Ep2 - When things don't go your way - failure vs lesson

Ep2 -  When things don't go your way - failure vs lesson

Episode Transcribed:

[00:00:00] Okay. And welcome back to another episode of, uh, moments of wisdom with Brett Williams. So appreciate you for tuning in this is obviously episode number two. Uh, hopefully you've checked out episode number one. Now, what is today going to be all about? Well, look, the reality is I've just gone out and bought a pop filter and I've just gone in a, you know, leveled up some of my audio systems.

[00:00:21] So I wanted to have an excuse to get in here and record a. Episode for yourself. Now, the focus with this episode is going to be in and around resilience. I want to talk about when things don't go your way and multiple times in my life, they have definitely not gone my way in really transforming the idea of what is a failure and what is a lesson.

[00:00:41] And because, you know, let's be honest. You hear so many different, you know, motivational quotes and different people talking right about, you know, you're not, you never fail. You're always learning. And I can admit that there are definitely times in my life that has been a really struggle to, uh, to actually.

[00:01:00] [00:01:00] Believe or to even comprehend or anything along those lines, because there are definitely times in life. And I'm sure you probably could agree with me here, that there are times that you feel like you're an absolute failure. And, and I know going back, uh, many, many years of just questioning myself, you know, where am I going in life?

[00:01:18] Where am I here? What am I doing? And yeah, I know for me, just really unsure as to what's going on. So yeah. You know, definitely something that I've really started to embrace when I started the entrepreneurial journey was the idea of embracing failure and really just looking at it from the point. Okay. So where am I at now?

[00:01:35] What is my factual situation? What is here in front of me? What am I I'm working with? What am I dealing with? And yeah, what are the next steps that I need to take? And so when it comes to embracing failure as such or the lesson and the learning. I think the biggest thing there is to really understand that you're not a victim to the circumstances.

[00:01:53] And, and if you constantly sit in this space of being a victim about what's going on in your life and, [00:02:00] um, Just being at the effect and allowing the situation to control you. And that is where you're going to feel like you're a failure. And that is where you're going to start to create the identity of somebody who is a failure.

[00:02:10] And ultimately the identity of somebody who is a failure does show up in your posture. It shows up in the results that you've got in life, because you'll find the evidence around you that, uh, validates this belief that you are a failure and. You know, that would be areas of like maybe losing your job maybe with what's going on in the world right now with the whole, uh, Corona thing is, you know, maybe more validation as to why you believe that you're a failure.

[00:02:36] And so in those moments, when you're. Constantly fixated on the situation, having the power over you, then your, exactly that you've given your power away to the situation. And so the biggest and the starting point for yourself is I was going to say the biggest lesson and the starting point is to really just start to.

[00:02:56] I acknowledge where you're currently at, and this is [00:03:00] something that was a challenge for myself back in the day. And these days now, you know, even, even this morning, I was having a bit of a pity the party, but I was allowing myself to do it because I was consciously choosing and allowing myself to feel of the emotions of frustration that were going on for me as I was attending to set up this podcast and not this episode, but more of a case of linking it to all of the stations and getting that first episode up.

[00:03:23] Things to me that seems like it should be just simple and easily just weren't. And I was allowing myself to have that moment and accepting that, you know, right now my efforts here, I feel like this just sucks. And if I had have chosen to do take on the viewpoint of being a failure, well, in that moment, I would have given up.

[00:03:42] And so that's where you do become a failure in the sense of you give up because you allow the situation in them, circumstances around you to really just completely transform your life from a perspective of you, give your power to it. And then also you basically surrender to it, [00:04:00] but not in. A surrendering to allow it to play out the way that you know, it's going to play out, because let's be honest, there's things in this life, in this world that we cannot control, even though we may try and control absolutely everything, but more a case of surrendering it to it's in the sense of going well, you, you you've beaten me.

[00:04:18] And now I'm just going to crawl under this rock and that's where I'm going to be for the next, however long it is. And so when you're really able to acknowledge where it is and just go, okay, so right now, this sucks and there's not much that I can do about this. All I can do is just keep chipping away from different angles, trying something else.

[00:04:39] And seeing if that works. Okay. That didn't work. Okay. What else can I try it? Okay. Let me try from this angle and let me see how, if I can make this work. And eventually, you know, this morning, 10 minutes later, or 15 minutes later, I I've got my podcasts currently being uploaded to the usuals, Apple podcast and Spotify, and a few of the others.

[00:04:57] So I'm looking forward to the launch of this actual [00:05:00] podcast show very, very shortly, but yet. The thing that many, uh, people tend to do. And I used to do this, uh, is trying the same thing over and over again and trying, what is it, Albert Einstein's favorite quote is or famous quote being, um, Oh, gosh, it's gone straight out of my head.

[00:05:21] Um, the one of, um, stupidity is the idea of trying something, trying the same thing and expecting another result or something to that effect. And maybe right now you're sitting there going Brett. I've already told it, like, I know which one you're talking about. And so really just being able to go, okay, I embrace the fact that right now, whatever I did just then didn't work and.

[00:05:42] Sometimes I'll do the exact same thing again, just to make sure that I like to confirm myself, but that's a bit of my OCD quirks that are playing up in there and all of that side of things. So I allow, and I embrace those parts, but then once, you know, okay, so this doesn't work. Cool. What is something that you can change within that, [00:06:00] within your control that will allow you to be able to try a different angle?

[00:06:04] And so through that is really the way that I have built my business. It's the way that I have created the financial stability for myself. Independent of working a nine to five or anything like that, and started to create my own businesses. You know, two years ago I left my job. I did go to and move to Bali for 18 months, nearly two years.

[00:06:25] And of course I'm back in Perth right now with everything that was going on in the world. I thought this was a better place to be just for the moment. And I cannot wait to get back over into Bali, but really just being able to trust you your own intuition, which is a topic for another day. Um, but.

[00:06:40] Ultimately being resilient from the sense of embracing the situation that is in front of you, right there, embracing the things that you can not necessarily control, but. Just trying a different angle for those things that you can control. And so what is an area in your life that maybe hasn't been working out for you right now?

[00:06:59] Like, I'll use [00:07:00] an example, a great example right now. It could be, if you're found yourself unemployed as a result of everything that is going on in this world. And so, you know, you could quite easily play a victim role and you could say, you know what, the, the world hates me and all of that side of things.

[00:07:14] But what I can promise you is there is a reality on the other side of that viewpoint, where you're thriving, because I went into this exact same situation as you did. And I set out the intention that through this Corona virus, I'm going to absolutely thrive. I'm going. Focus on absolutely everything from a business perspective.

[00:07:34] And I'm going to make sure that I thrive and come out of this a lot stronger than I've gone into it. And that's exactly the results that I'm having showing up. Now. I've been working a lot. I've been focusing a lot, but I've also had the experience over the last couple of years of this journey. And I've gathered and built, um, knowledge and understanding of how to be able to market, how to be able to create programs, how to be able to do a lot of these online [00:08:00] business skills.

[00:08:00] And so, yes, there is a part of me that has a little bit of an advantage over yourself. Perhaps if you're somebody who has been working a nine to five for the last number of years, and ultimately now just finding yourself out of a job, I get it. I totally understand. I was there in 2012, when I lost my job in the economic downturn and it left me feeling lost.

[00:08:21] It left me feeling confused and all of that side of things. And so a bit of a side note through one of my brands through RP marketing in the coming weeks of this probably starting in. The first week of August, I will be starting a, a seven week program, which is called the Bulletproof life. And through that hour, walk you through, uh, how to be able to actually start your online business, start your like, find out what determine for yourself what your niche is, what your.

[00:08:48] What your product is, what your brand is and all of that side of things, and be able to set it up art from the point of going from making nothing to making first dollars online. And so that's something that I'm also looking at and I'm going to be setting up [00:09:00] a beta group for that in yeah. Of. So if you're listening to this before the start of August, reach out to me, if that's is something that you'd be interested in in being part of that beta group and ultimately getting a massive, massive discount off that program and getting a lot of support through it and that side of things, and really transforming a life.

[00:09:16] And in that moment, You know, if we're talking about somebody who has just lost their job, when it comes to everything that is going on in this world. Well, then there are plenty of opportunities out there for yourself to start to make money. Now, what that's going to take from your perspective is to actually believe it's possible.

[00:09:34] And the thing with humans is we tend not to believe something until it's actually. You know, physically showing up in our own worlds. And so what do, what I've had to do over the years in very many, many areas of my own life and business journey is to actually build, you know, visualize it in your own mind before you actually see it coming to fruition.

[00:09:55] And so as you started that, you'll start to see that things are [00:10:00] possible. And ultimately, one of the things that I also say too, Many of my coaching clients that maybe they've gone through a relationship separation. And now they're a single parent. One of the things that I always say is just because you can't see the evidence of how a single parent can be successful in your own life, because you're currently going through this for yourself, have a look into somebody else's life.

[00:10:20] Like is it possible for a single parent to still be extremely successful in this world? And as soon as they find somebody that they are inspired by and notice that they too are a single parent. All of a sudden their reality and paradigm absolutely breaks and shifts to the perspective of, Oh wow. It's possible for me too.

[00:10:37] And so I sit on this side of the fence and say, if it's possible, for me, it's possible for you. All you have to do is challenge your own belief system that says it's not possible, and you have to trust that it is possible and it's going to be possible if you focus on it and you dedicate your life to it.

[00:10:52] And so, um, That is where it comes down to from the perspective of resilience and their perspective of, [00:11:00] um, you know, you're not Le not, not failing rather than learning. And so, yeah. Being able to understand and accept and embrace what it is, it's the situation that's showing up in your life. And then.

[00:11:11] Asking yourself, what is the one next step that I can take right now that is going to move me in the direction of something that I actually want. And in every single moment, if you take those little steps and constantly take those little steps, you'll look back over a period of time, whether it's a couple of weeks or whether it's a couple of months or heck, even if it's a couple of years and you'll realize just how far you've come and how much you've grown, and you'll be massively grateful for yourself for that.

[00:11:37] And so I just want to invite you all. So look into your life because we all have these lessons, like we're all to some degree holding ourselves back from the next level. And so what is possible for you? Why are you at right now? Where do you want to be and how you going to make that possible for yourself?

[00:11:56] And it all starts in your mind. First, it all starts to believing it and [00:12:00] trusting in yourself in every single moment. And. Taking the action steps towards it to make it possible. And so with that, I invite you to have a look into your own life and see an area that your desiring to shift and change, and really start to create a bit more of an action plan as to how you can actually create something different.

[00:12:18] That being said, I really appreciate you for tuning in. And leave me a comment down below. Let me know what you got out of this video. Let me know the area of life, that the challenges that have been coming up for yourself as to what you've believed in the past to be that you're a loser in. And rather now, actually starting to see that it was more of a case of a lesson and the learning curve.

[00:12:38] Let me know in the comments below. Really appreciate you for tuning in, and I will speak to you soon.