In The Trenches with the Toulons
91 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 4 years ago - ★★★★★ - 80 ratingsEvery week join Touly and Ralph as they jump into the trenches discussing the good, bad and humorous side of marriage & relationships. The couple also invite guests to discuss their personal journey pertaining to the weekly topic.
Touly and Ralph are newlyweds trying to make this their best and last marriage by pulling the veil back, exposing the other sides of marriage.
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EP89 - "Feelings over Red Flags"
March 16, 2020 04:49 - 50 minutes - 69.9 MBA red flag is when something indicates or draws attention to a problem, danger, or irregularity. A red flag also represents a warning signal or sign. When you see red flags in a relationship, what actions do you normally take? Have you ever been in a situation where you have seen red flags from your significant other, but decided to overlook them? Some of those red flags could be...controlling behavior...lack of communication...secretive past...lack of trust... I mean the list could go...
EP88 - "Not addressing the issues"
March 09, 2020 04:34 - 29 minutes - 41.1 MBSome issues are not easy to answer, nor are they easy to accept. While it may seem, at the time, like not addressing the issue is the best action, it is actually an abandonment of reason and honest inquiry. What if not addressing the issue has them show up in the form of something else?!?! In this episode, Ralph and Touly discuss situations in their marriage where they didn't address issues, but they still ended up showing up, just in a different format, creating more damage than origina...
EP87 - "The Catch Up"
March 02, 2020 06:31 - 47 minutes - 65.1 MBHello Family we are back from our breaking have so much to tell you!!! In this episode, the Toulons catch you up on everything that has been going on with them personally and in their marriage since Dec 2019. Shoutout to Amber and her Fiancé on their engagement. As well as Charlotte on her organization, "A Tribe Called Blessed". Check her out on ig @char.rochelle for more information on the organization.
EP86 - Marriage after Dalton
December 16, 2019 05:00 - 53 minutes - 73.2 MBThe death of a loved one can change your world forever. Grief is a natural reaction to loss; it can be felt emotionally, physically and spiritually. Everyone copes with loss differently, and you will process grief in your own individual way, in your own time. In this weeks episode, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Roni Lambrecht. Roni tells us the story of how her and her husband John loss their son in a ATV accident. She discusses what it took to help each other get through t...
EP85 - The Barber & The Wife Coach
December 09, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 95.9 MBA wife is a female partner in a continuing marital relationship. A married woman may indicate her marital status in a number of different, for instance, in western culture a married woman would commonly wear a wedding ring, but in other cultures other markers of marital status may be used. A married woman is commonly given the honorific title "Mrs", but some married women prefer to be referred to as "Ms", a title which is also used when the marital status of a woman is unknown. This w...
EP84 - The 28 Year Hump
December 02, 2019 05:00 - 50 minutes - 68.8 MBThis week, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Suzanne Bloom. Suzanne is a marriage vet with 28 yrs under her belt. She discusses how her & her husband keep it fresh in their marriage and how you not to resent him while being a stay-at-home wife/mom. Key Takeaways From This Episode Finding the best when being a stay-at-home wife Becoming a entrepreneur post stay-at-home career And how finances can turn a marriage upside down ------------------------------------------------...
EP83 - "29 Years and Counting"
November 25, 2019 05:00 - 40 minutes - 56.2 MBCounting is the process of determining the number of elements of a finite set of objects. The traditional way of counting consists of continually increasing a counter by a unit for every element of the set, in some order, while marking those elements to avoid visiting the same element more than once, until no unmarked elements are left. Counting is taking account of when reaching a total. In the episode, Ralph and Touly jump into The Trenches with, Life & Mindset Coach, Nancy Stevens. Nanc...
EP82 - "The Relationship Coach"
November 18, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 83 MBCoaching is a form of development in which an experienced person, called a coach, supports a learner or client in achieving a specific personal or professional goal by providing training and guidance. The learner is sometimes called a coachee. Occasionally, coaching may mean an informal relationship between two people, of whom one has more experience and expertise than the other and offers advice and guidance as the latter learns. This week, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Rel...
EP81 - "Divorced & Blended"
November 11, 2019 05:27 - 1 hour - 94.7 MBA blend is a mixture of two or more different things or substances; e.g., a product of a mixer or blender. But what about when you blend families, what does that look like? Blending families is quite the task and many struggle with finding that happy medium. In this episode, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Joel Hawbaker. Joel has quite the story as he has mastered blended families. He discusses things, such as having grace towards your ex and its okay to disagree as whole as long...
EP80 - "The Epitome of "
November 04, 2019 05:34 - 1 hour - 89.1 MBA 2016 study published in the Journal of Research in Personality found that people who felt a sense of purpose accumulated more wealth than those who feel as though their lives lack meaning. The researchers discovered that individuals with a sense of purpose have a higher income and a bigger net worth than those who feel as though their lives lack meaning. Even when they controlled for known factors that predict financial success--like demographics and personality--they found a sense of...
EP79 - "Building Wealth with Freeman Capital"
October 28, 2019 05:15 - 1 hour - 87.4 MBWealth is the abundance of valuable financial assets or physical possessions which can be converted into a form that can be used for transactions. In today's society, if you possess a substantial net worth you are considered wealthy. Net worth is defined as the current value of one's assets. So what does it take to be wealthy or have a substantial net worth? Why does the African American community struggle more than other communities? According to The Road to Zero Wealth report publi...
SEX THERAPY with The Dope Sex Therapist Stephanie
October 24, 2019 04:00 - 37 minutes - 52.1 MBThe Toulons pulling back the veil on another top reason for why people are getting divorce or breaking up, and that reason is sex. Yes SEX! Jumping into the Trenches with the Toulons is friend to the podcast, Dope Sex Therapist Stephanie Walthour. She discusses Low Sexual Desires, Frequency, Erectile dysfunction, and Sex “ Addiction”. Sex Therapy allows couples to communicate about sex with each other without being judged or fear that things will not be handle fairly. Key ...
EP78 - "Through Sickness" Guest Starring Artisha "Tee" Bolding
October 21, 2019 05:31 - 59 minutes - 81.7 MBA near-death experience (NDE) is a personal experience associated with death or impending death. These experiences are associated with changes in personality and outlook on life. Dr. Kenneth Ring (Professor of Psychology), during his studies, identified a consistent set of value and belief changes associated with people who have had a near-death experience. Among these changes, he found that individuals have a greater appreciation for life, higher self-esteem, greater compassion for others, ...
EP77 - "Alice in Fairytale" TRENCH LETTER
October 14, 2019 13:24 - 1 hour - 85.4 MBWe were brought up believing in fairy tales where Prince Charming comes in to sweep the heroine off her feet, whisking her away to be married. Growing up we would imitate playing husband & wife, with children, a dog, and a white picket fence. For women, some were probably told that they needed a man to complete them. Unfortunately, real life isn't a fairy tale, but many women don't know that until they begin dating. This week in the Trenches, Ralph and Touly welcome a guest who doesn't want ...
EP76 - "Pieces of Me" ft Author Davisha Fredericks
October 07, 2019 06:04 - 53 minutes - 73.1 MB**AUDIO DISCLAIMER** although this isn't our normal audio quality, we still believe this is a story that the world should hear. Our apologies in advance. As this is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we wanted to provide the Trench Mob with a story based around that very topic. This week in The Trenches, Ralph and Touly welcome guest, Davisha Fredericks. Through her personal story of growth and triumph, listeners will gain an inside glance at not only how Davisha endured the abuse, but als...
EP75 - "One More Sign, God"
October 01, 2019 19:00 - 1 hour - 98.8 MBhis week in the Trenches we have Mrs. Kenyana Yates, the Deaconess herself. Kenyana discusses how not listening to God will force you to learn the hard way. She talks about how some of her judgement in her first marriage was clouded by her tenacious mentality & fear of failure. She then takes us on the journey from being a divorced, single mother to becoming a wife for a second time. Key points from this episode: - Pay attention to the red flags - Be true to who you are as a person...
**Bonus Ep** Humphreys at PM19
September 30, 2019 04:00 - 26 minutes - 37 MBWhat's up Trench Mob! This Monday we bring to you a Trenches BONUS episode that was recorded during Podcast Movement Orlando back in August. We had the pleasure of meeting this amazing couple from Houston, Sharita & Quincy Humphrey. Within 5 minutes of conversing with Sharita and Quincy, we instantly knew we wanted them in the Trenches with us. We were able to record, and although it was shorter than our normal episodes, it provided the same impact. Key points from Episode Twitter is ...
EP74 - "Dolo Dates For Starters"
September 23, 2019 04:00 - 53 minutes - 73.9 MBJumping into the Trenches this week is expert Dolo Dater and Creator of the "For Starters" App, Jennifer Smith. Network Jenn, as she is known on Instagram, discusses the reason behind why she created the app in the first place. Jennifer also talks about why people struggle to date these days and what does it mean to dolo date. Jennifer brought up the fact that individuals need take the time to enjoy being single. She also mentioned being intentional about improving herself and what her ...
EP73 - "Are you whole?" ft. Cherie Denise
September 16, 2019 04:00 - 54 minutes - 74.9 MBJumping into the Trenches with The Toulons this week is a special guest by the name of Cherie Denise. Cherie is an author, life coach, and motivational speaker, currently residing in Atlanta,GA. Cherie discusses being whole, common issues within relationships, and how communication is still the #1 way to create a connection when it comes to relationships. Cherie's also discusses her first book, titled, "Treasures Revealed: Insight on Communication & Relationships." She carefully illustrate...
EP72 - "Doc n da Trenches" ft Dr. Kendell Jasper
September 09, 2019 04:00 - 1 hour - 94.6 MBOn this week's episode, The Toulons welcome Dr. Kendell Jasper from Doc n da Dude into the Trenches. Dr. Jasper has been a featured guest on The Breakfast Club radio show and Sway's Universe Youtube Channel. Dr. Jasper was not able to join us with his lovely wife, but he still took us through some of their love journey. Dr. jasper discusses infidelity, growing in communication, being 90% transparent, and being your unapologetic self. Finally, Dr. Jasper wrapped it up with some really good, ...
EP71 - "Sucka for Love" ft Fred Whit
September 02, 2019 04:00 - 53 minutes - 72.9 MBOn this episode of In the Trenches with the Toulons, the Toulons welcome a very special guest. This gentlemen is King Sucka of SFL Club (Suckas for Love). On this episode you will hear him discuss his journey of heart break, breaking hearts, growing from mistakes, and his expectations now that he knows what he needs.
EP70 - "Our 2nd Yr Wedding Anniversary"
August 26, 2019 04:00 - 48 minutes - 67.2 MBHappy Anniversary to US!! The Toulons made it to their 2 Year Anniversary and discuss the journey of getting here. The Good,Bad, ugly cry, progress and growth all revealed in this episode. DISCLAIMER: I hereby declare that I do not own the rights to this music/song "Is this love". All rights belong to the owner. No Copyright Infringement Intended.
EP69- "Change Came" Update Episode
August 19, 2019 04:00 - 47 minutes - 64.9 MBThe Toulons have a returning guess back in the Trenches. Trench Mob Member, "Dee" from episode 51 "Change Gone Come". Dee returns to give us an update on what happened and how things are going now. Don't forget to tell a friend, Subscribe, rate and comment!!!!
EP68 - "Traffic Jam"
August 12, 2019 06:34 - 41 minutes - 57.6 MBTrench Topic this week was relationship traffic jams. That recurring issue that keeps coming up in your relationship can cause the end to your relationship if not corrected. The Toulons talk about a traffic jam they have had for a while in their marriage.
EP67 - "Back seat"
August 05, 2019 04:00 - 48 minutes - 67.2 MBTrench Topic this week, the Toulons discuss the impact of losing your children at the hands of your spouse. Topic was taken from the New York father, who forgot about his 1 year old twins in the back seat of the car for 8 hours.
EP66 - "The Kiss heard around the world"
July 29, 2019 04:57 - 50 minutes - 69.4 MBThe Toulons discuss this weeks Trench Topic of the recent scandal of Lela Rochon, Antoine Fuqua, and Nicole Murphy. People via the internet are stating that Antoine is justified in cheating because Lela has gained a lot of weight. Should this be a reason to cheat? Also we Celebrate Ralph's Birthday!!!!
EP65 - "On one accord"
July 22, 2019 07:56 - 46 minutes - 63.4 MBBeing one with your spouse doesn't mean you will always be on one accord. The Toulons express the wonderful feeling of being on one accord has been now for their marriage and some of the tougher situations when they weren't.
EP64 - "Marriage is meant for growth, not happiness"
July 15, 2019 04:00 - 51 minutes - 70.5 MBTrench Topic came from the article, "Marriage Is Not Meant to Make You Happy, Its Meant To Make You Conscious" by Brianna Wiest. Hopefully this gave you a different view on marriage and what it could really do for an individual, not just the couple. Paternity Ward will drop 7/17 (Touly's BIRTHDAY) after approval from the proper authorities, lol
EP63 - "Family Matters"
July 08, 2019 14:45 - 1 hour - 91.3 MBHello Trench Family!!! This week we are trying out a new format for the show. TRENCH TOPICs...and this week is our relationships with in-laws. How would you handle not having the good relationship with your spouse family or a member of their family? Great podcast to add: "Where Did I Park?" by CP. CP is unloading some things off his brain that can be sad, funny, and interesting. Check him out! We have been enjoying every episode and had to share. Also look out for "Paternity Ward" Podcas...
EP62 - "Fighting Temptations"
July 01, 2019 04:00 - 43 minutes - 60.4 MBThis weeks episode, we discuss temptation and how we have dealt with it currently and in the past. The lessons we have learned and why fallen to temptation isn't even an options in our marriage.
EP61 - "Expectation vs Reality"
June 24, 2019 03:13 - 1 hour - 103 MBWelcome back to the Trenches, this week the Toulons cup is runth over. They look at what their expectations were previous in dating/relationship & marriage to what they really got in reality. Also they check in to what some of their challenges, breakthroughs and in-progress situations they had this week. Lastly, update the Trench Mob on how becoming DEBT Free is coming. www.daveramsy.com for any of the information on the baby steps/debt free path spoke about in this episode.
EP60 - "Happy Father's Day!!"
June 17, 2019 04:00 - 47 minutes - 64.9 MBHappy Father's Day to all the Fathers out there from the Trenches. This episode, Touly takes us on the journey on how it has been for him as a father. The transformations he made and had to make. Look out for Touly's new podcast with a couple of his, DAD FRIENDS....Paternity Ward, parenting view point from the black dad.
EP59- "The Step Family"
June 10, 2019 04:00 - 55 minutes - 75.7 MBThis episode the Toulons address the "Step-parent" relationship that are currently trying to develop and they have experienced. JT & Ralph also reveal more of the Challenges, Break-throughs and In-progress this week.
EP58 - "Walking in your spouse shoes"
June 03, 2019 04:00 - 53 minutes - 73.2 MBIn the Trenches this week, JT expresses how he is doing in his new role in the family. How the impact of changing roles has been on him, the children and Ralph.Continue the journey with the Toulons each week just to see the growth in them and in the marriage.
EP57 - "Challenges, Break thrus and in Progress"
May 28, 2019 18:05 - 51 minutes - 70.6 MBThe Toulons are spilling it all talking about some of the hurdles they have been going through. This week there were no setbacks but they wanted to talk about some of the Challenges they faces, break throughs and things they still need to work on.
EP56 - "Everyone is Insecure"
May 28, 2019 17:04 - 44 minutes - 61.6 MBFinally we are back!!! Hope you missed us as much as we missed you :). This episode from the trenches was brought to you by social media. Social media went crazy after Ayesha Curry confessed to being insecure about no one in the DMs and we wanted to touch on that. Revealing insecure to each other and our TrenchMob through laughter.
EP55 - "Mothers do it ALL!"
May 13, 2019 06:01 - 36 minutes - 50.3 MBThis short little visit to the Trenches this week, we celebrate Mothers Day by going through a list of things that Mothers may deal with. Please remember to tell a friend and Subscribe, Rate and Comment. Always, thank you for your support..and Until next time
EP54 - "Grace..enough or not enough"
May 06, 2019 04:25 - 52 minutes - 71.7 MBJump into the Trenches with us this week as we discuss Grace in the car through the rain going back to Atlanta. Having too much of it, not having enough and the impact of either on a relationship/marriage. Congrats to Mr. & Mrs. Skinner who jumped the broom on 5/4...We welcome you to the Trenches!!! Don't forget to spread the word and tell your friend, family and enemies :) Subscribe, Rate and Comment.
Ep53 - "Im Okay"
April 29, 2019 04:42 - 1 hour - 88.7 MBIn the Trenches we welcome the Total Package Alpha Female, Author Chanel Tucker. Chanel jumps into the trenches to talk about her new book, "I'm Okay" a millennial journey of frustrations, generational blessings and the reality of understanding fate. As well, Chanel discuss her personal dating journey as an alpha female. Chanel personal ig - @chaneltu book info - "Im Okay" www.yeahimokaybook.com Book ig - @imokay_chanel Join us every Monday for the newest episode. Subscribe, Rate a...
EP52 - "Happy Birthday Trench Podcast"
April 22, 2019 04:00 - 1 hour - 83.1 MBOur baby is turning 1 this week!!!!!! The Toulons talk about the journey of starting a podcast and what they have learned from the guest on the show. Hit us up with what you have taken away from the podcast and maybe what you would like to see in going into the next year of our journey. Dont forget to tell a friend to join the Trench Mob, Subscribe, Rate and Comment.
EP51 - "A Change gon come"
April 15, 2019 06:53 - 1 hour - 118 MBThis week have another first, Dee is a married but telling his journey solo because he is currently go through a divorce. Dee is hurting and hoping that his current situation will help someone before its too late. Taking us through two marriages, the hurdles of the current marriage, stress of the load of life taking him to a low place, turning it all to God, and how going to counseling may help him save his marriage.....to be continued. Please check out Dee professionally on instagram at @...
EP50 - "Boys in the same circle"
April 08, 2019 13:16 - 1 hour - 122 MBFor our 50th episode, we celebrate with my messy web of mess..lol In the Trenches this week, Ralph takes us on a very messy journey of what she went through before meeting Touly and a little after meeting Touly. From the drama of long distance lovers, cheating, small franks, and more. How this tiring journey brought her to the alter of asking God to not send anyone else her way unless they were for her...Enters Touly..lol If you like what you heard today, tell a friend. Subscribe, Rate...
EP49 - "Be true to yourself"
April 01, 2019 04:00 - 1 hour - 92.1 MBAlready in the Trenches, Touly gives his testimony of his life before Ralph. Touly take us on the journey of how trying to do the right thing can go so wrong. How not staying true to yourself, listening to loved one, and taking time for yourself can end very badly for all parties involved. Touly tells of the lessons he has learned and in hopes that hearings his story, you too will not go down the same path he did. if you aren't already, follow us on @inthetrenchespodcast on IG
EP48 - "The party over?" Part 2
March 25, 2019 04:00 - 38 minutes - 53.3 MBThe episodes comes to an end with Ralph telling us how at the end of it all, he wouldn't change anything if he had to do it over again. That anyone in his position, wanting to get married but its been a long road, get to really know self. You may feel like damaged good, but the dented cans get bought too. Don't focus on being damaged, but being better. Hope you enjoyed this episode, please share, rate, subscribe and comment. We love hearing from you all, so connect via all our platform...
EP47 - "The party over?" Part 1
March 18, 2019 10:27 - 1 hour - 97 MBJumping into the Trenches with the Toulons is special guest and father, Ralph. Yes big Ralph, lol. Part 1 of this episode, Big Ralph talks about what it was like dating while being a basketball player, musician, and dj, outlook on dating then and the start of having children. Stay tuned to see if the party is really over in part 2
EP46 - "Its okay to be manfident & have the wifementor"
March 11, 2019 05:31 - 1 hour - 89.1 MBJumping into the Trenches with the Toulons this week is married therapists, Dr. Jameson Mercier and Herdyne Mercier. Together 15years and married 12, these two are making it a point to help you grow. You will hear their journey to the jumping the broom, starting Mercier Wellness and Consulting, and their branding. You can find them at: Podcast - The Couples Counsel on all podcast platforms website -http://mercierwellness.com facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DrJamesonMercier You...
EP45 - "Beautiful & Broken....until"
March 05, 2019 05:14 - 52 minutes - 72.3 MBThis episode, we have another author joining us in the trenches by the name of Sean L Brereton. Sean is a christian author that writes about relationships, dating, and preparing yourself for marriage. His background makes him an ideal person to have in the trenches. Sean talks to us about how one really bad break up lead him to write one of his books. He discusses how he began backsliding when it came to courting. He also explains how he recovered from that situation in order to prepare for ...
EP44 - "3 Grown women & a story to tell"
February 25, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 98.2 MBThe Toulons welcome Jamie, Ashley and Olivia into the Trenches with them this week. The three women kept it real and didn't hold anything back. The ladies gave their perspective on growth from past relationships, views on marriage and of course sex. If you like this episode, please share and subscribe to the show on all podcast platforms.
EP43- "Her pleasure..with or without you"
February 18, 2019 05:00 - 41 minutes - 57.2 MBJumping into the trenches with the Toulons this week with the owner of "HerPleasure" Shop, an online sex toy line, Mrs. Iyana M. Mrs. Iyana is letting the men and especially the women know that its okay to brings toys into the bedroom. She enlightens us on some of the sex toys in her line, good ways to approach bringing toys into the bedroom and also shares her personal experiences with sex toys. Married or single, at the end of the day, you need to be satisfied! If you aren't comfortable te...
EP42 - "Hold the shackles..more poly please!"
February 11, 2019 04:24 - 48 minutes - 65.9 MBIn this episode, the Toulons have Kenya and Carl Stevens of JuJu Mama, LLC joining them. The Stevens shared their journey going from monogamy, to poly, to open-relating. They discuss how they have built an empire on helping other couples get what they really want out of their relationships. This power couple may have you second guessing if the shackles of monogamy is really for you. Please check them and their love academy out: jla.jujumama.com facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kenya....