51: How to Recognize and Deal with Narcissism
She Doesn’t Settle
English - October 14, 2020 04:00 - 33 minutes - 32.3 MB - ★★★★★ - 13 ratingsAlternative Health Health & Fitness Mental Health wellbeing business coaching confidence entrepreneur health mentalhealth mindset personaldevelopment success Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
Today’s conversation is one that I’ve wanted to have with all of you for a while now. Narcissism, and especially being in a relationship with a narcissist, is a hard topic and a hugely important one that I see in my work a lot, and which I have experienced personally. These days, I can see that it is a condition that is making a lot of people sick, so, in this episode, we’ll explore what it is, what it looks like, and what you can do about it.
We begin by exploring the pattern that narcissism follows, what it is exactly, the traits it possesses, as well as a common misconception about it. Drawing upon information from Dr. Ramani among other sources, we’ll examine the four types of narcissism, some tactics that narcissists use, and what you can do if you are in a relationship with a narcissist or you know someone who is. Above all else, I need to emphasize that if you feel you are in such a relationship, and it is escalating to the point where you do not feel safe, please ask for help, make a phone call, and get out. Your health has to come first, and that is precisely what today’s difficult but incredibly important episode is all about.
Remember, too, if you need help ensuring that you’re taking care of yourself, building your resilience, keeping up momentum with your goals, setting boundaries, or even if you just want to chat, please feel free to send me an email at [email protected] or DM me at https://www.instagram.com/kellythealth/ or join my free FB group The Goal-Getter’s Club at https://www.facebook.com/groups/goalgettersclubkellythealth/
The Finer Details of This Episode:
- The pattern of narcissism
- Kelly’s experience of dealing with narcissism
- A common misconception about narcissism
- Narcissism and its traits
- Dr. Ramani’s information about narcissism
- The four types of narcissism
- Some tactics that narcissists use
- What you can do about narcissism
Quotes:
“Being in this relationship for a long period of time…can result in some PTSD.”
“I felt like I was going crazy until a therapist told me that I wasn’t.”
“Research shows that a small amount of self-centeredness and confidence is actually healthy.”
“It took me a while to recognize the manipulation…once you do, then you can start to respond better.”
“Narcissists…are made not born.”
“They’re actually driven by shame.”
“They use their empathy to tune into what pleases you and, in doing so, they find validation.”
“Look at the great things I’ve done for everybody in the world. Please give me credit.”
“Boundaries don’t work.”
“What it leads to is the victim beginning to question what she actually said a minute ago. It’s awful.”
“It is a mental rollercoaster.”
“They will do anything they can to get what they want.”
“They know how to put on a show and provoke you to feel sorry for them.”
“What you want to understand and really focus on is the fact that you are in control of your life no matter how they treat you.”
“Therapy is always, always recommended.”
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