Deanna Bryant was sexually molested by her two older brothers when she was seven years old.  When she finally gathered the courage to tell her mother, she was implicitly told to never tell anyone.  
Deanna did as her mother told her, and buried the secret for 40 years, and never told anyone.
But as with all trauma, it surfaced in different ways.  Deanna was angry all the time, so much so that her own children were scared of her anger.  She became an alcoholic and  could not control her drinking.  Eventually Deanna ended up in rehab.  It was there that she received counselling for the child hood sexual abuse.
 
Deanna tells us that you can't go around the mountain, you have to go through it.
I encourage you to listed Deanna's Podcast 
Rive Your Mid Life Marriage Podcast 
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1244072
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/revive-your-midlife-marriage

She also is a coach for women who want to revive their marriage 
https://reviveyourmidlifemarriage.com/