Parenting Paused
233 episodes - English - Latest episode: 12 days ago - ★★★★★ - 19 ratingsParenting Paused presses PAUSE on those shame inducing parenting failures. It presses PLAY on your inner wisdom and the ability to be the parent you want to be. Join Leslie Potter, mother and founder of Purejoy Parenting, as she shares her personal experiences as well as works with other moms and dads in real time to show you the step-by-step process to turn your parenting around.
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Ep. 130 Tending to the Helpless One In You
June 21, 2022 00:19 - 7 minutes - 9.72 MBThis week on Parenting Paused- Leslie shares one of the Pillars of Purejoy- Support vs Helping. These aspects of the Purejoy way came out of a deep inquiry into the relationship dynamics as her daughter grew up. When you want to help someone, you must see them as helpless. Tune into this week's episode to hear what shifting to support would be like, and what it might offer your parenting journey.
Ep. 129 Spontaneity
June 21, 2022 00:11 - 7 minutes - 9.72 MBSpontaneity! What do you notice when you hear that word- when you say it to yourself? It's easy to get overruled in our homes. Dinner always happens at six o'clock! Homework is done before TV! Clean the bathroom on Saturday! And we established these, of course, to get a little bit of order and some containers in our homes. And yet, is there space to show up in the moment around some of those things- when something else is being asked or something else is important in that momen...
Ep. 128 Active Resting
June 06, 2022 19:01 - 6 minutes - 9.45 MBTune into this week's episode for a new practice around meeting and matching your child's energy. Leslie shares what it was like for her when her daughter was little and had a big charge of energy, and how she worked with what came up for her. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 127 Growing Yourself Up
May 31, 2022 16:41 - 6 minutes - 9.58 MBWhat was your childhood like? Who were you as a child? Your early experience can show up in sneaky ways and become the source of suffering in your parenting. At Purejoy we support you to check out those early strategies and see what updating them might be like. Usually, it’s quite a positive experience to get support for that challenge and grow yourself up! Tune into this episode to hear more about how Leslie created the Purejoy Practices to do just that!
Ep. 126 Be True To Yourself
May 23, 2022 21:13 - 6 minutes - 9.1 MBDo others try an influence the way you parent? Are you asked about what you are doing? Purejoy is here to support you to be true to yourself- which can be hard sometimes! To unpack your conditioning back towards your own knowing and trust yourself. We do this by creating an environment where you can discover your own personal brilliance! Tune in this week as Leslie shares about how she learned to trust herself and supported her daughter to do the same
Ep. 125 Healthy Aggression
May 16, 2022 20:35 - 8 minutes - 12.3 MBHealthy Aggression? It may be hard to consider these two words together! Aggression is typically seen in our culture as a negative expression. In this week's episode Leslie shares about what is going on underneath aggression and why it might be showing up in your parenting. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 124 Are You Self Reliant?
May 09, 2022 22:17 - 6 minutes - 9.58 MBIn the US we just celebrated Mother's day- how did that go for you? What is the current aftermath? Such a ripe time to consider what happened versus your expectations- no matter how you perceive it went- right? Tune into this week's episode for a deeper consideration of where those expectations come from and how they show up in your parenting. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 123 Too Much Connection
May 02, 2022 18:46 - 7 minutes - 9.75 MBYou hear a lot about attachment in the conversation of parenting, yeah? How to respond to your child on demand- how to connect. But have you considered healthy separation and what that might look like in your parenting journey? Tune into this week's episode to hear more! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 122 Parenting Through Direct Experience
April 25, 2022 19:41 - 7 minutes - 10.6 MBWhat do you hold sacred in your parenting? We each probably have a different definition of what sacred means- and how does that come into your parenting? Tune into this week's episode to hear more about what it might look like to hold the present moment as a sacred experience of being with your child. www.purejoyparenting.com [email protected]
Ep. 121 No One Is Making You Feel
April 18, 2022 14:00 - 7 minutes - 10.1 MBYou are probably familiar with the expression "you hurt my feelings!" Yeah? In this week's episode of parenting Paused Leslie shares a new way to look at what's going on below the surface of the ways you are relating with your kiddos when it seems like they are 'making you feel' a certain way. You'll hear what empowerment is available to you when you recognize that your feelings are yours- and no one can hurt them or make you feel them! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 120 Parenting Through the Heart
April 11, 2022 14:03 - 7 minutes - 9.89 MBOur culture highly values knowledge and intelligence. Approaching parenting from a headspace creates a division that launches you out of the present moment with your child. Tune into this week's episode to hear what Leslie has to say about what it's like to parent through the heart. Purejoy is getting ready for the fourth Purejoy Parent Coach Certification training to begin in June 2022. If you're curious to become a coach- visit www. purejoyparenting.com/ppcc
Ep. 119 The Lightness Of Being In Parenting
April 04, 2022 19:44 - 7 minutes - 10.4 MBDo you feel like your kids are out to get you? Do they make everything so much more complicated? Just maybe- that's about you?! Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how to support yourself, and stop taking your kid's behavior on as an emotional threat. Sign up for Tea Time (4/7/22 @10 am MT)
Ep. 118 You do You, Mom!
March 28, 2022 21:27 - 7 minutes - 10.2 MBWhat does it really mean to love yourself and parent from an open heart? Tune into this week's episode to hear a story about just what it's like!
Ep. 117 Worry No More
March 21, 2022 17:27 - 6 minutes - 9.58 MBOf course, you get worried, about your parenting, about your kiddos- you love them so much! That energy is bound to come up in your parenting journey. This week's episode takes a closer look at what else might be going on, and what other options are available to continue to create an environment for your child to reveal themselves to you- even when you worry! If you want to join in on Leslie's new venture- The Pillars of Purejoy- send an email to [email protected]
Ep. 116 Trying Too Hard
March 14, 2022 18:25 - 6 minutes - 9.03 MBAre you trying too hard in your parenting? Maybe you feel like your not trying hard enough? or there is always more you could be doing? Tune into this week's episode with Leslie for a fresh new look at trying hard.
Ep. 115 Raising A Child?
March 07, 2022 17:04 - 8 minutes - 11.3 MBWhat if you aren’t raising kids- as much as creating an environment of emotional safety around them that supports them growing into the brilliant human being they are becoming in this life? Tune into this week's episode to hear more!
Ep. 114 Trusting Your Inner Voice
February 28, 2022 18:21 - 7 minutes - 10.6 MBDo you trust your own inner voice? It can be so tricky to notice your own inner voice in a world that has trained you to seek external confirmation for any decision you make? Tune into this week’s episode to hear more about the Purejoy view and pick up some clues about how to turn towards your own inner voice and support your child to do the same!
Ep. 113 The Purejoy View
February 14, 2022 19:35 - 9 minutes - 13 MBGrowing up in your home you took on a certain view…often it was your caregiver's view of the world. Since you were young you saw the world the way your caregivers did. Even though as you grew your view changed and often times was counter to your caregivers, when you get emotionally triggered your early view arises. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about Purejoy as a view and check out how you see the world, and what view you might be working from.
Ep. 112 Do you Value Your Child?
February 08, 2022 00:59 - 7 minutes - 14.2 MBWhen do you feel most valued in your relationships? Is it when another makes space for your opinions, thoughts, ideas and truly shows interest in who you are? Tune into this week's episode to hear more about valuing your child's brilliance!
Ep. 111 Self Reflection
January 31, 2022 21:25 - 6 minutes - 9.48 MBAre you committed to your self-care? Do you have a practice for inner reflection? I know, I know- when are you supposed to do that with all that is going on in your life? Tune into this week's episode for a little closer look as to why this is so important in your parenting journey!
Ep. 110 Who Has the Power
January 24, 2022 22:36 - 7 minutes - 9.92 MBWhen my daughter started behaving in ways I didn’t think she should I was flummoxed. I thought inside “I’m treating her well and meeting all her needs on-demand so what am I doing wrong?” She was acting defiant and expressing a lot of rage and this wasn’t part of my parenting plan which I was sure was going to work. Tune in to hear more!
Ep. 109 Building Self-Esteem
January 18, 2022 02:45 - 7 minutes - 13.2 MBHow do we support healthy self-esteem in our children? The first place to start is looking inside to your self-esteem. When I took a deep dive inside I realized how insecure I felt in my parenting. I looked “good” on the outside because I was sitting in the seat of “power” and yet this was to cover my insecurity inside. Tune into this week's episode for more! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 108 Trusting Your Wisdom
January 10, 2022 19:57 - 6 minutes - 9 MBI found when looking outside for advice or methods to control my daughter’s behavior I wasn’t trusting my internal wisdom. Comparing myself with other parents was brutal. It seemed at the time that other parents didn’t struggle as much as I did. Tune into this episode to hear more about how I turned towards my own knowing, and how Purejoy supports you to do the same. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 107 Your Child Is Not Out To Get You
January 03, 2022 19:40 - 7 minutes - 9.75 MBThe reason we find it challenging not to take things personally is that when our children lash out it feels personal because of the story we’ve told ourselves - about ourselves. We tell ourselves stories about what it means when our children say things about us, or when they won’t listen to us. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about not taking things your children say or do personally! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 106 Return to Sender
December 27, 2021 18:11 - 7 minutes - 10.7 MBFeelings are a part of everyday life for children. They have a wide range of feelings and emotions that they experience, from big feelings to small ones. Have you practiced not taking them personally? Tune into this episode to hear more about how to be with all the big feelings! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 105 I WANT MORE!
December 20, 2021 18:53 - 5 minutes - 10.4 MBWe came into the world helpless and totally dependent on our caregivers to attend to our young needs. Each time we reached out our precious young arms we were met with either a tender loving smile and our vulnerable needs were met or our caregiver turned away claiming we were too demanding and taught us to take care of ourselves before we were ready. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how to be with needs and desires. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 104 Home for the Holiday
December 14, 2021 01:16 - 7 minutes - 13.9 MBThe holiday season is now in full swing. The decorations, the shopping, the family gatherings, and celebrations. It’s a wonderful time of year! But it can also be stressful, especially visiting family. Choosing to parent your children differently than how you were parented can be a stress point when going home for the holiday. Tune in to this episode for some Purejoy support all about it! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 103 The Power of Being Human
December 06, 2021 22:11 - 7 minutes - 14.1 MBIf reading this I KNOW you are seeking to create an environment for your children to feel loved and supported in living into their brilliance. We have a strong desire to offer them unconditional love and an environment different than what we grew up in and yet at the same time question our parenting since it looks so different than how we were raised. Where does our humanness come into play? www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 102 You Need To!
November 29, 2021 20:14 - 7 minutes - 13.9 MBDo you ever hear yourself saying to your kids, “You need to…..” Maybe, it's cleaning their room, or eating their vegetables….homework anyone? Of course, you need your child to do what they are supposed to do, right? And yet, when you refuse to take responsibility for it being your need, not your child's you are giving them a mixed message. Tune into this episode for more support in owning your own needs. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 101 Do You Take Things Personally?
November 22, 2021 21:25 - 6 minutes - 11.6 MBDo you believe you know what is best for your child? I know, I sure did. The parenting paradigm most of us were exposed to carries this view. The limitation of this view is that we find ourselves projecting onto our children the experiences we had which parallel theirs. Tune into this episode to hear more about healthy separation. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 100 Over-protection
November 15, 2021 18:37 - 6 minutes - 12.3 MBIn conscious parenting, the message we often hear is - connect, connect, connect. And yet, rarely do we hear about the importance of healthy separation in our relationships with our children. Tune into this episode to get some support with healthy separation in your parenting. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 99 Growing Yourself Up
November 08, 2021 18:52 - 6 minutes - 12.7 MBCheck out some of Purejoy's FREE offerings! SafeSeat Practice- FREE 5-day video course delivered to your email. Sign up for Tea Times here: Tuesday Tea Time Signups https://view.flodesk.com/pages/61845b810b51fd1569c55355 Thursday Tea Time Signups https://view.flodesk.com/pages/61845c6edb5bc2b4fb3087e3
Ep. 98 Happiness is an Inside Job
November 01, 2021 22:27 - 6 minutes - 12.7 MBDo you experience happiness emanating from inside and spreading out or coming from the outside and spreading in? Most of us were trained to attach happiness to an external event. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about happiness as an internal experience. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 97 Transitions, Oh My!
October 25, 2021 17:51 - 7 minutes - 13.2 MBHave you noticed how transitions can be both exciting and scary? Settling into a rhythm, a pattern, or a way of being feels safe and secure, and yet in the river of life, there is always a flow. Children are constantly shifting and changing as they grow and develop. And yet, it is easy as parents to crystallize our view coming to a conclusion about who our children are or are not. Tune into this week's episode as we talk about transitions! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 96 Is Good Behavior Your Gold Standard?
October 18, 2021 22:59 - 10 minutes - 19.7 MBEver feel misunderstood and judged by the way you parent? Do others think you are permissive and question your style? If others are not interested in hearing how you parent and, out of their discomfort, keep telling you how “wrong” you are for messing up your child, do you listen? Tune into this week's episode to hear more about coming together in a new culture of parenting. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 95 Expectations Running Wild
October 11, 2021 19:42 - 6 minutes - 12.1 MBIn my parenting, the number 1 challenge I experience is holding onto unrealistic expectations. Right? Do you remember before you had your first child? What were your fantasies? Your expectations on yourself? Tune into this week's episode to hear more about what to do with expectations! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 94 Your Kid is Not Lazy
October 04, 2021 18:05 - 7 minutes - 13.1 MBSeeing what your child is actually doing instead of focusing and believing they are ONLY doing the negative sends a message to your child that they are a whole human being experiencing positive and negative. If you focus only on the negative your child is hearing over and over they have a deficit which becomes their internal self-talk. The more balanced you see a situation the less emotionally charged you’ll be when supporting your child in learning skill sets that will support their growt...
Ep. 93 Why Hitting is Not 'Wrong'
September 27, 2021 17:40 - 7 minutes - 14.2 MBAs a parent, it is easy, to think what you believe is “right” casting your child as in the “wrong”. When this happens righteousness pops up defending and justifying your actions of pushing, pulling, or forcing your child to live into your high values. I’m here to offer you another way of seeing. What if thinking you are right is just your first STOP on the elevator down to connecting with reality? Tune into this episode to find out what might be possible! www.purejoyparent...
Ep. 92 Synchronicity of Timing
September 21, 2021 06:00 - 6 minutes - 11.7 MBSynchronicity in parenting is the occurrence of meaningful coincidences that seem to have no cause. Tapping into this field offers a different lens to view certain situations and to enter a realm out of the ordinary. Have you ever thought of someone and you end up running into them at the store? Hmmmmm! What is that? Tune into this week's episode to hear all about it!
Ep. 91 Protection Of The Heart
September 14, 2021 06:00 - 11 minutes - 20.6 MBWhen I adopted my daughter I was SURE I had it all together. I was going to be the best parent in the world and I was READY for my mission. So, when I found myself in the weeds struggling to get my 4-year-old to listen, I noticed that I was withdrawing love and protecting my heart. This led to a deep inquiry about what was going on inside my heart and why did I feel the need to protect it from this beautiful being that I so longed to give my heart to? Tune into this week's episode to hear ...
Ep. 90 Your Child's World View
September 07, 2021 06:00 - 6 minutes - 12.4 MBI learned when my daughter was young, I realized I had to be willing to see through her eyes. When I began to do this, things looked very, very different. My daughter is more of a present-moment child. She doesn’t focus on the future. Dropping into this practice has given me a life full of inspiration- tune into this episode to learn how you might be able to do the same! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 89 Meeting Your Child's Needs
August 31, 2021 06:00 - 7 minutes - 12.9 MBHave you ever considered the intense pressure your child feels to meet your needs? If not, let’s take a little time to explore. "You need to eat your food, you need to put on your shoes, you need to do your homework, You need to get off the computer, You need to do your chores, You need to hurry up, You need to listen to me…..” And yet, what if you actually owned that these are your needs? Join me in this episode and we can look into what it might be like to own your needs! www.pure...
Ep. 88 Arrogance
August 23, 2021 19:00 - 7 minutes - 13.7 MBI never thought of myself as an arrogant person. Honestly, I had quite the judgment about folks I perceived as arrogant. Then I became a parent! YIKES. Arrogance showed up quickly and furiously when my daughter didn’t behave in ways that supported my idea of being a “good” mother. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about my journey to discover more about what was under all of that! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 87 Reading Your Child's Instruction Manual
August 17, 2021 17:14 - 8 minutes - 18 MBDo you ever think your child didn’t come with an instruction manual? Well, what if they did and yet you aren’t interested in reading it? Why would this be? In my experience, my parenting manual (conscious loving mother) often gave contradictory instructions to her innate knowing and instructions. Determined to follow mine I often felt like I was trying to put a round peg in a square hole. It was painful for both. Tune into this episode to deepen in how you can start reading your chil...
Ep. 86 Does It Matter What You Think?
August 10, 2021 06:00 - 7 minutes - 12.9 MBWhen your child doesn’t listen, won’t get in the car seat when you ask nicely, or won’t get ready to leave the house what happens inside you? Does it feel like an emotional threat? Do you feel anger? Most parents express how frustrated they are especially since their children should KNOW what to do. Tune into this week's episode and let's dive a little deeper! www.purejoyparenting.com
85. It's Never About What You Think It's About
August 03, 2021 06:00 - 7 minutes - 13.9 MBI have a saying that goes, “It’s never about what you think it is about”. What I mean by this is it’s never about the computer use, or the food, or even the homework. I know, I know. It sure seems like it is about those things, yes? Tune into this episode to hear more about this saying and how it can support you to be more present with your child. www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 84 Embracing Tender Feelings
July 27, 2021 06:00 - 6 minutes - 12.7 MBUnderneath the wall of rage, we walked through last week, are early, early feelings of abandonment, rejection, powerless, and helplessness. These are the precious feeling jewels you stored away as a young child believing they were somehow dangerous since when expressing them through your behavior you were punished or shamed. In this week's episode, I'll be sharing with you what it's like to embrace those tender feelings you find beyond your rage. www.purejoyparentin...
Ep. 83 Walking Through Rage
July 20, 2021 06:00 - 7 minutes - 13.6 MBRAGE is a terrifying emotion to turn towards with kindness. RAGE, in my family, was explosive and volatile and often expressed in destructive ways. Having experienced the destructive behavior of a raging mom I organized my life to never feel this powerful emotion out of an imagined fear that I would behave like her. Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how I learned to walk with rage, and what that supported in my relationship with my daughter. ...
Ep. 82 How to Get Your Child to LOVE Chores
July 13, 2021 06:00 - 7 minutes - 13.7 MBDo you ever get frustrated with your kids when they refuse to do chores? Most parents I meet have a belief that chores are important skill sets for kids to learn. And yet, they often push, pull, threaten, shame or force their children to do them. Sound familiar? Tune into this episode to learn a secret I've discovered to turn this around! www.purejoyparenting.com
Ep. 81 Finishing the Moment
July 06, 2021 19:46 - 6 minutes - 12.2 MBIn all my years, I’ve struggled with what I’m now calling “finishing the moment”. Starting something new, I leave a trail of dust behind in my wake for I’m constantly onto the next shiny object in the distance. Rarely, do I finish the moment I’m actually experiencing. In my parenting, this shows up when my daughter is sharing a story about her experience. Instead of listening and opening to staying in the moment, with curiosity, I project her into the future and start...