High Heels and Heartache Podcast
46 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago - ★★★★★ - 25 ratingsFeaturing interviews with experts on the topics you're curious about and stories of extraordinary people who are changing the world.
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What Type of Apologizer Are You?
September 27, 2023 11:27 - 50 minutes - 69.4 MBDr. La Keita Carter stops by to discuss her Psychology Today Article "What Type Of Apologizer Are You?". She discusses six types of apologies and how they are linked to emotional intelligence. Dr. La Keita D. Carter, a licensed psychologist in Maryland, specializes in trauma, sexual wellness and relationships, addictions, women’s issues, and cultural barriers to treatment. A native Baltimorean, Dr. Carter completed her bachelor's degree at Temple University (magna cum laude) as well as maste...
Why Does Emotional Resilience Require True Self-Care?
August 29, 2023 11:28 - 54 minutes - 75.3 MBAmber Trueblood joins the show to discuss her article "True Emotional Resilience Requires True Self-Care". Amber highlights the differences between true self care and surface self care. She also discusses the five different types of anxiety styles and suggests specific true self care ideas for each of the styles. Amber Trueblood, MBA, is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), best-selling author, speaker, and mother of four sons. She has over 25 years of experience in mental healt...
What Are 7 Secrets To Liking Yourself More?
July 25, 2023 13:59 - 34 minutes - 46.7 MBOn this episode, Katherine Cullen, LMSW, stops by to discuss her article "Seven Secrets To Liking Yourself More." She breaks down the consequences of self dislike and how everyone can benefit from improving the way they feel about themselves. Katherine (Schreiber) Cullen, LMSW, is a psychotherapist and co-author of The Truth About Exercise Addiction: Understanding The Dark Side of Thinspiration. She received her MSW from Fordham University and is currently pursuing an MA in Applied Catholic ...
What Is A Trauma Bond?
June 27, 2023 11:06 - 44 minutes - 61.4 MBJourdan Travers defines the term "trauma bond" and discusses what relationships typically have them and why they are a powerful dynamic in relationships. Jourdan Travers is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who specializes in the treatment of anxiety, mood, substance abuse/dependence, and personality disorders. She received her MSW from The University of Maryland and her B.A. in psychology from California State University Northridge. She is a well-respected psychotherapist trained in CBT, DB...
What is the Fawn Trauma Response?
May 29, 2023 12:10 - 43 minutes - 60.2 MBBest friend to the show, Dr. Candice Creasman, discusses the "fawn" trauma response and how it is different from the other trauma responses of fight, flight, and freeze. Candice Creasman Mowrey, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Supervisor with a Masters in Rehabilitation Counseling and Psychology and a Doctorate in Counseling and Counselor Education. She has been in practice for 15 years working with survivors of domestic violence and sexual trauma, individuals with addicti...
What is Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD)?
April 24, 2023 11:38 - 50 minutes - 68.7 MBRobyn Brickel, M.A., LMFT discusses Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. She defines CPTSD, outlines best practices for recovery, and examines how it is both similar and different to PSTD. Robyn is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 25+ years of experience providing psychotherapy, as well as the founder and clinical director of a private practice, Brickel and Associates, LLC in Old Town, Alexandria, Virginia. She and her team bring a strengths-based, trauma-informed, systems ...
What Are 10 Mindful Lessons That Can Transform Your Relationships?
March 27, 2023 11:41 - 55 minutes - 76.7 MBMichelle P. Maidenberg, Ph.D., MPH, LCSW-R, CGP stops by to discuss 10 mindful lessons you can use to strengthen all of the relationships in your life. Michelle P. Maidenberg, Ph.D., MPH, LCSW-R, CGP maintains a private practice in Harrison, NY. She is an adjunct graduate professor of Mindfulness Practice at New York University. She is the president and clinical director of the Thru My Eyes Foundation, a 501c3 organization that helps individuals with life-threatening illnesses create a video...
What Are Six Steps Toward Recovery From A Toxic Relationship?
February 27, 2023 13:19 - 1 hour - 84.4 MBOn this episode psychotherapist, Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS, chats about her article 6 Steps Toward Recovery From a Toxic Relationship. She describes the six steps, discusses how survivors can move between the steps, Kaytee is a psychotherapist, author, and consultant with a passion for working with survivors of relationship and family trauma. Her first book, Invisible Bruises: How a Better Understanding of the Patterns of Domestic Violence Can Help Survivors Navigate the Legal System, releas...
Is There a Link Between Trauma and Eating Disorders?
January 30, 2023 12:48 - 54 minutes - 74.6 MBDr. Zoe Ross-Nash stops by to discuss the link between trauma and eating disorders/disordered eating. She defines different eating disorders and discusses which type of trauma is associated with each eating disorder. Dr. Ross-Nash explores the importance of not having preconceived notions of what eating disorders "look like". She also discusses resources available to those struggling with disordered eating. Dr. Zoe Ross-Nash (she/her) earned her PsyD in Clinical Psychology at Nova Southeas...
Are Any of the Relationships on “Love Is Blind” Abusive?
December 19, 2022 12:38 - 43 minutes - 59.9 MBOn this episode, Dr. Isabelle Morley discusses the toxic and abusive relationship behaviors she saw on the latest season of "Love Is Blind". We chat about what responsibility Netflix has to contestants and viewers, and how Netflix can protect both groups. Isabelle Morley, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, writer, and co-founder of The Relationship Coaches. She specializes in helping people navigate their romantic relationships. Dr. Morley has trained in several couples therapy ori...
How Does The Pressure To Be The “Perfect Victim” Affect Survivors of Abuse?
November 28, 2022 13:10 - 1 hour - 104 MBJulie Sweet stops by to speak about the phenomen known as the "perfect victim" and how it affects survivors of abuse and violence. Julie is an experienced Clinical Psychotherapist of 10 years with a demonstrated history of working in the mental health and human services industry. Skilled in Drug and Alcohol counselling, counselling adult survivors of child sexual abuse (CSA), Trauma Informed clinical practice, crisis counselling, family counselling, advocacy, negotiation, business planning, C...
How To Date After An Abusive Relationship
September 26, 2022 14:23 - 45 minutes - 62.3 MBOn this episode, Dr. Aimee Daramus stops by to offer advice on how to date after an abusive relationship. Aimee Daramus, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in chronic mental illness. She works in private practice at Urban Balance in Chicago, and is an adjunct professor at Harold Washington College. She wrote a book, Understanding Bipolar Disorder: The Essential Family Guide, and her new book on Relationship OCD is coming out in February. She loves classic horror movies,...
What Is Imposter Syndrome?
August 30, 2022 02:15 - 40 minutes - 55.5 MBIn this episode GiShawn Mance, PhD discusses imposter syndrome. She defines what it is, the feelings associated with it, whether it is truly a "syndrome", how to conquer any feelings of insecurity, and why women tend to experience it more. Dr. GiShawn Mance is a clinical psychologist licensed in the state of Maryland. She is dedicated to providing quality, comprehensive mental health services to meet the individual needs of each client. Dr. Mance provides clinical individual, group, and f...
What Do You Wish You Knew About Abusive Relationships?
July 29, 2022 13:52 - 52 minutes - 71.5 MBOn this episode, coauthor of Kendall Ann's book "What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After An Abusive Relationship", Dr. Amelia Kelley, stops by to answer reader and listener questions with Kendall Ann. They discuss how the book came to fruition, suggest other books survivors can read to help them thrive, chat about the difference between an abusive partner and a "jerk" and much more. Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist who has conducted research on the effects of exerci...
What Should I Do If I’m In A Relationship With A Narcissist?
July 01, 2022 01:25 - 50 minutes - 69.6 MBDarlene Lancer stops by to chat about what to do if you are in a relationship with a narcissist. Darlene is an internationally sought after relationship expert and media spokesperson on narcissism and codependency, a psychotherapist and author of 9 books, including Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies. She’s counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her eboo...
How Do You Help Someone Who Is in a Toxic Relationship?
May 31, 2022 10:54 - 44 minutes - 61 MBChelli Pumphrey, MA, LPC stops by to discuss what to do if someone in your life is in an unhealthy, toxic, or abusive relationship. Chelli is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Relationship Coach, Reiki Master, and author with almost 30 years of clinical experience. She specializes in working with trauma, adult attachment, narcissistic abuse and pathological love relationships. Chelli founded Trilogy Holistic Mental Health in Denver, CO, and currently serves as Clinical Director of both Tri...
Why Do We Dream?
April 25, 2022 11:33 - 48 minutes - 66.9 MBWhy do we dream? In this episode, John Cline, Ph.D. stops by to help us navigate the science of sleep and the theories on why humans dream. John Cline, Ph.D., D,ABSM, FAASM, is a licensed clinical psychologist and is board certified in clinical sleep disorders. He is a diplomate of the American Board of Sleep. He is a member of the American Association for the Advancement of Science, the New York Academy of Sciences, and the American Psychological Association; and a fellow of the American Ac...
Is Forgiveness Required for Trauma Recovery?
March 29, 2022 10:07 - 36 minutes - 49.8 MBTrauma psychotherapist, Amanda Ann Gregory, discusses why forgiveness isn't necessary in trauma recovery. She walks us through possible messages we are internalizing about forgiveness and five reasons why forgiveness should not be imposed in the process of healing from trauma. Click here to check out her Psychology Today article "Why Forgiveness Isn't Required in Trauma Recovery". Amanda Ann Gregory, LCPC, is a trauma psychotherapist, national speaker, and author. She holds licenses in the ...
Why Should You Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice?
November 26, 2021 15:10 - 48 minutes - 66.1 MBSharon Martin stops by to discuss unsolicited advice. She defines unsolicited advice, tells us how to stop giving and what we should do when we receive it! Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist who has been practicing in San Jose, CA for over 20 years. She specializes in helping individuals struggling with perfectionism, codependency, and people-pleasing. Her own struggle to feel “good enough”, inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sha...
How Can You Use Mindfulness to Drink Alcohol Moderately?
September 20, 2021 11:17 - 3 BytesOn this episode, Dr. Chloe Carmichael stops by to teach us how we can use the principles for mindfulness to drink alcohol moderately. Dr. Chloe Carmichael, Ph.D, is a licensed clinical psychologist, known as Dr. Chloe. She holds a master’s degree and Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Long Island University and graduated Phi Beta Kappa, summa cum laude, with a bachelor’s degree and departmental honors in psychology from Columbia University in New York. Her practice in New York City employs mu...
What is Toxic Positivity?
August 30, 2021 10:46 - 38 minutes - 52.5 MBOn this episode of the podcast, Dr. Tiffany Millacci discusses how toxic positivity can be affecting your health and interpersonal relationships! Dr. Millacci gives examples of toxic positivity and suggestions on how to eliminate it in our daily lives and relationships. Tiffany Millacci, Ph.D. has over 14 years of experience in the education field and is an educator for both elementary special education students and university students. She is a researcher and content writer for Positive.Psy...
How Can You Build Resilient Relationships?
July 26, 2021 12:31 - 43 minutes - 60.4 MBMelody Stanford Martin joins the show to discuss her article "Five Practices of Resilient Relationships" and teach us how to enhance our conflict resolution skills. Melody Stanford Martin is a social ethicist, communications expert, and author of Brave Talk: Building Resilient Relationships in the Face of Conflict (Broadleaf Books, 2020). She is the Founder of educational platform Brave Talk Project, the Founder & CEO of Cambridge Creative Group, a narrative marketing and design company spec...
How Does Safe Havens For Pets Serve Survivors of Domestic Violence and Their Pets?
May 10, 2021 10:25 - 38 minutes - 53.2 MBIn this episode I chat with Valerie Pena and Mary Lous Randour about Safe Havens for Pets, an organizing helping survivors of domestic violence and their pets find safety. We discuss how to find a safe haven in your area, why it is critical that safe havens exist, how Safe Havens for Pets is connecting safe havens to each other and survivors, and what you can do to help. Don't forget to follow their social media accounts! Click here for:
How Can You Overcome the Shame of Emotional Abuse?
February 22, 2021 20:48 - 42 minutes - 58.2 MBOn this episode I chat with Beverly Engel about how to overcome the shame that many survivors of emotional abuse experience. Beverly Engel has been a practicing psychotherapist for thirty-five years. She is the author of 22 books, including the bestsellers The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, The Right to Innocence, and Healing Your Emotional Self. Her latest book is entitled, It Wasn't Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion. In add...
Is Porn Addiction A Disorder?
February 08, 2021 20:06 - 52 minutes - 72.5 MBSari Cooper joins the show to discuss if porn addiction is a disorder and how to communicate better when it comes to all things sex! Sari Cooper LCSW-R, CST is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in holistic embodied sex therapy and sex coaching in NYC. She is an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who has been seeing individuals and couples from diverse cultural, religious, and sexual orientation and practices for over 20 y...
Does Social Media Cause Depression?
December 22, 2020 12:51 - 37 minutes - 51.1 MBDr. Lea Lis, The Shameless Psychiatrist, stops by to chat about if social media causes depression in teens and adult. She gives a brief overview of her new book! Dr. Lea Lis is the 'Shameless Psychiatrist.' She is a double board certified Adult and Child psychiatrist, and Assistant Clinical Professor at New York Medical College. She has a bustling practice in the Hamptons where she sees patients from all family arrangements. Her book “No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confi...
Love Heals-The Story of Thistle Farms
October 14, 2020 02:00 - 38 minutes - 52.9 MBDorris Walker-Taylor, Senior Ambassador for Thistle Farms, joins the show to discuss how Thistle Farms, a nonprofit social enterprise dedicated to helping women survivors recover and heal from prostitution, trafficking, and addiction changed the direction of her life. Thistle Farms is a residential program that provides housing, case management, healthcare, counseling, education, and employment for two years - free of charge. It was a true joy speaking with Dorris and listening to her story...
How Does Racism Affect Black Survivors of Domestic Violence?
August 28, 2020 04:07 - 49 minutes - 68.3 MBGretta Gordy Gardner and Megan Simmons from Ujima: The National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community, discuss how systemic racism affects black survivors of domestic violence. Gretta Gordy Gardner, Esq., is the Deputy Director and co-founder of Ujima, Inc.: The National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community, a project of the DC Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Ms. Gardner’s career as a legal advisor for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assaul...
The Experts Are Back!
April 25, 2020 18:08 - 1 hour - 106 MBDr. Ameila Kelley and Dr. Stephanie Moulton Sarkis answer your questions about how anxiety affects the body and how to spot gaslighting in our leaders! Dr. Kelley is the owner and supervisor of Kelley Counseling and Wellness. Her practice is offering free sessions to those on the front lines fighting against COVID-19 (nurses, doctors, hospital staff, etc). For more information call (919) 238-9741. Dr. Stephanie Moulton Sarkis is a best-selling author and counselor. She also hos...
Ask The Experts #1
April 05, 2020 00:52 - 42 minutes - 58.5 MBDr. Denise Fournier and Dr. Candice Creasman join me to answer your questions that have arisen during the pandemic. You can find more information about Dr. Creasman's Insight Timer class on Healing Your Inner Critic HERE Check out Dr Fournier's Instagram meditations HERE
How Do You Attract, Maintain and End Relationships Mindfully?
December 06, 2019 02:49 - 58 minutes - 80.7 MBDr, Denise Fournier visits to discuss how to attract, maintain, and end relationships from a conscious, self-aware space. Dr. Denise Fournier is a Miami-based psychotherapist, coach, university professor, and facilitator. With over 15 years in the mental health field, she’s worked with several hundred people, guiding them on their own unique growth journeys. She facilitates safe and sacred spaces for people to connect inward, work through challenges, define their own unique self-expression, ...
Are You A People Pleaser?
November 08, 2019 01:11 - 39 minutes - 54.9 MBDr. Ilene Cohen answers my questions about people pleasing. She discusses the difference between being nice and being a people pleaser, the causes of people pleasing, and gives an eight step guide to stopping the compulsion! Dr. Ilene is a psychotherapist, blogger and award-winning author of the popular self-help guides, When It's Never About You and It’s Within You. Her work regularly appears in top psychology publications. You can buy her books HERE! And you can read her blog HERE!
Money and Relationships
October 04, 2019 11:05 - 41 minutes - 57.4 MBDr. Brad Klontz sits down to talk all things money and relationships! We chat about financial infidelity, money disorders, the lies we tell ourselves about money, how to discuss money with your partner and more! Bradley T. Klontz, Psy.D., CFP® is a Founder of the Financial Psychology Institute® and an Associate Professor of Practice in Financial Psychology at Creighton University Heider College of Business. He is a Managing Principal of Your Mental Wealth® Advisors, a Fellow of the American ...
Silencing Your Inner Critic
September 05, 2019 01:52 - 53 minutes - 73.5 MBIs negative self-talk impacting the way you view yourself? Do you know negative self-talk can be an obstacle in your relationships? Dr. Candice Creasman chats about how to heal your inner critic. Dr. Creasman is s a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor with a Masters in Rehabilitation Counseling and Psychology and a doctorate in Counseling and Counselor Education. She has been in practice for 15 years working with survivors of domestic violence and sexual trauma, individuals with addict...
What is Repeat Traumatization?
February 22, 2019 19:32 - 52 minutes - 71.5 MBOn this episode of High Heels and Heartache I chat with Dr. Amelia Kelley, owner and supervisor of Kelley Counseling & Wellness, about repeat traumatization. We discuss what happens when a person experiences more than one trauma in their life, how trauma changes the brain, and the role of nature vs. nurture have in repeat trauma. Dr. Kelley also teaches us about synaptic pruning! Dr. Amelia Kelley, PhD, MS, LPC, ATR-P, RYT is an integrative therapist with 15 years of experience. She is train...
What is Passive Aggression?
January 11, 2019 03:09 - 53 minutes - 73.6 MBSigne Whitson chats about passive aggression. We define passive aggression, talk about the different behaviors passive aggressive people employ, discuss the different levels of passive aggression, and explore what causes people to be passive aggressive. Signe Whitson is an author and internationally-recognized speaker with 20 years of experience working with children, teens, and families. She presents customized training workshops for professionals, parents, and students on topics related ...
How Do You Set Boundaries in Relationships?
December 17, 2018 01:16 - 49 minutes - 68.3 MBDo you know your boundaries? Do you know how to communicate those boundaries to the people in your life in a healthy manner? Do you worry that setting boundaries will hurt your relationships? I chat with Darlene Lancer about the importance of setting boundaries and the best way to deliver those boundaries to those around you. Darlene explains the different types of boundaries and the steps necessary to set a boundary. We also discuss what to do with your boundary is ignored or disrespected. ...
What is Spiritually Integrated Psychotherapy?
November 16, 2018 14:00 - 53 minutes - 73 MBMissy Stancil joins me to chat about spiritually integrated psychotherapy. We define spirituality and religion and chat about how trained therapists can use both to help survivors of trauma. Missy discusses how she weaves spirituality into her therapy sessions for those who are interested in including it. We also chat why spiritually integrated therapy can be highly beneficial for survivors of trauma. Missy Stancil is a Licensed Professional Counselor and National Certified Counselor. She...
How Does Trauma Affect Your Body?
October 22, 2018 00:27 - 50 minutes - 69.6 MBDr. Amelia Kelley sits down to chat about how trauma affects the body and strategies that you can use to reduce that trauma. Dr. Kelley is an expert in using adjunctive therapies along with cognitive therapy to help those who have experienced trauma. Dr. Kelley defines trauma and explains how trauma is stored in the body. She describes how practices like reiki, therapeutic touch, qigong, yoga, therapeutic massage, and meditation (which are all offered at her practice, Kelley Counseling and ...
Is There a Link Between Trauma and Addiction?
October 05, 2018 00:53 - 54 minutes - 74.6 MBI interview Jessika Sands about the link between trauma and addiction. We discuss brain development, where trauma is stored in the brain, and why survivors of trauma are sometimes more likely to develop an addiction. Jessika Sands, MA, LPC, LAC is a licensed therapist, licensed addiction therapist and EMDR consultant. She provides EMDR, Brainspotting, and substance use therapy at AspenRidge Recovery and in private practice. She recently started a Neurofeedback business. She specializes in ...
How is the Alliance for Hope International Helping Survivors of Domestic Violence?
September 07, 2018 02:11 - 54 minutes - 74.6 MBOn this episode I speak with William Ackerman, Natalia Aquirre, and Casey Gwinn, from the Alliance for Hope International. We discuss the valuable resources available for survivors and their families through the Family Justice Center Alliance and Camp Hope America. We chat about how Casey was able to establish the first revolutionary Family Justice Center in San Diego and grow to over 130 centers worldwide. Casey and Natalia describe how resources are trauma informed and how a "challenge by c...
Is My Partner a Narcissist?
August 15, 2018 02:06 - 55 minutes - 76.4 MBOn this episode I chat with Dr. Elinor Greenberg about narcissism. We discuss the difference between healthy narcissism and having the personality adaptation. We answer the burning questions: Does a narcissist love you? And what causes the Narcissistic Personality Adaptation? We also outline the predictable stages of a romantic relationship with a narcissist. Dr. Elinor Greenberg is an internationally renowned Gestalt therapist who specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of Borderline. ...
What is Gaslighting?
July 18, 2018 02:53 - 41 minutes - 57.3 MBIn this episode I chat with Dr. Stephanie Moulton Sarkis about gaslighting. Dr.Sarkis defines gaslighting, explains its effects, describes why it is such a powerful tool for those looking to manipulate others, and discusses how you can protect yourself against it. Stephanie Moulton Sarkis, Ph.D., NCC, LMHC, DCMHS is a bestselling author and psychotherapist. She has been in private practice for 20 years. She is an American Mental Health Counseling Association Diplomate (one of 100 in the U.S....
PTSD and Survivors Of Domestic Violence
June 19, 2018 15:54 - 48 minutes - 67.2 MBIn this bonus episode of High Heels and Heartache, I sit down with Crystal Yarborough to discuss how Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, can affect survivors of domestic violence and abuse. We chat about what PTSD is, the symptoms of PTSD, what recovery sometimes entails, and life after PTSD. Crystal Yarborough is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Licensed Clinical Addictions Specialist. She has worked with people who have experienced trauma and addiction in many settings, including...
Art Therapy and Trauma
June 07, 2018 00:48 - 35 minutes - 48.9 MBIn this episode, Gretchen Miller explains why art therapy can be a valuable resource in the recovery of survivors of domestic violence. Gretchen M. Miller, MA, ATR-BC, ACTP is a Registered and Board Certified Art Therapist, Advanced Certified Trauma Practitioner, Adjunct Faculty Member, Speaker, and Author. For almost twenty years, Gretchen has been working as an art therapist primarily serving children and adolescents in Cleveland/Akron, Ohio. Her work in trauma intervention has included p...
Relationship Red Flags
April 15, 2018 18:54 - 41 minutes - 56.6 MBIn my first episode of High Heels and Heartache, I sit down with Dr. Candice Creasman to discuss red flags in relationships that might be indicators of toxic, unhealthy, or abusive behaviors. We also have a fantastic chat about boundary setting in relationships. Dr. Creasman is a therapist, author, and meditation teacher with over 10 years of experience treating clients with mood disorders, personality disorders, chronic pain, and addiction. She is in private practice in Raleigh North Carol...