179. BTS: How do I support my child through distress without rescuing them immediately?

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English - February 22, 2024 10:00 - 24 minutes - 33.1 MB - ★★★★★ - 74 ratings
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3:28 - This age is when "stranger danger" and object permanence comes online with typical cognitive development.

6:47 - Crying to alert you that they don't prefer being held by another safe adult that is not Mom doesn't always mean they are in distress.

9:41 - Building resilience means reflecting our child's feelings back to them and staying calm in the face of that upset - your feelings are real, and they're safe.

12:05 - Self-regulating and titrating your responsiveness are two key elements of intervening in this exchange.

17:42 - When is this a matter of being held (by a safe adult), and when is this a matter of respecting their bodily autonomy and teaching consent when your child is a baby?

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