Interstates & Heartbreak
136 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 years ago -Brunch-style discussions with guests whose stories range from couple goals to completely unHinged.
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First Date Fourplay (w/Dating App Co-Founders Julie Griggs & Danielle Dietzek)
October 11, 2020 12:01 - 59 minutes - 57.4 MBToday's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak explores a different philosophy around online dating, as I interview cofounders Julie Griggs and Danielle Dietzek about the vision behind their dating app, Fourplay. We discuss how one spontaneous, unsuccessful double date experience evolved into a much more successful business venture centered around dating exclusively in duos. They explain how their mission extends beyond giving people a built-in wingperson, and actually serves to reduce the anxie...
17. First Date Fourplay (w/Dating App Co-Founders Julie Griggs & Danielle Dietzek)
October 11, 2020 12:01 - 59 minutes - 57.4 MBToday's episode explores a different philosophy around online dating, as I interview cofounders Julie Griggs and Danielle Dietzek about the vision behind their dating app, Fourplay. We discuss how one spontaneous, unsuccessful double date experience evolved into a much more successful business venture centered around dating exclusively in duos. They explain how their mission extends beyond giving people a built-in wingperson, and actually serves to reduce the anxiety and dangers currently ass...
The Science of Swiping
October 04, 2020 08:00 - 59 minutes - 57.2 MBThis week I interview Chris Best - the previously unnamed dating app expert referenced in episode 1 ("Interstates & Tinder Dates"). Here to reveal the science and strategy behind the wisdom he's shared with my premiere guest Denzel Walkes (and to refute claims that he is a sex addict), Chris dives straight into the scientific, if unromantic, truths behind how dating apps actually work. Chris' insights serve to break us out of the damaging trap of tying emotional well-being into our experience...
16. The Science of Swiping
October 04, 2020 08:00 - 59 minutes - 57.2 MBThis week I interview Chris Best - the previously unnamed dating app expert referenced in episode 1 ("Interstates & Tinder Dates"). Here to reveal the science and strategy behind the wisdom he's shared with my premiere guest Denzel Walkes (and to refute claims that he is a sex addict), Chris dives straight into the scientific, if unromantic, truths behind how dating apps actually work. Chris' insights serve to break us out of the damaging trap of tying emotional well-being into our experience...
Marriage Story
September 27, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 65.4 MBMarriage Story highlights entertainment executive Mimi Slavin and her journey of finding love, coming to a breaking point that nearly resulted in divorce, then salvaging the relationship to come out stronger than ever. She opens up about the disheartening online dating experiences that led her to take a ten-year hiatus, and how a friend’s forced dating app sign up was the push needed to get back out there and find her now husband. Throughout the episode, Mimi imparts wisdom around the benefit...
15. Marriage Story
September 27, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 65.4 MBMarriage Story highlights entertainment executive Mimi Slavin and her journey of finding love, coming to a breaking point that nearly resulted in divorce, then salvaging the relationship to come out stronger than ever. She opens up about the disheartening online dating experiences that led her to take a ten-year hiatus, and how a friend’s forced dating app sign up was the push needed to get back out there and find her now husband. Throughout the episode, Mimi imparts wisdom around the benefit...
Co(vid)habitation
September 20, 2020 17:00 - 1 hour - 88.1 MBThis week on Interstates & Heartbreak, I catch up with former coworker and dating life confidante Darice Murphy, who is currently thriving in quarantine - despite moving in with her partner ONE day before shelter in place took hold. We backtrack to reflect on the dating history that led to her present day relationship, including the guesswork around platonic vs. flirtatious interactions and the role apps play in minimizing that as a queer individual, shifting from casual to intentional dating...
14. Co(vid)habitation
September 20, 2020 17:00 - 1 hour - 88.1 MBThis week I catch up with former coworker and dating life confidante Darice Murphy, who is currently thriving in quarantine - despite moving in with her partner ONE day before shelter in place took hold. We backtrack to reflect on the dating history that led to her present day relationship, including the guesswork around platonic vs. flirtatious interactions and the role apps play in minimizing that as a queer individual, shifting from casual to intentional dating, and learning how to stop pr...
“I Don’t Date Actors”
September 13, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 83.8 MBToday's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak brings the perspective of a Hollywood success story in the midst of her rise to fame - Cassidi Parker of Netflix's Dear White People and FX's Better Things, whose career also boasts commercial acting, stage performance, and sketch comedy at UCB. Cassidi divulges all of her candid thoughts on dating within the acting community, including her choice to actively avoid dating fellow actors in her earlier stages of dating. She explains many of the miscon...
13. “I Don’t Date Actors”
September 13, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 83.8 MBToday's episode brings the perspective of a Hollywood success story in the midst of her rise to fame - Cassidi Parker of Netflix's Dear White People and FX's Better Things, whose career also boasts commercial acting, stage performance, and sketch comedy at UCB. Cassidi divulges all of her candid thoughts on dating within the acting community, including her choice to actively avoid dating fellow actors in her earlier stages of dating. She explains many of the misconceptions around acting, and ...
Season 2 : A Teaser
September 06, 2020 13:01 - 2 minutes - 2.93 MBSeason 2 of Interstates & Heartbreak is around the corner! Tune in for a preview of the episodes to come, which dive into dating and simply maintaining your sanity in Los Angeles during the disaster that is 2020. Hear from a range of guests, including one who put a hard stop online dating during the quarantine, to one who moved in with their significant other ONE day before stay at home orders went into place. For tongue-in-cheek interpretations of men's dating profiles as told by my inner C...
12. How to Date an Introvert (Pt. 2)
August 30, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 117 MBPicking up where the cliffhanger of "How to Date an Introvert (Pt. 1)" left off, this week's episode dives into my history with Nick Geilenfeldt, who undeniably knows me more…intimately than any former guest. I candidly dive into my own personal experience dating an introvert and debate whether or not it inspired me to (VERY uncharacteristically) make the first move. From there, I open up about my thoughts on the highlights and difficulties of that relationship, and the circumstances that eve...
How to Date an Introvert (Pt. 2)
August 30, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 117 MBPicking up where the cliffhanger of "How to Date an Introvert (Pt. 1)" left off, this week's episode dives into my history with Nick Geilenfeldt, who undeniably knows me more…intimately than any former guest. I candidly dive into my own personal experience dating an introvert and debate whether or not it inspired me to (VERY uncharacteristically) make the first move. From there, I open up about my thoughts on the highlights and difficulties of that relationship, and the circumstances that eve...
How to Date an Introvert (Pt. 1)
August 23, 2020 18:47 - 1 hour - 117 MBOn this week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak, Nick Geilenfeldft opens up about dating as an introvert. We debate what it means to be an introvert in the first place, from the actual definition to the ways in which it manifests itself. Nick reveals the difficulties of being an introvert within the dating landscape, like reluctance to go out and the anxiety around approaching girls when you do, and overall the overall impact it has on self-confidence. Additionally, we rehash some stories ...
11. How to Date an Introvert (Pt. 1)
August 23, 2020 18:47 - 1 hour - 117 MBOn this week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak, Nick Geilenfeldft opens up about dating as an introvert. We debate what it means to be an introvert in the first place, from the actual definition to the ways in which it manifests itself. Nick reveals the difficulties of being an introvert within the dating landscape, like reluctance to go out and the anxiety around approaching girls when you do, and overall the overall impact it has on self-confidence. Additionally, we rehash some stories ...
Don’t Want No Scrubs
August 16, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 152 MBGet ready for some HOT takes on this week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak, as I speak with Tuesday English about how to hold yourself and the men you date to Rihanna-level standards. We discuss "bitchy" behaviors like refusing to cook or pay for things early in the dating process, and hypothesize why these acts may actually be beneficial to attracting quality men. This is the perfect episode for anyone who's feeling fatigued by swiping through the seemingly endless sea of scrubs on the ...
10. Don’t Want No Scrubs
August 16, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 152 MBGet ready for some HOT takes on this week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak, as I speak with Tuesday English about how to hold yourself and the men you date to Rihanna-level standards. We discuss "bitchy" behaviors like refusing to cook or pay for things early in the dating process, and hypothesize why these acts may actually be beneficial to attracting quality men. This is the perfect episode for anyone who's feeling fatigued by swiping through the seemingly endless sea of scrubs on the ...
First Date to Fiancé
August 09, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 125 MBOn this week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak, @anasrivas and I recap the course of her six-year relationship, which nearly fell victim to a last minute first date cancellation. We talk about every facet of their relationship, beginning with the unorthodox way Chris got her number at a holiday party, through their eventual engagement. Ana divulges the difficulties they navigated along the way, like fluctuating excitement during the first few dates, recovering from a break, and ending coh...
9. First Date to Fiancé
August 09, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 125 MBThis week Ana Rivas and I recap the course of her six-year relationship, which nearly fell victim to a last minute first date cancellation. We talk about every facet of their relationship, beginning with the unorthodox way Chris got her number at a holiday party, through their eventual engagement. Ana divulges the difficulties they navigated along the way, like fluctuating excitement during the first few dates, recovering from a break, and ending cohabitation without ending the relationship. ...
8. Dating Before DMs
August 02, 2020 07:01 - 54 minutes - 81.2 MBThis week's interview takes place in the DreamWorks Animation offices with VP of Global Brand Partnerships & Marketing, David Bynder. We compare David's Los Angeles dating exploits in the 90's to my present day experience, and evaluate the merits of single's dances vs. app swipes, written personal ads vs. DM slides, and dinner dates vs. cannabis cafes. He also reveals the dating routines he abandoned upon meeting his now wife, and the first date spot that led to a 20-year marriage. The genera...
Dating Before DMs
August 02, 2020 07:01 - 54 minutes - 81.2 MBThis week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak takes place in the DreamWorks Animation offices with VP of Global Brand Partnerships & Marketing, David Bynder. We compare David's Los Angeles dating exploits in the 90's to my present day experience, and evaluate the merits of single's dances vs. app swipes, written personal ads vs. DM slides, and dinner dates vs. cannabis cafes. He also reveals the dating routines he abandoned upon meeting his now wife, and the first date spot that led to a 20...
7. Here to Make Friends
July 26, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 107 MBThis week Ariel Cowell and I recount 7 years of dating history that spanned our time as roommates - ranging from a first date at Chuck E. Cheese, receiving nearly identical Christmas presents from separate men, and dates with (multiple) coworkers. We deep dive into all aspects of friendships as they relate to dating. At what point do you introduce the guy you're dating to your friends? Is it beneficial to let friends know when you're not a fan of their partner, and what do you do if you're on...
Here to Make Friends
July 26, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 107 MBOn this week's episode, Ariel Cowell and I recount 7 years of dating history that spanned our time as roommates - ranging from a first date at Chuck E. Cheese, receiving nearly identical Christmas presents from separate men, and dates with (multiple) coworkers. We deep dive into all aspects of friendships as they relate to dating. At what point do you introduce the guy you're dating to your friends? Is it beneficial to let friends know when you're not a fan of their partner, and what do you d...
6. L.A. Ex
July 19, 2020 08:30 - 1 hour - 124 MBThis week brings a discussion with former LA resident Stormy (no connection to Trump or the Kardashians). She shares her frank and unapologetic opinions about Los Angeles, the dating culture it creates, the men who contribute to that culture, and why she eventually returned to San Diego. Throughout the episode, we dive into the male mindset, like whether or not guys actually want you to make the first move, if they can truly appreciate a powerful woman, and whether they're all capable of chea...
L.A. Ex
July 19, 2020 08:30 - 1 hour - 124 MBThis week brings a discussion with former LA resident Stormy (no connection to Trump or the Kardashians). She shares her frank and unapologetic opinions about Los Angeles, the dating culture it creates, the men who contribute to that culture, and why she eventually returned to San Diego. Throughout the episode, we dive into the male mindset, like whether or not guys actually want you to make the first move, if they can truly appreciate a powerful woman, and whether they're all capable of chea...
To All the Boys I’ve Swiped Before
July 12, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 135 MBOn this week's episode I interview former work wife and current wingwoman Victoria Caruso for a deep dive into all aspects of single life. We compare notes on our dating strategies and debate the merits of our vastly different approaches, asking questions like whether two dates in one day is too intense, whether a guy needs to catch your attention in his first dating app photo to warrant a right swipe, and if simply smiling at a guy at the bar is enough effort. The conversation spans every bi...
5. To All the Boys I’ve Swiped Before
July 12, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 135 MBThis week I interview former work wife and current wingwoman, Victoria Caruso, for a deep dive into all aspects of single life. We compare notes on our dating strategies and debate the merits of our vastly different approaches, asking questions like whether two dates in one day is too intense, whether a guy needs to catch your attention in his first dating app photo to warrant a right swipe, and if simply smiling at a guy at the bar is enough effort. The conversation spans every bizarre, shad...
4. Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger (Pt. 2)
July 05, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 106 MBOn part two of "Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger," I interview Megan's husband Will Rippetoe to get his perspective. Will takes us on his online dating journey, beginning with 100+ dates that included a tear-inducing first kiss and a second date ultimatum, and concluding with the OkCupid match that finally drove him to delete the apps. Will reveals how his inner Stage 5 Clinger was born out of an immediate desire to lock things down in pursuit of a lifelong relationship with Megan, and how clear ...
Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger (Pt. 2)
July 05, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 106 MBOn part two of "Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger," I interview Megan's husband Will Rippetoe to get his perspective. Will takes us on his online dating journey, beginning with 100+ dates that included a tear-inducing first kiss and a second date ultimatum, and concluding with the OkCupid match that finally drove him to delete the apps. Will reveals how his inner Stage 5 Clinger was born out of an immediate desire to lock things down in pursuit of a lifelong relationship with Megan, and how clear ...
3. Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger (Pt. 1)
June 28, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 102 MBOn part one of "Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger," we hear from life and career coach Megan Ladd for an empowering message about how trusting her gut and staying true to her standards helped her find the one. For anyone who's experienced burnout or frustration over a seemingly aimless slew of online dates, Megan dives into grounding yourself in a vision that will give your dating life renewed purpose. Learn how the moniker "Stage 5 Clinger" helped her weed through the duds in order to find her hu...
Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger (Pt. 1)
June 28, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 102 MBOn part one of "Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger," we hear from life and career coach Megan Ladd for an empowering message about how trusting her gut and staying true to her standards helped her find the one. For anyone who's experienced burnout or frustration over a seemingly aimless slew of online dates, Megan dives into grounding yourself in a vision that will give your dating life renewed purpose. Learn how the moniker "Stage 5 Clinger" helped her weed through the duds in order to find her hu...
2. Not a Regular Dad, a Cool Dad
June 21, 2020 06:59 - 1 hour - 91.8 MBI talk to Martin Sohikish for a conversation that spans bottled Blue Moons to bottled baby formula. Martin provides the perspective of one-half of a high school sweetheart romance, and shares both the benefits and struggles of staying with someone as your interests (and alcohol tastes) evolve. As we dive into life as a dad, we uncover some lesser-known insights into early parenthood, like the lost luxury of procrastinating chores, nuances of formula, and when to actually say "no." The episode...
Not a Regular Dad, a Cool Dad
June 21, 2020 06:59 - 1 hour - 91.8 MBJoin me as I talk to Martin Sohikish for a conversation that spans bottled Blue Moons to bottled baby formula. Martin provides the perspective of one-half of a high school sweetheart romance, and shares both the benefits and struggles of staying with someone as your interests (and alcohol tastes) evolve. As we dive into life as a dad, we uncover some lesser-known insights into early parenthood, like the lost luxury of procrastinating chores, nuances of formula, and when to actually say "no." ...
1. Interstates & Tinder Dates
June 14, 2020 07:59 - 1 hour - 89 MBJoin me as I interview Denzel Walkes, whose friendship has withstood overly drunken nights and even a slap in the face. He discusses the difficulties of re-acclimating to the relationship world after eight years of unencumbered bachelor life, and candidly addresses the drastic shifts that evolved his attitude from savage to…somewhat less savage. Denzel recounts two wild first Tinder date experiences, and unabashedly critiques my own dating profile photo choices. The episode closes out with a ...
Interstates & Tinder Dates
June 14, 2020 07:59 - 1 hour - 89 MBJoin me as I interview Denzel Walkes, whose friendship has withstood overly drunken nights and even a slap in the face. He discusses the difficulties of re-acclimating to the relationship world after eight years of unencumbered bachelor life, and candidly addresses the drastic shifts that evolved his attitude from savage to...somewhat less savage. Denzel recounts two wild first Tinder date experiences, and unabashedly critiques my own dating profile photo choices. The episode closes out with ...
Interstates & Heartbreak : A Teaser
May 21, 2020 19:00 - 2 minutes - 4.15 MBA peek into the average and unglamorous world of dating in Los Angeles.