There seems to be a very clear path as to how many of us navigate this conscious experience. The way to a higher state of consciousness in my case came through an overwhelming need to belong,feel worthy and need validation from this external world. This ego driven existence was exhausting and volatile for most of my young life.  As I became aware of the negative tapes and thought processes this unhealthy need to fit in created in me.. I was able to work on the value of the relationship with myself.. grow from new perceptions of past events.. and silence the voice of " Not enough" we can sometimes allow to sneak in..  As we work on the inside world... the outside world changes to reflect who we are being.  Have the best day !