EP 15 Allowing Yourself To Heal Through Grief

Summary:

During this 15th episode of the Self Care Passport podcast, Janae Fletcher, self-care architect, quiet leader, personal and professional mentor, creator of the Self Care Passport process, and host interviews Karina Kayser, Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner, Massage Practitioner, Proprietor, Wedding Officiating, and HOPE Foundation Mentor. Karina mentors parents who have lost children. Janae and Karina talk about grief and how allowing yourself to feel all the emotions and how self-care plays an important role in navigating the ups and downs of grieving process.

Show Notes:

The 5 Stages of Grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance Give yourself space and grace wherever you are in your stages of grief Exercise as a tool for overcoming grief It is easy to neglect yourself when in grief Being in nature is one of the most healing arenas and environments Sleep doesn't ease emotions but it makes the day easier Ask loved ones to support you through the process Being sad is ok People will approach you not knowing how much their words can affect you (the griever) Intention behind words is very important What do you say to someone who is grieving? What do you need was a great question or offering presence helped--no words, simply being with the other person. HOPE--Helping Other Parents Endure foundation. Karina is a mentor for this foundation and is extremely grateful Bearing the unbearable when walking through grief with support Every year, Karina and her family do a random act of kindness on her grandaughter's ¨would-be¨ birthday, Christmas and angelversary. It keeps her memory alive. Doing rituals and having traditions is helpful Kindness is important when you are grieving During the holidays, it is even more obvious when someone isn't there. Remembering is important To pause and take pause is so important. It is ok to say no to events when you are grieving The griever needs to make a clear and concrete sentence about what they need in grieving It is important for people to understand how to be with you. Become part of your own process or reach out if you can. Grieving should be something that you do not have to do alone

3 Key Points:

-Grief is a difficult emotion to navigate in a culture who strives for happiness.

-Though grief isn't necessarily openly accepted, grievers must allow themselves space and grace to feel all of the feelings while going through the stages of grief.

-No one should have to grieve alone. Reach out to loved ones, cherished friends or get connected to the outside resources, like the MISS Foundation.

 

Resources Mentioned:

JanaeFletcher.com – Janae Fletcher website Self Care Passport Facebook page Five Stages Of Grief Brene Brown's video Sympathy vs Empathy MISS Foundation Compassionate Friends Selah House & Dr. Cacciatore