Make Your Damn Bed
352 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 192 ratings@MYDBpodcast is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life.
Each season is 66 days long to encourage long term healthy habit integration into your daily life.
Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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Day 256 || Toxicity
October 27, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.71 MBIf you don’t choose to uproot your own toxicity once in a while you will get sick. You will keep that toxicity inside which means it will eat you alive. Even if you don’t know it’s growing. Because if you ignore how bad your behavior can make you feel. And make others feel. You will never want to fix that behavior and it will continue to make you and others feel bad. Be willing to uproot your toxicity so you can become less toxic. Don’t be afraid of the fact that you have made mistakes that ...
Day 255 || Ignorance is Judgemental
October 26, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 7.6 MBWe’ve all made snap judgments and it takes a long time to unlearn a lifetime of habit - especially one as natural as this - but trust me when I say, your preconceived notions about people are typically incorrect, and it may be a good idea to avoid making those judgments altogether. We all cast judgements without knowing any better, but it’s our responsibility to learn so we can know better, and when we know better we do better. When we do better, the world gets better. When the world gets be...
Day 254 || Clarity is Key
October 25, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 7.5 MBGenuine connection only comes from our ability to fully connect with our own desires and needs. We do this by getting clear before trying to communicate with others and then getting clear on how we choose to communicate with others. I have said this many times before: The temporary discomfort of openly communicating will save years of discomfort in the future. So be brave, be vulnerable, and be honest. If everything falls apart because of it, that shit wasn’t stable to begin with. Support ...
Day 253 || Intellectually Avoidant
October 24, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.58 MBYou are a person, not a test subject. Life is a journey not some race to enlightenment. You are welcome to just be. Stop using intellectualism to avoid feeling your feelings. Stop overanalyzing to avoid your emotions. And have the grace to do the same for your loved ones. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 252 || Support Can Be Uncomfortable
October 23, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.54 MBMy parents made a lot of rules that didn’t feel like support at the time, that I absolutely consider supportive now. Support from my bra is uncomfortable but essential in some situations. Support looks and feels differently at different times - and that can be the angle you take with the people you love too. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 251 || Odd Person on the Sidewalk
October 22, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.54 MBThe amount of attention you’re receiving or not receiving is not a reflection of your character. Life is a dance. We are moving all over the place and going around and around but not actually going anywhere notable in distance, because the where we start and where we end is not the point of dancing. The point of dancing is in the art itself. Sometimes we will lead and sometimes we will follow, but the dance is meant to be enjoyed and nothing else. Support this show http://supporter.acast.c...
Day 250 || Dream Job(s)
October 21, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.56 MBIf you have an idea for what you would you like to achieve in the future, take steps towards that. But if you aren’t sure - try everything until you figure out what you don’t want, then go from there. Don’t let anyone rush you. You’ve got the rest of your life to figure it out. Until then, find something that best works for you right now, where you are today. Not where you’d like to be in five years. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privac...
Day 249 || Life Motto
October 20, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.85 MBFocus in on what your life means to you, allow that meaning to change with you over time, and never allow anyone else’s interpretation of that meaning affect you. It’s really not your business how they interpret it. Plus, your interpretation is probably going to change at some point anyway. So what difference does it make? You don’t need to understand the ins and outs to enjoy the ride. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy an...
Day 248 || Outgrow Yourself
October 19, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.94 MBI realize now, if you’re doing it right, life is just a series of outgrowing yourself. Those choices, behaviors, routines, friends, experiences, and priorities that you used to make time for, out of necessity or desire or fear or boredom, at some point, just don’t appeal to you anymore. And you should be so fucking happy for that. When you begin to outgrow yourself, whether consciously or not, you will naturally outgrow some of the people around you. There will be people who don’t understa...
Day 247 || Past Self Mosaic
October 18, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.9 MBThe world hardened me through experiences, and time and time again I would work to soften myself back up. Eventually, I established a ratio of softness and armor, of love and fear, of precaution and fearlessness. It’s not always foolproof. I am a mosaic of my past selves, and you are too. What does your mosaic look like? Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 246 || Natural Beauty
October 17, 2021 05:01 - 4 minutes - 6.55 MBI am starting to believe they want us all to turn into robots. Last time I checked robots we’re free of cellulite, body hair, farts, and emotions. But robots also don’t get to experience. They don’t get to create. They don’t get to love, or to feel, or to feel peace in a body that they’ve been taught to hate. Being a human being is fucking beautiful. What we have been taught as imperfections - are quite literally the most natural things in the world. Even if you have the only human body th...
Day 245 || Beliefs Become Reality
October 16, 2021 05:01 - 6 minutes - 5.12 MBA repeated thought becomes a belief. A belief becomes a feeling. Those feelings and beliefs create your reality. The insecurities that we have about ourselves become a self fulfilling prophecy as they do end up working against us to validate your truth. When you notice people treating you in a way and you feel hesitant or want to justify their behavior or whatever it may be stopping yourself and saying actually what if they do care what if I am worthy of love what if what if in a positiv...
Day 244 || Over Sharer
October 15, 2021 05:01 - 6 minutes - 9.93 MBIt’s good to be aware of when we’re talking just to talk or if we’re talking out of a place of insecurity or if we’re talking because we really believe it will foster a sense of connection. None of those reasons are inherently bad but we also need to recognize that we really don’t have to work so hard. Sometimes a simple no thank you is plenty of explanation. Sometimes a deep dive into your why isn’t warranted, expected, or appreciated. You are allowed to be a mystery to people without havin...
Day 243 || Ask More Questions
October 14, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 9.06 MBUnfortunately, we can’t have everyone we love be with us all the time forever, but we can ensure their legacies live on through our preservation of their memories. Ask questions, study the people you love, and let yourself enjoy the time you do have, with them. I doubt you will regret knowing too much about someone you love, so don’t be afraid to ask. You never know what magic you may uncover! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for pr...
Day 242 || Closure Part II
October 13, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.93 MBI really don’t think there is such thing as closure unless you’re actually ready to close the door yourself. And some doors may never close fully, and thats okay too. Just make sure you’re not reopening them for selfish reasons when you do. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 241 || Closure
October 12, 2021 05:01 - 6 minutes - 10.5 MBClosure does not really exist, at least how we’ve been taught. It’s more of an internal process than an external one. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 240 || Rest Days Part II
October 11, 2021 05:01 - 6 minutes - 9.86 MBA lot of us are working very hard on our lives, on ourselves, and on our development. We don’t even realize how quickly we are growing and changing because from our perspective, it may seem slow and tedious. Growing pains are no joke and if you don’t allow yourself time to adjust to these changes, your body may insist upon it. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 239 || Rest Days
October 10, 2021 05:01 - 6 minutes - 9.45 MBI encourage you to try to respect the fact that our bodies know what is best sometimes better than we do. Because I personally know that my inability to slow down by my own volition makes it difficult for me to respect my body when it is requesting a break, kindly. So on the days it feels like it is forcing me to stay in bed - instead of getting depressed and down on myself and having a pity party for not being able to function like everybody else - I listen. Support this show http://suppor...
Day 238 || Comments are Forever
October 09, 2021 05:01 - 6 minutes - 10.4 MBWe cant control anyone else - thank god - but we can have an impact. Wouldn’t you rather impact people to believe in the things they enjoy rather than to feel shame around them? Let people be weirdos - and embrace that shit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 237 || Good Taste Bad Art
October 08, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.06 MBObjectively speaking, you’re an artist if you make art. even if it’s not up to your standards. If you paint, you are a painter, objectively, regardless of if the painting is bad. I am sure we have all been to museums with famous pieces that not only didn’t move us, but they kinda sucked. But would you not call Jackson Pollack an artist just because he got famous for a simple style of throwing paint onto a canvas? If you don’t know Jackson Pollack - he got super famous for the splatter type p...
Day 236 || Helper's High
October 07, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 7.96 MBThe perk of being selfless, is it’s never fully selfless. You will feel good, the more you do good and the more you see good. And the more we feel the immediate rewards of doing and seeing good, the more likely we are to do and be good in the future. Keep promoting by simply doing, and reap the benefits of the dopamine hits that come from such kind gestures. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 235 || Bucket List Challenge
October 06, 2021 05:01 - 5 minutes - 8.87 MBIf you’re feeling stagnant or bored and don’t know what to do to get out of your rut - and want an activity to feel less directionless? Try writing down all of the things you’ve ever wanted to accomplish on flashcards or popsicle sticks or slips of paper or in the randomizer app. Then, when you’re feeling a bit restless, you can pull one of the things and focus your attention towards that accomplishment for the next few days. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed....
Day 234 || Regret is a Good Thing
October 05, 2021 05:00 - 5 minutes - 7.63 MBYou can’t change the past - but you can learn from it. Don’t be afraid to sit in your regret for a moment, as long as you’re comfortable recognizing it as a signal of strength, too. You wouldn’t be the person you are today, unless you were bold enough to make the mistakes you made yesterday. Keep being brave enough to make mistakes and feel the regret you need to feel to know you’re becoming a better person every single day. It takes a brave person to admit when they fuck up. We all fuck up...
Day 233 || Cancel Culture
October 04, 2021 09:00 - 6 minutes - 9.37 MBGrowing and living life means you will sometimes make mistakes or bad choices. Making mistakes means you will sometimes have to deal with natural consequences of those mistakes choices. But when we are afraid of being PUNISHED on top of these consequences, we’re less likely to try anything new. When you focus on retribution - you’ll become inherently fearful of retribution. Instead, realize some people will never learn from the consequences of their actions, but punishing them for that is ...
Day 232 || Emotional Expectations
September 26, 2021 09:00 - 6 minutesRegardless of where you’re at shouldn’t be any extra shame when dealing with your emotional process. It’s hard enough as is and society really did us all dirty with this shit. So grieve. Be angry about it. And remember that anger and sadness (when released appropriately) are both healthy emotional reactions to fear. And the biggest threat to fear is love. So welcome any unwanted emotions with love and remember - you’re a human who is not only allowed but encouraged to feel the full spectrum ...
Day 231 || Who Am I?
September 25, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesAre you a person who acts mostly out of fear or acts mostly out of love? Do you show up to your day to day tasks because you feel like you have to and are afraid of the repercussions if you didn’t - or are you someone who shows up to your life because of love for yourself? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 230 || Unfamiliar Discomfort
September 24, 2021 09:00 - 6 minutesFamiliar will typically always be more comfortable than the unfamiliar. Even if that familiar is fairly unhealthy. Many people are miserable and comfortable. Many people can find comfort in sadness. There is no shame in it, because often, we’re so used to the sadness, anger, or shame that we don’t even realize there is another way. Push yourself to be uncomfortable when it means you may find more peace or joy in the future. Allow yourself to find comfort and ease in the good, and not just ...
Day 229 || Burning Bridges
September 23, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesYou’re allowed to take breaks - even from your partners - to reassess, come back, and refocus on what you need, expect, and desire in a relationship - and you can do so without burning bridges. IF you wait too long to address something, it can infect itself and cause bigger problems in the future. Why amputate if you could’ve just cleaned the scrape properly as soon as you noticed it? Try not to burn bridges that don’t need to be burnt. Communicate openly, with consideration for the other ...
Day 228 || Nuance is Complicated
September 22, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesI talk about the importance of recognizing nuance in everything all the time - but we still often fall back into black and white, all or nothing thinking patterns that can cause us more harm than good. Let yourself be intuitive and make decisions from a place that feels good instead of afraid. It can and often will be both. You will have reasons to stay and reasons to go. You will have reasons to quit and reasons to try. You’ll have reasons to start and reasons to procrastinate further....
Day 227 || Underutilizing Tools
September 21, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesI think we get inundated with the knowledge that information, tools, and assistance is limitless - and we don’t often know where to begin. Start with something that feels realistic to your now. What tool can you integrate into your routine today that will help you tomorrow. Remember that new habits and routines take lots of time to get used to - and feel good doing consistently - but you’re allowed to change and drop and fix and simplify and complicate whatever the fuck you want anytime yo...
Day 226 || Enjoy the Process
September 20, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesIt’s about doing what works for you - at a pace that feels good for you. It’s about finding your path to success in whatever that means to you. And since this is a new path for you - and you’re a unique individual - there is no right or wrong way through a forest - You just have to start clearing a path that makes sense to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy...
Day 225 || Be About the Action
September 19, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesGet in the Practice of making and keeping promises to yourself that make your life better in the long run - and not just the now. Start by setting an intention for the week. You may want to think about a goal you’ve had for a long time - or something you struggle with committing to - or maybe something more specific like writing a screenplay or something big like starting college or a mindful intention like getting healthy. Whatever it is, once you’ve chosen your overarching goal - You wi...
Day 224 || Are They Accountable?
September 18, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesIt’s important to allow yourself criticism but it's also just as important to expect other adults to bear constructive, fair, and essential criticism too. If they get defensive and angry - that isn’t necessarily a safe place for growth. If we all want to achieve better - we have to get comfortable taking, offering, and accepting that none of us are perfect. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See...
Day 223 || Looming To Do's
September 17, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesThere is nothing better than getting a lurking task off of your to do list - especially if it’s been nagging you for more than a few weeks. Get out of your comfort zone - knock the shit out - then reward yourself for being such a bad ass. Instead of dreading that to do list every time you rewrite it and add the same old bullshit to the end of it, try breaking it up into manageable baby steps. Dedicate 10 minutes of intentional thought to the task every day for a few days and see if that he...
Day 222 || Plannin + Stressin
September 16, 2021 09:00 - 6 minutesStop stressing and procrastinating because "it’s not going to be perfect” and make the process of planning it enjoyable - which will feel better than perfect could. Also, let’s not forget tastes change and the shit you’re obsessed with now may drive you up the wall in ten years. None of that specific shit really matters unless it’s genuinely sentimental to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. ...
Day 221 || Walking Miracle
September 15, 2021 09:00 - 4 minutesCars are a literal miracle we have become so used to - we forget how amazing it is. Think about the fuel itself. Gasoline is combustible, dangerous, and potentially deadly if not used properly. But if you harness that incredibly powerful resource, you can make cars drive across the country and literal airplanes fly into the sky. Our emotions are the same way. Both big emotions and jet fuel, can both cause immense destruction if they’re not controlled, or, on the contrary if you focus a mor...
Day 220 || Prioritize Feeling Good
September 14, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesFeeling Good should be the focus of your day to day. This does not mean to only do the things that feel good in the moment - what it means is to actively decide to change the way you feel about the shit you have to do. It takes time and practice. Commit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 219 || Invite Them into the Kitchen
September 13, 2021 09:00 - 4 minutesYour friends and loved ones often won’t feel comfortable inviting themselves into parts of your life because it’s yours and they don’t understand a thing about it. And, honestly, if that’s how you want to keep it, great. But if you feel like you’ve been lacking a sense of connection, don’t be afraid to occasionally allow the people you trust to join you where are you are you are your most comfortable and thriving! There’s something really magical about seeing people in their element. It ca...
Day 218 || Optimizing Overload
September 12, 2021 09:00 - 4 minutesLike anything, optimizing your space can be a slippery slope - and you may feel like it’s never perfect and can always be better. To you, I say relax. Fix what matters but recognize there is never a perfect solution to anything - and it’s about feeling your best. Stressing over what makes it the best is not feeling your best. Take a step back, ask yourself it’s working well enough for the time being, and move on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this...
Day 217 || Optimize Your Space
September 11, 2021 09:00 - 4 minutesOptimizing your space takes time, self awareness, and it means getting comfortable rearranging as often as you need to to ensure that your space continues working for you as you grow and change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 216 || Dopamine Hunter
September 10, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesThe more you consciously DECIDE to feel excited about your healthier choices, the more your brain associates these healthy things with dopamine too. This is how people get addicted to working out and eating right. It starts with small, consistent changes, which we all know and hear about regularly but to me, the most important piece comes from the intentional choice of good feelings surrounding those healthy routines. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support ...
Day 215 || Honing in on a Purpose
September 09, 2021 09:00 - 6 minutesJumping around searching desperately for a purpose is a lot more difficult than honing one based on the shit you’ve already got going for you - but that’s not to say, your next favorite thing isn’t right around the corner. Don’t be afraid to try out the new shit and rehash the old shit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 214 || Big Spender
September 08, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesBe conscious of your purchases because it is too often, too simple for us to go full Ariana grande and “I want it I bought it” ourselves into the cumbersome nightmare of amazon boxes and useless shit that didn’t actually feel good when you got it, had to unload it, or when you finally decided to get rid of it six years later and realized the tags were still on it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed...
Day 213 || Chaotic Spending
September 07, 2021 09:00 - 6 minutesIf you’re like me and you struggle to limit your spending in any capacity - next time you want to buy something new, ask yourself this: Can I afford this? And Do I need this? If the answer is yes to both -great. Buy it! No hesitation. If you say nah I don’t need it and it’s worth it to you to buy it anyway - great. Buy the shit. And if you can’t afford it - that’s a case by case basis. But at least you’ve asked yourself the shit you were supposed to ask first so your purchase in itself - be...
Day 212 || Overthinking + Guessing
September 06, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesBecause when you’re too busy analyzing what the other person might mean you’re not being present with what they actually said or did. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 211 || Versions of Reality
September 05, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesThere are so many versions of reality - often with substantiated evidence that coincides with it - that if you don’t perpetually do valuable research on the research you’re using to support your argument - you’re at the mercy of whatever bozo knows how to type. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 210 || Reparenting Struggles
September 04, 2021 09:00 - 5 minuteswhat would the younger version of you think about your life right now? Pretend they came for a visit- what would they want to do with you? What cool stuff could you show them to make them excited about growing up? Would you eat the same way or would you change your daily routine when they were in town? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 209 || Chasing Childlike Joy
September 03, 2021 09:00 - 4 minutesChildren don’t like being bored - and neither do adults. It’s our job to make sure we’re having the best possible time, just like it’s a parents job to make sure that their three year old will be entertained for the entirety of the flight. You are your own three year old. Prepare yourself for the best possible outcome by integrating and promising yourself consistent fun. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-d...
Day 209 || Chasing Childlike Joy
September 03, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesChildren don’t like being bored - and neither do adults. It’s our job to make sure we’re having the best possible time, just like it’s a parents job to make sure that their three year old will be entertained for the entirety of the flight. You are your own three year old. Prepare yourself for the best possible outcome by integrating and promising yourself consistent fun. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Day 208 || Embrace Temporary
September 02, 2021 09:00 - 5 minutesRemember that there is not enough time in the day to connect deeply with every person you’ve ever known or loved, commit yourself to every project you’ve ever felt inspired by, or accomplish everything you’ve ever wanted to accomplish. So when the universe moves someone or something out of your life - take it as a reminder that everything changes and sometimes the best is yet to come. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast....