Gay Men's Life Lab with Buck Dodson
73 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago -Join therapist, coach and creator Buck Dodson (LCSW) for Gay Men's Life Lab, a podcast that extends the brave and bold conversations he’s been having with other gay men for over 15 years about what matters most to us, and how to follow our own paths to feel alive and aligned – mind, body, heart, and soul. Each episode, Buck and his guests dive deep into the issues facing gay men today, including relationships, self-worth, purpose, a healthy body, sex, and more. Together we take an honest look at what’s working, what’s not and what to do about it. We get real with each other, about ourselves and our lives, and we open up about our struggles and our successes. Along the way, we learn from each other and grow together, feeling inspired and connected. This is your Gay Men’s Life Lab. Welcome!
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Farewell Episode
July 07, 2023 20:00 - 32 minutes - 22.5 MBAs I say at the end of my coaching and therapy sessions, “we’ll have to stop here.” Join me for this final episode as I wrap up the podcast. Tune in to hear about my decision, what’s next and how I hope to stay in touch. You may even hear some inspiration on approaching endings and new beginnings in your own life. To stay in touch with me and be notified of future offerings from Gay Men’s Life Lab, please join my email list by visiting www.buckdodson.com. Even though there won’t be ne...
Leading Through the Genius of LGBTQ Culture and Values
June 08, 2023 20:00 - 57 minutes - 39.6 MBIn this episode, I talk with sought-after coach, speaker, professor, and author, Dr. Joel A. Davis Brown about his new book, The Souls of Queer Folk. Join me as I talk with Joel about: What it means for leaders to be “Queer-minded” How growing up LGBTQ teaches us to be leaders in life Queer culture as a wisdom tradition with value for all people, especially organizational and business leaders The 9 values that express the beauty of LGBTQ+ people Get your copy of Joel’s book, The S...
Becoming whole through sacred queer community with Hunter Flournoy
May 17, 2023 22:00 - 57 minutes - 39.7 MBIn this episode, I talk with trauma and recovery coach, spiritual companion, and queer elder, Hunter Flournoy. We dive deep into what it means to heal as gay, bi and queer men & how compassionate community and spirituality are key to embrace ourselves and each other. Join me as I talk with Hunter about: The importance of LGBTQ Heart Circles for gay men and queer people to see & feel seen How and why Hunter helps men to accept and embrace ourselves by coming home to our bodies and breath ...
Becoming Whole Through Sacred Queer Community With Hunter Flournoy
May 17, 2023 22:00 - 57 minutes - 39.7 MBIn this episode, I talk with trauma and recovery coach, spiritual companion, and queer elder, Hunter Flournoy. We dive deep into what it means to heal as gay, bi and queer men & how compassionate community and spirituality are key to embrace ourselves and each other. Join me as I talk with Hunter about: The importance of LGBTQ Heart Circles for gay men and queer people to see & feel seen How and why Hunter helps men to accept and embrace ourselves by coming home to our bodies and breath ...
Developing secure attachments to heal disordered relationships with food, exercise and body image with Vanessa Scaringi, PhD and Kathryn Garland, LCSW
May 03, 2023 20:00 - 55 minutes - 38.2 MBIn this episode, I talk with psychotherapists and founders of Calm Counseling, Dr. Vanessa Scaringi and Kate Garland, LCSW about the role of attachment styles and relationships in recovering from eating disorders, body dysmorphia and excessive exercise. Join me as I talk with Kate and Vanessa about: Why disordered eating, body image and exercise issues “work” to address chronic loneliness and disconnection How the search for sameness and conformity are risk factors for disordered eating ...
Developing Secure Attachments to Heal Disordered Relationships With Food, Exercise and Body Image With Vanessa Scaringi, PhD and Kathryn Garland, LCSW
May 03, 2023 20:00 - 55 minutes - 38.2 MBIn this episode, I talk with psychotherapists and founders of Calm Counseling, Dr. Vanessa Scaringi and Kate Garland, LCSW about the role of attachment styles and relationships in recovering from eating disorders, body dysmorphia and excessive exercise. Join me as I talk with Kate and Vanessa about: Why disordered eating, body image and exercise issues “work” to address chronic loneliness and disconnection How the search for sameness and conformity are risk factors for disordered eating ...
From Surviving to Thriving as a Gay Man From Islam
April 24, 2023 18:00 - 38 minutes - 26.7 MBA “Gays On” episode featuring Burak Yilmaz on healing and self-discovery In this episode, I talk with Burak Yilmaz about his remarkable path to freedom as a gay man which he chronicles in his upcoming book, If My Mother Never Left. Join me as I talk with Burak about: Being tortured for speaking out as a gay man in Islam Learning to survive alone on the streets of Turkey and New York City Overcoming shame and recovering from depression How writing has helped him heal and live as his ...
Gay Superpowers of Camp and Drag
March 27, 2023 22:00 - 43 minutes - 30 MBWe need our gay superpower now more than ever. Our communities, especially our members who are trans, gender non-binary and/or drag artists, are being subjected to assaults on our identities and human rights. Let’s double down on who we are and in this episode, why we’re here. Tune in to this ‘Quick Buck’ solo episode as I dive into the powers of camp and drag. I explore: What are gay and queer superpowers? How camp and campiness speaks to queerness and helps us feel seen The role of dr...
Having the Sex Gay Men Deserve With Dr. Israel Martinez
February 28, 2023 21:00 - 59 minutes - 40.8 MBLet’s talk about sex. Healthy, pleasurable and healing sex that is. In this episode, I talk with Certified Sex Therapist, coach and clinical social worker, Dr. Israel Martinez, about helping gay bring sex into the light in order to have more enjoyable, enthusiastic and shame-free sex. Join me as I talk with Dr. Martinez about: The distinct challenges gay, bi and queer men face in having healthy sex What the 5 senses have to be with having pleasurable sex The difference between ‘spontane...
Fatherhood, Religious Trauma, and Ending a Marriage in the Closet
January 28, 2023 01:00 - 57 minutes - 39.4 MBGregory Elsasser-Chavez on the high costs & high rewards of coming out Part of the ‘Gays On’ Series featuring the voices and stories of gay, bi and queer men. Welcome to a new season of Gay Men’s Life! In this episode, I talk with Gregory Elsasser-Chavez about his remarkable path to freedom as a gay man which he chronicles in his upcoming book, Terms of Estrangement. Join me as I talk with Gregory about: The impact of realizing he could be a gay dad or a dead dad Finding the will to l...
Coming Out Through Radical Surrender to Come Into Authenticity
December 30, 2022 18:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MBAnd we’re back! I’ve missed you all so I’m happy to bring this episode to close out 2022 and preview what’s to come when Season 3 launches next month. Clearly, I extended my “summer” sabbatical through Fall so I go into what I’ve been going through and how this impacted my return to the podcast. I invite you to tune in to hear some of my story and to reflect with me on what it’s like to come out as your most authentic self. Some of the topics I cover are: Moving through seismic transforma...
Summer Sabbatical
July 11, 2022 19:00 - 33 minutes - 23 MBI’m sorry for the podcast silence last month, especially since it was Pride Month. Although Gay Men’s Life Lab celebrates LGBTQ+ pride every month. In this episode, I share about my decision to take a few months off from the podcast so I can spend the summer soaking up some extra self, relationship and business care. I hope you’ll tune in to join me for this relatively brief conversation about my decision. It involves filling my well, learning to set limits and listening to my inner creat...
Refresh How You Date by Becoming “Pro Dating” Part 2
May 28, 2022 04:00 - 1 hour - 48.7 MBIn part two of my pro-dating, pro-relationship guide, I dive further into energizing your dating and relationship life. I cover the key topics my clients and I work on and offer practical ways you can beef up your relational dating skills. Check out the episode to hear… How to approach pacing in dating so you can stay “sober” in the early stages of love My suggestion for approaching sex The communication styles and skills you need for dating and relationship success How to work with u...
Refresh How You Date by Becoming “Pro Dating” Part 1
May 14, 2022 01:00 - 1 hour - 46 MBIn the first of this two-parter, I invite you into a conversation about becoming or rediscovering hope and eagerness about dating. Join me for this deep dive into how becoming “pro dating” and a pro at dating means could radically shift your perspective on dating and creating long term relationships. Tune in to hear… What it means to be Pro-Relationship rather than Pro-Self How to approach dating like you would in a relationship The 5 characteristics of “Secure Functioning Dating” Deve...
Gay Men and Porn with Don Shewey
April 22, 2022 22:00 - 56 minutes - 39 MBJoin me for this engaging and important conversation about porn, sex, masturbation, and most importantly, pleasure. I’m talking with Don Shewey, a psychotherapist, pleasure activist and author of The Paradox of Porn: Notes on Gay Male Sexual Culture. Tune in to hear Don and I discuss: His journey to being a pleasure activist and Sacred Intimate The integral yet complex role pornography plays in gay men’s self-discovery How porn both helps and hinders our views of our bodies, sexuality, a...
Highly Sensitive Queers with Brian Torres
April 09, 2022 00:00 - 54 minutes - 37.6 MBJoin me for this enriching conversation with licensed psychotherapist, Brian Torres, on what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person and how embracing this part of your nature can help you create a more optimal lifestyle. Some of the topics Brian and I discuss: The core traits of highly sensitive people What D.O.E.S. - Depth, Over-Arousal, Emotional Responsiveness, and Sensitivity to Subtleties – has to do with high sensitivity Misconceptions that high sensitivity isn’t backed by scie...
Erotic Liberation with Craig Cullinane of Body Electric
March 25, 2022 22:00 - 52 minutes - 36.1 MBYou won’t want to miss this enlivening conversation about tapping into your erotic energy as a pathway to healing, aliveness and joy. Join me and my guest, Craig Cullinane from The New Body Electric School as we dive deep celebrating our erotic potential. Some of the topics Craig and I discuss: The role of “conscious eroticism” in self and collective healing His own journey from body shame to celebration The intersection of pleasure, desire, power, and unmet needs The foundational tool...
Codependence and Love Addiction with Jodi White, LPC
March 12, 2022 03:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBIn this episode, I unpack codependence, developmental trauma and love addiction with Jodi White, a psychotherapist, sober recovering love addict and host of “Journals of a Love Addict.” Jodi and talk about: The 5 core symptoms of codependence How dysfunctional families set the stage for being over or anti-dependent What love addiction is and how it’s different from codependency Developing a Functional Adult Self to care for our “inner woundeds” How experiential learning bypasses the ‘...
Relationship Replay - "Get Closer" with Jeff Chernin, PhD
March 05, 2022 23:00 - 53 minutes - 37.1 MBGay Men's Life Lab is all about trying things out, and since we have a lot of new listeners in the last year, we’re experimenting with a new Relationship Replay Series which features some of our earliest episodes on all things relationships such as… How to handle conflict Communicating your feelings Navigating relationship dynamics How to identify your needs and get them met If there’s one thing I’ve learned on my own relationship journey and in those of my clients, it’s that we’re al...
Relationship Replay - Rupture and Repair: How to Handle Conflict in Your Relationships
February 26, 2022 02:00 - 27 minutes - 19 MBGay Men's Life Lab is all about trying things out, and since we have a lot of new listeners in the last year, we’re experimenting with a new Relationship Replay Series which features some of our earliest episodes on all things relationships such as… How to handle conflict Communicating your feelings Navigating relationship dynamics How to identify your needs and get them met If there’s one thing I’ve learned on my own relationship journey and in those of my clients, it’s that we’re al...
5 Mindsets for Growth in 2022
February 12, 2022 00:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBWe’re going to mindset school. In this solo episode, I’m riffing on how our attitudes, perspectives and beliefs—our mindsets—make the difference between creating the life we want or staying stuck. Tune in to hear… Buck’s update on his ‘Filling my Well’ commitment How being a ‘design thinker’ can help solve problems and achieve goals The core mindsets you need to move you toward personal and relationship growth How to be curious, try stuff, shift your beliefs, and trust the process T...
Queer ADHD with Sarah Dopp
January 29, 2022 01:00 - 52 minutes - 36.2 MBThis week, I dive into a misunderstood topic that we don’t talk about enough – Adult ADHD. Tune in as I talk with ADHD Coach and Founder of Queer ADHD, Sarah Dopp, about what it does and does not mean to live with ADHD. Even if you don’t have ADHD, I encourage you to check out this episode because someone in your life does and may be struggling alone. Sarah and I talk about: Misconceptions about Adult ADHD How coming out with ADHD mirrors coming out as LGBTQ The connection between fear ...
Damn Shame with David Pevsner
January 15, 2022 02:00 - 52 minutes - 36.2 MBYou won’t want to miss my bold conversation with David Pevsner, author of DAMN SHAME: A Memoir of Desire, Defiance and Show Tunes. Join us to hear about David’s journey as a 62-year-old actor, erotic provocateur and anti-ageist, anti-body shaming, pro-sexuality advocate. David and talk about: How becoming an escort changed his outlook on what he means to be a man The missed opportunity that helped him see the cost of being a ‘body nazi’ His big “fuck you” to anti-gay religious fundamenta...
Looking Back and Moving Forward
December 31, 2021 22:00 - 43 minutes - 29.6 MBHappy new year, everyone! What were the personal growth and gay takeaways from 2021? What did you learn and how are you going to apply that in 2022? In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain to share some of my own growth journey this last year and what I’m committing to next year. I’m guessing many of you might relate. Tune as I talk about… Why 2021 was my yearlong “choppy growth phase” Grieving the loss of my False Self & ego persona Making your big, bold commitment for next y...
Coming Out Throughout Life
December 17, 2021 23:00 - 50 minutes - 34.9 MBIn this episode, I’m talking about coming out later in life and what coming out looks like over the life span of gay and queer men. Tune as I talk about… Why coming out is about more than saying “I’m gay” How we’re always coming out and what it evolves through life Identifying your “gay age” to decrease shame regardless of when you come out The one thing we all need whether we’re coming out at 16 or 60 GMLL Phone Line Call 512.808.0849 to share your ideas, questions and topic sugges...
You, Me, Us… Building the Gay Men’s Life Lab Community
December 03, 2021 23:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MBIn this special “Quick Buck” episode, I’m having a conversation with listeners about what’s next for the podcast including the Gay Men’s Life Lab Phone Line! Tune as I talk about… My desire to build community and connect more deeply with listeners in 2022 Finding ways to engage that aren’t through social media (which I suck at) My search for an “intern” to help grow our community How to expand our audience and how you can help You can start engaging by leaving a message on the new GML...
You, Me, Us… Building the Gay Men’s Life Lab Community
December 03, 2021 23:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MBIn this special “Quick Buck” episode, I’m having a conversation with listeners about what’s next for the podcast including the Gay Men’s Life Lab Phone Line! Tune as I talk about… My desire to build community and connect more deeply with listeners in 2022 Finding ways to engage that aren’t through social media (which I suck at) My search for an “intern” to help grow our community How to expand our audience and how you can help You can start engaging by leaving a message on the new GML...
Heartcentered Leadership & Abundance with Martin Cowart
November 19, 2021 23:00 - 1 hour - 43 MBJoin me for a spirited conversation with Martin Cowart, the founder of Financial Heart Space and prosperity mindset coach as we dive into how he helps gay, bi, and queer men business leaders create financial abundance through spiritual alignment and clarity of purpose. Martin and I talk about: What’s at the core of every financial issue The spirituality of abundance and prosperity Connecting net worth to self worth Leading in the “post-pandemic abundance economy” How skills of generosi...
Self-Medicating vs. Self-Soothing with Steve Lapuk, LMFT
November 06, 2021 00:00 - 51 minutes - 35.7 MBJoin me for this thoughtful conversation with psychotherapist, Steve Lapuk, as we discuss his work helping gay men address self-destructive behaviors by understanding the root causes and learning how to soothe ourselves to get our needs met. Steve and talk about: How the trauma of growing up can fuel self-harming behaviors How to use the “Hangover Effect” to determine if you’re self-medicating What a “manic flight” is and why it drives self-destructive choices What you can do to start ...
Self-Medicating vs. Self-Soothing with Steve Lapuk, LMFT
November 06, 2021 00:00 - 51 minutes - 35.7 MBJoin me for this thoughtful conversation with psychotherapist, Steve Lapuk, as we discuss his work helping gay men address self-destructive behaviors by understanding the root causes and learning how to soothe ourselves to get our needs met. Steve and talk about: How the trauma of growing up can fuel self-harming behaviors How to use the “Hangover Effect” to determine if you’re self-medicating What a “manic flight” is and why it drives self-destructive choices What you can do to start ...
Map Your Sensitivities to Live Your Purpose with Mike Iamele
October 22, 2021 23:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBJoin me for a lively conversation with writer, purpose strategist and Sensitivity Mapper, Mike Iamele, as we talk about how his unique process for guiding gay, bi and queer man to live our purpose by embracing – rather than resisting – our greatest sensitivities. Mike and I dive into: His journey to falling in love with a man and coming out to 100K people overnight How knowing and mapping our sensitivities improves our lives, work and relationships Why sensitive mapping helps queer men ...
From Self Criticism to Self Compassion
October 08, 2021 21:00 - 43 minutes - 30.1 MBIn the first episode of the Self Esteem Series, I’m diving into one of the most effective tools to decrease the harsh judgement and self-criticism that make us feel unworthy and incapable of having the life we want and need. It’s called Self Compassion and it’s a simple yet powerful practice. Tune as I talk about… What self esteem is and what GBQ men must do to recover ours The reason high self esteem doesn’t always prevent self-criticism Why we criticize ourselves and how to slow down ...
Prioritize your Health with Nutrition Coach Paul Bailey
September 24, 2021 19:00 - 53 minutes - 37.1 MBIn this episode, I’m talking with Paul Bailey, a nutrition coach with over 15 years experience helping gay men transform their health, body and self confidence. Join me as I talk with Paul about how focusing on our mindset, relationship with food and ourselves is the key to a balanced, healthy lifestyle that’s right for us. Join us for a fun and informative conversation that covers topics including: Measuring success without focusing on weight The key to staying motivated that Paul helps...
Meet Maxxie LaWow: Drag Super-Shero with Filmmaker Anthony Hand
September 10, 2021 22:00 - 41 minutes - 28.5 MBI’m talking drag, animation and LGBTQ+ heroism with storyteller Anthony Hand. Tune in as he introduces us to Maxxie LaWow: Drag Super-Shero, the heroine of his new feature-length animated film releasing in 2024. I talk with Anthony about his inspiration to create Maxxie LaWow and his vision for an animated world where LGBTQ+ culture, comic books and anime intersect in stories of good triumphing over evil. Join us we chat all things MaxxieWorld and pay homage to the influence, power and s...
Meet Maxxie La Wow: Drag Super-Shero with Filmmaker Anthony Hand
September 10, 2021 22:00 - 41 minutes - 28.5 MBI’m talking drag, animation and LGBTQ+ heroism with storyteller Anthony Hand. Tune in as he introduces us to Maxxie La Wow: Drag Super-Shero, the heroine of his new feature-length animated film releasing in 2024. I talk with Anthony about his inspiration to create Maxxie La Wow and his vision for an animated world where LGBTQ+ culture, comic books and anime intersect in stories of good triumphing over evil. Join us we chat all things MaxxieWorld and pay homage to the influence, power and...
Relationship Myths and Misconceptions – Building your Relationship Skills Part 2
August 27, 2021 23:00 - 42 minutes - 29.1 MBIn Part 2 of this “A Quick Buck” episode on relationships, I dive into some of the most common myths and misconceptions about relationships that block healthy intimacy. Tune as I talk about… Approaching relationships with as a learner and with “beginner’s mind” The difference between relationship anxiety and red flag issues The key to building trust through conflict What’s underneath the myth that “gay men can’t commit” Learn more about me and how I help gay, bi and queer men like yo...
Building your Relationship Skills Part 1
August 14, 2021 00:00 - 35 minutes - 24.4 MBIn Part 1 of this “A Quick Buck” episode, I cover one of my favorite topics – relationships! More specifically, what it takes to become a skilled “relator” as gay, bi and queer men. Tune as I talk about… The core reason many of us struggle with finding and keeping healthy relationship Why gay, bi and queer man are relationship leaders, innovators and teachers Learning to move toward relationships as opposed to away or against them Four core skills you need to “get better” at intimacy ...
Building Your Relationship Skills Part 1
August 14, 2021 00:00 - 35 minutes - 24.4 MBIn Part 1 of this “A Quick Buck” episode, I cover one of my favorite topics – relationships! More specifically, what it takes to become a skilled “relator” as gay, bi and queer men. Tune as I talk about… The core reason many of us struggle with finding and keeping healthy relationship Why gay, bi and queer man are relationship leaders, innovators and teachers Learning to move toward relationships as opposed to away or against them Four core skills you need to “get better” at intimacy ...
Awaken Your Power with Christian de la Huerta
July 31, 2021 00:00 - 1 hour - 42.2 MBIn this episode, I have a powerful conversation with sought-after spiritual teacher, personal transformation coach, gay male thought leader, and author Christian de la Huerta. We talk about his latest book, Awakening the Soul of Power, and the hero’s journey we all must go on to access our authentic personal power. Tune in to hear Christian and I talk about: The theory in his first book, Coming Out Spiritually, that gay men have spiritual functions How his journey from Cuba to the US inf...
Grace, God and Gays with Tony Scott
July 17, 2021 03:00 - 54 minutes - 37.3 MBIn this episode, I have a lively conversation with ®EMMY Award-winning entrepreneur, faith-based communications expert and ordained minister, Tony Scott. Tony aka “The Apostle of Joy” and I talk about his new project, Grace for Gays, which is forging a new path ahead for those in our community who identify as gay, bi or queer as well as Christian. Tony’s story is about embracing his individuality and finding grace as a black, gay and Christian man. Regardless of your religious or spiritual...
Overcoming Sexual Shame with Derek Leighton
July 02, 2021 23:00 - 54 minutes - 37.3 MBIn this episode, I talk with Certified Sex Therapist, Derek Leighton about how gay, bi and queer man can begin to recognize and heal sexual shame. This important topic is rarely, if ever, discussed and yet it’s one of the most commonly discussed issues in counseling. Tune in to hear Derek and I talk: Defining sex therapy vs traditional talk therapy Understanding how sexual shame impacts how we relate to our sexual interests, desires and preferences The impact of words like “premature” a...
Body Wellness & Authenticity Encouragement with Lance Pyburn, LMT
June 18, 2021 22:00 - 50 minutes - 34.5 MBIn this episode, I talk with wellness entrepreneur and Licensed Massage Therapist (LMT), Lance Pyburn, about healing through our bodies, storytelling and living with authenticity. Tune in as Lance and I discuss Brave New Love, his latest initiative that create spaces for about living authentically, especially for LGBTQ+ people. Highlights include: How Lance redefined authenticity and success by healing internalized homophobia The chronic stress on gay men’s bodies and how our nervous sy...
From Gay Pride to Gay Power
June 04, 2021 22:00 - 57 minutes - 39.6 MBHappy Pride and Happy Power! In this “A Quick Buck” episode, I dive headfirst into the special powers we have and why it’s time for gay, bi and queer men to take the next step to evolve. Check it out as I talk about… Why we need a Coming Out 2.0 to step into full power as gay men Gay men’s roles, gifts, spiritual functions, and superpowers The work of thought leaders, Christian de la Huerta, Ray Rigoglioso and Toby Johnson The ability we have to balance the Masculine and Feminine T...
Gay Spirituality with Dr. Toby Johnson
May 21, 2021 18:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MBJoin me and gay thought leader, spiritual writer, novelist, and former monk, Dr. Toby Johnson, as we explore the essential role gay and queer men play in expanding spirituality and raising consciousness. In this episode, Toby and I chat about… The intersection of spiritual practice and living as a gay man in a non-gay world Defining spirit as the “observer inside” involved in the evolution of consciousness The profound influence of “Follow your Bliss” author, Joseph Campbell on his teac...
Raising LGBTQ Allies with Chris Tompkins
May 08, 2021 15:00 - 52 minutes - 36.4 MBJoin me and Chris Tompkins, author, TEDx speaker, spiritual life coach, and LGBTQ inner-advocate to discuss his new book, Raising LGBTQ Allies: A Parent’s Guide to Changing the Messages from the Playground. In this episode, Chris and I chat about… The “messages from the playground” that become subconscious negative beliefs about being gay Doing the work to talk openly with children and families about LGBTQ identity How coming out as a gay man doesn’t erase negative beliefs about being g...
Gay Men Choosing Connection Over Perfection
April 23, 2021 19:00 - 41 minutes - 28.4 MBPerfectionism runs rampant in the gay, bi and queer male communities. Striving to the “best little boy in the world” is a strategy many of us use to cope with the shame, invalidation and rejection from growing up gay. It’s time to set ourselves free so let’s start by addressing the root cause – our need for connection. Check out this episode to learn… Signs of perfectionism as well as over-achieving, over-functioning and people-pleasing How our unmet needs for connection drive perfecti...
Healthy Gay Dating with Relationship Coach Ken Reid
April 10, 2021 00:00 - 55 minutes - 38.3 MBJoin me and Dating & Relationship Coach, Ken Reid, as we dive into Ken’s no-nonsense dating tips for gay men. In this episode, Ken and I unpack… How our own thoughts, beliefs and assumptions are hurdles to finding a man Transforming gay shame and self-abandonment into empowered action Knowing and communicating your “terms and conditions” in dating Healthy alternatives to ghosting and being ghosted Using rejection as an opportunity to build your self-esteem Authenticity as the founda...
Mindfulness, Music and Gay Men’s Healing with Brian Falduto
March 27, 2021 17:00 - 50 minutes - 34.9 MBJoin me and The Gay Life Coach, Brian Falduto, for a fun conversation as we dive into his story as a twentysomething gay man, life coach, podcaster, and musician. In this episode, Brian and I chat about… His experience as a child actor that kept him from coming out How becoming a musician storyteller helped him heal His mission as a life coach to inspire self-awareness in younger gay men Developing a personal mindfulness practice to promote gay men’s healing The power of connection w...
Empowering Gay Asian Men with Coach Yatin Mistry
March 16, 2021 19:00 - 1 hour - 48.5 MBThis week, I dive deep into the story of empowerment coach, entrepreneur and author, Yatin Mistry. Join us as Yatin and I go into his story and discuss how he approaches empowering his LGBTQ clients of color. In this episode, we cover: Yatin’s journey to identifying as a first-generation British-Indian and as a gay man The role of spirituality in coming to terms with sexuality Realizing that you have a choice in how to respond to racism and homophobia Mindset shifts and “brain muscle”...
A Quick Update
March 12, 2021 23:00 - 6 minutes - 4.69 MBHey everyone, I hope you’re doing well and as always, thanks for supporting the podcast. I see Gay Men’s Life Lab as a community and a big conversation that I’m having with you, so I’m sharing a quick update today to let you know a little bit of what’s going on behind the scenes, and what's in store in upcoming episodes. And remember, you can always reach out to me at www.buckdodson.com or on Instagram and Facebook to let me know a topic you’d like me to cover. Thanks, everyone and look...