In this episode of Men Talking Mindfulness, we discuss the often misunderstood world of women's sexual struggles with author Courtney Boyer. Her groundbreaking book, "Not Tonight, Honey: Why Women Actually Don't Want Sex and What We Can Do About It," sheds light on a topic that's both sensitive and significant. Join us as Courtney delves into the reasons behind women's sexual challenges, dismantling the myth of being 'broken' or 'unfulfilled'.

As men, understanding this perspective is not just about supporting the women in our lives; it's also about gaining insights into the complex dynamics of desire and intimacy. Courtney's book is not just a read for women – it's a crucial exploration for men too. We'll discuss the impactful stories shared in her book, reflecting on how they resonate with many women's experiences.

More than just identifying problems, Courtney offers practical solutions and tools. From establishing a pleasure practice to engaging in open conversations about sex and pleasure with partners and even children, her strategies aim to enhance sexual satisfaction and empower individuals in their intimate lives.

This episode is a journey towards empathy, understanding, and positive change. Whether you're looking to improve your relationship, support your partner, or simply broaden your understanding of women's sexuality, this discussion with Courtney Boyer is an essential listen for anyone committed to fostering healthier, more fulfilling sexual relationships. Join us as we uncover the path to a more satisfying sex life, guided by insight, compassion, and the courage to seek what we truly desire in and outside the bedroom.

Get a hold of Courtney here:
https://www.courtneyboyercoaching.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/courtneyboyercoaching/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtneyboyercoaching/

Here's her book: https://www.courtneyboyercoaching.com/the-book

Time Stamps:
(00:00:33) Pleasure and finding joy.
(00:06:23) Not tonight, honey.
(00:09:36) Self-consciousness around reading material.
(00:14:08) The broader impact of sex.
(00:19:13) Society's definition of beauty.
(00:23:20) Embodiment and sexual experiences.
(00:28:49) The impact of trauma on chakras.
(00:32:13) The three big lies about women.
(00:35:25) Resentment in relationships.
(00:42:34) Communicating purity within the church.
(00:44:42) Body, sexuality, and religious beliefs.
(00:51:26) Men's accountability in relationships.
(00:55:07) Men's struggle to communicate.
(01:01:53) Self-love and sexual shame.
(01:04:04) Mirror exercises and self-love.
(01:09:13) Trauma and the IFS
(01:12:00) Problems and solutions around sex.

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