TalKin with Topher

TwT Ep40 - How 2021 started for me. Being thankful for all the people I have in my life. I believe my health kept me safe from covid-19.

First I like to apologize for the sound. New camera and my comp auto set its mic as input. It is now fixed. Hope you enjoy. 2021 was areal eye opener for me. One of my close friends got Covid-19. My wife got a virus that the doctors did not identify but could tell her it was not covid-19. I got stuck on a 10 day Quarantine. Went through a lot of emotions in just a couple days. What a roller coaster.  People nedd to relize this thing is real and it is up to us to try and slow it down. (Is wh...

TwT Ep39 - Good Bye 2020! 2021 New Years Resolutions are easy to start but sticking with it is the real challenge.

Well the New Year is here. New Years resolutions are going to be started, but how many of them hang on. Not many is the answer. The reason I believe is because people loose the excitement of it once it becomes an everyday thing. Maintaining the change and keeping it going day after day is hard, but totally worth it. Here are some of my tricks to keep it exciting and not just the same old thing day to day. When I learned anything in my life after the age of 10 to 37  I was drinking. This is ...

TwT EP 38 - Christmas shopping is a pain. Did you know this about USPS? One of my Christmas stories.

Buying Christmas gifts can have its ups and downs. Downs for example finding the gift for the right person. Shipping problem, not being able to find an item is always frustrating. Then sometimes you find the gift and pay for faster shipping and then it may still come late. You are probably wondering what are the UP's of gift giving. That is when you finally give the gifts away and its done. Now I am not a hater but I could do without the added stress. USPS is so backed up that even if they ...

TwT Ep 37 - Realizing how much alcohol was ruining my life. My thoughts on 2021. DUI #2 story.

I now realize that alcohol was affecting my financial life. I always thought that alcohol was never a problem because it never interrupted work and I always made payments on time. Now I see that I was making poor financial decisions based on feelings. Feelings that I got from drinking. Today without it everything works, no more bad decisions and poof just like that things work. This is not a crazy thought. I know most of you are probably thinking that's a no brainer. When your addiction puts...

TwT Episode 36 - CBD is a great alternative to any over the counter pain reliever. Here's what I know about it.

This is everything I know about CBD. I sell it at NH Vape Gallery. I use Savage Tincture 1500mg personally. Works for me better than any aspirin or Tylenol I have ever used. This is the website I was reading from medicalnewstoday.com, remember to do your own research and look into the company before buying and ingesting anything. I go over the different types of CBD. Full Spectrum, Broad Spectrum and Isolates. Green Roads CBD and Savage CBD are the two products that I carry in store unfor...

TwT Episode 35 - Suicide is a Dark subject that needs to be talked about. Listen to people with different options than yours.

Recently we had a family member kill himself. Very sad and during the holiday season the news hits a little harder.  This made me think what could I have done to help. This is a new feeling for me. Considering that I was never a Person anyone could turn to for help. Getting off alcohol and bettering  myself has made me realize that I now can possibly help others. This will allow me to finish the circle and put my hard work to good use. I am so thankful to be where I am today, but realize tha...

TwT Episode 34 - Feeling comfortable in my own skin. Our immune system is more important than a vaccine. Birthday Episode!!

Since I have been off alcohol I have not felt comfortable in who I was. Seeing the changes that I have made in my life working. All the good an positive  changes in  my every day routine making my days easier to get through. All this self discipline taking shape. It just feels good to be comfortable in my own skin for once. Being clear minded and able to think before acting has saved me so much anxiety. This is not easy but with patience and good discipline this has gotten easier. What I am ...

TwT Episode 33 - Dealing with temptations during the holidays. Managing my frustration and anger. Email of the week #1.

We all have weakness when it comes to our addictions. Holidays make it harder, all the adds, the shelves full of alcohol and even when we visit family temptations are still there. We as addicts need to realize that we can say no and that makes us stronger.  ( I believe if you give in to temptations you are weak and if you look them in the face and turn them down then your getting stronger.) People on the outside of this will probably see you as week for not giving in. These people will not h...

TwT Episode 32 - Why do we want to grow up so fast? 5 day water fast recap

When I was a kid it was so easy to finish things and have time for myself. Now as an adult it is harder to find this time for myself. Every time I think I am done. There is another bill or something else to fix. Getting a house is great but all the work that goes into it is never ending. What I am saying is enjoy your youth while you have it. When your time comes you will realize where your at right now is something you will miss if you don't enjoy it right now.  5 Day water fast going well...

TwT Episode 31 - Five Day Water Fast #2! Lockdowns are not the answer, getting heathy is.

Join me on a five day water fast. That's right just water no coffee for five days. Let me help you get out of your comfort zone. If you dare I talk about BJJ getting to more of normal classes. 5 min Full Randori rounds are back. I forgot how taxing a 5 min round can be. We need to focus on our health, not locking down everything again this is all so stupid. Health is the one thing we need to talk about and no one does. All you hear is Lock it down. Not the answer we need this is not going ...

TwT Episode 30 - How trying to be cool ALMOST killed my sister. Getting out of the comfort zone

Making this podcast is complex for someone like myself who has never worked with anything like this before. I got comfortable with the simple mic and editing process. This was making me lazy, so I upgraded to expand the podcast and take it further. I want to have conversations and to do that I had to upgrade and now I am out of my comfort zone. Getting something NEW started is a hard task. Once it becomes habit, and becomes a new comfort zone. I have to get out of that again and mix it up ag...

TwT Episode 29 - Why would people believe I have changed? If I have trouble believing it myself. Moving forward is hard, but falling back is not an option.

This week was a bit of a struggle. Found out my grandmother has breast cancer. I know she is 93 but the news still sucks. With that and old feelings popping up. I thought about drinking in the sense that I literally just thought about it. Instead of feeling like I was going to reacted to that thinking. It was just that a thought. So some progress made there. My 93yr old grandmother told me not to believe everything you read, because kombucha is not good for you. Love her so much and I know ...

TwT Episode 28 - The government is broken, but how do we fix it. Here is my idea of what to do.

Great weekend went to a wedding and a gender reveal party. Perfect weather. So I enjoyed some mushrooms and got lost in my thoughts. This is a podcast on those thoughts. So hold on this is going to get bumpy. Government is broken, Covid has destroyed our economy. What is going to happen after election is uncertain. So I say lets find more people or teams of people that can actually give all the people of the United States equality once and for all. Even though how I retrieved these thoughts ...

TwT Episode 27 - Quarantine Routine. Some ranting on the word normal and stimulus package issues.

I go through my entire routine that I built for myself to help me through this pandemic and tough times. I go over the tools I used to make it easier to deal with. I rant a little about the word NORMAL and how it is over used word. I decide to give my opinion on how the stimulus package is not coming to us by end of October like promised. No shocker there. Dont forget to check out my tiktok, twitter, snapchat, and instagram. Email me at [email protected]. I want to add some segmen...

TwT Episode 26 - My journey through high school and why I graduated. Using negativity as motivation

This is my story about graduating high school. What drove me to graduating. How I picked up the pieces and made it happen. I was flunking out, but my Families negativity drove me forward.        Negativity cab be used as fuel for positive things. I now instead of getting to upset, cause if I am real about this unsubscribes and negative comments do sting. Now I just use it to keep moving forward and it also shows me I am doing this right. The reason I feel this way is because they are trying...

TwT Episode 25 - My experience with Anesthesia. Recovery is so important. I Love Schedules

I talk about how I felt after surgery. How the anesthesia messed with me for days. I don't think people share this experience enough. That's why I wanted share mine with you. Schedules and routines, what ever you want to call them. I feel like its the most important thing to me. That's why through all of this it has not changed one iota. Now when I can start running or get back on the mats I feel like like I have made it easier on myself. Recovery is so important as well. I find all of the...

TwT Episode 24 Pt 2 - A complete walk through of my deviated septum surgery

I take you along on a trip to my covid-19 test. I talk about how all of this has change me for the better. I take you through my surgery. From the waiting room til after surgery.

TwT Episode 24 Pt 1 - The Transforming of the POdCast Studio

This is the complete remodel of the computer room to podcast studio. Hope you enjoy the edit never done this type of editing before.

TwT Episode 23 - Organization is my Therapy. Not all men are slobs. Retail mentality.

I realized this week that organization and cleaning is my meditation. When I organize and clean all of a sudden I can think clearly and get the stuff I was stuck on done. I have O.C.D. and Anal Retentiveness and I know that I am not alone on this. So I always wondered why all guys are labeled messy people. I believe we need to change this and realize that women are just as messy or sometimes even messier than men. Remembering that I work at a small business when I need time off or anything ...

TwT Episode 22 - Camera problems. Stopping routines is harder than I thought. Destructive dogs.

I had my camera shut down on me causing recording issues and an editing nightmare. After some hard work I put the Podcast together. Starting new things is hard. Yet I find after doing something for a long period of time harder to stop. That is why I will make sure to keep the schedule some what close to what I was already doing. So that I lose the routine. I was running and saw something I thought was funny. Trying to keep my dogs downstairs after they break the banister.

TwT Episode 21 - Managing my Anger. If your not learning your dead. Mountain bike video.

Through my life I have always had anger. I always thought it was the drinking that made it worse. Turns out its just me and this is how I manage my anger issues. I believe that no matter who we are if you want to try something new then just do it. You may or may not be good at it but, you will never find out if you don't try. I always strive to learn something new every day. That is why I like the saying "If your not learning your dead". (ethan_nell on Insta Gram) is where I found this mount...

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TwT Episode 20 - Was life easier while I was Drinking? Story, how I forged a check for a video game.

Whats going on with me this week. Preparing for surgery. Sometimes I think life was easier when I was drinking. Then I realize how much I benefit from not. But I will tell you that my brain likes to try to convince me that it was and it can be again. Life challenges are hard but easier to deal with than  the trouble that comes with drinking. Use my email to contact me and get advise. [email protected]  I am also on: talkinwithtopher (I.G.) @_conderman (Twitter) cconderman (Sna...

TwT Episode 19 - My first DUI story, Driving today and Pointing out my Vulnerabilities

My first DUI happened in 1999 and this is a short story on how it happened. The roads are crazier now than ever. Its like everyone forgot how to drive and in a rush to get no where. I'm vulnerable just like everyone else. I have problems in life just like any other human today, and sometimes it shows.

TwT Episode 18 - Vape talk, Getting ready for surgery during Covid-19.

What a week, dog breaks his nail. I have to take a covid-19 test before surgery and then quarantine for at least 4 days before surgery. New Hampshire changed the age limit to 21 and I add my two cents. Back to partners in class again.

TwT Episode 17 - Ice Cream before Dinner. How I fall asleep. I made a bad decision.

Talkin about my upcoming surgery. Deviated septum is why I cant breath and now I am going to have surgery to fix it. My wife and her friend sometimes enjoy Ice Cream before dinner. Making any decision in life no matter whether it is good or bad always effects other people. Admitting fault is hard but manageable. In these tough times we have to remember the people we are closest to and give them a call. Now that we cant get together and hang out. I find this to be important and a personal ...

TwT Episode 16 - Taking Vacation during pandemic. Black Friday this year from home.

Taking time off from work after we reopened this year. Temperature taking in class so we could work together. Why do so many people enjoy going to restaurants and gatherings? Black Friday this year I believe is going to be at home this yaer. Walmart closes this year for Thanksgiving.

TwT Episode 15 - Four Toothed Mason Wasp, dealing with anxiety when I trying to relax.

I never can just sit and relax and I talk  about it. Found a mason wasp show a clip and talk about it. I think its a good thing to see giant corps. implement mask wearing. This is our New future.

TwT Episode 14 - Talkin bout fireworks and Mask Courtesy

Talkin bout my 4th of July weekend. Using My tools to not drink during  any holidays. Even though the only excuse I need to drink is that the  sun is out. Wearing your mask to help all of us get to the other side of  this virus. Why my store follows a tight protocol and making people  wear masks inside the store.

TwT Episode 13 - Destroying a rental car and Vape Talk

Story 4 -  Drinking and trashing a rental that was in my dads name. I talk about my opinions about vape bans and what I think we can do to try to save the vape industry.

TwT Episode 12 - Admitting when I'm at fault & Cleaning out the weeds.

Realizing and admitting ones faults is hard. This one was a little easier for me, because the insurance company told me I was at fault. In general it is so much easier to put blame where it doesn't belong. Finding out your one of the people on the cut list. When a bad decision causes 6 yrs with no licence.

TwT Episode 11 - Getting into a car accident and then dealing with the emotions that come with it.

Dealing with emotions that come from getting into an accident. Using the mental tools to get through it. All of us deal with tough times in life, but you can let them stop you. No matter how bad the situation looks, it possible that it could have been worse. Its easy to look at all the bad. I believe looking for the good in a bad situation is hard, but it can be done . This is how I deal with an Accident I caused. I found out Friday that I was at fault from the insurance company. After I rec...

TwT Episode 10 - Mental Health - This is my journey through it.

Even on the other side of this journey, I still have hard days from time to time. At least now I have tools to help get me through those days. Mental Health is not as noticeable as physical heath, but it is just as important. If you or someone is suffering with mental heath contact your local heath provider to find out where you or someone you know can get help. Thank You Tyler Crain for the music and to my two sponsors NHVG and Natural Boss for all the support!!!

TwT Episode 9 - Making goals to help get through tough challenges in life.

We all have challenges in life. Having goals is a great way to help complete those challenges. One of my biggest challenges I ran into was when I lost my career and had to start all over again.

TwT Episode 8 - Staying Sober and Dealing with Change - How I finally got myself off alcohol

Change is hard, so I go over how I deal with change and still manage not to resort back to Drinking. Finding my way off of alcohol.

TwT Episode 7 - Being healthy and building a good immune system. Taking care of your gut.

Having a healthy diet and good gut health. This plays a big part on our every day life. How I take care of my skin and heath to build that strong immune system.

TwT Episode 6 - Finishing five day water fast, Story #3

Talkin bout finishing projects you start. Story #3 is full of craziness that all happened in a 24hr period.

TwT - Episode 5 - Frustrating House Projects, Story #2, 5 Day Water Fast

Not giving in to old habits when things get frustrating. Drinking, Druging & winding up in Jail. Cleaning your gut!

TwT Episode 4 - Crashing my 87 Chevy - Reflecting ones self during Pandemic

Writing your Obit to see whats really important in life to you.

TwT Episode 3 - Supporting people when they lose their Sobriety Dont inject Lysol or Bleach

LINKS www.thearcadebros.com www.nhvapegallery.com www.promaacademy.com PMADERRY.COM PMAPLAISTOW.COM PMAWINDHAM.COM  Talkin bout going back to work. Letting go of crutches. Say no to injecting Lysol!

TwT Episode 2 - Sobriety and Living with Someone who Drinks during Quarantine

Couple tips dealing with staying home and sober. This one is short and sweet. If you know anyone struggling with addiction and you think this video will help, Please SUBSCRIBE and SHARE!!

TwT Episode 1 - Sobriety Tips During Pandemic

Quarantine life, and dealing with addiction.