Currently, one of the trending sayings is, "It is what it is".
People who routinely use this expression are admitting without saying that their lives are out of control. People in a state of chronic stress are "thinking" from their Reptilian brain designed for survival and not rational thinking. That is why they say such self-condemning negative expressions.  Listen in as Rich Taylor shares how to rid yourself of the stress.

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