DIVORCING THE NARCISSIST - Full Seminar (Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison, Richard Grannon)
Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon
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This is a recording of a full seminar dedicated to the topic of divorcing a narcissistic partner, held by three experts - Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison and Richard Grannon.
(00:01) Introduction to the Seminar
(05:33) The Beginning of Sara Davison’s Section: Personal Story
(08:15) The Emotions of a Heartbreak and the Hamster Wheel Questions
(11:32) Divorce Can Be a Great Opportunity if You Decide to Take It
(14:06) Divorce Statistics and the Reasons of Divorce
(15:20) The Stages of Divorce
(20:34) How to Take Control Over Your Life Whilst Going Through the Stages
(24:34) Key 1. Take Responsibility
(26:30) Key 2. Get Clarity
(27:58) Key 3. Take Back Your Control
(29:32) Key 4. Focus on Moving Forward Positively
(33:00) Managing Conflict With Your Ex
(35:59) Quality Question
(38:13) The “Flip It” Technique and the Small Steps
(41:44) Less Bridget Jones and More Sex and the City James Bond
(44:47) Be a Role Model
(46:51) Let Go
(48:56) The Beginning of Richard Grannon’s Section
(51:41) The Codependence is Rooted in the Formative Years
(54:48) You Will Have to Redefine Love to Recover (an Exercise)
(57:36) Reformulating Your Boundaries and Embracing Your Shadow Self
(1:01:48) The Idea That a Codependent Has No Control is Venomous
(1:03:26) The Formation of a Narcissist/psychopath/predator in Brief
(1:07:42) The Trauma Bonding Effect
(1:12:28) Divorcing From Your Internal Avatar of That Person and Coming Out of the Story
(1:15:53) Answering Questions
(1:18:33) The Beginning of Sam Vaknin’s Section
(1:20:40) Interchangeability of People for a Narcissist
(1:25:38) We Are All Narcissists to Some Extent
(1:27:24) You Can Never Really Divorce a Narcissist
(1:30:09) The Four Foundations of a Narcissist Concentration Camp: Vulnerability, Addiction and Trauma
(1:34:14) The Four Foundations of a Narcissist Concentration Camp: Adaptation
(1:35:36) Sam Talks About What He’s Discovered About the Victims of a Narcissistic Abuse Part 1
(1:39:42) Sam Talks About What He’s Discovered About the Victims of a Narcissistic Abuse Part 2
(1:42:15) Why You Need to Discard Malignant Optimism
(1:44:33) You Need to Get Rid of Mythologizing
(1:47:44) Sam Reads His List of Observations
(1:50:51) You Are Grieving and Mourning Five Things, Not One
(1:52:22) Sam Continues With Recommendations
(1:56:44) No Contact With the Abuser
(1:58:55) Who Are the Inverted Narcissists?
(2:02:39) Narcissist as a Child Part 1
(2:04:43) Narcissist as a Child Part 2
(2:08:45) The End