Savage Lovecast
901 episodes - English - Latest episode: 11 days ago - ★★★★★ - 5.9K ratingsDan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to [email protected], or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
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Savage Love Episode 350
July 09, 2013 08:00 - 49 minutesHooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed. A man's random ejaculation resulted in a child. Now the child is 12 and neither she, nor her mother's husband knows that he is her biological father. Should he tell? Is there a way to warn the straight females of the world about your sociopathic sex addict ex-boyfriend? On the Magnum version, an interview with the father of the modern marriage movement, Evan Wolfson, on the implicati...
Savage Love Episode 349
July 02, 2013 08:00 - 45 minutesFirst off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with another lad on Grindr. Then he met up with a different man, at the SAME HOUSE. What tomfoolery is this? A lad and his boyfriend are planning to try out a bathhouse for the first time, and ask Dan for some basic tips. What he suggests…may shock you. And, the inimitable Garfunkel & Oates come on the show to explain a shameful evasive strategy that m...
Savage Love Episode 348
June 25, 2013 08:00 - 45 minutesKids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeakable things with them. What kind of messed up family are we dealing with here? Another kid! Listen to this kid! She's 18, and her gay co-worker is setting up "dates" between her and his 30 year old friends to have sex with her while he watches. But lest you think he's a monster, don't worry- he's offered to provide the drugs and booze. And over ...
Savage Love Episode 347
June 18, 2013 08:00 - 50 minutesHow soon is too soon for anal? A woman who had a brief foray into sex work long ago wonders how to tell her partners without shame, rejection or titillation. And more. On the Magnum version you'll hear everything in the Micro version plus… An interview with Daniel Bergner, author of What Women Want about ladies, their libidos, and whether monogamy suits them or not. (Spoiler alert! It does.) Hear the tale of the spooked unicorn. Note to couples who invite in a partner for a three-way: When...
Savage Love Episode 346
June 11, 2013 08:00 - 48 minutesOn this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave? A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this? Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. And more. On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life? A...
Savage Love Episode 345
June 04, 2013 08:00 - 47 minutesThis show is for the ladies. First Dan attempts to smash the patriarchy with his opening rant. Then he sticks up for a woman whose military husband won't fuck her. And! The magically clever and hilarious Lindy West comes forth with the female perspective on men who think your vagina is disgusting. There was a long line of women who offered their techniques for getting rid of grabby, cat-calling men. Listen in. Also, David Jay, from asexuality.org talks to Dan on how to come out as a non-...
Savage Love Episode 344
May 28, 2013 08:00 - 44 minutesA woman met a man in a bar and they exchanged numbers. Then she sent him some steamy, hot, erotic fiction that she wrote. About him. What's the reading on the Good Sense-O-Meter? Ladies! When creeps dish out cat-calls and unwanted touches, how do you respond? We want to hear your stories. 206-201-2720 On the potential side effects of hair loss medication, the ever prudent Dan Savage counsels "Don't gamble with your boner." And that's just the beginning! On the Magnum side… Sordid tales of vid...
Savage Love Episode 343
May 21, 2013 08:00 - 48 minutes"She wants a dom, not a dick." Gather round everyone, and listen in as Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse gab about BDSM, where kink comes from, fantasy BDSM vs. non-consensual abuse and how to meet a kinky mate. Also, hear the blow by blow account of a woman who went from her unicorn audition to opening night in a single date. Three-way etiquette tip #46: Couples- it is polite to thank you unicorn with a kind note. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They ma...
Savage Love Episode 342
May 14, 2013 08:00 - 45 minutesThis week on the Savage Lovecast: Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding? Plus on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to talk about how they tormented each other as children. And a lot more. 206-201-2720 This episode is ...
Savage Love Episode 341
May 07, 2013 08:00 - 50 minutesHow should you respond when your cousin accidentally sends you a naked pic? Dick growing pills. Any money in that racket? Dan speaks with Dr. Thomas Clark from the CDC about a new worrisome meningitis outbreak among gay men. And, over on the Magnum side: Finally the answer to the age old question of whether it's ok for a woman to eat her own female ejaculate! Dan speaks with Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, author of "Why Men Fake It" about why men fake it. And, an avalanche of responses from men...
Savage Love Episode 340
April 30, 2013 08:00 - 54 minutes"Am I just his beard?" asks a woeful girlfriend. Another gal did a little snooping, and discovered that her man has a "happy endings map" of all the places he could visit that will add pleasure to his upcoming business trip. Should she freak? Over on the Magnums, drag queens in hillbilly country, and an interview with Aaron Harzler, author of Rapture Practice, on how to deal lovingly with your nutjob, conservative Christian family. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is also brought to you by . G...
Savage Love Episode 339
April 23, 2013 08:00 - 46 minutesDan helps a sneeze fetishist concoct a plan to make her sex life more…sneezy. Growing up, a man had insufficient testosterone. Now that he's taking meds he suddenly has the drive to pursue women. How can he develop the confidence to match? Over at savagelovecast.com you can sign up for a Magnum show that's twice as long, with no ads. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 ...
Savage Love Episode 338
April 16, 2013 08:00 - 45 minutesDan speaks with Slate editor Emily Bazelon on sexting, slut-shaming, bullying and suicide. A meddling friend watches in horror as her Mormon friends pursue a divorce. And more. 206-201-2720 This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.
Savage Love Episode 337
April 09, 2013 08:00 - 48 minutesA woman caring for her father with dementia discovers that he is a pedophile, though she thinks he never acts on his desires. Should she tell her mom? The nurses in his house? A man needs to think about lesbian relationships before he can nod off to sleep. What are lesbians- chamomile tea? Ken Cuccinelli: What does his name *really* mean? You're gonna tell us. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is als...
Savage Love Episode 336
April 02, 2013 08:30 - 50 minutesWhat a chatterbox Dan Savage is this week! He speaks with a foot model about creepos in the foot fetish community, and tears 14 new…apertures into a misbehaving drunky lass who just doesn't get straight privilege. Confidential to Drunky McBlackout lass– they're having a sale on sheets over at LinenSource. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage4 for a 10% discount and free ...
Savage Love Episode 335
March 26, 2013 08:00 - 46 minutesMeet Naughty Dr. Pee-Pee and the Patient with a Secret. Those of you in the medical or dental professions will find this episode most… illuminating. A man is feeling hella anxiety over the fact that his girlfriend makes a lot more money than he does. Should he make her pay for dinner already? A young gay man is considering an old lover's offer to fly him to his city for a weekend of dom/sub play. Is the lad allowed to go sightseeing or should he expect to spend all of his time in the hotel ro...
Savage Love Episode 334
March 19, 2013 08:00 - 44 minutesThis week Dan speaks again with Slate reporter Daniel Engber now that Gilberto Valle, AKA the Cannibal Cop, has been found guilty. Sleep a little easier, ladies everywhere. Also, how to get your lover to open up a (consensual) can of whup-ass on you, whether breast feeding fuels teenagers' erotic imaginations, and the ethical ramifications of knowing that your friend's fiancé slept with this same friend's... father. It's complicated. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by They mak...
Savage Love Episode 333
March 12, 2013 08:00 - 48 minutesIt seems like everyone is angry at the gays. Hear the super-sad tale of a father outed and then hated by his own daughter. But she doesn't hate him too much to accept his financial aid... And, 4 years after proposing on the top of the Eiffel Tower to his wife, a man finally comes out. His friend is furious at him. Can she get over it? Ever? And strap on those earphones real tight. is here to talk about pegging. Did you get that? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Down...
Savage Love Episode 332
March 05, 2013 09:00 - 56 minutesHow does one go about inviting a man over for dinner, when you really want to initiate the three-way sequence? Pointy-headed science writer Jesse Bering speaks with Dan about the ubiquity of fantasies involving power and control. And, squirm along as Dan speaks with Slate reporter Daniel Engber on the horrifying tale of the cannibal cop. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Eyewear. Be sure to check out their home try-on program, and for god's sake, use offer code: Savage. T...
Savage Love Episode 331
February 26, 2013 09:00 - 58 minutesThis week Dan welcomes two guests. Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" talks about sex in your golden years. And John Schwartz author of "Oddly Normal" speaks with Dan about the challenges of raising a gay teen. And a lot more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Facebook page.
Savage Love Episode 330
February 19, 2013 09:00 - 49 minutesThis is the live taping of the freaky show we did at the Neptune Theater featuring Simon Rich, Mistress Matisse, Audrey from Babeland and others. Have a listen, close your eyes and use your twisted imagination. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Babeland.com. Get 10% off plus free shipping when you click the Babeland ad on your mobile or the Savage Love web site. This episode is also brought to you by They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you wan...
Savage Love Episode 329
February 12, 2013 09:00 - 47 minutesA young lesbian is offended that her parents won't let her have her best friend, also a lesbian, join her for a sleepover. Are her parents being homophobic? Or just parents? Another lesbian's conservative Christian parents have moved from bald unacceptance to covert unacceptance. Is this progress? Dan speaks with Eric Klinenberg, author of Going Solo, about the pressure society places on single people to quit being so single, already. There's this wonderful boy I want you to meet. 206-201...
Savage Love Episode 328
February 05, 2013 09:00 - 48 minutesDan desperately tries to convince a young gay man to use a condom when hooking up with random hot Australians. The amazing Buck Angel speaks with Dan about dating FtM transsexuals. And sex educator Amy Lang helps explain how to teach your son to avoid the dreaded Death Grip Syndrome. And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
Savage Love Episode 327
January 29, 2013 09:00 - 52 minutesAll hail Planned Parenthood! On today's show the Lovecast welcomes Dr. Anna Kaminski, senior physician for the venerable organization, who can calmly explain to Dan that scabies are not spiders, and consider the dangers of drinking blood without running screaming from the building. When can we have you back, Anna? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost ...
Savage Love Episode 326
January 22, 2013 09:00 - 49 minutesTales of addiction; A woman in recovery worries that if she introduces S&M into her relationship that it will consume her life like booze or heroin. And, Dan speaks with Dr. Marty Klein on challenging the . A woman with homophobic, conservative parents has two gay brothers. How can she keep the peace? How can you counsel your emotionally fragile friend, when you are messed up yourself? And more. 206-201-2720 Tickets to the Valentine's Day show in Seattle are . Read Dr. Klein's article o...
Savage Love Episode 325
January 15, 2013 09:00 - 45 minutesDan welcomes very special guest star Mistress Matisse to discuss S&M when you're really, really mad. Also Dan goes into the finer details of hickey etiquette, and clears up once and for all whether mutual masturbation is fact or fiction. Call, call, call. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.
Savage Love Episode 324
January 08, 2013 09:00 - 47 minutesA gay man started his coming out process by announcing that he was bi to his parents. Now that he knows he's a full 'mo, how can he convince his skeptical parents? The ultimate revenge: a woman and her ex-fiance are long broken up. But his super-hot brother is coming to town… Sex in a cemetery- any tips? And a lot more of this ilk. 206-201-2720 This episode is also brought to you by They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Sava...
Savage Love Episode 323
January 01, 2013 09:00 - 40 minutesWelcome to 2013 where the sexual landscape seems just as freaky as it did in 2012. Highlights from todays show: a woman dating a closet asexual, a daughter who realizes that both she and her mother are subs, a man whose boyfriend rejects him because he isn't hairy enough, and a man who literally gets a boner at the sight of money. Sweet, sexy money. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at
Savage Love Episode 322
December 25, 2012 09:00 - 46 minutesWell, well, well. What heartwarming tales have we to share on our very special Christmas Lovecast? Why, here's one about the crippling guilt and shame a woman can't shake from her promiscuous past. And look! A lad who snooped on his twin brother's phone discovered naked pictures of his ex-girlfriend! And here we have a gentleman who works up detailed spreadsheets of the qualities he requires from his girlfriends. Kind of like Santa's list, only pathological! And more about pedophiles. Merry...
Savage Love Episode 321
December 18, 2012 09:00 - 47 minutesThere's a lot of cheating in this episode. Through the miracle of audio, you'll experience the world through the eyes of a former cheater, an aspiring temptress and the judgmental sister of a home-wrecker. And just to make sure you feel some feelings, Dan's rant is about guns. And there's a self-loathing pedophile in here too. Call us up. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at Today's episode is brought to you by . Get...
Savage Love Episode 320
December 11, 2012 09:00 - 44 minutesIs there reasonable etiquette regarding the casual eating of pussy? A man refuses to go down on ladies he doesn't know well. Does this make him an asshole? When she was 14, she made up a violent rape and milked the lie for drama to her boyfriend at the time. Now they are friends and he still believes the story. How on earth can she come clean? And just when you thought you'd heard it all, Dan counsels a soon-to-be grieving woman on which of her polyamorous partners she should bring to her f...
Savage Love Episode 319
December 04, 2012 09:00 - 50 minutesLesbians! Have you noticed that wherever you go you run into your lover's ex and your friends are all the same and there's only one lesbian bar in town? Thought so. The continuum of culpability; when is infidelity a misdemeanor and when is it a felony? When underpants = biohazard: A frolicsome lass had a super-hot time with a lad involving her underpants. Now, she wants to keep them as a memento, but worries the magic will eventually disappear or ...worse. Whatever should she do? As alwa...
Savage Love Episode 318
November 27, 2012 09:00 - 50 minutesA bride-to-be faces a problematic wedding guest list. Should she invite her gaggle of gay friends and let them commingle with her conservative, bigoted relatives and coworkers? Hear the complicated tale of the not-quite-out lesbian and her chattering godmother. Your fetish! It is impossible! Simply impossible! Sometimes they really are. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGGNovember at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by . Get ...
Savage Love Episode 317
November 20, 2012 09:00 - 53 minutesA man receives a mysterious image of a woman's pregnant belly, accompanied by a simple message telling him he's the father. Does he have the right to ask for proof? A conversation with Jillian Keenan, whose article in the New York Times explores her obsession with spankings and how she learned to "come out" about her kink. And an update from the newly out gay kid whose family demanded he go back in the closet AND come home for the holidays. Spoiler alert: He did neither. We love holidays! But...
Savage Love Episode 316
November 13, 2012 09:00 - 50 minutesCock blocked! A man's friend did his best to steal the girl. How can the caller tell his "buddy" to get lost? Can Dan Savage prevent a potentially disastrous three-way from occurring? A man ruined his chances with a lovely lady by getting a little too drunk and getting a little too gropey. How can he get a second chance to show her the "real" him? Call us and show us the real you. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Honey Toad Studios. Be sure to check out their online sexy ...
Savage Love Episode 315
November 06, 2012 09:00 - 43 minutesHear a nail-bitten, wretched Dan Savage counsel the lovelorn despite a wracking flu, and election day jitters. Topics! Coming out at your cousin's bar mitzvah. Introducing your ugly new boyfriend to your friends. Telling your jerko ex-boyfriend that he got you pregnant. Don't worry Abby. The election will be over soon. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something be sure to enter GGGNovember at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio b...
Savage Love Episode 314
October 30, 2012 08:00 - 41 minutesFace-eating zombies, infested snacks, and buckets and buckets of blood! It's the Lovecast Halloween show, featuring true tales of sex-related horror. Plus an interview with Caitlin Doughty of . Listen only if you dare. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG500 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by . They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage11 for a 10% discou...
Savage Love Episode 313
October 23, 2012 08:00 - 48 minutesDad likes to wear women's clothing. This doesn't bother his daughter, but she doesn't want to hear much more. (But knowing his dress size might come in handy over the holidays.) When your "straight" friend appears on a gay online dating site, does that mean he's out? A gay man loves to huff his boyfriend's body odor. The boyfriend finds this revolting, and prefers to wear deodorant and cologne. Whose side will Dan Savage take in this skanky debate? You'll have to listen to find out. 206-2...
Savage Love Episode 312
October 16, 2012 08:00 - 47 minutesAn autistic virgin woman wants to get into the swinging lifestyle. Should she get sterilized now, or kick that can down the road? During a fight with his ex-girlfriend, a big man discovered that he likes getting slapped around a bit. How can he let future lovers know this, and get over his shame? A woman on painkillers finds that she's turned on by the idea of a man "taking advantage" of her while she's blotto on meds. Is this a thing? Can it be done safely? Silly kinkster! Everything is "...
Savage Love Episode 311
October 09, 2012 08:00 - 49 minutesPaging Miss Manners! A man's mother detests his wife's mother so much, that she wants to exclude her from the baby shower. How can he tip-toe his way through this field of turds? A woman very much wants to pursue amorous relations with a hot fireman. But she has insider information suggesting he might be a dick-head. Should she throw caution to the wind? Hear mighty Dan Savage blush like a schoolboy at theater camp as he interviews the swoon-worthy Andrew Rannells from Book of Mormon. ...
Savage Love Episode 310
October 02, 2012 08:00 - 42 minutesA man's ex-lover nearly blabs some very personal info about him to the caller's sister. How much should he now reveal to her? Does he owe his sister the whole story? A 7-months pregnant lady has never been hornier. And she's scaring her husband's dick to death. A porn watching pastor is scared he's going get busted by his wife and fired by his church for watching porn. So what does he do? He calls a very popular sex advice podcast and tells everyone listening about his problem. Call u...
Savage Love Episode 309
September 25, 2012 08:00 - 44 minutesAh, the sex toy double standard. He doesn't mind her vibrator, but she feels threatened by his Fleshlight. Is it reasonable to be in favor of gay rights but be against gay marriage for religious reasons? Open marriage: Is it bad for kids? Is there a way to make it work in the long run? Also, Dan interviews Salon's sex and relationships writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the tendency in kinky circles to belittle and disdain vanilla folk. Call us, won't you? 206-201-2720 This episode i...
Savage Love Episode 308
September 18, 2012 08:00 - 1 hourThis week the Lovecast welcomes Cindy Gallop, creator of . Dan and Cindy discuss her project, the effect of pornography on real sex and relationships, and the state of the porn industry, while Dan tries in vain to get a word in. This one is long, and amazing. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Please visit and The Tech-Savvy At-Risk Youth are still waiting for the picture of Cindy Gallop we w...
Savage Love Episode 307
September 11, 2012 08:00 - 51 minutesWhen you're an 18 year-old homo living in the South, and your mother is a conservative Christian pastor, how on earth do you come out? Oooooh, how tantalizing! A famous comedian is maybe cheating on his wife based on dubious hearsay! We all know that gays should come out as soon as it's safe for them to do so. But what about folks in open relationships? Does mom need to know about partner #2? Oh, and if you were planning on sending Dan a carton of smokes for Christmas, you might want to ...
Savage Love Episode 306
September 04, 2012 08:00 - 45 minutesIf you knew a gal had an unreciprocated crush on you, would you kiss her on the forehead and cuddle with her, knowing these actions would be misconstrued? Well, would you?? In other news, we got a man who loves to receive blow jobs, but hates to eat pussy. And, once you switch to anal sex, can you ever go back? These questions, and important matters of pronunciation are addressed right here. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter G...
Savage Love Episode 305
August 28, 2012 08:00 - 48 minutesIt's the One-Minute Wonders show! All questions less than a minute! Fast! Topics: Prostate massage, kinky punishment, kiss-o-phobes, deep throat breath play, uncut blowjobs, yucky facials, double penetration and so much more. You can do it too. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episo...
Savage Love Episode 304
August 21, 2012 08:00 - 46 minutesIs it stalking if you know where a cute girl works and you just happen to…pop in? A man's friend sends him unwanted pictures of his dick. How can the caller tell his pervy friend to knock it off without ruining the friendship? A man snooped and caught his girlfriend cheating with another "bro". Does the "bro code" stipulate that he must rat out the cheating girlfriend, and let said "bro" know that she is as nutty as a fruitcake? These, and many other questions you never knew you had ar...
Savage Love Episode 303
August 14, 2012 08:00 - 51 minutesMeet the Savages! This week, in deepest, darkest Iowa, Dan sat down with his sister and two brothers to discuss strippers, the word "vagina," and good ol’ fashioned dog-fucking, among other things. Just like you do with your family, right? 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGAugust at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at
Savage Love Episode 302
August 07, 2012 08:00 - 46 minutesDamaged buttholes? Penis cracking? Molluscum contagiosum? Dr. Vy Chu fears nothing! Hear Dan and the venerable men's health expert discuss everything under where the sun don't shine. And don't worry ladies. There are some gems in here for you too. Ask Dan a question: 206-201-2720 Keep it under a minute and it might be aired on the upcoming One Minute Wonders show. This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter GGGAugust at checkout. This episode is also ...
Savage Love Episode 301
July 31, 2012 08:00 - 49 minutesIsn't it sad when your kink makes you sad? A woman who likes (and even needs) to be cuckolded wishes her kink wasn't all about her own humiliation. In another call of cuckolding weirdness, a woman's boyfriend wants her to sleep with her fuck-buddy while he hides in the closet and watches. Should she keep the caper secret, or secretly tell the lover? And, it gets weirder. A very GGG lady simply cannot be her adult baby husband's "mommy" with any genuine enthusiasm. Should she let him find a ...