107 Embracing Wonder and Amazement in Life with The Digital Circus Life Podcast | Living a Life Aligned with Your Values

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107 Embracing Wonder and Amazement in Life with The Digital Circus Life Podcast | Living a Life Aligned with Your Values

This week, I'm shaking things up by sharing an episode where I was the guest on The Digital Circus Life podcast. I share my journey of breaking free from a small village mindset and pursuing a fulfilling life of wonder and amazement. We discuss the desire to be on stage and make a difference in people's lives. We emphasise the importance of learning, taking action, and embracing failure as a learning process. We talk about living a life aligned with our values and constantly striving for growth. I also reflect on the idea that there is no defined endpoint in this journey, but rather a continuous pursuit of a fulfilling life.

Takeaways

Embrace a mindset of wonder and amazement in lifeDon't be afraid to fail, as it is a learning processLive a life aligned with your values and prioritize fulfilmentConstantly strive for growth and be open to new opportunitiesThere is no defined endpoint in the pursuit of a fulfilling life

Chapters

01:00 Breaking Free from a Small Village Mindset

03:49 Creating a Fulfilling Life of Wonder and Amazement

10:31 Embracing Failure as a Learning Process

15:40 Living a Life Aligned with Values

32:11 Reflecting on the Journey and Encouraging Younger Self

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107 Embracing Wonder and Amazement in Life with The Digital Circus Life Podcast | Living a Life Aligned with Your Values

Takeaways

Chapters

01:00 Breaking Free from a Small Village Mindset

03:49 Creating a Fulfilling Life of Wonder and Amazement

10:31 Embracing Failure as a Learning Process

15:40 Living a Life Aligned with Values

32:11 Reflecting on the Journey and Encouraging Younger Self

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FREE Ebook 10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SELL WITH CONFIDENCE FREE Ebook 10 tips to improve your productivityFree Workbook : Understanding Your ValuesFREE EBOOK : Improve your confidence and create awesome videos with a smartphoneFollow me on Instagram & Facebook at: @rickylockemagic For more about me and what I do, check out my website

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Ricky (00:00.078)

My life was very much a case of, and no offence to my mum and dad at all, it was very much a case of a small village mindset of, you'll go to school, Ricky. They didn't say you won't achieve much, but university wasn't on the cards, because the money wasn't there. It would be like, Ricky, you might go to school. You've got to get a job, Ricky. You've got to get some money. And I could see my life being played out in that way of, it'll be very small, in a sense, comfortable. And I was always the, why? I don't like that.

When we first met Ricky Locke on Instagram, we knew he was someone we wanted to be involved with. This was about three or four years ago now. And ever since that, we've done quite a lot of projects together. So it was fascinating today when chatting to him to hear things we'd never heard before. The desire to be on stage, to perform, to entertain people started at a very, very young age when no one else in his family was a performer or doing anything like that. And how...

He wants to fail. He's happy to fail. For him, it's just a learning process. And for someone who truly believes that, it was fascinating to kind of hear that perspective. If you've never met Ricky before and you don't know who he is, then his links are in the description below. And if you're new here and you're watching this for the first time, please do subscribe to our channel. It means so much to us as a small business, as we grow and we're trying to achieve what we're trying to achieve. Thank you so much for watching. Please allow me to introduce you to...

Ricky Locke. Right, Ricky, you know I'm one of your biggest fans. We've known you since pretty much the beginning of the Yellow Tuxedo adventure. So it's real privileged to get to talk to you today on the Digital Circus Live podcast, but we have to start at the beginning. And the beginning for everyone is we're trying to understand what you're trying to achieve, whether it be for your personal life or your business, or the blend of both of them together, life.

What are you trying to achieve at this point? At this point? At this point? It's a fantastic question. Amazing question. So what I'm trying to achieve. Well, I guess there's a plethora. There you go. Nice word there. Plethora of different things. Loads of different things to achieve. I think in the last two or three years, it's probably niching it down into something that's wholesome, that's fulfilling, that...

Ricky (02:20.686)

creates wonder. The biggest thing I think every day is that, and we've mentioned this before about this question, is this action going to produce the outcome I'm looking for? So everything I do, I have to ask myself that question, but I just have this massive, you know, a bit like a glass thing, you know, the glass, is it fill in my cup? You know, I think that's everything I'm trying to achieve. So whatever it is that I do, whether it's, you know, interactions in life, whether it's personal life, business, magic, confident club.

is it filling my cup? And if it isn't, then it's not part of that achievement in life really. So I think that there's a lot of things that I could kind of digress and go on further. But the main thing really, I think is to achieve just this fulfilling life of amazement and wonder. And, you know, I think one of my things I'm very conscious of is that I am, you know, I'm in my early 30s and I'm very, so old. Yeah.

I'm very impatient because I'm a millennial, you know, I grew up with the world of, you know, internet and everything. So I'm very impatient. I want things fast now, you know, that kind of thing, because I don't know where life will be. So I do try to, you know, make everything intentional, the old 4 ,000 weeks, you know, of an average human life. So everything I try to do, I guess, to achieve, your answer question would be a fulfilling life. Yeah. So would you say your cup is a pint glass or a shot glass? I think we know the answer already.

I'd like to say it'd be like a porn star martini glass. That'd be quite fun. Exotic. That is way cooler, isn't it? Yeah. It doesn't take too much to fill it up. There we go. No. You know what? I read this. So obviously with my daughter, I read this. Is it the Fox, the Mole by Charlie magazine? Oh, the boy and the horse. Yeah. With an Oscar as well as the video version. That's right. Yeah. And I think one of the questions was, is I think the horse says to the little boy, is your...

glass half full or half empty and the boy says, I think I'm just grateful to have a glass. It's great, isn't it? You know, like I think I can't remember the answer, the question now, but what was your question, Emily? There we go. I was getting off the side track. It was how big was your cup? I was going to say who cares? Just tell us what you want to tell us Ricky. We're enjoying listening. Yeah. Do you know what? I think, I think the cup never ends and I think that's because my interesting life, I'm sure it, I think it's a polymath.

Ricky (04:43.726)

is the word I've correct me if I'm wrong. Maybe you can edit that in if not. I think a polymath is somebody that is just interested in everything. Yeah, I'm fascinated with the wise and and the house of everything. So I think when I look back in my life and everything I've ever done with with magic, with playing instruments, with doing things and just learning stuff, I'm on this massive journey about learning. I love learning, I love growing. So I'm always interested in things. You know, curiosity, I think, is a massive value to me. So I think this cup is just growing all the time as I get older.

Who knows, maybe it will get to the point where I turn 60, 70, and then, you know, like old people just put the sign on the door saying, do not disturb, do not talk to me. Maybe that'll be it. That's my question. In the pursuit of filling up your cup, which from the kind of high level feels very good, fulfilling purpose, direction and everything else. But also that means you're taking action all the time. That means you're trying to find things to fill your cup.

And that means actually who's designed, you know, you have said it's a porn star, Mark Seeley, a bottomless brunch. This is bottomless, Ricky. So, so how do you know when you've achieved it? So one of the things about goals we all know is you need to be able to benchmark it. You need to be able to know when you're achieved it. So how, when does that stop? I mean, you've just talked about being old and shut in the door. So are you ever going to have achieved it? Yeah. So this goes back to, I remember like back in.

corporate days before I went full time in the business. We did this like define your purpose day, you know, which I think is incredible. You know, it's a really good thing. And one of the key things like they get to do is like a timeline of like key moments in your life that you remember. And one of the moments that I think very similar to you, this will be Alan, is that some of the key moments in my life was always in front of an audience. So as a very young person, I play music, you know, I play guitar in my room. I'd learn. And weirdly enough, when like

If like someone knocked on the door, like an electrician or someone like to come in, I remember I'd like crank up the volume a little bit louder, you know, a little bit loud to play. And it wasn't as a narcissistic thing to like show off. It was kind of like, oh my God, you know, I'm in front of an audience, that kind of thing. I want to show how amazing like things we can do, you know, like playing guitar and stuff. Funny enough, that electrician came around quite a lot, actually. But anyway, a long story short, yeah. But another one was like, you know, I remember winning the talent show when I was about

Ricky (07:10.638)

15, 16. And I love that adrenaline being in front of an audience. And I remember when I was in my corporate days being a coach and a trainer, national trainer for Argos and being in front of an audience. Magic. I'm in front of an audience. The Compton Club, we present people. And I remember distinctly, you've just made me think about it, laying on my bed when I was younger, I had a magazine called Total Guitar. And there was a big... Thank God he said Total Guitar and not something else there. Yes. Total Guitar. There was this big spread right in the middle and you could pull it out.

And it was a black and white photo. Now in hindsight, I'm guessing now, I don't know who it was at the time, but I'm thinking it was probably Kurt Cobain, like from Nirvana. And it just looked like the back of him standing on stage, probably in front of Reading Festival, just seeing this audience. It was black and white phone. I used to have it on the roof of my bedroom. So when I was laying down, I could look at it. And from an early age, I think there's always been that sort of a kind of legacy, I think, that what I want to do is to, not narcissistically, but to make a difference to people. So whether that is,

a magic trick creates wonder, whether it's like the Confident Club, we're reshaping and redefining people's beliefs so they not only can be confident presenters, but they can go achieve anything they want in their life. There's been something like that that's threaded through the answers to the question of what is I'm trying to achieve. It's being on a stage, but making a difference. So whether that is a video, a podcast, that's the thread that just kind of fits through it all, which if you look at everything I do, it's always in front of an audience. So.

Yeah, that's probably what it is. I think. Yeah, I get that. And I also sorry, just because the question was how you're going to know when you've got there. Oh, yeah. And I think I think it's okay sometimes to perhaps not know that answer because that that may, you know, as you quite rightly said in the beginning, the earlier part is like you might just wake up one day and go, yeah, I'm done. I'm happy. I'm fine. Not I'm happy. I can't say that. You know, I'm done is probably a better word or I'm there or something like that. So I get that. There's a thousand thoughts off the back of that.

Yeah, there's a massive presupposition which we know like in NLP and I've had this through my life before I understood what NLP was and it was there's no failure only feedback or you can say there's no such thing as fair as only outcomes and am I allowed to swear on this or not? Do we have to bleep this one out? Yeah. Okay cool. A mild swear word perhaps? I'll say and you can cut it out if you like after so remember this point. We're not doing any C -bombs are we? No, no, no C -bombs. Okay, that's fine. Alright fine, I might bleep it. So...

Ricky (09:31.406)

The word fear, right? Yeah. Fantasize exaggerations appearing real was what Steve told me from the Compton Club. It's a great story. Fuck everything can run. You know, that's the great phrase, which I love. So you might have to cut that out, but I don't really believe in fear. Yeah, there's things that might frighten me, but I'm just not afraid to like go do things badly because I know I learn. So, you know, I'm quite happy that it's not a failure. It's just an outcome. So I've kind of removed failure from my language. You know, my mom and dad have always said to me,

We've got no idea what Ricky, why you're a performer because there's no performance bone in our bodies. You're right. So, you know, you like the odd one out. So maybe it was the electrician. Who knows? Right. You know, one of the key things though is that it's just kind of I just want to go out there and I'm not afraid to fail. Whereas I think a lot of people are like, I don't want to do this. I'd love to achieve these wonderful things in life, but they're just not prepared to put in the time to go do something and fail. So if I remove failure from a language, then it's just an outcome. So.

So that's the kind of key thing really. Yeah, I probably don't know when it's going to happen, but I'm not afraid to make a mistake or do something because it's just an outcome and I can learn from it and then try it differently. So yeah. What I've always appreciated about you, Ricky, is that you mentioned about that you're always learning and you're always trying to fill your cup. It's the fact that in the four years nearly that we've known you, I've watched that journey of you going on and learning a new course or...

reading that book and so many people could say I read a self -help book or I saw this and they can drop a quote here and there but you actually implement don't you you're very much about learning and an implementation to see if it works for you and if it doesn't it's fine but you do give it a really good go don't you? Yeah totally I think I will get to a point one day where someone said to me Rookie should be a business coach but I think I think I

It's like I want to kind of be, you know, like a leader would go out and do it. Like I will go out there and do it first so I can understand if it works. And then I'll show you that it does work and you can follow me. Whereas I think a lot of people just are not prepared to step out and try it. Whereas I'm quite happy to go try it and then say, Hey, it works. And now go do this. So here's some, it works. It's an incredible character trait. It's semantics ultimately, but I feel that's more the mentor side than coaching side. It's like,

Ricky (11:47.758)

Isn't mentor like I've done it and I'm showing you how to and coaching is, you know, something I get that. It really is a good character trait because so many people, especially in the world of entrepreneurship as well, are either standing still or they're not growing any further and they want that growth. They want it, but they're