Highly Sensitive, Happily Married
171 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 days ago - ★★★★★ - 55 ratingsMarriage Coach and HSP Love Expert Hannah Brooks teaches sensitive women how to not only have an easier marriage but to have a marriage where love, understanding, lightness, and connection gets deeper every day. Highly Sensitive people have unique differences that lead to predictable challenges in committed relationships, and sometimes even the deterioration of love. Right now your marriage might feel difficult: you may get upset easily, feel weighed down by resentment, hurt, irritation. It does not have to stay this way. Because as a sensitive person you are cut out for the best marriage possible. You just need to learn and apply a few things you were never taught. You'll hear relatable stories, interviews, advice, and coaching on just what you need to know to use your sensitivity to your advantage in love. You’ll learn how to stop taking things personally, manage your feelings, feel so secure and good about yourself, feel empowered instead of stuck, and how to influence (without manipulation) how your partner feels and behaves towards you, so you can just enjoy the person you’ve chosen as your partner, and invite so much more love and joy into your daily lives together.
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Turn Your Not-So-Good Husband Into An Amazing One; The 1st Step
March 11, 2021 07:00 - 29 minutes - 20.4 MB020 This is the first of a 3-episode series that will help you start experiencing your man as a great partner, and have you feeling more affection and connection in your marriage. You want to love the person you’ve chosen to spend your life with. You want to love your relationship. But that may not actually be your experience much of the time. Instead, you feel hardened towards your partner. Unhappy with him. Maybe even mad at him a lot. This is, unfortunately, super common. Especially w...
Little Shifts = Big Change In Your Love Life
March 04, 2021 07:00 - 17 minutes - 12.3 MB#019 For highly sensitive people, who can tend towards perfectionism and getting overwhelmed easily, the idea of doing the work to improve your marriage can feel daunting and like just too much. Especially if you are recognizing that you have some work on your end of things and feel you’re not doing things “right”, or you're feeling a bit discouraged that things aren't changing as fast as you'd like, even with all the efforts you've been putting in. Thinking this way will always slow us ...
Navigating Conflict And Upset For More Love; Lauren's Story
February 25, 2021 07:00 - 52 minutes - 36.1 MB# 018 When my client Lauren first came to me, she felt anxious about her relationship and all the hard emotions and conflict that was coming up. She was waiting for “the other shoe to drop”, and in need of lots of reassurance from her partner that she was loved and things were going to be alright. It was not a dynamic that led to security and feeling close to the man she loved. These days things couldn’t be better. She’s done a total 180-degree shift in how she handles conflict--one she d...
10 Beliefs To Improve Your Marriage
February 18, 2021 07:00 - 50 minutes - 34.7 MB#017 What we sensitive people believe about our marriages, partner, and the things that go on between us deeply impact our relationship. In this episode, I share 10 beliefs that will truly improve your marriage in the best of ways (and what things will be like if you don't believe them--you may be able to identify yourself here). These beliefs have made all the difference in my own marriage and my clients, too. I selected them knowing specifically which key beliefs we highly sensitive ...
Uncovering The Source Of Relationship Pain
February 11, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 25 MB016 If you feel any form of emotional suffering in your relationship--like discouragement, resentment, disappointment, hurt, annoyance, anger you don’t have to just live with it. Making your marriage a place that feels like a nourishing, joyful, safe space to come home to, instead of a cluttered, stressful, constricting or lonely place, starts with being willing to look at what’s REALLY going on under the surface inside of your own self. Without peering into the dark recesses of our m...
Love Is The Reward
February 04, 2021 07:00 - 28 minutes - 19.7 MB015 Today I bring you a fresh perspective on love --one that will allow you to feel so much more love in your marriage. We love love. Unless we have some misconceptions about it, which many people do. I know I used to, and it actually made it so I experienced LESS love than I was able to. A whole lot less. I used to think if my husband did things I didn’t like, and I still felt lots of love for him, he’d get away with things he shouldn’t. But this way of thinking made me miss out on fee...
The Best News About Your Feelings
January 28, 2021 05:00 - 26 minutes - 18.1 MB014 You may have caught on already, but let’s bring this into sharp focus: You shape your emotional experiences SO deeply. This is the best news EVER. Because it means you have so much more power over how you feel in your relationship--and how the relationship goes-- than you've ever known. It’s time to learn to access this power--what I call Emotional Agency. In this episode, you’ll delve deeper into what you’ve learned in earlier episodes and hear many concrete examples that will help...
The Best News About Your Feelings
January 28, 2021 05:00 - 26 minutes - 18.1 MB014 You may have caught on already, but let’s bring this into sharp focus: You shape your emotional experiences SO deeply. This is the best news EVER. Because it means you have so much more power over how you feel in your relationship--and how the relationship goes-- than you've ever known. It’s time to learn to access this power--what I call Emotional Agency. In this episode, you’ll delve deeper into what you’ve learned in earlier episodes and hear many concrete examples that will help...
What You Make It Mean Means Everything In Love
January 21, 2021 07:00 - 33 minutes - 23.2 MB013 Today I have a powerful tool for you that you can start applying right away to limit a lot of the unnecessary pain and negative emotion that may be going on for you, so you can and start to have so much more influence over your experience in your relationship. It’s a go-to tool I use regularly in my own marriage. Your brain is a meaning-making-machine. It creates meaning automatically. This means you are already influencing your own emotions majorly...although likely unconsciously and ...
Fighting For A Fantasy
January 14, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 24.9 MB012 Because you live in our world, HSP or not, you are making this mistake--at least to some degree some of the time, unless you’ve done deep work around it already. Though it seems all innocent and well-intentioned on the surface, it’s a mistake that leads to way more heartache and strife than necessary...that’s why it’s so sneaky. Listen in to this episode to hear personal stories and tips to help you to stop this dangerous cultural conditioning mistake from making your marriage harde...
The HSP Mind-Body-Heart-Slump
January 07, 2021 07:00 - 35 minutes - 24.4 MB#011 If you’re cranky, snappy, frazzled or overwhelmed a lot… Or you’re feeling numb, down, or aren't able to connect to love or warmth or affection... If you don’t have much interest in being around or touching your partner… ...You may be in what I call a Mind-Body-Heart-Slump (MBHS). Clearly, having a thriving marriage (or life) is out of reach when we are in a MBHS. Unfortunately, many of us HSPs are in one chronically! Being prone to MBHS’s is at the very heart of relationship prob...
Calming Annoyance And Irritation
December 31, 2020 07:00 - 36 minutes - 25.4 MBIf you are a normal HSP, you feel irritated and annoyed at your significant other sometimes. Maybe a lot of sometimes…And likely more so in these times, love in the time of corona….with perhaps your only social outlet being your partner! Even in normal times….there are many reasons for this. Especially for the sensitive soul. But feeling annoyed a lot is an all too common struggle and makes a pretty negative impact on your relationship. Because who wants to feel annoyed at the person you ...
Jade’s Story: From Despair To Laughing And Loving
December 24, 2020 07:00 - 37 minutes - 26.1 MBMy highly sensitive client, Jade, was having a very rough time with her man, taking things personally, feeling angry at him much of the time along with a lot of blame and resentment. And he was not being very proactive about improving things. She wasn’t sure the relationship could work. Luckily, she listened to her inkling that maybe she could shift the tides by making some changes herself. After coming to me and diving into taking responsibility for what she could, things are SO much be...
Fueling Real Change In Your Relationship
December 17, 2020 07:00 - 28 minutes - 19.6 MB#008 You didn’t get married to just tolerate your relationship. You signed up for something way better than that. You want to truly enjoy your marriage. But sometimes “working” on your marriage can feel like another tiring chore--one that you’re all alone in. If you’ve ever felt that way, or asked yourself, “Why do I have to be the one to put effort into this relationship?”, you likely aren't seeing much success or positive change from your efforts. If that’s the case, it’s because you...
Revolutionizing Men, Their Feelings, And Love With Casey Desharnais
December 10, 2020 07:00 - 59 minutes - 40.7 MB#007 If you’ve ever felt like your man doesn’t love you enough, or you long for a kind of connection with him that feels ever-elusive, this episode will help you really understand that it is not because of who you are. It’s not that he doesn’t love you. Actually, it’s not even about you. Not understanding your partner’s inner world is no surprise--he’s likely quiet or mum about it. But once you do begin to understand what’s really going on for him, and you see it’s not personal, it will o...
How To Work With Your "Two Brains" For More Love
December 03, 2020 10:00 - 36 minutes - 24.9 MB#006 If you often --or even just occasionally-- feel feelings of frustration, anger, resentment, or hurt in your relationship, or conflict is common, this episode is key for you. In it, you will develop an essential understanding of where so much of the upset, hardship, and pain comes from in your marriage, and how to start loosening its grip. As humans, whether highly sensitive or not, we all come into this world having inherited a “set of equipment”--which can feel like a wild creatu...
Lead The Love You Want In Your Marriage
November 26, 2020 08:00 - 37 minutes - 25.8 MB#005 If you want to start having more positive interactions, more love, closeness, laughter, and joy in your marriage, this is a must-listen episode. It lays the foundation for improving your marriage and introduces 4 main ways you can initiate the change process, along with specific examples and ideas to shift the tides of your marriage towards more love, ease, and understanding. Whether you are aware of it or not, you are leading your relationship in one direction or another. It’s t...
How To Invite More Sensitivity Into Your Marriage
November 19, 2020 07:00 - 34 minutes - 23.7 MB#004 The power is in YOU to shift the course of your marriage. It starts with developing agency over your feelings. Because how YOU feel has the power to bring you closer with your significant other or push you further apart. You want to feel connected and supported. But instead, maybe you are experiencing lots of heavy emotions. You: feel alone or not fully cared for, feel annoyed or uninterested in being around him a lot of the time, feel resentful because you are pulling more we...
10+ Ways Sensitive People Make The Best Spouses Ever
October 28, 2020 21:00 - 29 minutes - 20.5 MB#003 To have thriving relationships we need to deeply accept and value ourselves. Too many of us Highly Sensitive People don’t value our sensitivity, and instead, feel like something’s wrong with us because of it. This hurts our love lives and marriages unnecessarily. Because, actually, so much is RIGHT with us. Especially when it comes to love and relationships. Because sensitivity is exactly what we need MORE of in our relationships. And you, HSP, were born with a huge dose of it. ...
How Being Highly Sensitivity Affects The Love In Marriages
October 27, 2020 16:00 - 34 minutes - 23.7 MB#002 Understanding your sensitivity changes everything for the better. So, are you a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)? Do you understand sensitivity and how it affects your love life? This episode will clarify all that for you! If you’re anything less than truly happy in your marriage, it’s likely in part due to simply not understanding if and how your sensitivity is affecting things. Many of us sensitive people may not even know we are HSP’s until things get tough in our marriages!! Beca...
The Possibility Of A Much Better Marriage
October 20, 2020 18:00 - 35 minutes - 24.3 MB#001 In this inaugural episode, learn how you are not alone as a sensitive person if it feels like things are harder than they should be in your marriage. Why? Love doesn’t always come as naturally as we were taught it would--to ALL of us. On top of that, we Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) have unique challenges (and strengths) that tend to affect our relationships. But this never means you should resign you to settling for a less-than-happy marriage. In fact, you have it in you to have ...