84. Tolerations Detox

We all have unpleasant conditions in our lives that cause us stress.   We may try to ignore these situations, but they still affect us.  If the condition could be eliminated, it is called a toleration. You cannot change what you tolerate, but for those of us who struggle with codependency, we tolerate A LOT (and for much too long).  

We often have relationships with people who gaslight and have narcissistic type traits because at the core, we attract people who LOVE our focus on them.  Codependents are OTHERS focused.  And because we get our self worth from OTHERS, what they think, fixing them, helping them, serving them, managing them-we push our own needs and desires to the side and just tolerate things that we shouldn't.   

Part of our recovery is to learn how to set the boundaries required, to eliminate these tolerations from our life.  These could be internal boundaries or external boundaries-both apply here.   In this episode I'm helping you understand what you might be tolerating in your life that is causing you to not stand for yourself and how you can start to become aware of some of things in your life that might be required to do a bit of a spring clean and detox them out.  Maybe a relationship that has long expired,  a friendship who is critical and dismissive of you, missed workouts and excuses, a closet full of clothes you never wear that is overwhelming to you, a pantry full of sugar laden items that take you off course from your diet, or mistreatment from your teenager.   

Listen to this episode to discover: 

What tolerations are 
The reasons why you might be tolerating (aka-it's not your fault, it's your programming) 
How to build awareness around what you might be tolerating 
How to start eliminating tolerations The 7 D's of how to detox from your current list of tolerations.   

Through the art of healthy boundary setting, we can learn to step into our sovereignty and speak our truth so we can have our needs met and live FULL LIVES.  I hope the strategies and tips I provide in this episode will help you step into your inner leader and begin to not realize that there are just things in life that need to go.  

 “A toleration is something that is put up with or endured; it is a burden and eats up time, money, and mental space.” -Krista Resnick 

"It’s a toleration for you if it creates frustration, drains your energy, or distracts you from what is really important."-Krista  Resnick 

"People who clear up tolerations often find that it opens up space for their creativity and intuition."-Krista Resnick 

"In order to start eliminating tolerations you first need to know what they are. Ask yourself: What am I putting up with right now?” -Krista Resnick

Links & Resources: 

Build Better Boundaries Workshop 

Tolerations Detox Workbook 

Krista Resnick Website 

Instagram 

Empowered Boundaries Facebook Community