359 - "I think I can."
Mama's Daily Dose
English - October 20, 2022 08:00 - 5 minutes - 3.51 MB - ★★★★★ - 14 ratingsParenting Kids & Family Society & Culture Relationships Homepage Download Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
Have you every wondered why some people try harder than others?
There was a study to see if preschoolers had internal vs external control of behavior. Meaning they believed they were in control of their behavior or an outside source was.
They were asked questions like:
“When you draw a whole picture without breaking your crayon, is that because you were careful? Or because it was a good crayon?”
“When somebody brings you a present, is that because you are a good girl (boy)? Or because they like to give people presents?
They found even preschooler’s belief that they could control outcomes of their own behavior significantly linked to how hard they tried, how long they persisted and how successful they were at self-control. The more they saw themselves as the cause of positive outcomes, the more likely they were to delay gratification as shown through the Marshmallow test.
Listen to how you speak. Notice when you and your kids say "I can't." Change "I can't" into "I don't know how to...yet!"
If you you think you can't then you can't. If you think you can you can be just like The Little Engine That Could.
If you don't know how to do something...yet, you can figure it out.
If you believe you CAN...then you can! You will continue to try and figure sh*t out when you believe you can accomplish it.