ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show
817 episodes - English - Latest episode: 29 days ago - ★★★★★ - 1.6K ratingsIs your marriage everything that you want it to be? Are you ready to make a change? Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo to create a strong marriage so you can have mind blowing intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. Marriage is not always easy but it's so worth it. Come and make your marriage EXTRAORDINARY!
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167: PLAY BALL
April 30, 2013 07:01 - 45 minutesYour marriage is a participation sport. There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. It's time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together, and enjoying this game we call marriage together. When you do your emotional, spiritual, financial, and sexual intimacy are going to be in sync. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can stand together on the ball field and participate in your marriage together. It's time to P...
166: HOLEY UNDERWEAR
April 23, 2013 07:01 - 39 minutesThose underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don't feel sexy. Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? Git rid of those hoely underwear! It's time for some spring cleaning so get those holey underwear out of your drawer and put them in the trash. In the process you'll lift your self-esteem and self-confidence. This week Tony and Alisa share their experiences with hole...
165: CUDDLE UP
April 16, 2013 07:01 - 41 minutesCuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse's skin it can do wonders for your marriage. The act of cuddling with your spouse releases the hormone oxytocin, "the feel-good hormone", which can lead to overall happiness. Cuddling can also release endorphins, which are the same hormones that are released during a good workout. This week Tony & Alisa share how t...
164: IS YOUR SEX LIFE GETTING ENOUGH SLEEP?
April 09, 2013 07:01 - 44 minutesThe amount of sleep you get can directly impact your vibrancy as well as the quality of sex you have in your marriage. When you are tired and worn out sex is the last thing you may want to be doing. If anything, you would rather roll over and get more sleep. Well, a good night of sleep will benefit your sex life and many other areas of your life as well. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can feel better by getting more sleep. Not only will you learn the impact from lack of sleep, but tip...
163: WHEN THINGS GO WRONG AS THEY SOMETIMES WILL
April 02, 2013 07:01 - 42 minutesYou have waited to try something new in the bedroom for months. You purchased what you needed, set the ambiance of your room, and now it's go time. As the two of you begin having some fun you realize that this isn't going the way you had planned. The candles smell horrible. There are laughs when you turn on the vibrator. Your hotel room bed is bumpy. A long day traveling leaves you spent. Recently one of those planned situations didn't go as Tony and Alisa had expected. This week they share w...
162: WALK ON WATER
March 26, 2013 07:01 - 41 minutesFear can stop you in your tracks and hold you back from what God truly wants from you in your marriage. It's during these times of fear that you need to face what is holding you back and move forward. Peter walked on water, but it was only when he got out of the boat did this happen. (Matthew 14:29-30) It can be difficult to get out of the boat sometimes in your marriage. This week Tony and Alisa share times in their marriage when fear held them back and they didn't want to get out of the boa...
161: I DON’T CARE
March 19, 2013 07:01 - 43 minutesLove starts out as that butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach; a physical emotion that washed over you when you first met your soon-to-be spouse. During this get-to-know-you stage you were swept up with everything they did with you, such as holding your hand, rubbing close to you, and those kisses. Your emotions were cranked to the hilt and everything was great. You're happy. You're in love. You get engaged, then married and as time passed the feelings of love began to disappear. Those...
160: FLIP THE SWITCH TO GOOD SEX
March 12, 2013 07:01 - 41 minutesYou were raised in a family where talking about sex and your private parts was a bad. Sex was bad everywhere you went and then you got married. Now you needed to flip the switch to good sex. This has been tough for you and to this day you still have a bad sex view point even with your spouse. This week we are here to help you overcome the thoughts that are holding you back from have good sex if not great sex with your spouse. Listen in to the 3 steps to flipping the switch to good sex in your...
159: SEX ON THE ROLLER COASTER
March 05, 2013 08:01 - 44 minutesHopefully you haven't actually had sex on a roller coaster. That would be very difficult to say the least and a bit dangerous too. No, this roller coaster is the parenting kind. The one that you a part of each and every day of your life if you have little ones to adult children living with you. The stress of raising, disciplining, educating, and being active with your kids can put the breaks on your sexual intimacy. You're unable to let go of the daily activities to be present with your spous...
158: SEIZE THE DAY
February 26, 2013 08:01 - 42 minutesStop the Glorification of Busy! It's not uncommon for you to ask someone how their day is going and the response you get is, "I'm really busy". You may even answer the same way when someone asks how your day, week, or month is going. Unfortunately, if you and your spouse are "so busy" that you don't have margin in your life you are missing opportunities when the two of you can seize the day. Yes, you need margin in your lives so that you can experience the emotional, spiritual, and sexual int...
157: HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR PARENTS AND YOUR MARRIAGE
February 19, 2013 08:01 - 40 minutesConsider yourself warned. Any time that you choose your parents over your spouse you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Making sure that you have boundaries that will protect you, your spouse, and your marriage are needed. You love your parents, we love our too, and setting boundaries can be tough. Before we were married and after we were married we had to take time with both sets of parents to let them know our marriage came first. What happens is that once you set up these boundaries y...
156: VALENTINE’S DAY IS MORE THAN JUST ONE DAY
February 12, 2013 08:01 - 38 minutesIt’s the time of year when cupid is abuzz with love in your marriage. The cost of chocolates, roses, and jewelry double or triple and a night on the town will set you back a Benjamin or two. The card isle at Target is filled with pink, red, and purple for you to profess you love with a card in any shape, style and size. As marriage educators we are not head over heels excited about Valentine’s day. It is a day to share your love with your spouse that is for sure. Unfortunately, it’s can be li...
155: HOW-TO MAKE A DAILY DEVOTIONAL PART OF YOUR MARRIAGE
February 05, 2013 08:01 - 43 minutesYour desire to be closer and more intimate with your spouse. Emotionally, financially, and sexually you are there and yet your spiritual intimacy is lagging behind. Maybe you've even tried a few times (or many times) without success. We get it! We've been spiritually empty in our marriage. One thing though is that when you come together and dive into your spiritual intimacy it will take your marriage to another level. Spending time together in God's word and in prayer allows the two of you t...
154: WRITE ME A LETTER, SPEAK TO MY HEART
January 29, 2013 08:01 - 40 minutesIn this digital age that you live in how often do you write a hand written love letter or get a romantic love letter? There is something to be said about this lost art of letter writing to that connects you to your spouse. The few moments it takes to express your love on paper can last a lifetime. This week we share how you can write a quick romantic love letter to your spouse so that you can express your feelings on paper or in a card. Don't miss the one simple tip to start your letter that ...
153: CHEERING FOR THE HOME TEAM
January 22, 2013 08:01 - 42 minutesProfessional football is coming to a close with only one game left, the Super Bowl. The tryouts, practices, scrimmages, and the start of the season started long ago. The players began preparing themselves as well as the cheerleaders many months ago. It's the players on the field playing for that Super Bowl ring, but the cheerleaders on the sideline play an important roll on the field as well. Today we talk about the cheerleaders in your life and in your marriage. You need a cheerleader and yo...
152: RUB-A-DUB THERE’S A COUPLE IN THE TUB
January 15, 2013 08:01 - 35 minutesTaking time away and enjoying a sensual shower or bath can do wonders for your marriage. It's a time where you and your spouse are showing everything to one another and yet it brings you closer together. This time in the shower or bath can enhance your emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy in ways other places can't. This week we share 9 reasons why you should be taking a shower/bath with your spouse on a regular basis. Relieves Stress It's Romantic Your Spouse Can Scrub Your Back Have Fun...
151: SLIPPERY SLOPE
January 08, 2013 08:01 - 43 minutesIt started out innocently. The conversation was fun, the walks were refreshing, you were losing weight together, and you were connecting. It wasn't that you were physically attracted and yet you became emotionally attached. Without you realizing it you are now in an emotional affair. This week we share a listeners experience with an emotional affair. She goes in depth on how it started, it's progression, and how it came to an end. As the emotional affair ended, but the ripples affected her ma...
150: READY, SET, GO!
January 01, 2013 08:01 - 44 minutesWhether you are kicking off the New Year or looking to set goals that will impact your marriage you need to get Ready, Set, Go! Making time for the two of you to be on the same page and what you'd like to accomplish is the first step toward an extraordinary marriage. The two of you may want to connect emotionally, spiritually, sexually or this may be the year you tackle your finances together. What ever you choose to do being on the same page and having your goals written down will help you s...
149: UNWRAPPING EACH OTHER
December 24, 2012 08:01 - 31 minutesThe excitement of Christmas or vacation can have an impact on when and if you are able to make love. Being somewhere other than your house, kids, relatives, friends, and the like make having sex on these occasions a little tougher. It doesn't mean you can make it happen though. Have you ever wanted to make love on Christmas or steal away for some alone time on vacation? You have the best intentions of finding the time to rendezvous and yet you don't plan to make it happen. Before you know it ...
148: FROM MOURNING TO JOY
December 18, 2012 08:01 - 41 minutesThe events that unfolded at Sandy Hook Elementary School rocked us as we heard about what happened. We sat in our chairs after we recorded this podcast as tears filled our eyes. How is it that this week we would be talking about grief during the holidays and this tragic event happens? We do not know why, but we serve an awesome God. Our prayers go to the families and marriages that have been impacted by loss. We look back over eight years as we celebrate the short life of our son Andrew. He ...
147: THEN AND NOW
December 11, 2012 08:01 - 40 minutesWhat was marriage like before we did our 60 Days of Sex Challenge? This was a question we were asked from a listener who is going through a tough time right now. When you are in the depths of those valleys it is sometimes hard to see what's ahead. Your ability to look down the path and see what's ahead is squelched. We know where you are! We've been there before. This week we go back 5+ years to share with you where we were before we started that fateful challenged that changed us and our mar...
146: MY MARRIAGE IS GREAT BUT…
December 04, 2012 08:01 - 42 minutesYour brain can and does impact your marriage. Those negative thoughts and positive thoughts that play in your mind will determine the outcome of how you react to your spouse. These thoughts play like a broken record and can stop you from taking action to better your marriage. The power of your words come after the but. My Marriage is Great But... When you use a BUT in your sentence you only focus on what comes after the BUT. This could be a positive or negative statement-unfortunately it's m...
145: MAKE TIME FOR A SEXY MARRIAGE
November 27, 2012 08:01 - 51 minutesYour year is about to get even crazier. Thanksgiving started the season of busy for you and your spouse and it will not end until after Christmas if you are lucky. This is the time of year when you can feel completely overwhelmed! The obligations of the holidays on top of the busyness of your regular life has you grasping for some quality time with your spouse. Finding time for you and your spouse to connect leads to frustration on both of your parts and snippiness factor rises. Like you we h...
144: I’M THANKFUL FOR…
November 20, 2012 08:01 - 56 minutesThe key to thriving in your marriage each and every year is to take time to share what you are thankful for in your marriage. This is a time when the busyness of every day life is put aside so that you can honor your spouse. Grab a piece of paper, write down 5-10 reasons why you are thankful for your marriage, and then sit down with your spouse and share. This week we go over our "I'm Thankful For..." list with each other and you. During this time we listen, acknowledge, and respond to what ...
143: ARE YOU LIVING A LIE
November 13, 2012 08:01 - 48 minutesYou're hiding something from your spouse and it is weighing you down. Maybe you have an addiction that your spouse doesn't know about. Perhaps you've spent more money than you shouldn't have and you haven't told them. Has that lunch partner become something more? Living with these burdens can stop you and your spouse from connecting emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. You are constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if someone might let the secret out. You know you need...
142: BLENDED FAMILIES
November 06, 2012 08:01 - 49 minutesIt can be tough to bring two families together and blend them into one family. Between exes, kids, alimony, child support, and ex-in laws it can be a real challenge for the two of you to find time to make intimacy a priority in your marriage. It is time to fight for your marriage and your blended family. Communication is the key to making this marriage work. Take off your masks, place all of your baggage on the table and decide that the two of you are committed to making this marriage work. I...
141: FLIRTING YOUR WAY BACK
October 30, 2012 07:01 - 46 minutesYou may have come to a point in your marriage where sexual intimacy isn't happening any longer. The thought of you and your spouse having sex brings up anxiety in you. This in turn is stopping the both of you from moving forward and having the sexual intimacy you desire. This week we answer in detail how you can get the sexual intimacy back in your marriage. It's simple and something the two of you have done many times before. The thing is that you may not be giving this as much attention as ...
140: SCHEDULING SEX
October 23, 2012 07:01 - 49 minutesSometimes it seems like life is just too busy. You are running around here, there, and everywhere. The thing is that you sense a distance from your spouse and you need to connect. You need to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. It's time to get radical in your marriage and make a change! This week we share all about the Intimacy Lifestyle. That's right, scheduling sex so you can connect in all areas of your marriage. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That...
139: POSITION IT THIS WAY
October 16, 2012 07:01 - 42 minutesTrying different positions while making love is something that we struggled with early on in our marriage. Since we learned little about the birds and the bees it is no wonder we had a difficult time when it came to different positions. Have you experienced a wall when it comes to trying new positions in your bed? We totally get it! In this episode we talk about the fears each of us face when it came to trying something new. Over the years we have experimented more and we've found our go to p...
138: WIND BENEATH MY WINGS
October 09, 2012 10:00 - 44 minutesI sat in a conference room this weekend for Allison Maslan's Blast Off! Business Breakthrough. It started on my anniversary and I will have to say I was excited to be there. This was mine and Tony's way of celebrating. I know it's kinda weird, but heck we aren't normal anyway. Many of the attendees there thought we were a bit weird once they learned about the awesome ONE Community! Over the weekend Tony took the opportunity to put his money where his mouth is and showed me just how much he be...
137: LOVE DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE
October 02, 2012 10:00 - 44 minutesLove is active and love impacts the world in very big ways. When you first meet your spouse love was active and running rampant in you. Love was active, making you do things that made an impact. This week we had the opportunity to experience Bob Goff, author of Love Does, share how he does love around the world. Bob is charismatic, animated, and in love with doing to make an impact in this world. Love is something you need to be doing in your marriage as well as your community at large. Love ...
136: AUTHENTICALLY YOU
September 25, 2012 10:00 - 36 minutesLive from the inside out for lasting satisfaction in your life and marriage starts with you being authentic with yourself. This authenticity is the DNA that God has placed inside of you that makes your heart sing when you are YOU! You are an amazing creation that has the ability to be the same person no matter if you are at work, at church, with a group of friends, or in your bedroom with your spouse. Coming to realize who that person is across all of these groups is the tough part. Take time...
135: THE POWER OF TOUCH
September 18, 2012 10:00 - 42 minutesIn your marriage the power of touch, non-sexual and sexual, are vitally important to your well being. Did you know that touch can ease your pains, lessen anxiety in your marriage, soften the blows of life that come your way, generate hope and has the power to heal you? Your hand upon your spouse can also slow their heart rate, give them a feeling of relaxation and the spiritual connection is long lasting. When words can't say everything you hope for touching your spouse can speak volumes. In ...
134: ROLE REVERSAL
September 11, 2012 10:00 - 44 minutesSexual rejection is tough on the spouse who is initiating sex. In our society the focus has been that of the husband getting rejected when initiating sex. Unfortunately, it's becoming more common for the husband to reject his wife. Long hours at work, gaming late into the night, pornography, emotional affairs, and other distractions are contributing to this behavior. In this show we look at the role reversal of when a wife initiates sex and continuously gets rejected. The impact this has on a...
133: STATE OF THIS MARRIAGE
September 04, 2012 10:00 - 48 minutesThis week Tony and Alisa catch you up on all of the exciting developments that are being worked on at ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Over the last year the growth of listeners and readers has been amazing. All of your input via email, voice mail, or commenting on Facebook or Twitter have had us discussing how we can impact you and more marriage now and into the future. We need your help and prayers as we continue on this journey. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Live Ev...
132: BEING BRAVE
August 28, 2012 10:00 - 45 minutesFacing those skeletons in your closet can be hard. This week Tony shares about getting his girlfriend pregnant in college and then paying for the abortion. This event still impacts him 21 years later. Bringing up the skeletons in you past might not be worth the anguish to you. Fear, anxiety, and judgement stop you from letting go and releasing the skeletons. Instead you are held hostage, afraid to become the spouse you desire. You probably hear those voices telling you that you can't bring up...
131: BIRDS AND THE BEES
August 21, 2012 10:00 - 45 minutesIs sex a stigma in your marriage? Has the past held you back from completely enjoying the amazing bond you could be having with your spouse? Sex ed or learning about the birds and the bees are an integral part of how you view sex in your marriage. Parents or other respected individuals may not have talked to you about sex, told you it was bad, or mentioned very little that didn't help you prepare for sex in marriage. You may have even been called names or had labels put on you because you loo...
130: JESUS IN MY BEDROOM
August 14, 2012 10:00 - 41 minutesThe lights are dim in your bedroom and in the corner there is a blue chair. Jesus is sitting there. He is omnipresent in your life and right now he is waiting for you to allow Him into your sex life. Unfortunately, the reality is that you are to quick to compartmentalize Him out of your bedroom. You want to control this area as the thought of Him being there is a bit weird. Instead of developing a reliance on God to help flourish your marriage you are trying to control all aspects of it. You ...
129: A NEW NORMAL
August 07, 2012 10:00 - 46 minutesIllness, sickness, injuries, and other long term ailments can change the dynamics of your marriage. When this happens you have to adjust to having "A New Normal." In this episode we share how you have to re-learn all of your intimacies in light of changed circumstances. In your marriage that may mean figuring out new ways to be physically intimate, exploring different types of recreational intimacy or a renewed focus on spiritual intimacy. Look at these life changes as opportunities for growt...
128: PLAYING ON THE SAME TEAM
July 31, 2012 10:00 - 43 minutesThe wedding bells ring, you say your "I do's", and the honeymoon is bliss. You're married, the two of you have become ONE and yet you're not on the same TEAM. Shortly after that blissful day you find yourselves on opposite sides working against each other. You didn't expect this to happen in your marriage, yet it has. In this episode, we introduce you to another way to focus on your TEAM. Looking at each of these will enable you to tackle issues in your marriage with a plan. T - Talk: He said...
127: ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE
July 24, 2012 10:00 - 43 minutesThis past week we received an email from a listener asking why her husband won't come right out and ask for sex. There is cuddling, kissing, and yet he won't come out and ask for sex. Join Tony and Alisa as they talk about the fear of rejection, the different love languages in marriage and why it's so important to have conversations about sex before they grow into something larger. The 5 Love Languages (affiliate link via Amazon) Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-56...
126: LAUGHTER FOR THE SOUL
July 17, 2012 10:00 - 41 minutesAs you sit in your living room laughing from the depth of your belly, tears rolling down your face, the world is left behind and all you see is your spouse smiling and laughing too. Both of you enjoying a moment that has pushed aside the emergencies of the day and allowed the two of you to enjoy one another. Laughter is beneficial in many ways. In your marriage laughter allows for you to let loose and have fun. Your endorphines, your body's natural feel good chemicals, are released and you ne...
125: FANTASIZE WITH ME
July 10, 2012 10:00 - 40 minutesIt's natural to fantasize, but are you fantasizing about your spouse or someone else? Fantasies can be a great way to spice things up in your marriage by changing things up. The opposite side is that they can also tear down the foundations of your marriage. In this episode we share the bad and good of fantasies in our marriage and how you can have mind blowing sex when you approach fantasies the right way. Do you and your spouse have fantasies that you play out in your marriage? 4 E's to Live...
124: JOINT OR SEPARATE CHECKING ACCOUNTS
July 03, 2012 10:00 - 44 minutesWhat kind of checking account do you have? The truth is that finances are always going to be a part of your marriage and how you come to handle money will color many aspects of your married years. Each of us comes into marriage with financial baggage. Learning how to join that financial history together is one challenge that ALL married couples face. For us, the decision to have a joint account was indicative of our decision to be unified in all aspects of our marriage. For other, having sepa...
123: THE BATTLEFIELD
June 19, 2012 10:00 - 43 minutesMen it's time! It's time to show your wife how much you honor and cherish her. In this world where battles are raging against marriage every minute of the day your wife needs to know that the two of you are on the battle field together. She needs to know that there is nothing that you wouldn't do for her. Make a decision that after God she is next on your list of priorities. Do it today! Ephesians 6:10-18 Stripped Down Small Group Podcast Series Are you on the battlefield with your spouse? Le...
122: SAY ONE THING DO ANOTHER
June 12, 2012 10:00 - 40 minutesMany of us don't like confrontation. To avoid a confrontation we'll us different strategies. One of the most damaging is by saying one thing to our spouses with the full intention of doing something else. Instead of being honest with our spouse, we sabotage our marriage with these deceptions. This behavior requires us to expend so much more energy in trying to keep up pretenses then if we had just said the truth in the first place. It's time to draw that line in the sand and decide whether or...
121: RESILIENCE
June 05, 2012 10:00 - 40 minutesThis week's podcast comes from our son and little league baseball. We're sure that many of you can relate to kids and their athletic endevours. Early in the season, his first season playing baseball, things were not going so well. He wanted to quit just like many of us want to do at times in our marriage. We asked his coach to talk to him about the problems he was facing on the ball field. His attitude changed, his playing changed and he was having a blast. Even though his game improved and t...
120: OH THE PLACES YOU’LL GO
May 29, 2012 10:00 - 31 minutesSummer is here and it's time to add some adventure into your physical intimacy. This is a lighthearted look at many different places that you can have sex. Get out of your "comfort zone" and have some fun this summer. What places have you or would you like to make love? Share with us below. The Adoption Key Emergency Kit (video) 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment...
119: WHY CAN’T WE HAVE A BABY?
May 22, 2012 10:00 - 49 minutesThis weeks podcast is about finding your way back to intimacy after struggling for years with infertility. We share ideas that we have learned from friends of ours who have found intimacy in their marriage after years of struggling with infertility. When we started this episode our main goal is to give a voice to all of you who have struggled with infertility. The ONE community needs for you to share how you overcame your struggles with infertility. Speak up in the comments below. I Am Second...
118: GREAT EXPECTATIONS
May 15, 2012 10:00 - 41 minutesGreat expectations... All of us have them. The way we want things done, the way we want those in our life to do what we want and yet, it doesn't always turn out the way we want. What do we do then? Sometimes we lash out, sometimes we shut down, but really there has got to be a better way. What would it look like if you changed the way you communicated with your spouse? What would happen if you expressed your expectations? Big Question to Ask: What is it about our marriage that is important t...