289: Clare A. revisits

🔸 The tallest tree; grounded.

📌 Clare followed up: Still have “my girls” (the first one with the tools and the second one from the box) with me. We are making our way across the prairie together… They are super sweet and having a great time
And the song by Mei-lan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_U5jiW3YFw

🔹 Parts:

P: The leader, grounded, on the path. Grounding rod. Picking up where I wasn’t able to
P: The train puller. Frustration with:
E: The Weaker one cant move. "Leave me alone, everything's fine". Heavy shoes, in a box, barefoot in a meadow.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

I'm talking over parts, distraction from the connection, explaining and directing in ways that aren't landing. This is our 5th or 6th convo in two years, and Clare has never been one to just follow wherever I lead. Which is great! Except when I don't know where she is. So I talk more, dump out my toolbox.

It's obvious to me that Clare has superpowers, and I would bet everything that IFS can be a most valuable tool in her toolbox. How much I can help, with such limited vision, I don't know.

I dont have *the* answer for "stay with you forever" vs "check in at times" It's a logical problem, but the answer is not. So of course I can't say! It can only come from your Self, not mine.

Do differently? Book more calls with Clare. Meet in a meadow?

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