Are Your Habits Serving You or Not? (Kai Alday)

• Episode summary: Some habits are serving and some habits are not serving. Or as we usually say -- they are good or bad habits. Typically, a habit is the thing that either helps us to reach a goal or prevents us from reaching that goal. You can call them "invisible creatures," because sometimes you don't even know they're there. You just can’t figure out why you haven’t reached your goal, or can’t change.

• In this jam-packed episode, Melinda Cohan, our host and senior coach, has a fascinating conversation with Kai Alday, the founder of SuccessAlday, a company focusing on creating mindset and habit success. Melinda and Kai geek out on the neuroscience of habits and discuss several practical steps that you can immediately apply to break any nonserving habit and create a new one that serves.

•In this episode we discuss:

How habits serve us but also how they can be “invisible creatures.”Why it’s so hard to change habits, and how long it takes to change them. Just how long does it take to change a habit? 21 days? 67?The essential three levels to clarify in order to create change.What tools and systems help your client change a habit? What are temptation bundling and friction reduction?How do pretty rocks help you change a habit?

• “Are your actions actually voting for the person that you want to be? Or are they voting for how life already is?” – Kai Alday

Kai Alday

•Guest bio: 

Kai Alday is a self-proclaimed momentum junkie, AKA a coach obsessed with creating traction for service-based businesses. She has a not-so-secret love affair with brain science and loves using it to create mindset and habit success for her clients. Kai’s specialties are customer experience design, program creation, and science-based goal setting. 

•Kai founded SuccessAlday to help small businesses ditch the complicated strategies and embrace a business that’s simple to run, fun to build and makes success inevitable. For Kai, the idea that you need to hustle until you die is outdated and only beneficial to the power suits. Instead, she focuses on building a thriving business with the purpose of enjoying your life and creating an impact while you do it. Fair warning: Kai isn’t your grandpa's business coach. There's a healthy dose of laughter, real talk, and profanity involved. 

•Resources or websites mentioned in this episode:

MiraseeCoaches Console Kai Alday’s LinkedIn SuccessAlday.com

•Credits:

Guest - Kai AldayHost - Melinda CohanProducer - Cynthia Lamb Executive producer - Danny InyWriter - Michi Lantz, Melinda Cohan, and Cynthia LambAssembled by - Geoff GovertsenAudio Post Supervisor: Evan Miles, Christopher MartinAudio Post Production by Post Office SoundMusic soundscape: Chad Michael Snavely

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Episode transcription: Are Your Habits Serving You or Not? (Kai Alday)

[00:00:00] Melinda: Mirasee

[00:00:05] Kai: At the end of the 21 days or 67 days or however long you choose to do this, you're gonna be able to see where you're placing your vote. Are your actions actually voting for the person that you want to be or are they voting for how life already is?

[00:00:25] Melinda: Hello and welcome to just between coaches, the podcast that tackles difficult coaching conversations. Head on. My name is Melinda Cohen and I run a business called the coaches console. The coaches council has supported more than 50,000 entrepreneurs and creating their own profitable coaching business. 

 

In this episode, we're going to dive into the topic of habits. First, it's human nature to have habits and there's nothing wrong with that. However, as coaches, it's our job to help our clients get the results they want, and they may involve changing a habit or two. When we try to break a habit and establish a new one, we usually experience it as hard and isolation makes it even harder. Breaking a habit on your own is extremely difficult and it takes a ton of self-discipline, which is why having the support of a coach for this is so important to talk about habits today. On just between coaches, I've invited chi all day. Kai is a business coach to entrepreneurs. She also coaches course creators at Mirasee. Before I bring Kai on, I'm going to read an email from a listener that reflects today's topic again. Unless you tell me otherwise, any email that you send me that we read on the air will be anonymous. Here's what anonymous had to say. Hello, Melinda, I need your help and advice. My client told me five months ago that she wants to integrate meditation into her hectic life. She is a ceo of a public company and one of her goals is to feel more relaxed and focused. But in our coaching sessions I continue to see an old pattern showing up again and again. She never turned her cell phone off. It vibrates constantly. She went to the result, but e...