Female Leadership Coach

The danger of either/or thinking

You likely have some subconscious beliefs that you haven't stopped to observe. Where are those thoughts showing up? Are there areas in your life where you've sunk into either/or thinking, instead of acknowledging that there may be a way to have both and? In today's episode, I dive into the danger of either/or thinking and what we can do about it. 

Are you growing, or returning to yourself?

Growing as a leader means staying true and authentic to your values and what's important to you, AND it means getting uncomfortable with the ways you are changing and adapting to meet the needs of your business, team, and plans. In today's episode, learn the ways in which you are growing or returning to yourself. And this powerful question -- what are the ways I have grown, and what are the ways I have returned to myself? -- can guide your own personal growth as a leader. 

Are you growing, or returning to yourself?

Growing as a leader means staying true and authentic to your values and what's important to you, AND it means getting uncomfortable with the ways you are changing and adapting to meet the needs of your business, team, and plans. In today's episode, learn the ways in which you are growing or returning to yourself. And this powerful question -- what are the ways I have grown, and what are the ways I have returned to myself? -- can guide your own personal growth as a leader. 

Mom Mondays: Start small

As parents, it is so easy to go to a place of creating an in-depth plan of action for ourselves or our families or our children... without recognizing that change usually starts with something very small. In today's episode, you may recognize the areas of your life where you need to take a step back and just start small with changes or upticks or new things on the horizon. 

Remaining calm in the chaos

I recently went through a lot in my personal life, like many families are going through right now. While it was challenging, I also noticed the ways in which I could respond and adapt more quickly and remain centered. As a leader, you must often decide how you are going to respond to a challenge or situation that you didn't see coming. Listen in for some tips and tricks on how to stay calm in the chaos. 

Mom Mondays: Giving and receiving feedback

In today's episode, I share a story about a conversation I recently had with my mother that made me realize, once again, that there are ALWAYS two sides to a story - to very valid and true sides. As parents, we have to remain open and accepting of what we learn and hear from our children. And as it turns out, what we learn and hear from our parents as well. Tune in to examine the ways that you are prepared for feedback from your own children. 

Brain Drama

Are there areas in your life in which you have a lot of "brain drama?" There's extra noise and feedback -- and sometimes we get caught up in it, rather than acting on what we know we need to do. Taking action requires that we move through the brain drama and into the flow of what lies ahead. As a leader, you have to consider what is brain drama and what is worthwhile analysis. The choice is yours!

It's uncomfortable to take a day off

I've been noticing how challenging it can sometimes be to take a step back. Recently, I noticed the discomfort attached to taking a day off for the sake of taking a day off. Where else do YOU notice discomfort in taking a break or a step back, and how can you embrace those feelings? 

Do It Now

I notice that many female leaders are often creative, energized people -- and that energy needs a place to land. In so many cases, the BEST thing we can do is... do it NOW! When we have an urge-idea-partnership looming, to just go for it. In today's episode, you might consider where in your life you are pausing when you need to do it now. 

Career Changes: Let the gut feeling be enough

I often hear women say that their gut is telling them to leave a job or career, but that the logistics get in the way. What if we just let the gut feeling be enough? How could trusting that intuition lead to better and stronger decision-making in the future? In this episode, I address the importance of trusting our gut on big decisions. 

Mom Mondays: Connection, or Guidance?

As a parent, it's easy to get knocked off our game. The question is always... how will you respond? Today's episode is a reminder that we need to ask ourselves a simple question when it comes to our children and what they need in those tough moments. 

Mom Mondays: Connection, or Guidance?

As a parent, it's easy to get knocked off our game. The question is always... how will you respond? Today's episode is a reminder that we need to ask ourselves a simple question when it comes to our children and what they need in those tough moments. 

Create energy around the things you don't want to do

I've used several tips and tricks over the years to create motivation, passion and energy around projects. In today's episode, I give you some steps you can take to create energy around the things you DON'T want to do. And how that will make a difference in the results and outcome. 

Mom Mondays: Experience the feeling of boredom

I used to resist the feeling of boredom when spending time with my kiddos. Once I acknowledged and allowed the feeling to be there, it passed much more quickly and I didn't resist it. Where are you resisting feelings instead of just experiencing them? What might be on the other side when you embrace the emotions and move forward? 

Mom Mondays: Experience the feeling of boredom

I used to resist the feeling of boredom when spending time with my kiddos. Once I acknowledged and allowed the feeling to be there, it passed much more quickly and I didn't resist it. Where are you resisting feelings instead of just experiencing them? What might be on the other side when you embrace the emotions and move forward? 

The concept of duality: opposite thoughts and feelings

Contrasting thoughts and feelings used to throw me off track. Today, I see them as just part of the human experience, especially when we are going after a new goal. It's so easy to judge ourselves; what if we instead embraced the two contrasting feelings? Be present with  those feelings and you might just get to the other side even faster. 

Reframe your setbacks

I used to think of setbacks and challenges as reasons to doubt a decision or over-analyze a situation. Now, I look at setbacks as just further evidence that I am on the right track. Where are you letting setbacks get in the way? How can you embrace them instead? 

It Takes 45 Seconds

It's so easy to put off activities and goals that are important to us or to our well-being because we believe they will "take a long time." A friend of mine recently shared this example of a habit she had put off in her life, and I love the simplicity of it. In today's episode, I discuss how easy it can be to delay the things that are vital to our leadership journey. What in your life, career, or leadership have you been putting off that you need to embrace in a small, short step instead? Ho...

Mom Mondays: What Do I Like Doing?

We spend a lot of time as parents noticing what our kids love to do (or don't love to do). And our days and minds are packed with checklists, to-do's, and activities. When is the last time you asked yourself, "What do I like doing?" In today's episode, I share how this simple question can shift the energy back to ourselves and help us tune in with what matters. The more you understand what you like doing, the more you will generate energy and commitment around what's important to you... and ...

Stop waiting for the "right time"

As women, it is challenging to prioritize what's important to us, especially when so many other things get thrown at us on a daily basis. In today's episode, I examine this belief of "I need to wait until the time is right," which may sometimes be a reason to push your goal or ambition even further down the road. Is there really such a thing as "the right time?"

Mom Mondays: Is Your Comfort a Distraction?

As a parent, I have to keep many routines, schedules, and habits in check. And I have noticed that this brings comfort to myself and my child. However, there are times that the "feeling" of parenting gets ahold of me and distracts me from what I really want or need. What are the ways that you have been using parenting as a distraction, or as a way to avoid tuning into yourself? Is there something that needs to shift so that you can get back in touch with what you need and desire? Your goals ...

Focus on what's in your control (not much)

It's easy to get off track when challenges are constantly coming our way. Focusing on the small daily habits and practices that are in our control is one way to bring everything back to a stable place. From there, we can thrive. 

Mom Mondays: Stop Overthinking as a Parent

Given the pressures in society today, it's easy to spend your time worrying if you're parenting the "right" way, or wondering if you made the "right" decision regarding something with your child. In today's episode, I challenge you to stop overthinking those small decisions and trust that you are doing the right thing, every day, just by showing up as you. Your child will remember your behaviors, actions, responsibility, and approach. 

Making space for a new commitment

It's easy to overcommit as a working woman. I recommend that clients assess and ensure they have the mental space and capacity before taking on a new commitment. Taking on a new commitment that only increases overwhelm is not sustainable. In today's episode, I talk about the importance of making space to enjoy your commitments and additions. 

Mom Mondays: Approach with a feeling of confidence

It's easy to overthink situations with our kids. I like to consider the FEELING attached to a challenge with our kids, rather than the immediate list of action steps or things we "need" to do. In today's episode, I talk about a recent challenge with one of my kiddos and how the feeling of confidence made a difference. 

Mom Mondays: Stop Overthinking As A Mom

Given the pressures that exist in our society today, it's easy to spend your time worrying if you're parenting the "right" way or wondering if you made the right decision on something with your child. In today's episode, I challenge you to stop overthinking those small decisions and trust that you are doing the right thing, every day, just by showing up as you. Your child will remember your behaviors, actions, and responsibility.... they won't remember every small yes or no or boundary. 

Mom Mondays: The Energy You Put Out Is The Energy You'll Get Back

As parents, there is so much out of our control. In fact, most of what our kids do and experience is out of control. What is in our control is how we respond to in those moments when our children need us -- when they're ecstatic and want to share something, or when they're upset and need support, or when they just feel out of sorts. Do you try to fix it? Do you panic yourself? Or do you put the energy out that you want to get back...? Stay conscious and aware of what energy you are putting i...

Trust In The Vision And What YOU Want

When making big decisions -- whether it's in your personal life or your work life -- it's easy to get caught up in the "right" way to do something. Or messages from your past and beliefs from those you love dear take over... but instead, trust your gut. Trust in the vision that you have set for yourself, and trust in what you want. It's OK to make others uncomfortable when pursuing what's important in your own life. 

Level Up

Are you spending more time doing as a leader and less time showing up as the person your company and your team needs? In today's episode, I challenge you to consider what level you're operating at, and why. And what is actually going to make the difference for your company's strategy and vision. 

Mom Mondays: It's Not Your Job To Fix

As parents, we experience discomfort when our children experience discomfort. This is normal. When we try to control, fix, distract, or ignore our child's big feelings... we are not doing them any favors. What if we just let those feelings be? What if we allow the emotion to come, and go? In today's episode, I give some practical advice for re-framing what it means to parent young kids on a day to day basis. 

Mom Mondays: Your Kids Are Learning By Watching YOU

The local and national news is all about school, childcare, and making decisions for our families. Before you overthink your child's education, stop to remember that YOU are one of your child's best and most significant teachers. Your child is learning simply by watching you in this world. Are you showing up as the leader and mom you want to be? 

Dream Big - Sometimes Simple, Sometimes Not

When was the last time you allowed yourself the space to stop and dream big? To write out, in detail, what your dream life looks like? Create it and envision it. In today's episode, I walk you through the exercise and how it can be helpful to see what fears or blocks are in your way -- and also how you can implement some of those dream life elements into your day-to-day, right now. 

What Do I Need?

Next time you're feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or concerned about something -- and you can't seem to figure out the next best step -- stop to ask yourself a simple question. Often, what you need at work may not be related to work at all. Schedule what you need. Make it a priority. And take action. 

Mom Mondays: Whose life is this anyway?

In today's episode, I speak to how we have to put ourselves first if we want our kids to grow and thrive. Too often, our immediate response to "how are you doing" or "what's new" immediately goes to everything outside of ourselves: our kids, our family, our jobs, etc. What and who are you prioritizing these days?

Stop Working So Hard

It's easy to fall into a trap of go-go-go without lifting your head up to see the bigger picture. Sometimes, leadership is way less about doing and way more about being. Listen in as I had this moment recently in preparation for an upcoming workshop. Where do you need to take a step back from the doing to ground yourself in the leader you want to be?

You Don't Need More Training

Sometimes, before a big decision or action step, we will stop, pause, or stall. And one excuse I've made to myself is -- Wait, I can't do this until I have more training. Is that really true? What are the stories or messages we tell ourselves that hold us back from reaching our full potential as female leaders? In today's episode, I challenge you to take the step before you think you are ready, even if the voice inside your head is telling you that you need more training. Learning on the job...

It Does Get Better

I've had challenging times recently, especially when I have to do something that no one else wants to do or that nobody else has the courage to do. It can be a rollercoaster when you have to do these tasks, and you'll have to feel the emotions in order to get through it. The good news? It does get better. Listen in and let me know what you think. 

Create Your Sanctuary

In times like these, it's more important than ever to declare your space and make time for what you need. Creating a sanctuary is one way I did this recently. 

Stop And Acknowledge The Pain

Change is scary. Change means different. And change ultimately means loss. Before you try to move on, make sure you stop and acknowledge the pain of what that change means and has meant for you. In today's episode, I walk you through a simple weekly exercise that can help you make space to acknowledge the changes in your own life. 

Mom Mondays: Do What Needs To Be Done

Mom Mondays: One Moment

Parenting has its challenges, and its awe-inspiring moments. As a mom, I have to remind myself that there is always one moment a day that knocks me off my feet. And just holding on to that one moment -- letting it soak in, and sitting with it, and appreciating it -- can strengthen my relationship with my child, and my joy as a mom. 

Everybody's Watching... Or Are They?

In today's episode, I talk about the need to examine some of those thoughts or stories we have in our heads about other people's approval. Sometimes, we just have to let it go and realize that everybody is caught up in their own world, and their own moment. Let it go. 

Declare What You Want, And Then Get On With It Already

Sometimes as leaders, the simple act of declaring what we want can get us the results we need. But the fear of making others uncomfortable can get in the way. In this episode, I describe how and why you need to speak up and ask for what you want... you just might get it. 

Mom Mondays: Parenting Is A Joyful Role

Why is the narrative about parenting so negative sometimes? Exhaustion, challenges, lack of sleep -- you name it, there's something out there that folks have to say about how hard parenting is. In today's episode, I talk about why I believe parenting is a joyful role and ask you to consider what you're doing to make it enjoyable. 

Pay Attention

Often as leaders, there are crucial things that only we can do or only we can call out -- no one else is comfortable doing it, or no one else is making it a priority. Where do you need to stop and pay attention? Why have you been resisting it, or what have you been putting on the back burner? Stop -- and pay closer attention. 

Black Lives Matter - Do Something

In today's episode, I talk about why it's so critical to understand and learn about white privilege; how working on ourselves is hard and needed work; and how it must turn into action. I am not an expert and encourage you to get educated by those who are in this space. 

My Rude Awakening: Get Out of Guilt, Get Into Action

In today's episode, I talk about how I once again needed to get comfortable with the discomfort when it comes to racial equity work and everything that we as white leaders need to confront, learn, and do to act as allies in Black Lives Matter. I recognize that I am not an expert in this space, and that I have so much more work to do. 

Disappointing Others Is Not The Problem

In today's episode, I talk about why the only person we need to be concerned about disappointing is ourselves. 

There's Always A Reason Not To Do Something

In today's episode, which was originally recorded in February, I talk about how things can and will get in the way of our dreams and goals. When we push through those feelings and come out the other side, we realize how much we can accomplish. 

It's Not Burn Out Or Nothing

Too often, we are in an all-or-nothing mindset. In today's show, I talk about why we need to end the stop-and-go, stop-and-go pattern. It is not burn out or nothing.