In The Trenches with the Toulons
91 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 4 years ago - ★★★★★ - 80 ratingsEvery week join Touly and Ralph as they jump into the trenches discussing the good, bad and humorous side of marriage & relationships. The couple also invite guests to discuss their personal journey pertaining to the weekly topic.
Touly and Ralph are newlyweds trying to make this their best and last marriage by pulling the veil back, exposing the other sides of marriage.
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EP41 - "Music Love Jones" with Suzann Christine
February 04, 2019 14:58 - 52 minutes - 72 MBJumping into the Trenches with the Toulons this week is recording artist, Suzann Christine. Suzann takes us on a journey to what dating has been like in the industry for her, love lessons, breaking ties to heal and leaves us with a little advice for our single friends who feel it should be them NOW!! Please check out and support Suzann Christine newest single, "Fallen Tears". Snippets of the song were played in this episode but you can listen to the full length on Apple Music, Spotify, Sti...
EP40 - "Radical Honesty" with Jerry_The3rd
January 28, 2019 05:00 - 54 minutes - 75.4 MBThis episode we have fellow podcaster, Jerry Thompson jumping into the Trenches with us. Jerry shares communication, ambition, and a little dominance can take you a long way in his book. We even get a little dirty and find out the best place he has ever had sex. Check Jerry and his podcast out: IG @Jerry_the3rd Podcast IG @pointnoirshow ---->Every Tuesday and podcast platforms iTunes, Stitcher, GooglePlay, & Spotify.
EP39 - "Petty @ 1:37am might work"
January 21, 2019 05:00 - 1 hour - 97.6 MBWe continue with "Men speak out Mondays" with Stan and Tee. We get down and dirty in the Trenches about what men think and want from females. You can check these guys out here! Tee - @TechnicallyTee on YouTube, IG and Twitter Stan - www.gobloom.com and @Stangotdamn on IG
EP38 - "She cant handle the TRUTH" with Ariston Teleo
January 14, 2019 14:09 - 1 hour - 110 MBThe Toulons sit down with Author, Ariston Teleo to discuss his book "SHE CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH....But its all I can give. The questions women wanted answered and Im not holding back". The Toulons went into deep discuss on some chapters in the book to pick Ariston's brain to get more explanation on why the chapter and reasoning for what he said. You can connect with Ariston here: @KC_Aaron32 on instagram www.artisonteleo.com Book:https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alia...
EP37 - "New year, new relationship??"
January 07, 2019 05:55 - 1 hour - 86.7 MBHappy New Year to everyone!!! Starting off 2019, The Toulons took a topic from an article, where Nikki Marinis talked about "healthy relationships" for the new year. In this conversation, the Toulons realize that still focusing on what you can change is#1 and communication. Enjoy and don't forget to subscribe if haven't already. Check us out @socialbutterflyphotobooth on ig
EP36 - "The boy, the man and the family man" Pt3
December 24, 2018 05:23 - 34 minutes - 47.1 MBIn the final episode with Evan, he rehashed how the divorce with his 2nd wife got ugly, petty, and how going back to jail was starting to look good again. Evan admits that in all his truths he isn't pointing the finger at any one person, because he too has played much of a part in the downfall of his marriages. Evan hopes that people will learn how to ask the right questions before getting married, in hopes to have the potential person reveal them true selves. Everyone be safe during this ...
EP35 - "The boy, the man, and the family man" Pt. 2
December 17, 2018 05:00 - 1 hour - 91.7 MBEvan continues his journey in the trenches, as he tells us how the first marriage comes to an end. Evan is no longer the boy trying to figure it all out, become a man and be the family man. Evan is now the man and the family man but no longer in a marriage where he felt he had to be. Please remember to subscribe, rate, and comment. Follow us on instagram @inthetrenchespodcast
EP34 - "The boy, the man and the family man" Part 1
December 11, 2018 12:25 - 54 minutes - 74.3 MBJoin us on this three episode journey as we sit down with Evan, Touly's father. Evan gives his side of what it was like transitioning roles quickly in his personal life and career. The impact of the first and second marriage on him and what it is to date now. Hope you enjoy this episode, please tell a friend and subscribe - to never miss an opportunity to jump into the trenches with the Toulo
EP33 - "Man Feelings"
December 03, 2018 05:49 - 53 minutes - 74.1 MBThis episode, Touly talks about how NOT talking about personal issues causes MORE problems than none. Why he didn't want to share his personal feelings with Ralph, things taught growing up as to how men operate, and incorporating what he knows now into his marriage. Please share if you like what you hear, subscribe, rate and comments. We welcome all feedback, so hit us up at [email protected]
EP32 - "Naked Bedtime & Sex for money"
November 26, 2018 05:00 - 50 minutes - 69.2 MBThe Toulons discuss the results of sleeping naked and thoughts on men being the sole spender. What is too much, going to far and being ungrateful when it comes to the man paying for everything in "dating". Thank you for @i_am_jperry on instagram for the video, it really did work!! Subscribe, Rate and Comment!!
EP31 - "Giving Thanks"
November 19, 2018 05:00 - 1 hour - 82.7 MBThis turkey inspired episode, the Toulons give thanks for each other and play 21 Questions. Please Trench Family be safe this holiday with traveling and fellowshiping. Have a Happy Thanksgiving and let us all pray that this year, for me, the xmas music will not start on November 23rd. Subscribe if you haven't, unless you want your 2019 to be terrible. Like any of the episodes? Or if you just love us, please comment and rate.
EP30 - "A Self Aware Marriage"
November 13, 2018 05:00 - 1 hour - 86.4 MBJumping into the Trenches this episode is married couple, Marissa and Gerard. Married for 14 years, these two show that being more self aware and in tuned to your partner can make for a happily ever after. We discuss making yourself happy, putting yourself before the kids, as well as knowing what battles to fight. Please check out Gerard's podcast - "The Board Meeting" http://www.themakingsofaman.com/category/podcast/ Books Mentioned this episode: 1.The Making of a Man by Jabari Pri...
EP29 - "Be your Color & have fun"
November 05, 2018 05:46 - 1 hour - 92.7 MBThe Toulons welcome Marcel to the trenches this week and Marcel takes them on the journey of being a young, single black Queer man in DC. In this episode you will hear us talk about not catching feelings for the unstable, new generation mental disorders, racism in the community, and some advice for other singles. Look out for Marcel's podcast coming this February, "Colored Pages Book Club"
EP28 - "Just try it out...9 to 930" (Therapist Stephanie)
October 29, 2018 04:00 - 1 hour - 96 MBThis week, the Toulons sit down with Therapist Stephanie D Walthour. Stephanie is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, as well as a certified Sex Therapist. In this episode we discuss what therapy is and why its beneficial to go. In addition, reasons why a person would need a sex therapist and being a partner & not a parent to your spouse. You can contact Stephanie at www.intimacycenterga.com, @imtimacytherapyga on instagram and facebook. Mentioned in this episode: Love on Top - Marri...
EP27 - "Don't hold that sh*t in!!"
October 22, 2018 04:00 - 1 hour - 87.5 MBIn this episode, the Toulons discuss expressing themselves within their marriage, showing where improvements can & have been made. They encourage everyone to express themselves, regardless of what the outcome may be. -Feedback is welcomed -Don't forget to submit for single of the week -Subscribe if you haven't already, rate comment and tell a friend.
EP26 - "Two mommies and a homemade baby"
October 15, 2018 04:00 - 1 hour - 94.1 MBAre we just having sex or are we going to be in a relationship?? Jumping into the Trenches this week, Nyesha and Samantha took us on the journey of how this conversation went, and what happened afterwards. From moving in after 5months, seizures, family rejection, conceiving a baby, seeing the light and starting their own podcast. Hey Trench Nation!! If you enjoyed this episode, please tell a friend. Also don't forget to subscribe, rate and comment.
*Bonus* In the Trenches at the Nicholas House
October 08, 2018 06:26 - 34 minutes - 47.7 MBBonus episode just to give an update how our experience went with the "Sleep out 4 a night in support of homeless families" event went. The Nicholas House in Atlanta, Ga every years does a fundraiser and Sleep out for one night to raise funds. All of it is in support of getting and keeping families from being homeless. This started out, just a volunteer event, but it turned out to be so much more to us. Thank you again to everyone who Donated and help us exceed our goal. Love you all Trench ...
EP25 - "I aint..He, She, Them!"
October 08, 2018 06:08 - 1 hour - 91.1 MBTHE BIG 2...5!!! We getting grown, lol. In this episode the Toulons touch on a subject that will kill any relationship because no good can come from it, COMPARING. We all have done it, and if you haven't, DONT! The Toulons discussed comparing sexually, emotionally, and environmentally. At the end of the day, be happy with who and what you have, and if you aren't, work on it until you are. Don't think the grass is greener because of what you see, because you don't know what happens behind clo...
EP24 - "Just F*&#ing Chill"
October 01, 2018 09:29 - 1 hour - 91 MBIn this very fun episode, The Toulons sit with Justin & Gin and listen to how its been smooth sailing since day 1. From Justin being the hilarious asshole to Gina being sweet as pie, you can see how the two balance each other and make it all work. "You just gotta f*ing chill man", as Justin stated. Some advise the couple gave, was to be friends, don't take everything so serious and just take it one day at a time. Hope you enjoyed this episode. Don't forget to tell a friend, subscribe, rat...
EP23 - "Blame the parents"
September 24, 2018 04:00 - 1 hour - 87.8 MBIn this episode, Touly & Ralph discuss what their parents may have inadvertently taught them about stress, spending and communicating. The couple talk about how these factors has manifest themself in their lives and the impact. Enjoyed the episode??? Please tell a friend, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate and comment. You can listen every Monday and any of the podcast platforms.
EP22 - "Look in the Mirror & Prepare"
September 17, 2018 04:00 - 44 minutes - 60.9 MBJaired & Britney jumped into the trenches with the Toulons all the way from the D, Detroit that is. This young couple celebrated the eve of their 3 year anniversary telling us why self reflection, individual therapy and putting in the work has them coasting through marriage right now. The couple provided two books that they read in preparation for a successful relationship/marriage, "Things I'd Wish I'd known Before We Got Married" and "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. If you enjoyed...
EP21 - "Change of Plans"
September 10, 2018 05:05 - 1 hour - 93.2 MBIn this episode, Jean & Fatimah take us on their journey from playing hard to get to, married with children and having a better relationship with God. Jean & Fatimah are another example of, it not starting perfect, but how it works out perfectly. If you are new to the Trenches, please Subscribe, Rate and Comment. If you are coming back to jump into the Trenches with us each week, if you liked this episode please tell a friend. :)
EP20- "Save the Date or Nah" Part 1
September 03, 2018 23:46 - 45 minutes - 63.3 MBIn Part 1 of this Episode, "Save the Date or Nah" the Toulons discuss with two singles why neither of them see the need for Marriage to be the "Happily Ever After." Hazel & E Rob believe they have it all and don't see how a piece of paper is going change that with the right person. Books Mentioned in this episode: "Getting the love you want" by Harville Hendrix "Crucial Conversations" by Joseph Grenny, Al Switzler, Ron McMillan
EP19 -"We still together"
August 27, 2018 10:23 - 55 minutes - 76.6 MBAnniversary Episode, the day we've all been waiting for! In this episode, Touly and Ralph will discuss the highlights of their first year of marriage. Although marriage and relationships are work, there is a lot of good that comes from that work.
EP18 - "Social Media & Rambling Kills"
August 20, 2018 04:00 - 59 minutes - 81.9 MBIn this session of In the Trenches with the Toulons, we chat about how Social Media is Killing Relationships. The Toulons Topic this episode come by an article from Elite Daily, "How Social Media is Killing Relationships and Making Our Breakups Even Worse" By Jen Soule. In this article Jen mentions eight reasons, you should lay off the social media if you don't want to ruin your relationship and suffer a breakup that's even worse than it should be. 1.ITS DISTRACTING US FROM ACTUALLY SPEN...
EP17 - "10 Lessons in the 1st year"
August 13, 2018 04:00 - 1 hour - 89.1 MBThey are back!!!! Ralph and Touly in this episode relate their first year of marriage to the article, "10 Lessons from the first year of marriage, by Matt Paolelli". You will hear Touly attempting to throw his lovely wife under the bus but that same bus ends up being for him. The couple talk about how laughter has been the best medicine for them and the growth in themselves individually to be the best spouse to their partner. Its still not perfect, there is even more work that needs to be do...
EP16 - "Its HIM, not her!"
August 06, 2018 04:00 - 1 hour - 101 MBJumping into the Trenches this week with the Toulons, is Curtis and Danielle. This married couple of 9 years takes us on their journey in truly showing the growth of a relationship and the marriage. Curtis and Danielle admit to both being dangerously childish from throwing knives, moving furniture, damaging each other belongings and having your children put the mirror up to show you who you really are. The couple touch on why they don't suggest people getting married before 30, getting to kn...
EP14 - "When it rains, put on your cap"-Part 2
July 23, 2018 04:00 - 55 minutes - 76.8 MBChris and Steph journey continues with the hurdles that they over come in their 8 year marriage. Chris and Steph express team work it takes to work through the tough times and shine like nothing ever happened. Chris said it best, "If you see us doing something good, then there were hurdles that were overcome". Hope their story helps someone wanting to be married, engaged or already married going through the storm. Thank you jumping into the trenches with us each week!! Remember to Subscribe,...
EP13 - "When it rains, put on your cape"-Part 1
July 16, 2018 04:00 - 47 minutes - 65.2 MBChris and Steph in part 1 jump into the trenches with us, sharing their rocky journey in the first year of marriage. Expressing how everything that may look perfect, may at one time geared the heavy storms before the rainbow. Chris and Steph take us through the engagement, wedding day DIY lip fillers, honeymoon insurance, house but not our home and miscarriages. Please remember to Subscribe, Rate and Comment. Tell a friend, family member, or co-worker to jump into the trenches with us each w...
EP12 - "27 YRS OF SLAVE"
July 09, 2018 04:58 - 1 hour - 97.3 MBDonna and Rolando jump into the Trenches with JT & Ralph this week. The couple go through the journey of being together for 27 years from high school, college, fraternity, jobs and children. This couple, again shows you that marriage isn't all ice cream and cake but it can be. Again, The Toulons do not condone domestic violence.
EP11 - "In the Key of D"
July 02, 2018 04:00 - 1 hour - 88.9 MBOn this episode David and Charisse jump into the trenches with the toulons reliving how they met, hitting rock bottom and coming back even stronger. Sometimes its not about the soundtrack to your life but about who is playing the piano. They really showed that having a grounded foundation can bring you back from the darkest places standing like nothing ever happened.
EP10 - "Waterboard by Spit"
June 25, 2018 04:00 - 50 minutes - 69.4 MBSean and Tonya joined JT and Ralph in the trenches this episode. Sean and Tonya rehash their journey from beginning until now for the Toulons. From talking about blending families, what almost got Sean choked out and what is the glue that keeps them together. These are real accounts of our guest lives and we respect and appreciate the transparency. Outside of the laughter and comedy, respecting each other space and body. The Toulons do not condone domestic violence and if you feel that you ma...
EP09 - "Sex on Tuesday"
June 18, 2018 05:43 - 48 minutes - 67.6 MBJT and Ralph take on questions about sex & intimacy. Keeping your spouse interested along with balancing the children and/or work. Scheduling sex..genuine or repetition? More rambling and Ralph mic issue, sorry guys :) Subscribe, Rate, Comment and check us out at www.inthetrenchespodcast.com
Ep08 - "The Single & The Taken"
June 11, 2018 05:50 - 40 minutes - 55.4 MBIn this short but sweet episode 2 guest, Vee & Quita jump into the trenches with the Toulons. Discussions about being okay with the single life while waiting for the right one and being in a relationship waiting on the ring. Subscribe, Rate, Comment! Check us out on facebook, instagram, twitter
Ep07 - "Been there done that"
June 04, 2018 00:00 - 54 minutes - 74.8 MBThe couple discussed what it was like for JT to get married again and for Ralph to embark on this new journey with someone who has made the leap before. Subscribe, Rate, Comment and download to stay in the trenches each with new episodes. Follow us on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and website at www.inthetrenchespodcast.com
Ep06 - "Pinesol Petty"
May 28, 2018 19:42 - 53 minutes - 73.7 MBTouly makes a decision that he regrets, Ralph has to defend her petty once again, Letter from the Trenches and seeing the growth. Subscribe, Rate, Comment! Check us out on facebook, instagram, twitter and at www.inthetrenchespodcast.com
Ep05 - "Question, Answers & Letters"
May 21, 2018 03:21 - 52 minutes - 73.1 MBJT and Ralph answer what supposed to be "difficult" questions and their answers may not be the "norm". The couple also answer their first letter from the Trenches. Please subscribe, rate and comment. Tell a friend and stay connect via, www.inthetrenchespodcast.com, Facebook, Instagram and twitter.
Ep04 - "Its Real Lite"
May 13, 2018 00:00 - 1 hour - 109 MBTouly and Ralph sit down with another guest going through the journey of having too much quantity to just wanting some quality. Exploring what is on the checklist of "future wife" wants, & how to check yaself to receive positive vibes on what you put out.
Ep03 - "Meeting at Target"
May 07, 2018 11:54 - 45 minutes - 62.3 MBIn this episode, JT and Ralph do more rambling about the first stages of dating for them. The introduction to family and friends, and how that steps could mean different things. Also opposite sex friends and how the two handled this difficult conversation for most. Thank you for all the support, please continue to listen, subscribe and rate. www.inthetrenchespodcast.com
Ep02 - "Gods Plan"
April 28, 2018 00:00 - 49 minutes - 22.9 MBEpisode2 - The Toulons welcome their first guest, Harmon. They discuss the option of being "exclusive" or "official" and talk about Harmon being EMOTIONAL UNAVAILBLE. Please subscribe, rate, and comment. Thank you to everyone for all your support. Please go to our website, www.inthetrenchespodcast.com on our contact/submission page to be a guest or a suggest topics.
Ep01 - "The Hazing"
April 27, 2018 00:00 - 1 hour - 36.1 MBIn this episode JT and Ralph rehash their relationship from beginning to now, to show that all relationships dont start off like the fairytale you may expect. Every Monday to Jump into the Trenches. Please Subscribe, Comment and Rate