EPISODE 142: Understanding The Trauma Triangle Within Your Relationships

In the intricate dance of relationships, understanding the dynamics at play is crucial for fostering healthy connections. One such concept that sheds light on the complexities within relationships is the Trauma Triangle. This model illuminates the roles individuals may unconsciously adopt in response to trauma, leading to cyclical patterns of conflict and dysfunction. In this episode, Joel and Emily unravel the intricate interplay of victimhood, rescuing, and persecution, shedding light on how these roles can subtly shape our interactions. Whether you're navigating romantic partnerships, friendships, or familial connections, this episode offers valuable tools for fostering healthier and more authentic relationships. 

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Show notes:

01:02 - Introduction about making a decision or choice on things we can and cannot control

03:50 - Defining the Trauma Triangle

06:05 - Characteristics of Each Role in Trauma Triangle

07:44 - The Victim

08:34 - The Rescuer

11:10 - The Persecutor

15:43 - Downside of constantly being a Rescuer

having no boundaries

20:40 - Breaking free from these Triangle Trauma

Negations and Affirmation

23:00 - Switching from being a Rescuer to a Coach

26:17 - Setting Boundaries in each role

importance of communication

start acting to be more in life with yourself 

29:35 - Tools to break-free from the Trauma Triangle 

recognizing where you fall in the role

creating some space

embracing the uncomfortable

34:32 - Upregulating yourself by writing things out

education & integration

41:36 - Emily’s stand on setting boundaries and why is it important

cultivating healthy relationships

49:55 - The importance of communication to break-free from Trauma Triangle

staying curious

assessing yourself

55:41 - Most important takeaway of Trauma Triangle

having a fallback 

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Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/show/21GEz9MRdgD04mQy5BIiRT?si=7a8339ec94634e6b

Apple:

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/episode-50-the-supplements-you-should-take/id1512646984?i=1000542263359

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