Results & Relationships

Blindness, staying open, testing thesis & real learning & improvement

list of questions and food for thought

just a long list of questions to make our heart and mind rest while looking within and beyond

Cybersecurity: Urgently help those around you - in cyber distance is an illusion

Please help remind those you care about to protect their accounts & devices with Multifactor authentication everywhere. Seek out ways to stay safe, helping those who you believe dont have the knowledge or capacity. its always been urgent. Now you cant afford to wait any more. Help save others by lending a nudge, insight or knowledge. in cyber distance is an illusion and the forces are unreal with very real consequence for you.

Seeing, asking and facing what isn't being said by lifting the Question

Seeing, asking and facing what isn't being said by lifting the Question How often to you actually pause and make space for yourself to know your position before answering? How often do you refocus on why that ask you for a recommendation? WHY they are asking in the first place? what is is the ask for a recommended for?  Why do they ask you? Why now? Where are they now and do you see clearly where they want to go? Whats your position in the recommendation? You're not in their shoes. D...

Loyal to Whom? Your Effort or the cause?

No one care how much effort you invested - they care about how it can help them from where they are to where they are going release freely and often. if your idea is all you've got you've got nothing. share it with those who need it and embrace reality. if you have to lock in knowledge you're turning into a commodity. like the hackers in the 80th used to say. information want to be free deliberately put time-blocks onto your calendar to practice with the intent to throw away Do thing...

Dont store - Create, Release, Reflect

Dont store - Create, Release, Reflect So its set. This show will be renamed Results & Relationships. Why? Im hoping to help you let go of what you make. Create it with your intent and then release it. this show isnt just for me. The simpler name might help those its for. you. Just like everything you create. Lots of the stuff wont become a recurring growing assets. but once it does, its important to remember to release it. its no longer just for you. Likewise do I hope to inspi...

You need to create tension

Dare to be specific and clear enough to create tension. Be respectful to those you serve, and those around you and yourself. Dare to show the tension early saves so many so much - its an huge alternative cost for us people pleasers who rather save those tough confrontative talks for tomorrow. Thinking we're doing the generous thing to have more details, habits, patterns for when we adress it.. yet often resulting in a big cost of delay or ourselves realizing to late that we're serving the wr...

Ready is a choice, it not worth waiting for.

(I just realized I published this episode to my other podcast, Psychology & Cyber thus just uploading it here as a copy. Sorry for the delay and mistake on my side)   Ready is a choice, it not worth waiting for. Do you regularly invest time with people who: * claim ready enough for action even while uncertain? * do work that matter for them regularly? * Dare find out if those they seek to serve care about having that work done?` What does Ready mean to you? often we forget to ask ...

Remarkable Position and easy to say name change

Remarkable Position and easy to say name change It's been 8 years already with Relationship Power at work. Every week. Some of the early years it was more often. Before that this pod was called "Levelup at work and ingame". That's why the libsyn url is called gaming even if all those episodes are lost now due to my own newbie mistakes with an RSS feed change. I've been wondering if we should rename this thing to Results & Relationship. What do you think oh most splendid of listener? ...

Owning your choice of context, your patterns and positions

Owning your choice of context, your patterns and positions from which to serve. Are you owning your choice of context? Do you position yourself with people and situations that are likely to help others long-term and effectively? Are you diving into your context to find the context within the context of what truly matter to those you seek to serve?

Understanding Context

Ego, drivers seat & influence outcomes

What do you rhyme with?

What do you rhyme with? What does your work ryme with? What does your relationship ryme with? Whats your future ryme with? We live in a time where most want to "Predict the next big wave", "find The Key that unlocks it all" or that "The golden segment to distript industries". Chasing that dream of exponential growth. Believing we see it everywhere. Not seeing the infinite amount of tries between the dots of success. For most of us this results in a cost of delay, in procrastination...

Do you see its many sides and shapes?

Do you see its many sides and shapes? There is always many sides and shapes to everything that matter. Some sharper than others. Few see the world exactly like you do. How many of the worldviews of those you serve can you hold higher than your own when needed? Do you intentionally make space to stay off the beaten path in a few select areas over a longer time? Do you intentionally surround yourself with people who are happy to accept that on the edge there isnt a one clear metric to ...

Uncanny Sight: You saw something inside me that I didnt see until years later yet I wasnt ready when you named it and that made me nervous

Uncanny Sight: You saw something inside me that I didnt see until years later yet I wasnt ready when you named it and that made me nervous Are you making people uncomfortable with what you see or does your lended sights give them freedom, energy or clarity to act for their own benefit? Sometimes the people around you are not ready to connect to what you want to connect on. How can you learn to see that early? If you want to help make change happen you must meet people where they are rig...

Relentless tests: Lessons and gifts are optional

Relentless tests. Lessons and gifts are optional. Relentless tests. Every second of your life, business & relationships. Question is though. Are you taking the lessons that matter and letting go what doesnt belong so you learn between tests? Are you accepting the gifts that helps both you and their giver, and letting the ones go that dont? Even if they are from yourself, fully formed, shiny and polished with hardwon sunc costs? When you grew up. School gave you lessons, then you take ...

Dare to Ask with Özlem Özkan & learning together with communities

About this eposide: I'm glad to introduce you to Özlem, our first guest in perhaps 6 years or something of weekly shipping. Since the 1990ths I have always created a few cyber communities where we have learned together. (On whatever voice platform made it most easy at the time) Almost every day I'd join a live voice channel in a joint venture within a game the group as a whole would be playing. This created a space where so many different age-groups, professions and walks of life met. ...

The Bucket stops here - perhaps you shouldn't carry or pass it onwards it?

Creating Community & ready is too late

Discipline & Belonging

Creativity, Fear & Play

Intentional actions, afterthoughts and making a choice

Learn on the job and earning trust with yourself and others to get to do that recurringly

Making space for Gratitude

The power of dis-engaging early by moving on - and letting others move on

The Choice to be Curious, Open and Kind

Passion & Flow

Urgency & Illusions

Asking for to be mentored? what what have you done and learned so far, small or big doesnt matter

Age of Dis-information & IT Dept Tax Collectors of cybersec breaches, GDPR fines, ransomware

Alternative Costs on your Career Capital

Take the stakes down, State of Play, min-ship removing yourself from the equation

Trust: Your reputation, body of work and behaviour precedes you. Dont kill it hiding behind transparency

Embracing where you are and heading: Leadership is that your intent is felt all the way to everyone including embracing your own inner game

Timeshifts - yours and others

Circle upon Circle towards levelup and better clients and feeling at home

Ambition, Effort-level and striving to connect them

Rest, Vacation-mode and listening

Time, Relationships, Energy & Outcome

Find yourself - Find your others

convenience & levelup

Following signs of convenience in the Hive Computer

Resilience, Fragile and what work to level up (why generous work levels you up better)

Discipline wanes during the day

What do you see beyond what others measure - Walking away from compromise

Asking Questions Stay Open For what we dont know

its not yours - long digital deep dive

What you DO becomes better and easier KPIs and axis for better

What am I stalling because I'm afraid - You have more power in your now than you CAN know

its not yours - so whats really worth it (retry sorry I messed up the intro)