92. Codependency, Shame & Narcissism with Darlene Lancer
Make the Shift
English - June 01, 2022 09:00 - 1 hour - 67 MB - ★★★★★ - 13 ratingsSelf-Improvement Education Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
Codependency is one of my favorite topics I know firsthand what it’s like to live on the other side of the street and lose all sense of myself. I think so many people suffer from codependency and aren’t even aware. That is why I am committed to talking about it and sharing information about it on this podcast.
Setting boundaries for a codependent person is a terrifying thing-almost impossible because a person who has codependent tendencies puts their value and wholeness in the hands of others. Therefore, boundaries = major risk!!!
My guest today, Darlene Lancer, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author and expert on codependency and relationships. She has worked with couples and individuals for 30 years, and she shares SO much valuable information in today’s show about what codependency looks like, how to begin recovery, the connection between shame and codependency, the connection between codependency and narcissism and practical steps to becoming a healthy, whole you.
Listen to Discover
Definition of Codependency
The 5 Core Symptoms of Codependency
How we become codependent
Why codependents struggle with authenticity and vulnerability
The 4 steps we can take toward codependency recovery
“Codependency is a person who’s thinking and behavior revolves around something or something else rather than coming from their innate self. Your thinking and behavior revolves around something outside of you.” -Darlene Lancer
“The more we look outside of ourselves for our worth, the emptier and emptier we become inside.” In the later stages of codependency we can turn into an empty shell of ourselves.” -Darlene Lancer
“Codependents lose themselves in relationship.” -Darlene Lancer
“Parents are to mirror back to us our worth and enough-ness and when that doesn’t happen there’s a rift in the development of who we are.” -Krista Resnick
“Shame is a core sentiment of codependency.”- Darlene Lancer
“It’s not enough to say I love you….it’s about valuing you for WHO you are…your authentic self.” -Darlene Lancer
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