7 Steps to Stop Replaying Patterns that Don't Serve You!

I am happy to report I am mothering a high schooler differently this time.
My youngest son is 5 years younger than my middle son and as Bryson is doing high school things now, I can see so clearly how I am at least trying to do things differently this time.

I recently saw this with Bryson asking a girl to homecoming. (** I am taking a break for May/June and also JULY!  So this is a repeat episode.  I should be back in August.  :)

When Carson did this, it was such a stressful time as I tried to help him with these things.  It was not fun for me at all!

So, this fall as Bryson started pondering asking a girl to homecoming, I sort of got sucked back into my old way of “helping” which was to stress out and try to help too much. 

I found myself saying, “I wish you weren’t even going, this is just too much.”

Here are the steps I took to break that pattern!

1. Pause, what is this pattern and what thoughts, and emotions are behind it?

2. What do you actually want?

3. What do you need to do to create that?

4. What emotions do you need to clear to help open the path to take you there?

5. Clear the emotions

6. Choose a new thought and actions

7. Take them and give yourself grace and try again!

Tips to clear the emotions around the situation

Take a bit of time to figure out what you want and find a new thought and emotions to help you create that.  Sometimes you do need to also clear the emotions around it, especially if they are strong! 

The power of neutrality can be super helpful!

A fast and easy way to do this is scribbling 

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