BONUS: Don't Go it Alone (Part 3 of 5)

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I was only about 13 miles into my 52 mile trail race. When I came across something that I will never forget for the rest of my life. That scared me to my core. I'm going to tell you all about what happened and what I encountered on the trail.
[00:00:18] And this third part of this bonus series, all about the five common barriers that keep you from building a successful online business. So hang on because this one is one I will never forget. And I'm going to tell you all about it in a moment. So it was 5:15 AM. It was dark, it was raining. And it was about 50 degrees. When I got to the starting line where the race normally starts, now, it wasn't officially happening because COVID had canceled it. But I figured there would be a few other runners there and there were, there was actually another couple who was going to do it at the same time as me and I was really thankful because frankly, there's something really magical about doing a race.
[00:01:33] And it's not just the fact that you're doing an event, but having the energy of other people there. Really makes me perform better. I have found that I actually draw off of the energy of the other people around me. When I ski the Berkey every year, I always go faster. When I'm with a huge crowd of people, then I go when I'm out skiing alone in the woods while I'm training.
[00:01:54] And so that was one of the bummers. I knew that I probably wouldn't go as fast as I normally would since I would be doing this pretty much alone. So I was really excited to see two other people doing the race. With me at the same time, they're actually a married couple Deidre and Jamie and I was so thankful.
[00:02:13] When we try and go alone in our business, we don't get nearly as good a result when we create community. And we do this with the support of other people around us. We go faster, we go further and it's much.
[00:02:27] Easier to do the things that we need to do in our business and keep moving forward. So I want to talk today in this episode about five different ways that having community around us really makes us brighter together. It really helps us to shine our light into the world in a greater way, and build stronger movement, stronger businesses by banding together with other people.
[00:02:52] So the first way that this happens. Is that others help motivate us and push us forward to be our best. Now, Jamie and Deidre started out a little bit faster than I was planning on starting. I mean, it was dark, it was wet. I didn't want to trip over the rocks. You know, my, my headlamp was fine, but it was.
[00:03:11] You know, it's tiny light compared to when the sun is out or even just the daylight is there. And there's a lot of rocks and roots. And so I didn't want to trip over anything, but having them there, like literally we were brighter together because having three headlamps in the same area illuminated it more for me than just having one.
[00:03:31] And I don't know how to explain that better. But our lights combined and made it so much brighter for all of us than if we had just been running alone. And their pace was a little bit faster than I probably would have done on my own, but it was totally an acceptable pace. It was a good pace for me. It didn't exhaust me.
[00:03:50] And so I was really thankful because I might've gone a little slower, but because they were there with me. I was going a tiny bit faster and able to push myself a bit in a way that actually wasn't pushing me. I didn't think that I should go that fast first alone, but as I did it, I realized, Oh, this is actually super sustainable.
[00:04:08] I've been tapering. So my legs are totally strong and this is a better pace than I would have had on my own. So by running that first leg with Jamie and Deidre, I was able to go further, faster, and it gave me some accountability and keeping me moving forward. Alright, but then now this is the second part that I alluded to in the intro about 13 miles in the three of us encountered something that I will never forget.
[00:04:40] Now, we were passed about five minutes earlier by two more runners who started after us. And they were definitely much faster than us. So they cruise by us and they were going. And about five minutes later, as we were continuing to go forward, we, they were, they were there in front of us. And the lady who was part of this lady sounds so bad.
[00:05:00] Her name's Kelly, Kelly had fallen and there is a piece of rebar sticking out of the ground where it used to hold like an old login to make part of the trail, but the Rog log had rotted away. And so this rebar was sticking out about three inches. And for those of you who are a little queasy, I'm sorry, I won't go into detail, but it gashed her leg in a massive way.
[00:05:22] Like you could see. It was, it was, it was a physiology lesson or a biology lesson. I get really squeamish around blood. I have a hard time seeing blood, but it was a massive injury, really severe. And, the guy running with her was freaked out. Like it had just happened right before we got there and he's like, what do we do?
[00:05:44] We were way in the Backwoods. We had no cell service. Thankfully, we were only a little less than a mile out from the Trailhead, but most of the people who were there helping us, cause most of us had people resupplying us there. They were gone because they were going to the next aid station to help us.
[00:06:01] But one of the runners that was with us had keys to a van. And so he and the other guy ran out there and they actually got in the van, had to drive. , several miles. I mean, we were deep woods in order to call nine one one and get help for Kelly. Now, Kelly needed us there. First, we stayed with her. We stayed with her for an hour and a half while we waited for all of this stuff to happen.
[00:06:25] Normally, when you're running a race, they have medical staff on hand and they have like, you know, old school walkie talkies or whatever that can travel long distances so they can communicate out on the trail when needed our cell phones didn't work at all.
[00:06:38] Like zero bars, nothing was going to get through. We couldn't call for help. Absolutely. Could not, did not want to try carrying her because we didn't want her to bleed out because it was. It was that kind of injury. It was really bad. gave her the shirt off my back so she could tie it, you know, and the other gal had a handkerchief.
[00:06:56] So we made a tourniquet and more than anything, we stayed with her to help keep her warm. Cause it was wet and cold and to help keep her calm and to make sure her leg was elevated so that she wasn't going to lose as much blood now. I'll never forget this. It was, I mean, I, I was so afraid of what could have been, and I knew how remote we were, how dangerous this could be.
[00:07:20] But I also knew that the search and rescue teams were trained for exactly the situation. And so as long as she wasn't going unconscious or losing tons of blood or whatever else, our best bet was to stay with her, keep her calm, keep her warm and to do everything we could to just support her in staying calm during that time.
[00:07:41]it was, it was super scary for me and I felt, honestly, I felt pretty worthless because. I have no medical training. I'm not good with blood, but thankfully Deidre is a doula, so she's not officially medically trained, but she knew how to handle medical situation and had some understanding and we were able to stay there and keep her from panicking.
[00:08:01] And that's what she said. She was so thankful to have us there because she's like, otherwise I would have been laying here cold and alone and like, you know, not sure what to do. She would have been panicking is what she had said. So, Kelly is incredibly found out later that Kelly is an amazing runner.
[00:08:16] She won the hundred mile race the year prior. So she is like one of, for the women. She's one of the best runners, one of the best trail runners in the area, which makes sense. Cause man, they were flying and it just reminded me. That even the best of us, even the most accomplished of us sometimes fall and get really hurt.
[00:08:40] And without people around us to support us and to keep us grounded and to help keep us from panicking. Things can get really bad. We need that moral support. I guess, experience this in my own business when COVID almost completely destroyed my photography training business. I mean, we lost 85% of our income and it didn't come back and it was almost instantly, and it felt like a similar type of injury for my business.
[00:09:08] Like it just. Yeah. It was not even hardly real life at points. And I know if it had not been for my friends that knew me, the other business owners that I have connected with that I would have struggled to recover from that, that I would have struggled to have made the pivot that I've made so quickly.
[00:09:28] So no matter how successful you've been in your business, no matter how long you've been doing this or what, you know, When you have people around you to support you. It's going to help you overcome even the worst of things. And the worst of things can happen even to the best of people. Now, Kelly was incredibly lucky.
[00:09:48] I thought, for sure she was going to have to have surgery to repair stuff, but apparently the, it just missed all the vital stuff. Now I'm not, I can't explain all the whatevers. I have no technical terms, even now I'm getting kind of speechless about it all because when I go back to it, it just I'll never forget what that looked like.
[00:10:05] It just, it was, it was unbelievable. But, and it was so shocking because I'm like, Oh my goodness, we are in like week can't even call for help right away. but thankfully she, she only needed stitches, which I cannot fathom, because of how deep and wide and long that injury was. And it was, it was, you know, one of those miracles, keyless best case scenario is considering how awful the injury was.
[00:10:30]and staying calm, making sure she didn't. You know, bleed too much. All of that was a big part of what helped her get out.
[00:10:38]. Not only do we need people there for us when we fall and get injured or we struggle, but we also need people around us for ongoing support. Now, as we ran this 52 mile race, all of us had. A crew of people supporting us along the way. So, you know, every five to 12 miles, depending on, you know, the different sections of the course, my husband was there with extra food supplies, water, clean clothing, socks, shoes, all the stuff that I might possibly need so that I could get aid between, you know, sections and prepare myself to have the nutrition that I needed to get through the next section.
[00:11:22]Not only do we need people in our lives to provide nourishment for us, but we really do need that ongoing support team and people who cheer for us when we're feeling tired. I know I got to mile 50 and I had about two miles left.
[00:11:35] No, it wasn't even that I think it was mile 51. It was right near the end and my knees were just killing me and somebody else's crew was there with him, lights on, they were outside and they started cheering and ringing the cow bell as if they were there for the actual race, because we're waiting for another runner as well.
[00:11:55] And they knew exactly what I was doing. And that was such an amazing and unexpected blessing and surprise because. The race had been canceled. You know, normally there's like loud music and lights and cheering and all this stuff going on that you can hear, you know, over the last few miles while you're running it in.
[00:12:14] And there was none of that. It was all dark. It was, you know, the whole, that whole area was empty. So to come across a crew of people who were cheering at the very end was really touching and really supportive. It was I'm tearing up. What's going on. That's kind of funny, but. I'll leave it here because we all need those people in our lives to cheer for us, especially when we're getting really, you know, we think that, Oh man, we've done it.
[00:12:39] We don't need it. But having people there when you're tired and you've been going and going and going. It's so powerful and we can be this for other people as well. And this is why it's so important to have those people in our lives that we can support and who can support us, not just when we fall, but on an ongoing basis and who can remind you of who you really are and what you have done and how you are doing it so that you don't stop so that you keep going, that you continue this race that you've set out to run.
[00:13:13] It's super powerful. It's really beautiful. So we definitely need our crews. I still can't believe I'm so emotional about it. Wasn't that, but you know, whatever, it's honest. So definitely want you to have that as you're building your business, because we don't want to be doing this alone. You don't need to be doing this alone.
[00:13:32] And I know that sometimes when things get hard or when other people think you're crazy, because that definitely happens. I mean, I've had people say you shouldn't be training too hard. You're going to kill your body and edited it out, all this stuff. Or when people get hurt and you're afraid, like what if that was me?
[00:13:48] And what if I was alone? And you know, all these, what ifs happened in your mind, it can be really, really hard to keep moving forward. So when you have that crew of people with you and that support people along the way, and the people that you really connect with that, you know, just have your backs and literally just want to see you succeed.
[00:14:08] It's priceless, it's truly priceless and it will help you continue moving forward when you definitely don't want to. So the fourth takeaway that I want to share with you is not only do you have, you know, this crew in this aid station, but. When you have a real community, you finally feel like you belong.
[00:14:29]you can, when you feel, when you're with people who really understand what you're doing and get the difficulties of it and the company plexity of it, and, you know, they understand the big dreams that you have, and they don't think it's crazy because they also dream big like that. And when you all have a basis for understanding as to what you're doing, like they understand how to grow that.
[00:14:51] Online business, like for example, the people in my bright future method workshop, you all have this bright future method that you can use as a common framework to talk with each other and help each other grow it's so M impactful, like it's so amazing. To be with people who get it and to no, that when you come to them, talk about how hard it is or when you're struggling or even celebrate.
[00:15:18] I mean, okay. Let's face it. Most people don't understand. If you let's say like you have, you know, a hundred, $200,000 launches and you're disappointed because you have one that's only $75,000. Most people don't understand why that's a disappointment, right? Like, but other bright entrepreneurs might say, Oh my goodness, I totally get it.
[00:15:39] You know, normally I have much bigger launches that. Yeah. Because they know, they know the scale of things they think differently. They understand, all of the emotional journey that we're on and what you're doing. And it's so refreshing to have people who really understand you and to really find your people, Especially when you're surrounded by people who are driven more by purpose than by profit.
[00:16:04] That's part of the movement that I want to create. Yes. You're going to have a greater profit. Ironically, if you really dive deep into your purpose and you really helped bring transformation into the world, you're going to have a greater profit than you would if you're just trying to make some money on the front end and don't really care what happens to your people.
[00:16:22] And so you will, it's, it's lovely that both of those go hand in hand, But when you find those, especially even in the online world, there's plenty of communities and things that are just funnel driven, profit driven, all about having the flashy cars. And yeah, I always hate it when companies, there are so several companies out there who have affiliate programs that once you sell a certain amount of stuff, you get a car, some fancy car, whatever, and I'm like, I don't care about the car.
[00:16:49] Like, you know, it's not about the status for me. It's about the impact that I can have. And I know that the more money I make, the more impact I can have on the world. And I don't, I don't want to trick my customers into buying from me. I don't want to manipulate them. I want them to buy because they truly believe.
[00:17:08] That, what I have to offer will transform their lives and is actually going to work for them. And I want them to know that I care for them and that their transformation is my number one priority. And so it's really amazing when you can find those people. And for a long time there weren't many of them online.
[00:17:26] It was really hard to find somebody who had a high level of integrity. Now you're seeing more and more of those people come into the online marketing space. I'm trying to grow a whole movement of them. And, it's, it's beautiful because I really believe that the next phase of successful online entrepreneurs are going to be heart-centered transformation driven entrepreneurs, but I'm getting off on a tangent now, but just know that when you can find these people and join this community, it changes everything for you because you're finally with people who get it, who can encourage you.
[00:17:58] And then finally I talked about this a little bit at the beginning, but we shine brighter together. Now I know that share this at the end of every podcast. And sometimes it feels a little cheesy to, you know, let's go make it brighter and whatever else, but I truly believe that that we are brighter together.
[00:18:16] And it's not like when we combine the impact that we can have in the world. And we combine. All of the gifts that we have, and we give generously to each other and we help each other grow and we support each other and we encourage each other. And we really live in this growth mindset space. We really live in abundance and we know that there are plenty of people out there for everybody.
[00:18:42] That some of my people might be some of your people and they might really love what you're offering and they might need the transformation that you offer as well. Or some of your people might really need the bright future method and the transformation that I can help them have in their business using that.
[00:18:57] There's plenty of opportunities out there for all of us. And so we really do truly shine brighter together. Not only that, but life is richer. When we share it with other people growing an online business is such a unique experience. So when you can band together with people who have the same values with you, who really want to build a movement and make an impact in the world and not just make a profit and you can connect on that level.
[00:19:26] There's just way more love, joy and happiness. It's just so much richer. And for me, having a community online of other entrepreneurs who really get it has meant more to me than I ever could have imagined in profit, but also personally, and, in richness of life. Many of these people have become my dearest of friends.
[00:19:50] And so that's a big part of why I'm focusing on creating this bright entrepreneur movement of bright entrepreneurs who are heart-centered, who truly care about getting their customer's transformation, who have a growth mindset and believe in abundance who dream big. And don't think it's crazy that you want to change the world with their product or service or offer.
[00:20:15] These are people who take action and won't let anything hold you back. And when things get really bad, it's a safe space for you to be vulnerable and share and ask for support. And get feedback from people who are happy to give it to you, to choose where you on when you're feeling down and struggling.
[00:20:35] And that's my vision for this. Not only do I want to have this bright future method workshop, but I literally want to create. The best online community, this movement of people who want to make an impact and empower their people to make real change in the world. And I want it to be the best one online. I genuinely really believe I can do that.
[00:20:58] Growing communities and movements is one of my giftings. Yeah. And I would love for you to be a part of this. If you don't have people in your life who support you, and if you don't have people in your life who are there for you, when you, you fall down and get injured. If you don't have people in your life who can give you that ongoing support who really understand what you're doing and who really care about seeing you succeed.
[00:21:22] Then even if it wasn't for this course, I want you to join just for the community. We are actually going to be setting up small groups within the course itself so that you can connect within a tinier group to help get support. As you move through this, as well as being a part of this bigger group, it'll help provide accountability and support and encouragement.
[00:21:47] And it'll help provide a mirror as you figure out some of them, these things in your business that you may not have thought about before, or that you may be uncertain about. Sometimes we just need to bring stuff to other people who really get it to say, what do you think of this? And let them show us, you know, what they see.
[00:22:03] And I know having friends who I really think of them as mirrors, I don't know how to explain that better, but they can show me places that maybe the things that maybe I'm missing. Or, the things that I'm doing really well that I take for granted because I just do them naturally. And so community is such a massive part of growing and going forward faster.
[00:22:25] And we really are brighter together. If you don't have this community, I would love to have you be a part of the bright entrepreneur movement that I'm growing through this bright future method. Workshop. This starts on September 28th. You can enroll now through Thursday night, September 24th. we will have one of the best communities on the internet and you get to watch me build this kind of from the ground up because we have, I did a beta.
[00:22:54] I've got about. I don't know, 10 to 15 people in there who are still active, even though we did Aveda version of this course, way back in may, they are still active in the community. We started, they're going to be joining us as well in the new community. And I know that this is their, they're my people, they are my people.
[00:23:14] This is why so excited about this because says they're amazing people who are so generous and so care about helping each other and seeing everybody grow and succeed. And I want you to experience that. So not only do I want to help you have a plan for growing a movement around your business, but I want you to be a part of a movement.
[00:23:35] I want you to be a part of a community where you have found your people and truly feel like you belong. So I need to do to join us is to go to. Bright future method.com and sign up there. Now, if you have any other specific questions after you go there, you can read through all the details there, but if you have any more specific questions, what it is or how it's going to help you, please feel free to reach out to me directly.
[00:24:01] All you need to do is go to Jamie graham.com. That's J a M I E G R a M. Dot com and I'll link that in the show notes as well. And you can send me either a video, which I prefer, cause I'd love to see your beautiful face or an audio or a text. And I will respond to that as soon as I see it, that goes directly to my phone.
[00:24:24] And I, I do tend to respond as quickly as I can, but I also have six kids. So just give me some patients or, you know, if I'm, if I'm. Recording podcasts or something else that can't get to it immediately, but I do them as quick as I can. I do have my phone on me, so I will get back to you. I will answer your questions and help you see if this would be a good fit for you.
[00:24:44] But I would really love to have you have the support as you move forward with growing your business. And I would really love to help you get the clarity. And strategy that you need to really make a massive impact in the world. So go check that out. All the info in the show notes, just to reminder, that's only open for enrollment through Thursday night, September 24th.
[00:25:06] I'm going to shut it off Friday morning when I wake up. Not sure what time depends on how early my kids wake me up. Let's just be real here. but definitely sign up there and then remember my friends. We are brighter together and the world needs us. It genuinely does you have impact that you can bring to this world as do I, so let's go and let's make it brighter.

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