Overburdened No More

Ep: 144 Use Your Strengths

Character is the root to having trust, growth and connection with yourself and others. Character is what creates your ability to communicate and cooperate with anyone. Character allows you to make decisions based upon values, and not upon mood or circumstances. Sign up for a Free 15-minute to work with me: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/4Tips Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/bUp3NSoa07c Camp ...

Ep: 143 Get REAL with Yourself Using the Loving Ritual of Journaling

People who care about each other, recognize when the other is hurting. People who care about each other, allow them into their story and want to know their story too. People who care about each other, take care of what each other needs. People who care about each other, want to see each other succeed and are willing to help them get there.  That’s what REAL connection looks like. That’s what we all need. Human beings need each other. Sign up for a Free 15-minute to work with me: https...

Ep. 142: Working Through Depression by Learning Optimism Part 5

If depression is a disorder of thinking, then pessimism and rumination add fuel to the fire, and it’s not the kind of fuel you want driving you, is it? It’s here, it’s finally here, the fifth and final episode in this series about Learning Optimism. I hope you’ve enjoyed this deep dive into this topic as much as I have. If you’re someone who is tired of feeling pessimistic and negative all the time, you have probably found a lot of value in this series. Even if it’s something you only fi...

Ep. 141: Working Through Depression by Learning Optimism Part 4

Get some distance between you and your thoughts. Hold it out away from you and really look at it, actually hold your hand out away from your body and visualize the thought sitting on your hand. Is it true? Is it? Is this a belief that you want to hold onto OR Can you let it go… just let it float away like a cloud in the bright blue sky? Yes, you can really just decide to do that. That’s what thinking about your thinking can do for you. Sign up for a Free 15-minute to work with me: ht...

Ep. 140: Working Through Depression by Learning Optimism Part Three

When you can find temporary and specific reasons for why things are happening, that’s when you feel hope. If you feel like something is permanent, that creates helplessness. If you feel like bad things happen in every part of your life, the space it takes up in your mind, that also creates helplessness. And when you start to feel helpless, hope isn’t easily available to you.  Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/4Tips  Seligman, Martin E. ...

Ep139: Working Through Depression by Learning Optimism Part Two

Becoming optimistic can be as simple as learning a set of skills that help you talk to yourself from a more encouraging viewpoint when you encounter personal failures. Maybe by paying attention, you start to notice some of the unconscious conversations you are having in your head. When you start looking and noticing, you’ll be surprised how many you may pick up on. There’s a lot of storytelling running around freely in your mind. No wonder you feel weighed down with burdens. Many of the...

Ep 138: Working Through Depression by Learning Optimism Part One

The central skill of optimism is changing the destructive things you say to yourself when you experience the setbacks that life gives to all of us. Here’s one of the coolest things I’ve learned about pessimism, it is escapable! Pessimism can be reversed. Pessimists can learn to be optimists by learning a new set of thinking skills. Sign up for a Free 15-minute to work with me: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Seligman, Martin E. P. Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Lif...

Ep 137: Feeling Stuck?

Our thoughts create our feelings, our feelings fuel the way we act, and the results stay the same if we do those same things over and over. You begin to feel stuck if what you’re creating isn’t working for you anymore. It may have worked for you in the past, but it isn’t working now. Sign up for a Free 15-minute to work with me: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Basic Change Model: https://hunkeedori.com/Become Quick Start to Journaling Guide: https://hunkeedori.com/quickstart  Emotion...

Ep 136: Envy: A Guide to Purpose & Potential?

“Envy occurs when we want something that another person has. Jealousy is when we fear losing a relationship or a valued part of a relationship that we already have.”  Brene Brown Even though these definitions of Envy and Jealously don’t make Envy look very desirable, I have come to learn that it can actually point me to what I am really wanting, even if I don’t recognize it at first. Sign up for a Free 15-minute to work with me: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Register for the 4 Tips t...

135: Between Stimulus and Response

One of the first steps to become proactive instead of reactive is to notice that there is a space between what happens to you and how you respond.  Register for the FREE 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/4Tips Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/jSRn6OHiUgA Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/C6qLWz0gKEs Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Compl...

134: Using What You’ve Learned to Help Others

Why do we go through hard times? What’s the purpose? Is it to teach us a lesson? Or is it to teach us a lesson that we can pass on and help someone else? I believe in the latter. It’s the reason I created this podcast. Sign up for a Free 15-minute to work with me: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/4Tips Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/peOBVnpU0BA Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu...

Ep 133: Finding Hope Through Depression

Even with depression, you can feel the enthusiasm and confidence that a glimmer of hope can bring. Hope is not so much a state of mind as it is a habit of mind. Habits can be formed. Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/4Tips Let me teach you how to journal: https://hunkeedori.com/minimentor Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/oAYg_iNw5f4 Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/cRWjDD9eKl4 Camp Connection Mini-Course: https:...

Ep132: Circle of Influence

There are things outside of your circle of influence that are out of your control.   When you choose to focus on things that are outside of that circle, you feel overburdened. Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/4Tips Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/lAB12tEyeOw Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/kfDcgf2SgDo Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeed...

Ep 131: Beginners Mind

I have a new skill I’d like to teach you today that will help with building and maintaining healthy relationships. It’s called the Beginner’s Mind. Basically, it is a way to help you shift the way you look at situations and people as if you had never seen them before. Work with me!  4 sessions for only $100: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/4Tips Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/o6lUeAOFtSc Wa...

Ep 130: The Power of Choice

What if we chose to remember good times with friends and family that happened BEFORE a hurtful comment was made and we severed a relationship with them. Even if it’s not received, it’s a gift you can give yourself. When your thoughts are positive, you just feel better. Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/4Tips Get the Coaching Deal, 4 hours for $100: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/K-npI3xWhG0 W...

Ep 129: High Brain/Low Brain

When you take the high road, you choose to go the better way, the higher way.  You choose to avoid negativity and all that comes with it.  You try to see yourself and others in a healthier, more realistic way. Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/4Tips Get the Coaching Deal, 4 hours for $100: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/wUhEWq8bznQ Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zmaW3rkSb9s C...

Ep 128: Using Your Character and Values to Build Relationships

The most impactful place to start changing yourself is to begin working on how you SEE your situation, your relationships, and your life. Sign up for 4 Sessions with me for only $100: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://www.hunkeedori.com/4Tips Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/6HXtUIHH1AI Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/M9nkXldmwpU Complete Show Notes and Blog Post: https://hunkeedori.com/ep-128-...

Ep 127 You Are the Melody

Life does tend to get the better of us. It can change the rhythm of our life. There’s always so much to do, so many people to please and help, that we can lose who we are.  But who you are never leaves you.  It’s still there, it just may take a little digging to find it. Mini-Mentor: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Workshop: https://www.hunkeedori.com/4Tips Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/lxkw7J2utxY  Watch this episode on Y...

Ep126 Meditation For the Holidays

When your mind starts spinning with thoughts that make you feel yucky, you know, like judgement, anxiety or anger or any of those things that only hurt you when you start to feel them, you can stop the spinning by taking your focus down to your belly or into your breath and just start breathing.  If you can do this for about 90 seconds, you will actually feel those negative emotions fade away. Email me about the membership: [email protected] Register for the 4 Tips to Improve Any Relati...

Ep 125: 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Series Day 4

Have you recently gone through a life transition that has left you feeling anything but hope? Medical Diagnosis Adorable young children are suddenly teenagers and don’t adore YOU anymore? Diagnosed with depression or anxiety and the medication is helping but you don’t feel even close to like your old self again? You are suddenly in an empty nest and realize that empty nest syndrome is real?   There are so many challenges in our life span that seem to yank away our hope. But that doesn...

Ep 124: 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Series Day 3

Have you recently gone through a life transition that has left you feeling anything but hope? Medical Diagnosis Adorable young children are suddenly teenagers and don’t adore YOU anymore? Diagnosed with depression or anxiety and the medication is helping but you don’t feel even close to like your old self again? You are suddenly in an empty nest and realize that empty nest syndrome is real?   There are so many challenges in our life span that seem to yank away our hope. But that doesn...

Ep123: 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Series Part 2

Have you recently gone through a life transition that has left you feeling anything but hope? Medical Diagnosis Adorable young children are suddenly teenagers and don’t adore YOU anymore? Diagnosed with depression or anxiety and the medication is helping but you don’t feel even close to like your old self again? You are suddenly in an empty nest and realize that empty nest syndrome is real?   There are so many challenges in our life span that seem to yank away our hope. But that doesn...

Ep122: 4 Tips to Improve Any Relationship Series Part 1

Have you recently gone through a life transition that has left you feeling anything but hope? Medical Diagnosis Adorable young children are suddenly teenagers and don’t adore YOU anymore? Diagnosed with depression or anxiety and the medication is helping but you don’t feel even close to like your old self again? You are suddenly in an empty nest and realize that empty nest syndrome is real?   There are so many challenges in our life span that seem to yank away our hope. But that doesn...

Ep121: Turn Your Day Around

I know it’s not always in our control to turn bad days around, but I have seen some really good evidence that instead of just writing the whole day off, it’s totally possible to start fresh, even in the middle of the day! Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/T7iR7Alm5mI Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/KTs11D0rnqc Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Complete Show Notes and Blog ...

Ep. 120: Self-Made Doesn't Exist

Dependence focuses on YOU. The contrast of this dependence is Independence.  Focusing on I. Interdependence turns the focus to WE. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/7OmgtEUDXRc Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ocNhndyooUM Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Complete Show Notes and Blog Post: https://hunkeedori.com/ep-120-self-made-doesnt-exist/ Join the Keeping it Together Community: www.hunkeedori.com/community Hunkeedori Websi...

Ep119: Motivation to Change

When you reframe how to talk to yourself, you will love yourself more which is what will motivate you to act in a more positive way. You will stop hurting yourself and then you won’t hurt others either. That’s the power of understanding the cycle of motivation. Motivation doesn’t just happen. There are FIVE stages of motivation, which can help you understand why it’s harder to feel motivated than you think it should be. Find out more about Coaching Packages: [email protected] Tip Tu...

119: Motivation to Change

When you reframe how to talk to yourself, you will love yourself more which is what will motivate you to act in a more positive way. You will stop hurting yourself and then you won’t hurt others either. That’s the power of understanding the cycle of motivation. Motivation doesn’t just happen. There are FIVE stages of motivation, which can help you understand why it’s harder to feel motivated than you think it should be. Find out more about Coaching Packages: [email protected] Tip Tu...

Ep118: Empowered Communication

Empowered communication means that every person is actually responsible. You are able to choose your own response in any situation.   When we view our communication through the lens of empowered communication, the receiver has the most power, not the sender. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/xo3HQ6u4CbY Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9e4rTCzABjA Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/C...

Ep117: Take Time to Notice

Managing thoughts and emotions is the start to getting your old self back. Paying attention is the first line of defense. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/1XqeeXuLsnY Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/J5T_gJnYNNc Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Complete Show Notes and Blog Post: https://hunkeedori.com/episode-117-take-time-to-notice/ Join the Keeping it Together Communi...

117: Take Time to Notice

Managing thoughts and emotions is the start to getting your old self back. Paying attention is the first line of defense. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/1XqeeXuLsnY Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/J5T_gJnYNNc Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Complete Show Notes and Blog Post: https://hunkeedori.com/episode-117-take-time-to-notice/ Join the Keeping it Together Communi...

Ep 116: The Space Between

Relationships are about becoming more. More love. More hope. More closeness. More CONNECTION. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/gVq_xmEg75A Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/g-d-0BKosz0 Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Complete Show Notes and Blog Post: https://hunkeedori.com/ep-116-the-space-between/ Join the Keeping it Together Community: www.hunkeedori.com/community...

Ep 115: Your Seven Basic Needs

Every human on the planet has seven basic needs that must be met in order to thrive.   They are: Safety, Trust, Appreciation, Respect, Validation, Encouragement, & Dedication. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/TCuQ_ovvA0A Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/AFYLXr9-k-c Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Take a Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/Courses Complete Show Notes and B...

Ep 114: Healthy People are Whole People

Connecting to your HEAD by learning the importance of character. Connecting to your HEART by learning to understand yourself. Using your HANDS to connect and lift yourself and others to do and be your best. And connecting to your HOPE for the future. Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/7Z46tD5FVQM Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wnUi8odUGHg Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp...

113: Focus on Your Foundation

Instead of focusing on what you can’t change or what isn’t working, focus on what you CAN change and what IS working. Good routines that help us practice the skills that strengthen us. Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/U6C6QVjl4rg Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gr-nKZ33NQA Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Complete Show Notes and Blog Post: https://hunkeedori.com/episode...

Ep113: Focus on Your Foundation

Instead of focusing on what you can’t change or what isn’t working, focus on what you CAN change and what IS working. Good routines that help us practice the skills that strengthen us. Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/U6C6QVjl4rg Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gr-nKZ33NQA Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Complete Show Notes and Blog Post: https://hunkeedori.com/episode...

112: What Fuels You?

There are 4 areas of life that are a good place to take a closer look at, evaluate, and see how you’re doing when you feel like you’re running on empty: 1-Health and Wellness 2- Work, Career, or Business 3- Relationships & Love 4- Fun & Happiness  Let’s learn something to DO in each area to add a little more fuel to our tank. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/JOgKwst7BGo Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/DQPc-XchT_A Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori...

Ep112: What Fuels You?

There are 4 areas of life that are a good place to take a closer look at, evaluate, and see how you’re doing when you feel like you’re running on empty: 1-Health and Wellness 2- Work, Career, or Business 3- Relationships & Love 4- Fun & Happiness  Let’s learn something to DO in each area to add a little more fuel to our tank. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/JOgKwst7BGo Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/DQPc-XchT_A Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori...

Ep: 111 Changing Expectations

Where are some of the most important places to change our expectations so that we are more at peace and less burdened with the circumstances happening around us? Register for the Daily Memories Journal Workshop: https://hunkeedori.com/DMJW Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/vabIl1UUQas Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/s_jdDn6AFKU Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: https://hunkeedori.com/Consult  Take a Wor...

Ep. 110: Using Agency to Make Choices

Even though our RIGHT of choice was a gift from God, it comes with RESPONSIBILITY and RESULTS. The ability to choose love has always been within you. Article by Thomas S. Monson: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2010/10/the-three-rs-of-choice?lang=eng Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/_cxMy6SJ7V0 Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/hQwZ50LHmg0 Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free 30-minute consult: ht...

Ep 109: Bittersweet Nostalgia

Being emotionally healthy doesn’t mean that you don’t feel moments of sadness, wishing things could be different than they are, but it does require that we are careful to remember the good and the bad of things.  Being healthy requires you see both sides and make a conscious choice how you want to feel in the end. Register for the Empty Nesters Workshop: https://www.hunkeedori.com/Empty Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/OZaGIMXpFLA Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/d8...

Ep. 108: Finding a Moment of Solitude to Nourish Your Roots

I think we all need moments of solitude, where we can finish a thought without interruption. Where we can contemplate on things that we wonder about. Where we can have a conversation with God about the things we are struggling with. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/PCc-X4rKiNA Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ln9hHXcAWEU Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free Mini-Mentor Session: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Uniquee Conn...

Ep 107: Building a Relationship with Yourself

Building a solid relationship with yourself is the first step in creating solid relationships with others. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/p5vqG-1i4p4 Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/wf-Hvf3oQp0 Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free Mini-Mentor Session: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Uniquee Connection Method:   Option #1: Video Course  https://hunkeedori.com/UCMCourse Option #2: One-on-One Coaching https://hunkeedori....

Ep 106: The Unique Gifts of Introverts

A different perspective on how being introverted or extroverted can add to or take away from the burdens that we carry. My guest today is Kari Bartkus and she is a Spiritual Director serving introverted women who are processing grief, trauma & illness.  Kari’s Links:  Free Journaling Workshop: https://equipped.lovedoesthat.org/journalworkshop2  Journal Gently Writing Program: https://lovedoesthat.org/journal-gently/  Let's Encourage One Another Podcast: https://lovedoesthat.org/articles...

Ep 105: Book Club: Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown

Studying the connection between how we think, feel, and act. This is how we deepen our connections. This is how we get in touch with how we’re really feeling. Then we understand why we act the way we do. Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/piIKExutDCQ Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qtV8koJhOFs  Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free Mini-Mentor Session: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Uniquee Connection Method:   Option #1...

Ep 104: Book Club Review of The High 5 Habit

Key Ideas in the High 5 Habit 1:  Start the day by High-fiving your reflection 2:  Scientific research backs up the power of high fives 3: Negative thoughts can create a spiral of negative behaviors 4: Your RAS can get clogged with unhelpful information 5: Interrupt your thoughts, use a mantra, and act like the person you want to become 6: Replace apologies with gratitude Mantras for Positive Thoughts PDF: https://hunkeedori.com/PositiveThoughts Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu...

Ep 103: Take a Gratitude Walk

Instead of looking at your phone when you’re outside or walking around anywhere, you can look for things you can feel grateful for, instead of your phone. Register for the Empty Nesters Workshop: https://www.hunkeedori.com/Empty Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/zvugTl04sz4  Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/kmZGwF6s7sU Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free Mini-Mentor Session: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Uniquee Connect...

Ep 102: What Is Your Love Language?

Different people with different personalities give and receive love in different ways. Learn to recognize these in yourself and others and you can learn to identify the root of your conflicts and truly begin to grow closer. Love language quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/ Register for the Empty Nesters Workshop: https://www.hunkeedori.com/Empty Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/G4_mQYJ90H8 Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/u7sT5BEenZA Camp Connection Mini-Course: htt...

Ep 101 Exercises in Self Compassion

If you’re one of those people, like me, who have had a hard time showing compassion for yourself, the exercises I’m sharing today will be a great help to you. They have helped me and I’m excited to share them with you. Get the PDF download of the Self-Compassion Meditation & Mantra: www.Hunkeedori.com/101 Register for the Empty Nesters Workshop: https://www.hunkeedori.com/Empty Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/8zEgCZLEcIE Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/bNA3qp9ZE...

Ep 100: Let’s Take a Look at the Best of Overburdened No More

099: Self-Compassion vs Self-Esteem

Is it better to have Self-Esteem or Self-Compassion? Does connection have anything to do with it? Those are the question I’ll be talking about today. Register for the Empty Nesters Workshop: https://www.hunkeedori.com/Empty Tip Tuesday Video Link: https://youtu.be/UohyTScnpDE  Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/PnMULR5rw24 Camp Connection Mini-Course: https://hunkeedori.com/camp Sign up for a Free Mini-Mentor Session: https://hunkeedori.com/MiniMentor Uniquee Connection ...