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Embracing Imperfection- Wholehearted Motherhood- Part 1
Stethoscopes to Swaddles Podcast
English - March 22, 2021 09:00 - 26 minutes - 36.2 MBParenting Kids & Family motherhood parenting worklifebalance balance momguilt pandemicparenting selfcare timemanagement Homepage Download Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
SHOWNOTES- Imperfect Parenting
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The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown
Introduction to wholehearted living
According to Brené Brown, “Wholehearted living is about engaging with our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think, ‘No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.’ It’s going to bed at night thinking, ‘Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”
Wholehearted living is a process and a journey of a lifetime- what do we bring along? What does it take to live and love from a place of worthiness? Embrace imperfection? Cultivate what we need and get rid of the things holding us back?
Courage, compassion, connection- the tools we need→ the gifts of imperfection
Practices- the courage to reach out. “You learn courage by encouraging”- you learn motherhood by mothering
Shame- practice courage and reach out. We have the right to own our story and share it with someone who has earned the right to hear it, whom we can count on to respond with compassion
Comparative suffering and shame
Courage- cor- latin for heart
We can be compassionate and hold others accountable for their behaviors with boundaries
Love and belonging go hand in hand. Worthiness has no prerequisites. Self love and compassion is KEY
Shame, fear, and vulnerability
Who do you become when you’re backed into the shame corner?
How do you protect yourself?
Who do you call to work through it?
What's the most courageous thing you could do for yourself when you feel small and hurt?
We don't need love and belonging from everyone in our lives, but we need if from at least one person
THE WHOLEHEARTED LIVING GUIDEPOSTS- PART ONE
Cultivating authenticity. Letting go of what people think
Authenticity is a choice and practice.
Authenticity is a daily practice in letting go of what people think we are supposed to be, and embracing who we are
Cultivating self compassion. Letting go of perfectionism
Shame is the birthplace of perfectionism
Feeling shamed, judged and blamed are realities of the human experience
Dr Kristin Neff. Components- self kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness
Cultivating a resilient spirit. Letting go of numbing and powerlessness
Definition of resilience
People who are resilient- seek help, have social support and connection
Disappointment, entitlement and performance pressure are a recipe for hopelessness and self doubt
Entitlement vs agency
Numbing - if you numb the negative, you numb the positive
Alcohol, drugs, food, sex, codependecny, money, taking care of others, overplanning, staying busy, overspending
Purpose, meaning and perspective move us forward
AEIOUY- Have I been abstinent today, have I exercised today, what have I done for myself today, what have i done for others today, am i holding on to Unexpressed emotions today, Yeah! What’s something good that's happened today
Cultivating gratitude and joy. Letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark
Gratitude is a practice
Gratitude vs toxic positivity- Not denial of the comfort or discomfort in our lives
Cultivating intuition and trusting faith
Intuition tells us what we need to do
Intuition is not a single way of knowing- it's our ability to hold space for uncertainty and our willingness to trust the many ways we've developed knowledge and insight, including instinct, experience, faith and reason
“Something told me”
See you next week!