Interstates & Heartbreak
136 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 years ago -Brunch-style discussions with guests whose stories range from couple goals to completely unHinged.
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50. HEARTBREAK ANNIVERSARY
May 30, 2021 11:24 - 18 minutes - 16.8 MBCelebrate ONE YEAR of Interstates & Heartbreak with a peek into my most memorable dates since the start of the pandemic - the good, the bad, and the fugly. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected] For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope
49. Case of the Ex
May 23, 2021 14:57 - 1 hour - 57.1 MBThis week's episode has redacted names to protect the innocent AND the guilty in a discussion that dives into a tangled web of lies and deception. We dive into a 10-year saga of a guy who seemed like "the one," until he wasn't. A great lesson in trust, intuition, and strategic Instagram stalking. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : ...
48. 10s Seeking An 11
May 16, 2021 07:01 - 56 minutes - 51.4 MBThis week I interview Emily Hacker, host of OK So, I Met This Guy podcast, about the fundamental question that inspired Interstates & Heartbreak - Is dating in LA the worst? We unpack the dating challenges specific to a place best described as "a city of 10s seeking an 11," including the unavoidable male archetypes, why people are more likely to cancel date plans, and the very real struggle of traffic when you're attempting to traverse the city for back to back dates. To hear dating stories...
47. I Love You, [Wing]Man
May 09, 2021 08:07 - 1 hour - 101 MBThis week on Interstates & Heartbreak, we hear a male perspective on dating in Los Angeles. I interview the primary beneficiary of my wingwoman skills, Ryan Pantages, to reflect on the role our friendship has played in our respective dating journeys over the years - including my unsolicited input into Ryan's choice of wardrobe and neighborhood, and his strong disapproval of two very specific individuals I dated in the past. To shoot your shot with Ryan via DM : @lesliegnope To make thin...
46. Going Dutch
May 02, 2021 09:00 - 1 hour - 78.8 MBThis episode of Interstates & Heartbreak comes to you from the home of the one and only Red Light District as I interview college friend and current Amsterdam resident Julie Lee. Julie and I reminisce on the UCLA shenanigans that bonded us, including questionable fake IDs and adult diapers, and reflect on how vastly our college personas differed from the expectations and standards our immigrant parents held for us. We then dive into Julie's current relationship, and how a Facebook DM slide ev...
45. Mr. Worldwide
April 25, 2021 07:01 - 1 hour - 76 MBThis week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak is best enjoyed with an Aperol Spritz, because we're going to Italy! I interview Rafael Di Furia about his decision to leave America in favor of a European lifestyle, and his subsequent experience dating women spanning over a dozen different nationalities. Tune in to hear us dish about the good (no more dating app quotes about The Office), the bad (one particularly awkward interaction involving a girlfriend's grandma and a kitchen knife), and th...
44. The Samantha To My Carrie
April 18, 2021 07:01 - 1 hour - 74.6 MBThis week I interview the Samantha to my (reluctant) Carrie - my longtime friend Ari Schechter! We dive into the origin behind our designated Sex and the City classifications, the characteristics we eschew (bad outfits, worse taste in men) and those we embrace (creative expression and confidence). Ari also describes her experience moving to the East Coat and adjusting from bros in San Diego to bureaucrats in Albany - and how she eventually avoided both during her search for her current partne...
43. Call Her Mommy
April 11, 2021 07:01 - 47 minutes - 43.1 MBInterstates & Heartbreak gets personal today, as I bring my mom back for an encore interview to answer listener-submitted questions! Hear our unfiltered discussion about her thoughts on dating apps, her ideal man, which of my exes was the best, and more. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected] For a ...
42. Live, LAUgh, Love
April 04, 2021 07:01 - 1 hour - 84.5 MBThis week Interstates & Heartbreak steps into the GLAMOROUS side of dating in Los Angeles with Kyle Lau - producer, director, and WGA Award nominated writer on shows like Family Guy, Fresh Off The Boat, and Nora From Queens. We discuss all aspects of young professional life in Hollywood, including dating around a hectic work schedule, working in male-dominated spaces, and navigating romantic interactions in an industry with historically blurred boundaries. Kyle opens up about what it was like...
41. Thousand Dollar Dating
March 28, 2021 07:01 - 43 minutes - 30.1 MBThis week, Interstates & Heartbreak provides the male take on matchmaking from none other than a former guest's first date through Three Day Rule Matchmaking (40. "Painting Red Flags Pink" w/Jenna Cutter). Brandon Maier opens up about what it's like to utilize a matchmaker on both the client side and the match side, with insights into what he looked for in a matchmaking company, non-negotiable partner traits, and his TRUE motivation behind signing up for Three Day Rule. To make things Insta...
40. Painting Red Flags Pink
March 21, 2021 07:01 - 1 hour - 54.3 MBThis week I interview Jenna Cutter - fashion entrepreneur, business woman, and founder of Chloe Madison LA. We discuss what it looks like to hold high standards for yourself in dating - from finding happiness on your own, to refusing to put other relationships on a pedestal. Jenna shares how her standards inspired her to take dating into her own hands and sign up for Three Day Rule's matchmaking services. We also dive into her past relationship with her daughter's dad, and what that taught he...
39. Coming Of Age & Coming Out
March 14, 2021 08:01 - 1 hour - 60.9 MBThis week I interview the Notorious RZB - Rustom Z. Birdie. We open with a nostalgic discussion about our friendship, during which I reveal the height of my alcohol-induced narcolepsy, and my college crush that never went further than a makeout session prior to Rustom coming out. The remainder of the episode dives into all aspects of coming to terms with your sexuality - breaking the news to traditional parents, understanding how your identity fits within the broader gay community, thoughts o...
38. Once Upon A Time In Westwood
March 07, 2021 08:01 - 2 hours - 84.5 MBThis week I interview long time friend and enabler in shenanigans, Nandini Taneja. We reminisce on the poor life decisions made at UCLA that put both our livelihood and dignity at risk on a number of occasions, and bonded us through the process. From there, we discuss the mindset behind being perpetually single, reluctance around defining the relationship, and coping with gaslighting and deception immediately after giving into the concept of exclusivity. Finally, Nandini opens up about the un...
37. The Birds, The Bees, and My Mom
February 28, 2021 08:01 - 1 hour - 49.9 MBThis week Interstates & Heartbreak features none other than my mom! She opens up with her honest thoughts about the podcast, and shares her side of some stories that I've told in previous episodes. From there, we dive into her experience teaching sex ed and the concept of healthy relationships as a high school biology teacher. We cover everything you "should" know (How do vasectomies really work? How do I calculate my ovulation cycle?) and the questions you never knew you needed the answers t...
36. Stop “Waiting” For Mr. Right
February 21, 2021 08:44 - 1 hour - 57 MBThis week, Interstates & Heartbreak throws it back to episode one, with my inaugural podcast guest Denzel Walkes. We open with an update on Denzel's dating life, and how one of my former guests inspired him to revamp his strategy on the apps. From there we unpack all of the implications around women asking men out, with a discussion ranging from the games people play in dating, traditional gender roles, and whether we've fully evolved beyond them. The episode closes with an unabashed critique...
35. OK, Cupid.
February 14, 2021 09:40 - 23 minutes - 16.2 MBThis Valentine's Day I practice some self love...in the form of my second solo episode! I chronicle my experience joining OKCupid during a week with added dating pressure and my polarizing approach to crafting app bios. I then outline the profile tropes I encountered - ranging from seasonal fuckboys to Shakesperean poets. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inq...
34. Maturing Into Motherhood & Teen Pregnancy
February 07, 2021 16:09 - 1 hour - 59.2 MBThis week I interview Alex Noble about millennial motherhood, the experience of getting pregnant with her first child in high school, and her unadulterated account of the bodily changes that result. She opens up about breaking the news to her boyfriend's Muslim parents, her mom's priceless response, and coming to terms with reactions ranging from surprise to disappointment. We discuss learning how to co-parent after splitting from your partner, and the impact that motherhood has on your appro...
Teen Pregnancy & Millennial Motherhood
February 07, 2021 16:09 - 1 hour - 59.2 MBThis week I interview Alex Noble about millennial motherhood, the experience of getting pregnant with her first child in high school, and her unadulterated account of the bodily changes that result. She opens up about breaking the news to her boyfriend's Muslim parents, her mom's priceless response, and coming to terms with reactions ranging from surprise to disappointment. We discuss learning how to co-parent after splitting from your partner, and the impact that motherhood has on your appro...
50 Worst Dates
January 31, 2021 10:39 - 1 hour - 113 MBThis week I interview Rachel Scheer, dating coach and author of Date to Find Your Soulmate. Rachel shares some of her more memorable dating mishaps, including rodent-infested vehicles, a third-wheeling dad, and one particular noteworthy date that had a not-so-happy ending. We explore the impact that these experiences have had on her relationship philosophy to-date, and discuss lessons to be gleaned through all stages of dating, from swiping right, to defining the relationship, to cohabitation...
33. 50 Worst Dates
January 31, 2021 10:39 - 1 hour - 113 MBThis week I interview Rachel Scheer, dating coach and author of Date to Find Your Soulmate. Rachel shares some of her more memorable dating mishaps, including rodent-infested vehicles, a third-wheeling dad, and one particular noteworthy date that had a not-so-happy ending. We explore the impact that these experiences have had on her relationship philosophy to-date, and discuss lessons to be gleaned through all stages of dating, from swiping right, to defining the relationship, to cohabitation...
32. thank u, next
January 24, 2021 12:51 - 1 hour - 158 MBThis week, Laily Sharifzadeh and I look back at all of the past relationships (and non-relationships) that have shaped us into the daters we are today. We discuss leveling up from previous expectations (key word : ex), knowing your worth, and setting standards for future relationships. The episode rounds out with our online dating experiences, including Laily's almost whirlwind romance and my attempt to DTR at the worst possible moment. For affirmations and a glimpse into the photos that al...
thank u, next
January 24, 2021 12:51 - 1 hour - 158 MBThis week, Laily Sharifzadeh and I look back at all of the past relationships (and non-relationships) that have shaped us into the daters we are today. We discuss leveling up from previous expectations (key word : ex), knowing your worth, and setting standards for future relationships. The episode rounds out with our online dating experiences, including Laily's almost whirlwind romance and my attempt to DTR at the worst possible moment. For affirmations and a glimpse into the photos that al...
31. Democracy Is My Love Language
January 17, 2021 13:10 - 1 hour - 73.3 MBThis week, Interstates & Heartbreak gets political with activist and congressional campaigner Patrick Malkoun. We discuss how the modern political climate has seeped into our dating lives, including renewed dating criteria around political involvement and ideals, first date discussions around formerly taboo topics, and how love languages translate to community engagement. Patrick's exposure to politically divided households on the campaign trail leads us to contemplate when and how couples wi...
Democracy Is My Love Language
January 17, 2021 13:10 - 1 hour - 73.3 MBThis week, Interstates & Heartbreak gets political with activist and congressional campaigner Patrick Malkoun. We discuss how the modern political climate has seeped into our dating lives, including renewed dating criteria around political involvement and ideals, first date discussions around formerly taboo topics, and how love languages translate to community engagement. Patrick's exposure to politically divided households on the campaign trail leads us to contemplate when and how couples wi...
“Why Am I Like This?” (w/Enneagram Expert Jenn Whitmer)
January 10, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 84.6 MBThis week on Interstates & Heartbreak, conflict resolution coach and Enneagram specialist Jenn Whitmer is here to provide an upgrade from your typical Buzzfeed personality quizzes. She guides us through the nuances of the nine Enneagram types at their healthiest and most pathological, identifies their corresponding love language, and reveals wihch personality is most likely to fall victim to the vices of lust, greed, and beyond. Our interview also reveals my type's unexpected propensity for d...
30. “Why Am I Like This?” (w/Enneagram Expert Jenn Whitmer)
January 10, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 84.6 MBThis week on Interstates & Heartbreak, conflict resolution coach and Enneagram specialist Jenn Whitmer is here to provide an upgrade from your typical Buzzfeed personality quizzes. She guides us through the nuances of the nine Enneagram types at their healthiest and most pathological, identifies their corresponding love language, and reveals wihch personality is most likely to fall victim to the vices of lust, greed, and beyond. Our interview also reveals my type's unexpected propensity for d...
Finding MY Stage 5 Clinger
January 03, 2021 12:21 - 1 hour - 133 MBThe first episode of the year features OKCupid success stories Megan Ladd and Will Rippetoe, returning for a joint episode! They share the anatomy of a good profile, what went into crafting their own OKCupid profiles, and what actually proved effective in attracting each other. We then dive into the creation of my own profile, which leads to debate over whether it's appropriate to compare myself to Kobe, questioning how weird is TOO weird in a partner, and the realization that I may be a gold...
29. Finding MY Stage 5 Clinger
January 03, 2021 12:21 - 1 hour - 133 MBThe first episode of the year features OKCupid success stories Megan Ladd and Will Rippetoe, returning for a joint episode! They share the anatomy of a good profile, what went into crafting their own OKCupid profiles, and what actually proved effective in attracting each other. We then dive into the creation of my own profile, which leads to debate over whether it's appropriate to compare myself to Kobe, questioning how weird is TOO weird in a partner, and the realization that I may be a gold...
New Year, New Me?
December 27, 2020 08:48 - 22 minutes - 20.2 MBThis year I wrap up Interstates & Heartbreak the way many of us spent our quarantines - alone. For my first ever solo episode, I take time to reflect - not on the horror that was 2020, but on ghosts of New Year's resolutions past taken straight from my 8th and 9th grade diaries. Take a listen for insight into the non-relationships that eventually shaped my relationship philosophy, insecurities around inexperience, and the crush that inspired one particularly "stupid and shallow" resolution. ...
28. New Year, New Me?
December 27, 2020 08:48 - 22 minutes - 20.2 MBThis year I wrap up Interstates & Heartbreak the way many of us spent our quarantines - alone. For my first ever solo episode, I take time to reflect - not on the horror that was 2020, but on ghosts of New Year's resolutions past taken straight from my 8th and 9th grade diaries. Take a listen for insight into the non-relationships that eventually shaped my relationship philosophy, insecurities around inexperience, and the crush that inspired one particularly "stupid and shallow" resolution. ...
A Chrismukkah Story : Dating Outside Your Faith
December 20, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 57.8 MB'Tis the season for an episode of Interstates & Heartbreak that delves into the challenges that arise when two faiths intersect, including the impact on holiday merriment and traditions. "Relationship Rabbi" Judy Greenfeld of the Nachshon Minyan congregation in Los Angeles shares the guidance that she provides interfatih couples through all stages of their relationship. Judy shares insight around all of the potential questions that may come up when entering an interfaith relationship. How ear...
27. A Chrismukkah Story : Dating Outside Your Faith
December 20, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 57.8 MB'Tis the season for an episode of Interstates & Heartbreak that delves into the challenges that arise when two faiths intersect, including the impact on holiday merriment and traditions. "Relationship Rabbi" Judy Greenfeld of the Nachshon Minyan congregation in Los Angeles shares the guidance that she provides interfatih couples through all stages of their relationship. Judy shares insight around all of the potential questions that may come up when entering an interfaith relationship. How ear...
26. Queer’s Gambit
December 13, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 91.3 MBI interview Anna Goodman (aka Kevin from the Backstreet Butches, aka Dandy Frank) about growing up queer in Ohio and her eventual L-Word inspired move to LA. She shares how her now extensive network within the queer LA community essentially grew out of a DM slide at age 19 and solo nights out in West Hollywood. We address preconceived notions about the lesbian community, including incestuous friend groups and what people on Tinder really want when they say they’re “looking for a third.” Final...
Queer’s Gambit
December 13, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 91.3 MBToday on Interstates & Heartbreaks I interview Anna Goodman (aka Kevin from the Backstreet Butches, aka Dandy Frank) about growing up queer in Ohio and her eventual L-Word inspired move to LA. She shares how her now extensive network within the queer LA community essentially grew out of a DM slide at age 19 and solo nights out in West Hollywood. We address preconceived notions about the lesbian community, including incestual friend groups and what people on Tinder really want when they say th...
25. Here For a Guten Time, Not a Long Time
December 06, 2020 08:01 - 2 hours - 126 MBThis week Interstates goes international with Sydney native Kylie Tran, as we discuss her dating experiences during the time she spent in Berlin. She explains how fuckboys vary by continent, and how the European men she encountered compared to the stereotypes of their respective homelands. In diving into her dating history, she reveals her tendency to remain friends with exes, a particularly troubled fuckboy who perpetually lingers in her DMs, moving in with a boyfriend one month into dating...
Here For a Guten Time, Not a Long Time
December 06, 2020 08:01 - 2 hours - 126 MBThis week Interstates goes international with Sydney native Kylie Tran, as we discuss her dating experiences during the time she spent in Berlin. She explains how fuckboys vary by continent, and how the European men she encountered compared to the stereotypes of their respective homelands. In diving into her dating history, she reveals her tendency to remain friends with exes, a particularly troubled fuckboy who perpetually lingers in her DMs, moving in with a boyfriend one month into dating...
Personally Victimized By Regina George
November 29, 2020 08:01 - 58 minutes - 60 MBThis week I interview author Julie Glynn about the voice in your head that tells you you're a "fugly slut" - your inner mean girl. We discuss how to combat her negativity, whether she's mentally cockblocking you from pursuing the relationship you deserve, or convincing you that you shouldn't join the Mathletes because it would be social suicide. From there, we identify ways that this toxicity manifests itself IRL, in the form of bullies, frenemies, and unsupportive partners, aad how to cut ou...
24. Personally Victimized By Regina George
November 29, 2020 08:01 - 58 minutes - 60 MBThis week I interview author Julie Glynn about the voice in your head that tells you you're a "fugly slut" - your inner mean girl. We discuss how to combat her negativity, whether she's mentally cockblocking you from pursuing the relationship you deserve, or convincing you that you shouldn't join the Mathletes because it would be social suicide. From there, we identify ways that this toxicity manifests itself IRL, in the form of bullies, frenemies, and unsupportive partners, aad how to cut ou...
Me, My Self Care, & I
November 22, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 74.1 MBThis week I have the honor of interviewing the co-hosts of Dope Sh*t My Therapist Says podcast, Lauren Fractor and Ryanne Gatti. This episode addresses the ways we let dating impact our mental health - like pressuring ourselves to maintain a cool girl façade, or saying yes to dates you’re lukewarm about because “this could be the one.” Lauren and Ryanne dish out tangible, concrete advice about moving on from your ex, and reveal why you’re probably better off severing ties and blocking them on...
23. Me, My Self Care, & I
November 22, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 74.1 MBThis week I interview the co-hosts of Dope Sh*t My Therapist Says podcast, Lauren Fractor and Ryanne Gatti. This episode addresses the ways we let dating impact our mental health - like pressuring ourselves to maintain a cool girl façade, or saying yes to dates you’re lukewarm about because “this could be the one.” Lauren and Ryanne dish out tangible, concrete advice about moving on from your ex, and reveal why you’re probably better off severing ties and blocking them on social. And for anyo...
22. How To Be Single
November 15, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 77.5 MBI interview Alina Tang about coming into your own while you're on your own, discussing the transition from serial monogamy to the dating apps. We reflect on the challenge of balancing your partner with your own needs and interests, and ponder how to maintain the best version of yourself even while you're in a relationship. We end the episode with a game of red flag or dealbreaker that debates the very red flags that exes have helped us identify and avoid. To hear more of Alina's poignant ta...
How To Be Single
November 15, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 77.5 MBThis week on Interstates & Heartbreak I interview Alina Tang about coming into your own while you're on your own. Alina and I discuss transitioning from serial monogamy to the dating apps. We reflect on the challenge of balancing your partner with your own needs and interests, and ponder how to maintain the best version of yourself even while you're in a relationship. We end the episode with a game of red flag or dealbreaker that debates the very red flags that exes have helped us identify an...
Shooting Your Shot
November 08, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 89.9 MBThis week, Jonathan Hernandez and I commiserate about the inherent biases built into the online dating process, discussing how external factors like perceptions about race or height preferences can serve to limit your options on the app. Jonathan reveals the one fate worse than the friend zone, and shares his tactics for escaping. Finally, we dive into how to keep romance alive in spite of the difficulties of dating during quarantine. To hear Jonathan talk about pro NBA players shooting THEI...
21. Shooting Your Shot
November 08, 2020 08:01 - 1 hour - 89.9 MBThis week, Jonathan Hernandez and I commiserate about the inherent biases built into the online dating process, discussing how external factors like perceptions about race or height preferences can serve to limit your options on the app. Jonathan reveals the one fate worse than the friend zone, and shares his tactics for escaping. Finally, we dive into how to keep romance alive in spite of the difficulties of dating during quarantine. To hear Jonathan talk about pro NBA players shooting THEI...
20. Emily in Ottawa
November 01, 2020 10:02 - 1 hour - 76.7 MBThis week's episode features a young woman named Emily, who finds herself pursuing a career faraway from home, and highlights her journey and experiences dating men in the capital of a foreign country. Only this time, it's not Emily in Paris, it's Emily in Ottawa. She opens up quite candidly about living in a city with a population smaller than that of your high school, and the associated feeling that your dating life is public knowledge to everyone, even border patrol. We discuss the adjustm...
Emily in Ottawa
November 01, 2020 10:02 - 1 hour - 76.7 MBThis week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak features a young woman named Emily, who finds herself pursuing a career faraway from home, and highlights her journey and experiences dating men in the capital of a foreign country. Only this time, it's not Emily in Paris, it's Emily in Ottawa. She opens up quite candidly about living in a city with a population smaller than that of your high school, and the associated feeling that your dating life is public knowledge to everyone, even border pa...
19. Modern Matchmaking (w/Three Day Rule Founder Talia Goldstein)
October 25, 2020 07:01 - 52 minutes - 46.6 MBThis week I interview the founder of matchmaking company Three Day Rule, Talia Goldstein. We discuss how the dating game has evolved since the company's inception in 2013, and she reveals why her business has flourished in the face of both an upswing in dating apps and an unforeseen pandemic. We discuss how seemingly limitless options on the apps lead people to set impossibly high standards - like seeking out the wealthy, 6-foot tall businessman who represents a mere 1% of the male dating poo...
Modern Matchmaking (w/Three Day Rule Founder Talia Goldstein)
October 25, 2020 07:01 - 52 minutes - 46.6 MBThis week on Interstates & Heartbreak I interview the founder of matchmaking company Three Day Rule, Talia Goldstein. We discuss how the dating game has evolved since the company's inception in 2013, and she reveals why her business has flourished in the face of both an upswing in dating apps and an unforeseen pandemic. We discuss how seemingly limitless options on the apps lead people to set impossibly high standards - like seeking out the wealthy, 6-foot tall businessman who represents a me...
Beaus in Different Area Codes
October 18, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 72.8 MBIn this week's episode I interview long-term high school friend Amanda Gittleman. We reflect on how growing up in "America's Finest City" shaped our predisposition to hating Los Angeles, and how our opinions have changed after twelve years, days worth of traffic, and a handful of memorable celebrity encounters. Amanda shares what it was like to work one block off of Rodeo Drive, in a job that indirectly introduced her to Janice Dickinson, Bradley Cooper, and most importantly, her now-husband,...
18. Beaus in Different Area Codes
October 18, 2020 07:01 - 1 hour - 72.8 MBThis week I interview long-term high school friend Amanda Gittleman. We reflect on how growing up in "America's Finest City" shaped our predisposition to hating Los Angeles, and how our opinions have changed after twelve years, days worth of traffic, and a handful of memorable celebrity encounters. Amanda shares what it was like to work one block off of Rodeo Drive, in a job that indirectly introduced her to Janice Dickinson, Bradley Cooper, and most importantly, her now-husband, Davey Varell...