If you thought the hidden fees phase of life was the "not knowing why I'm suffering" phase, be prepared. One of the bigger obstacles to overcome is the continual discovery of new hidden financial, physical, mental, emotional and vocational expenses of being an adult with ADHD and/or Autism. The only thing more costly than the coping mechanisms and compensatory self-soothing is the painful awareness of the numerous parts of daily life that require extra effort to maintain.