 MBThis week's "tough question" is very simple ... how do YOU stack up in the two most important skills to the success of every marriage? Seriously, if you can work hard to be just good at these two you can have a SOLID marriage! Master these two and you can have a great marriage! What are they? Listen, take notes and find out "how you stack up"! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #108 - 5 Questions ... Week Three! What Are YOUR Top 3 Challenges?
June 18, 2020 08:00 - 19 minutes - 18.5 MBLast week we talked about what your 5 biggest strengths are. Well, it is equally important to be aware of and be working on what are challenges are. But ... we are going to cut you, and ourselves, some slack and focus on only 3! It takes courage to look in the mirror and admit our faults! NEWS FLASH ... we all have them. That just makes us human. How we handle them determines what kind of human, and spouse we are! So, let's do the work this week and make a change for the better! Jim &...
YMM #107 5 Questions ... Week Two! What Are YOUR Top 5 Strengths?
June 10, 2020 08:00 - 21 minutes - 19.6 MBThis week, in our 5 Tough Questions series we want you to list your top 5 strengths that you bring to the marriage! Strange that it would be one of our 5 Tough Questions series. Well, you would be surprised how people struggle to list what they are good at! So, grab a note pad and a pen and get to it! After listening to the podcast of course! NOTE: Our apologies for the poor sound quality on Jim's mic! OPERATOR ERROR! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #106 - 5 Questions ... Week One! What Does It Take To Be A Great Woman/Man?
May 27, 2020 08:00 - 23 minutes - 32.7 MBThis is the first question from our series 5 Questions We Need To Ask Ourselves To Build A More Vibrant, Healthy Marriage! Week One, What Does It Take To Be A Great Woman/Man? We start the series by asking ourselves to get clear about our goal ... being the best version of ourselves! What does it take? What do we admire in others? Where am I in relation to those qualities we see as "great". Grab your pen and paper and let's get to work! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #105 ... 5 Questions To Ask Ourselves To Build A More Vibrant Healthy Marriage!
May 20, 2020 08:00 - 20 minutes - 28.1 MBHey gang ... In this episode we kick off a series of 5 questions we all need to ask ourselves to build a more vibrant healthy marriage! Today we focus on the power of questions, how to ask ourselves the right questions and how these questions can energize us as well as our marriage! Grab a pen and paper ... time to take some notes! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #104 ... Bye Bye Covid! 4 Ideas for Putting the Pandemic In the Past!
May 13, 2020 08:00 - 23 minutes - 33.2 MBThe time has come to put the Covid19 Pandemic in it's rightful place! While we are quite certain it isn't any where near 100% over we do want to focus on the future and moving ahead. In this podcast episode Team Jacobus shares 4 different ways to intentionally move forward in our lives, and specifically in our marriages, in a positive and constructive manner! Let's take what we have learned in the last several weeks and make a better way forward ... Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #103 ... Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow With Covid-19!
May 06, 2020 08:00 - 26 minutes - 36.6 MBWhat have we learned, in our marriages, from this Covid-19 pandemic? In this episode Team Jacobus looks at Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow With Covid-19! What are the lessons learned? How do these lessons impact our lives today with things "opening back up"? And, most important, what is life and our marriages going to look like moving forward? We believe this has been a great teacher for our marriage? How about you? Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #102 ... 3 Things We Have Learned From The Covid-19 Pandemic!
April 22, 2020 08:00 - 22 minutes - 30.9 MBEvery challenge, difficulty or issue we face in life presents us with an opportunity to learn! In this episode we look at ... 3 Things We Have Learned From The Covid-19 Pandemic! These are 3 lessons we believe each of us, individually and as a couple, can take away from this horrific situation and consequently be better tomorrow! Enjoy ... Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #101 - Covid-19 ... Never Let A Good Crisis Go To Waste!
April 15, 2020 08:00 - 26 minutes - 36.1 MBIt has been said, throughout the ages, "Never Let A Good Crisis Go To Waste!" In this episode we share with you 3 strategies, along with some very specific "to-do's", to help us all make the most out of this crisis! Taking action is huge when we feel like our lives are out of control so enjoy this B "action taking packed episode" and get busy not letting this crisis go to waste! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #100 ... WHY YOUR Marriage Matters!
April 08, 2020 20:58 - 21 minutes - 29.7 MBHey gang ... In this episode Jim & Christie break down their tag line "Building More Healthy Vibrant Marriages"! And they talk about why YOUR marriage matters both on a personal front and in a much larger sense as well! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #099 COVID-19 ... Taking Control Of YOUR Life When Everything Is Out Of Control!
April 01, 2020 08:00 - 25 minutes - 23.3 MBHow do you take control of your life when Covid-19 has sent everything else totally out of control? Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matters podcast episode YMM #099 COVID-19 ... Taking Control Of YOUR Life When Everything Is Out Of Control! In this episode Team Jacobus will share 5 very specific things we can all do to control the things we can while everything else is crazy! Taking control and taking action is empowering and we want you and your team to be empowered during these unprecedented ...
YMM #098 What To Do About COVID 19 Stress
March 25, 2020 08:00 - 19 minutes - 17.7 MBHey gang ... COVID 19 Stress ... 6 Ways You And Your Family Can Tame It! To say the least we are living in interesting times and there is a lot of stress creeping, or barging, into our every day lives! In this episode we share with you 6 ways you can be proactive in handling this stress individually, as a couple and as a family! We are going to want to be action oriented in the days ahead and resist the opportunity to become a "victim" of COVID-19! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #098 COVID 19 Stress
March 25, 2020 08:00 - 19 minutes - 17.7 MBHey gang ... Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matters podcast episode YMM #098 COVID 19 Stress ... 6 Ways You And Your Family Can Tame It! To say the least we are living in interesting times and there is a lot of stress creeping, or barging, into our every day lives! In this episode we share with you 6 ways you can be proactive in handling this stress individually, as a couple and as a family! We are going to want to be action oriented in the days ahead and resist the opportunity to become a "...
YMM #097 ... COVID-19 Tips From Team Jacobus' Resident Healthcare Professional!
March 18, 2020 08:00 - 25 minutes - 24 MBHey gang ... COVID-19 Tips From Team Jacobus' Resident Healthcare Professional! We are in an unprecedented time in our communities, our nation and in our world! The Coronavirus, or COVID-19, has become a life changing event for everyone! In this episode we find out from Christie Jacobus, an RN with 35 years of experience and alphabet soup behind her name as well as a Licensed Professional Counselor what we need to do to stay both physically and emotionally healthy during the days ahead...
YMM #096 TeamWORK Makes the DreamWORK!
March 11, 2020 08:00 - 24 minutes - 34.6 MBHey gang ... What Does It Take To Be The Best Teammate? In this episode we discuss what does it take for me to specifically be 2 things. First, a student of marriage itself and second, what does it take to be a student of Christie my wife! Yes, there is a lot to learn, no doubt! That said, it is the most rewarding endeavor we will ever undertake! We trust you will enjoy this episode and it will challenge you to become the "best version of YOURself and a great teammate!
YMM #095 Why We Believe Team Jacobus Is More Important Than Either Of Us Is Individually!
March 04, 2020 09:00 - 20 minutes - 27.8 MBHey gang ... Why We Believe Team Jacobus Is More Important Than Either Of Us Is Individually! In this episode we follow up with a program we just did for a corporate client of Jim's in Miami! We answer the question why do we believe Team Jacobus is more important that either one of us is individually! While there is a lot that goes into it, and it is sometimes WORK, it is well worth it! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #095 TeamWORK Makes the DreamWORK!
March 04, 2020 09:00 - 20 minutes - 27.8 MBHey gang ... Welcome to YOUR Marriage Matterz podcast episode YMM #095 TeamWORK Makes the DreamWORK! Why We Believe Team Jacobus Is More Important Than Either Of Us Is Individually! In this episode we follow up with a program we just did for a corporate client of Jim's in Miami! We answer the question why do we believe Team Jacobus is more important that either one of us is individually! While there is a lot that goes into it, and it is sometimes WORK, it is well worth it! Jim &...
YMM #095 R E S P E C T In YOUR Marriage!
February 26, 2020 16:55 - 23 minutes - 32.7 MBHey Gang ... R E S P E C T In YOUR Marriage ... And A Few Other Words We Left Out Of The Cupid Challenge! In this episode we tackle words like Respect, Roles and Responsibilities and a couple of other important ones that we left out of The Cupid Challenge 2020 that you requested we discuss. Grab a pen and some paper ... you are going to want to take notes! Jim & Christie Jacobus
YMM #093 ... The Most Impactful Words To Your Marriage!
February 19, 2020 09:00 - 14 minutes - 13.5 MBHey gang ... The Most Impactful Words To Your Marriage! These 6 words are straight from The Cupid Challenge 2020! During the 14 day challenge it was clear that these words meant the most to everyone and struck up the most conversation. We trust you will enjoy this recap and our discussion why these words can make a huge difference in your relationship! Jim & Christie Jacobus