Sexistentialist
54 episodes - English - Latest episode: 17 days ago - ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsNormalizing diverse and inclusive sex stories and having fun while doing it. Sexistentialist is a podcast for all people by your everyday open-minded, sex positive human striving to contribute to a more equitable and inclusive world.
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S4Ep8: Fatness & Sexuality
April 13, 2024 05:00 - 1 hour - 57.1 MBThis week, Em speaks with Noelle Benach, LCPC, CST, an AASECT Certified sex therapist, educator, and speaker. In this episode, the two identify and unpack myths and misconceptions associated with fatness / being larger-bodied, particularly as it pertains to sexuality. If you don't listen -- this is your reminder that all bodies are deserving of and capable of whatever pleasure they aspire to! Learn this and more throughout the discussion. Noelle's work is fat, queer, kink, and ENM frien...
S4Ep7: Turning. Yourself. On.
March 30, 2024 05:00 - 50 minutes - 42.9 MBIn this week's episode, Em speaks with sex and intimacy coach Lauren of Oh Yeah Coaching. Together, the two touch on (pun intended) all things 1) turning ourselves on, 2) aligning our pursuit of pleasure with our values, and 3) learning to be comfy with the uncomfy. Looking for an ~intimacy audit~ with an expert? Lauren has you covered. Book a free session here. For upcoming events and more, follow Oh Yeah Coaching on Instagram or visit Lauren's website. Looking for updates on our...
S4Ep6: Neurodiversity & Sexuality
March 16, 2024 05:00 - 1 hour - 53.4 MBWhere neurospicy meets bedroom spicy!! In this week's episode, Em discusses neurodiversity and sexuality including kink/BDSM and nonmonogamy with board-certified sexologist Lilith Foxx. Lilith is an educator, a marketer, a consultant, and more. Learn from and work with her here!! Follow Lilith's Instagram and register for upcoming events. Looking for updates on our latest episodes and sex education? Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod
S4Ep5: Swinging, Sex Work, and Safety!
March 02, 2024 06:00 - 59 minutes - 40.2 MBIn this episode, Em and Azalea talk entering the swinging scene and lifestyle, navigating relationships, body image, and separating pleasure from business! To learn more about ethical non-monogamy, swinging, kink, and more, follow @azalea_bbw on Instagram. Looking for updates on our latest episodes and sex education? Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod
S4Ep4: Infertility and Rediscovering Intimacy
February 17, 2024 06:00 - 1 hour - 47.6 MBIn this episode, Em speaks with Tiffany Taylor -- a sex therapist, intimacy coach, and more. Tiffany not only has 15+ years in the mental health industry working with individuals and couples alike, but has lived experience navigating infertility rediscovering one's self and sexuality after. Learn more about working with Tiffany via her website. Follow Tiffany on Instagram (@talkyoishtiff and Facebook. Follow @SexistentialistPod on Instagram for more and be sure to rate anywhere you...
S4Ep3: A Real Hot Girl Movement w/ Dr. Clarissa Francis
February 03, 2024 06:00 - 55 minutes - 53.7 MBIn this episode, Em speaks with Dr. Clarissa Francis, a scholar-activist and consultant who specializes in the Hot Girl Movement, exploring its connection to Pleasure Activism and Megan Thee Stallion's Hot Girl Summer as pivotal aspects of Black women's journey toward sexual liberation. Visit Dr. Francis's website for more information on the A Real Hot Girl Movement and her work Follow her on Instagram and Facebook for educational content and latest events. Dr. Francis also published...
S2Ep3: A Real Hot Girl Movement w/ Dr. Clarissa Francis
February 03, 2024 06:00 - 55 minutes - 53.7 MBIn this episode, Em speaks with Dr. Clarissa Francis, a scholar-activist and consultant who specializes in the Hot Girl Movement, exploring its connection to Pleasure Activism and Megan Thee Stallion's Hot Girl Summer as pivotal aspects of Black women's journey toward sexual liberation. Visit Dr. Francis's website for more information on the A Real Hot Girl Movement and her work Follow her on Instagram and Facebook for educational content and latest events. Dr. Francis also published...
S4Ep2: Healing & Exploration Through Psychedelics, Kink, and More
January 20, 2024 06:00 - 1 hour - 63.1 MBIn this week's episode, Em connects with Nicole, host of the Modern Anarchy podcast and Psychologist in Training. Together, the two discuss psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy, the healing nature of k*nk, deeper embodiment, nonmonogamy, relationship anarchy, and more. Learn more about Modern Anarchy via Nicole's website or Instagram. Listen to Modern Anarchy anywhere you can listen to podcasts! Follow @SexistentialistPod on Instagram for more :)
S4Ep1: Legal Companionship with Alice Little
January 06, 2024 06:00 - 1 hour - 63.1 MBIn this episode, Em chats with Alice Little. Alice is best known as America's most successful legal s*x worker, and currently works at the Chicken Ranch Brothel in Las Vegas Nevada. Her services are vast and varied, and her story demonstrates that s*x work is so much more than "in out, in out, bye!" Alice is also an advocate for s*x workers rights, often speaking with politicians and legislators to increase their understanding about the industry. Their discussion branches from Alice's exper...
Bonus Episode: How We Learn About Sex Growing Up
October 21, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 45 MBSeason 4 is on the horizon but, in the meantime, let's get a lil taste. In this episode, Em is joined by the wonderful Dr. Meghanne Bartlett-Chase, a former sex educator and sexual violence crisis counselor who recently received her PhD in education policy with a research focus on sex education policy, practice, and controversy. Together, the two talk all things sex education policy and accessibility, how we all learn about sex growing up, and a bit of Twilight. Meg is writing an anth...
Life Updates & Season 4
September 26, 2023 05:00 - 3 minutes - 3.21 MBIt's official!! Season 4 will be live in 2024. In the meantime, Em checks in and shares excitement for upcoming seasons. If you haven't already, please rate and review Sexistentialist anywhere you listen, and be sure to follow the podcast and Instagram @sexistentialistpod for all show updates. Stay tuned for more.
S3Ep9: Let’s Play A Love Game w/ SexEdWithTim
June 10, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 67.2 MBThe shenanigans are back, and gayer than ever in honor of PRIDE MONTH! Em chats with her podcast bestie Tim of SexEdWithTim to play games. Literally -- not in the toxic way! Tune in for laughter and, as usual, graphic imagery. Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod and if you haven't already, rate us on Spotify! Visit Tim's website. Follow Tim's social media: @sexedwithtim and @gayslutclown Listen to Sex Ed With Tim. Go to https://loveshop.ca/sexedwithtim and get 15% any toy !!!
S3Ep8: Ethical Nonmonogamy w/ Zach
May 13, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 65.4 MBWhat is the difference between polyamory and swinging and open relationships? Have you ever pondered the terms "kitchen table polyamory" or "garden party polyamory?" What is the point in having multiple partners? LET'S GET INTO IT! In this episode, Em chats with friend Zach -- a close friend, member of the queer community, and happily hierarchically open. They chat through Zach's nonmonogamy journey, and how best to go about exploring what that may look like for you. Follow @Sexistentia...
KinkCast #7: DDLG
April 29, 2023 05:00 - 15 minutes - 14.2 MBTHIS IS AN EPISODE ABOUT PEDRO PASCAL. Just kidding :) Ever wanted to call a partner Daddy? Ever actually done it? In this KinkCast, Em breaks down DDLG (Daddy Dom / Little Girl) dynamics. Let's get into it, Daddy. Clarification: DDLG dynamics are consensual and do not involve children or minors Follow @SexistentialistPod on Instagram for more.
S3Ep7: Accessible Consent Education w/ Jenae of BirdsandBeesAsk.Me
April 15, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBThis week, Em and Jenae of Instagram account birdsandbeesask.me discuss consent education, sexuality education and language in academia, and dispelling myths about sexual violence. CW: Though this episode is not graphic, we discuss topics of abuse and violence from an objective and research-oriented perspective. Be sure to follow Jenae for accessible and relatable consent and sexual health education! Visit Jenae's Linktree for resources. Follow @SexistentialistPod on Instagram fo...
S3 Ep6: Pornhub Insights 2022 in Review
April 01, 2023 05:00 - 50 minutes - 43.1 MBEm and Jonas are BACK to discuss Pornhub Insights. What searches defined 2022? Why do the British love naked wrestling? Tune in to find out.
KinkCast #6: Wetlook
March 18, 2023 05:00 - 13 minutes - 13 MBTune in for Sploshing's cousin! What's a wetlook fetish? Why is it so hard to find things about it on mainstream internet? Idk guess you should listen :) Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod Shop merch on Redbubble.com
S3Ep5: Everyone’s Got a Kink! w/ Javay of Millennial Sexpert
March 04, 2023 06:00 - 1 hour - 58.2 MBThis week, Em is joined by Javay da BAE, sex educator, content creator, writer, erotic model, and activist. In this episode, Em and Javay talk about exploring kink(s) for the first time, as well as introducing a kink or fetish to a partner. Truly just two nerd kinksters having a good time and answering meaningful, deep questions about gettin' down and dirty. Visit Javay's website, The Millennial Sexpert LEARN SOMETHING ! by watching Javay's Youtube videos. Follow The Millennial Sexper...
S3Ep4: Sex Lives of Sex Podcasters w/ Jenay of My Naked Mindset
February 18, 2023 05:56 - 56 minutes - 48.1 MBEm is joined by fellow sex podcaster and pal Jenay of My Naked Mindset, a podcast that seeks to normalize taboo topics while having fun doing it! In this episode, Em and Jenay basically just hang out! They talk about starting their podcasts, how being in the sex ed / sex coaching world informs their individual sex lives, sex bucket lists, and more! Find all My Naked Mindset info here. Listen to My Naked Mindset on Spotify (but also anywhere!) Visit the My Naked Mindset website. Follo...
S3Ep3: Pulling Out w/ Neo
February 04, 2023 06:00 - 1 hour - 52.5 MBHe's back, back, back again! Em is joined by pal Neo (see S2Ep14) to discuss the ~art~ of pulling out or the "withdrawal method." They also go on a few tangents along the way. Tune in for a statistic and anecdotally driven conversation about WHERE you should splooj! Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod
S3Ep2: Communication is Lubrication w/ Nadège of Pleasure Science
January 21, 2023 06:22 - 1 hour - 61.8 MBThis week, Em discusses all things communication and boundary setting with Nadège! Nadège is a sex scholar who graduated from UC Berkeley as well as a professional Astrologer. In 2019, she founded Pleasure Science, an erotic wellness brand that helps you feel healthier and empowered in your sexuality. She writes articles, hosts events, and works one-on-one with clients who want to empower their erotic life. Nadège’s work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Bustle Magazine, Kink.com, and the H...
S3Ep1: D*ck Riding with Glamazon Tyomi Morgan
January 07, 2023 06:00 - 1 hour - 66.2 MBYEEHAW! Starting 2023 off right with Tyomi Morgan, a sexologist, intimacy coordinator, sex writer and blogger, creator of The Cowgirl Workout ™, and more! In our Season 3 premiere, Tyomi joins Em to discuss all things riding and -- trust us -- she knows her stuff! Follow Tyomi on Instagram @realglamazontyomi and view her links here: https://linktr.ee/realglamazontyomi Follow Tyomi on Twitter @glamazontyomi Join Tyomi’s Pleasure Academy Schedule a pleasure coaching session. Get your ...
Bonus Episode: A Hammered Holiday with Tim Lagman
December 31, 2022 04:34 - 39 minutes - 29.8 MBComing to you LIVE! Em is joined once again by podcasting bestie Tim of @SexEdwithTim. Em and Tim record together in person from Em's home to discuss f*cking your way around the country, navigating casual sex, and, frankly, how many margaritas they had beforehand. Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod Visit Tim's website. Follow Tim's social media: @sexedwithtim and @gayslutclown Listen to Sex Ed With Tim.
KinkCast #5: Vampires
October 22, 2022 05:00 - 12 minutes - 12.3 MBIt's Halloween Special time!! From Lestat to Edward Cullen to my bedroom??? We're talking fangs and nibbles and sweet sweet power play. Buckle up. Get 20% off your entire Bellesa order between now and Nov. 7th using code BBCUFFSZN Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod Shop merch on Redbubble.com
S2Ep14: Sexting Expertise with Aficionado Neo
August 06, 2022 05:00 - 48 minutes - 38.2 MBWhat REALLY are the sexting best practices? Em sits down with longtime pal Neo and they have one main thing in common: the both love to sext (just not with each other). Tune in for raunchy anecdotes, the genuine do's and don'ts of sexting, how to do it tastefully and artfully, fantasy exploration and more. Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod Shop merch on Redbubble.com Subscribe to our Patreon.
S2Ep13: Social Media in a Modern Dating World w/ Samantha Jones
July 23, 2022 05:00 - 47 minutes - 42.8 MBThis week, Em is joined by THE Samantha Jones of the And I Wondered podcast, a show dedicated to talking about adulthood through tough questions asked by Carrie Bradshaw herself. Tune in to hear millennial dating anecdotes, how romantic comedies of the 1990s and early 2000s still impact us today, and authenticity in a public world. Listen to And I Wondered & follow the podcast on Instagram. Join the Sexistentialist Patreon for exclusive episodes and content.
S2Ep12: Attachment Styles w/ Shawn
July 09, 2022 05:00 - 58 minutes - 48.5 MBShawn of the Tough Titties podcast joins Em in talking attachment styles! Can you guess which one these two are? Hint: they're the same and they are clingy as f*ck. Listen in to hear more fuck sex and dating stories from Shawn and Em's respective pasts, as well as talking through the realities of today's dating landscape. Listen to Tough Titties anywhere you can find podcasts. Follow Tough Titties on Instagram and Twitter.
S2Ep12: Daddy Issues & Attachment Styles w/ Shawn
July 09, 2022 05:00 - 58 minutes - 48.5 MBShawn of the Tough Titties podcast joins Em in talking attachment styles! Can you guess which one these two are? Hint: they're the same and they are clingy as f*ck. Listen in to hear more fuck sex and dating stories from Shawn and Em's respective pasts, as well as talking through the realities of today's dating landscape. Listen to Tough Titties anywhere you can find podcasts. Follow Tough Titties on Instagram and Twitter.
KinkCast #4: Leather
July 02, 2022 05:00 - 9 minutes - 8.21 MBLeather belongs at Pride! For this especially LGBTQ+ flavored KinkCast, Em gives a brief history of the leather community and it's relationship to gay and lesbian history, activism, and more. Get 20% off your entire Bellesa order between now and 7/17/22 using code BBSEXISTENTIAL Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod Shop merch on Redbubble.com
S2Ep11: Queer Sex Ed Panel ft. Ari, Ellie, & Tim
June 11, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 72.2 MBIt's a Pride Party, baby! June is Pride month, and in this week's episode, Em is joined by THREE queer sex educators (who have each been on previous episodes... check them out) to discuss lots of things, but one big question: what do you know now as a queer sex educator that you wish you knew before? The foursome talks all things bad sex ed, queer "ah-ha" moments, virginity, and more. Ari Antwine Listen to the SensuElle Podcast here. Follow Ari on Instagram @Sensuelle.Education and @Se...
S2Ep10: Pornhub Insights 2021
May 28, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 56.2 MBCum one cum all!! It's the last weekend of Masturbation May and, in this week's episode, Em and her partner review the 2021 Pornhub Insights. Yes-- they plan to do it every May. Yes-- they know it's 5 months late. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @SexistentialistPod Shop merch on Redbubble.com View Pornhub 2021 Insights for Infographics and details discussed in this week's episode.
S2Ep9: A Quickie Take on Spicing up Solo Play
May 14, 2022 05:00 - 9 minutes - 8.65 MBIt's Masturbation May, and your podcast pal Em just popped by to talk about fapping. That's all really :) Some exciting podcast news mentioned at the end of the episode! Stay tuned for more information. Follow us @SexistentialistPod
S2Ep8: Shedding STIgma pt. 2: What’s really the deal with HPV?
April 30, 2022 05:00 - 48 minutes - 42.5 MBThis week, Em is joined by her day 1 (more like ep 1) pal Claire to talk about HPV! When Claire received her HPV diagnosis, it was scary as f*ck. What she'd really needed at the time, was someone who could talk with her about it like a big sister, rather than as a medical professional. To wrap up STI Awareness Month, we demystify HPV in hopes of bringing comfort and support to anyone currently anxious about it, or who might be in the future. Follow us @sexistentialistpod !
S2Ep7: Shedding STIgma pt. 1 - Herpes Shmerpes!
April 16, 2022 05:00 - 35 minutes - 31.4 MBAPRIL IS STI AWARENESS MONTH This week, Em is joined by Stephanie Boyd, a spiritual life coach who utilizes breathwork, subconscious and energy work to help individuals process shame, smash stigma, and live better lives! Diagnosed with Herpes (HSV) in 2017, Stephanie has worked to shed negative feelings surrounding the diagnosis in her own lives and in others. Work with Stephanie: Sign up for a one-on-one coaching session, enroll in a stigma-shedding workshop, or enhance your pleasure (...
S2Ep6: It Ain’t No Lie, Baby Bi Bi Bi
April 02, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 71.2 MBThis week, Em is joined by a fellow queer femme, the fabulous Arielle “Ari” Antwine, a Sex Educator, Podcaster, trauma-informed Sex Coach, Yoga Instructor, Burlesque Artist, and International Showgirl! She prefers the title Sensual Educator & Facilitator to encompass her work. In addition to discussing her background, Ari talks about bisexuality+, sexploration in adulthood, relearning sexuality, and working towards confidence in your identity. Plus, the anecdotes in this episode are *chef'...
S2Ep5: I Kids You Not ft. Embarrassed to Ask
March 19, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 69.3 MB"At your age, you're going to have a lot of urges. You're going to want to take off your clothes, and touch each other. But if you do touch each other, you will get chlamydia... and die." In this week's episode, Em is joined by Embarrassed to Ask hosts and sex educators Christine and Ellie. The trio share stories of teaching sex ed to youth, and discuss learning moments as adults hoping to pave the way for a more inclusive and comprehensive future. Listen to Embarrassed to Ask and f...
KinkCast #3: Exhibitionism and Voyeurism
March 05, 2022 06:00 - 11 minutes - 10.3 MBDo you like n00dz? Sending or receiving? Have you ever fantasized about getting caught? Or catching someone else? In this KinkCast, Em reviews exhibitionism and voyeurism, and chats through a few easy ways to explore either and incorporate aspects of each into your routine seggs play. For more, be sure to follow and subscribe! Also, check out our Instagram @SexistentialistPod
S2Ep4: Arousal, Self Love, & Allowing Grace in Between
February 19, 2022 06:09 - 36 minutes - 31.2 MBJordan D'Nelle is a physician assistant by trade, and women's health educator by night. Host of the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast, she is a guru on all things health and wellness, as well as working towards self empowerment and better sex. In this week's episode, Em and Jordan dive into the difference between arousal and the physical response cycle for vulva-owners, self-discovery and exploration, and sh*tting bubbles. Listen to the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast. Wor...
Bonus Episode: Playing Love Games on Valentine’s Day
February 14, 2022 06:00 - 49 minutes - 41.6 MBEm and her partner use "naughty" couples conversation starters to spark conversations about love languages, turn ons, and the negative impact aging has on sex position selection. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @sexistentialistpod if you don't already :) See you next week.
S2Ep3: Sex Work and Chaotic Comedy
February 05, 2022 06:00 - 1 hour - 53.5 MBIn this week's episode, Em is joined by sex educator and former escort Tim, host of the Sex Ed With Tim podcast. Tim and Em discuss a*s play, sex shenanigans, getting k*nky, the unexpected of sex work, and more. Buckle up for this bad boy of an episode, because Em and Tim can't resist a good d*ck joke, nor a scrumptious segue. Visit Tim's website. Follow Tim's social media: @sexedwithtim and @gayslutclown Listen to Sex Ed With Tim. Get 25% off jock straps, tank tops, harnesses and more...
S2Ep2: How Layla Got Her Groove Back, and other Curious Girl tales
January 22, 2022 06:00 - 1 hour - 59.9 MBEm is joined by The Curious Girl Diaries' Layla in this funny, sexy, and insightful episode. The gals talk all things sexual discovery, GOOD casual sex, and d*ck pic-ers! Listen to and get in touch with The Curious Girl at thecuriousgirldiaries.com. Get 20% off and free shipping from Manscaped using code CURIOUSGIRL.
S2Ep1: Getting Back on the Horse
January 08, 2022 06:00 - 56 minutes - 47.4 MBWe are BACK for season 2 BABIES! CW: Sexual assault / abusive relationships Enrique has returned to talk about sex and dating after a break up, loss, or heart ache. Join Em as the two of them discuss what not to do after a break up, how to avoid the unhealthy, and how to strive towards loving you for you! P.S. Take a shot every time Em uses the term "rail." Follow us on Instagram @sexistentialistpod
KinkCast #2: Sploshing
October 21, 2021 01:51 - 13 minutes - 12.2 MBIn this fun lil KinkCast, Em talks about the wet and messy fetish, also known as "sploshing." Tune in to see if this wets your whistle!! Instagram @SexistentialistPod
The Big O with AwareMoma
September 25, 2021 17:24 - 48 minutes - 36.6 MBIn this Sexual Health Month special, Em chats with therapist, sex coach, and orgasm expert @AwareMoma to discuss the nuances and psychology of orgasms, specifically for vulva-owners. If you've ever experienced difficulty achieving an orgasm, this one is for you! Moma is a brilliant and talented sex coach! She can be found on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @AwareMoma, or contacted via her website https://awaremoma.com/.
S1Ep10: An Intro to Gender w/ Andy
August 03, 2021 20:18 - 1 hour - 55.4 MBIn this episode, Em talks to Andy about their/his trans nonbinary identity, the basics of understanding gender and its nuances, and more! If you have questions about identity, expression, and what it's all about, check it out :)
KinkCast #1: Cuckolding
July 04, 2021 01:48 - 19 minutes - 19.8 MBEver thought about what sharing your partner could be like? In the first ever KinkCast, Em talks about cuckolding! What is it? Why do people enjoy it? What's a hotwife? Sexistentialist breaks it down. If you're a member of this or any kink community and would like to be on the show, DM us @sexistentialistpod on Instagram or email us at [email protected].
S1Ep8: Sex Toys Continued!!
June 26, 2021 20:24 - 27 minutes - 22 MBEm, Claire, Connor, and Dina wrap up their conversation about sex toys, talking about partnered toy use, misogyny, and more!
S1Ep7: Sex Toy Experiences & Exploration Pt. 1
June 19, 2021 15:32 - 1 hour - 58.4 MBEm, Connor, Dina, and Claire sit down to talk all things toys: From water to vibrators to food to whatever the hell you can find!
S1Ep6: Let's Get Biblical Pt. 2: Unlearning Purity Culture
June 07, 2021 04:20 - 1 hour - 68.9 MBThis week, Em talks to purity culture escapee Kat about truly horrendous sex ed, pearl necklaces, and, most importantly, finding the cl*t. Listen in to hear Kat's journey as she reconciles progressive politics, healthy sexuality, and reshaping faith!
S1Ep5: Let's Get Biblical Pt. 1: Homosexuality & Catholicism
May 24, 2021 02:26 - 1 hour - 50.6 MBThis week, Em and guest Enrique talk all things homosexuality and religion. What is it like to grow up gay, Mexican, and Catholic? Words of advice for those seeking to reconcile faith and sexuality, PLUS he can smash for three hours straight?! Content Warning: sexual assault / self-punishment & depression