Want To Make a Positive Change? Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity

Want To Make a Positive Change? Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity with D.B. Marshall

D.B. Marshall talks to us about how we can flip the switch on our outlook on life. When we perceive what we believe to be a weakness or an obstacle we should turn that around and think of it as an opportunity. Taking a negative and turning it into a positive is key for a happy life and a life of gratitude. Let's help spread the love and joy to those around us.

About D.B.:

D.B. Marshall - Wellness Coach, Author, and Inspirational Speaker

On October 1st, 2018, D.B. birthed Love's Pursuit out of emotional hardship, love, forgiveness, and spiritual enlightenment. In a robust effort to impact lives across the world, he has dedicated his heart, experiences, time, gift, talents, and more importantly his voice to uplift others through community advocacy and support.

In addition, he became an Independent Herbalife distributor to help others achieve their personal wellness goals. D.B. is truly a champion for invigorating humanity, hope, and happiness of those around him.

Even before entering his doctoral program in Social Work, D.B. devoted himself wholeheartedly towards the betterment of others in terms of self-confidence, attitude towards life, and overall wellness.

His work with numerous charitable organizations including the American Association of Kidney Patients (AAKP), Big Brothers Big Sisters program, and AAKP Patient-Centered Outcomes Research Institute Dissemination Award on peer-to-peer mentorship—as well as other community-focused pursuits—saw him develop a kinship with people from all backgrounds.

His passion continued to grow, fueling his motivational speaking pursuits, advocating for noble causes while capturing the hearts of thousands in the urban community on his wellness radio show at WERUradio.com. Today, that passion is stronger than ever; his honest devotion to humanity sits at the core of Love’s Pursuit and continues to change and positively impact lives globally.

Education and Certificates: Doctor of Social Work (ABD), Master’s degree in Social Work, Bachelor's degree in Social Work, Associate’s degree in Early Childhood Education, and Leadership Certificate.

www.lovespursuitatl.net

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Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (00:02):

Hello, and welcome to another episode of feeding fatty. This is Roy. This is Terry. So what we, uh, this podcast is chronicling my journey and Terry as my helper. So trying to lose some weight, get in better shape, just all around wellness. And, um, anyway, also we bring you guests professionals in different fields from time to time, and today is no different. We have an awesome guest with, with us and I'm going to let Terry introduce him.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (00:29):

Yes, we are delighted to have D.B. Marshall. He is a wellness coach, author and inspirational speaker in October of 2018. DV birthed loves pursuit out of emotional hardship, love, forgiveness, and spiritual enlightenment in a robust effort to impact lives across the world. He has dedicated his heart experiences, time gift, talents, and more importantly, his voice to uplift others through community advocacy and support. In addition, he became an independent, excuse me, I'm sorry. Even before entering his doctoral program in social work, D.B. devoted himself, whole heart heartedly toward the betterment of others in terms of self-confidence attitude towards life. And overall wellness has worked with numerous charitable organizations, including the American association of kidney, pH patients, big brothers, big sisters program, and AAKP patient centered outcomes research Institute dissemination award on peer to peer mentorship, as well as other community focused pursuits. They saw him develop a kinship with people from all backgrounds. His passion continued to grow fueling his motivational speaking pursuits advocating for noble causes while capturing the hearts of thousands in the urban community on his wellness radio show at weruradio.com today that passion is strong, stronger than ever. His honest devotion to humanity sits at the core of Love's pursuit and continues to change and positively impact lives. Globally. DB has a doctor of social work, a master's degree in social work, a bachelor's degree in social work associate's degree in early childhood education and leadership certificate DB. Welcome to the show. We're so happy to have you today.

D.B. Marshall (02:26):

Thank you. Thank you for inviting me. Glad to be here.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (02:30):

Well, we need some of your motivational speaking today. I was just telling her, I said, we need to see if we can get a pizza delivery man over here. So we need to talk about some

D.B. Marshall (02:38):

[inaudible]. Yeah, yeah. The cupboards dry.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (02:47):

Uh, well, thanks for taking time out of your day to be with us. Uh, it's awesome to have you, and so kinda tell us a little bit about, uh, what led you here. How did you get here and, uh, you know, loves pursuit. Yes.

D.B. Marshall (03:01):

Yeah. Um, so how did I get here? I, I can honestly say I got here because of love, right? So my, my book is entitled. I've just written a book and my books is entitled love, pursuit, journey to wellness. And so when I start going through things and start dissecting different events that took place in my life, and also just trying to learn who I was and who I was a bit calming, the Dell. I want to say the theme that kept coming out for me was like, love, love, love, loving me, myself, loving who I was, because it's not always to love who you were is sometimes it's not easy to love who we are right now because there's some things that we want to change about ourselves. And so it also encompasses, you know, loving God and loving my mom, loving my family. And so the theme love was just consistent. And so when I went through a lot of hardship in my life, it brought me back to love. And what does that mean for me?

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (03:58):

It's so important. It's not only, uh, you know, that self love component. We have to love ourselves before we can love anybody else. And I think that gets back to, you know, we have to be happy with us. We can't, we can't expect other things. And I think, you know, people like myself, you know, we eat for a variety of reasons, but you know, it's all, uh, typically it's all emotional. So we need to, you know, we talk a lot about that. We need to give ourself a break and I've got a, I've got a, another show that's moral business. And we talk about a lot there about how hard we are on a set of like, if we have 10 things on our to-do list today, and we get seven done, we can spend our time beating ourself up over not getting three things done versus celebrating those, uh, seven that we did, you know, and that progress that we are making. And I think, uh, most people in life we can, we're the hardest upon ourselves. We're our worst thing.

D.B. Marshall (04:57):

I, I, I completely agree with that. And I, you know, and some of it is social conditioning, right? And so I think we were almost taught that. And so we have to come back to the basics and we have to understand that I like to use control ultimate, delete control, all that needs to be a part of what we're doing every day, because that negative, um, thought will come up in our minds. And once you have that negative thought, it, you know, it caused you to feel some kind of way. Then it goes back to what you were saying that you create this behavior emotionally eating now that you have this behavior. So we have the control control alt delete and reboot, you know, start all over here. Yeah.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (05:38):

Yeah. And what are some techniques that you use? Because that, I think that's a key also that, you know, at night when you go to bed, we need to learn and don't want to dismiss the learning component of, you know, when we do something, you stick your hand on the, uh, stick your hand on the hot burn, or you get burned, you learn knots to camp back down, but for all, everything else, you know, we need to hit that control alt delete every night and start the next day fresh and, uh, ready to get down and do good, you know, not only for ourselves, but for the world in general. So do you have any tricks or techniques that you can kind of help you to refresh and start over?

D.B. Marshall (06:18):

Yes. One of the things that I do is meditate, right? And so meditation comes in different forms and I had to learn this the hard way I went through practicing Buddhists, I mean, praying and chanting. And when you really, when it really comes down to the nitty gritty, they all pretty much, it's the same thing. So you have to find out what works for you. So I thought meditating was just really just kind of closing your eyes and, um, you know, and that's worked for some people, but it doesn't work for me. And so I had to find a way to meditate in which I thought it would be beneficial for me. And so when I meditate, I just say an affirmation now. And so I say, I love myself an hour repeated several times. Uh, research shows that if you continue to repeat things, at least a minimum of three times or more, it then becomes a part of you individually.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (07:09):

Yeah. And if you notice the, how true that is, if you notice, uh, uh, there's a gown, uh, TV, car commercials, phone number, you know, call 800, whatever call 800, whatever call 803 times, because that's what really resonates with people. So I think that's awesome advice to affirm with ourselves three times what we want to get, that message. And, you know, it's interesting because, uh, my priest, he's such an awesome guy, but I get to talk to him every now and then. And that's one thing we talked about is those negative thoughts. And I like what he said that, um, our mind is a grinder, but we get to choose and it grinds 24 seven, but we get to choose what it grinds. And so I think that, you know, if we're feeding us that positive affirmation, it it's like building that muscle muscle memory to, we will become, I think we will become that more than that negative. Hey, you know what I could have done better should, you know, you really messed up and then all of a sudden you become a product of that. Yeah.

D.B. Marshall (08:13):

Yeah. I completely agree with that. Yeah. So

Terry - Feeding Fatty (08:16):

I was going to ask, so how, how Kim, we stay on the positive part of that and get away from the negative thoughts, you know,

D.B. Marshall (08:26):

Um, the best thing that I tried to, um, encourage and motivate people is one, you have to understand that life in itself is a process, right? And so you have to pace your strides, pace that journey, and don't set goals that, you know, you can achieve. And when you are attempting to change a behavior, you have to understand that it takes time. And so I give a prime example. I was writing this book. I work out, I used to work out eight fluidly. And so I literally started writing my books roughly about September. I just went back to the gym. And so over the past few months, guess what happened? I kind of gained some fat around my stomach. So now they're stubborn. Fat is there. And so for me to walk into the gym, thinking that I am going to lose the fat around my stomach in a matter of Mazda is probably going to be little to none because it's easier to gain in is harder to lose my sister. So I have to understand the set realistic goals and which I want to make sure I get back to where I was when I started before I started writing.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (09:34):

So realistic, smaller goals. I mean, look at the big picture, but chip at it, chip away at it a little at a time. Yeah, that's good.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (09:44):

Yeah. And the other thing I think too is, um, we get, I'll speak for me. Sometimes I get frustrated with not picking up something new or not figuring it out. But I think also too, as we learn in that journey is that we weren't born knowing everything. And some people may have better skills than we do, uh, at certain things, but it's because they've done that repetitively. So we need to, um, you know, kind of find that piece that it takes things take time. I think that is a drawback of the, uh, you know, I'll say you kids, you know, the, the younger generation and, uh, the instant gratification and I'm one I've lost my patience. And I think because, you know, we're so used to, uh, Google, you know, back in the day, when you had to walk across the room to get an encyclopedia, to look something up or go to heaven forbid you might even have to get on a bus and go down to the public library to look up, you know, but you know, you could ask yourself a question and it may be days or weeks before you could answer we're now, man, we can Google it and get the, anyway, the point is, I think that we've become so conditioned to instant gratification that, uh, you know, trying to work some patients in somewhere it's, it's difficult.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (11:00):

Yeah.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (11:01):

I think it all started with drive-throughs, you know, every week we think every place should have a drive-through no matter what it is, what the service is, whatever.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (11:08):

Right. Exactly. Oh, we might have lost, um, give him just a second, see if he'll pop back up, but I'm afraid we might have lost the baby. Oh, well, we'll just keep talking. How about that? We'll give him a chance to pop back up, but, um, yeah. I mean, I think it's just, um, you know, the other thing I was going to talk about too, a little bit is social media has, um, it only shows usually the best of other people where, you know, there's other going on and sometimes that's even fake that we just everybody's life is not as perfect as it may appear on social media. So

Terry - Feeding Fatty (12:00):

I only want to show the good things. Yeah. Yeah. And I thought, I figured for sure you were bringing me up when you were talking about having patients. We got to,

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (12:10):

Yeah. We were just talking about patients. I'm not sure how much of that you heard, but we were just saying that, you know, we've all grown thin of patients, but we have to be patient with ourselves. For sure.

D.B. Marshall (12:21):

Yeah. Paige, you know, I used to make fun, uh, the elderly, I ain't gonna say elderly cause I'm in the staff. So I can remember the older generation sands, certain phrases, you know, like patience is a virtue and it didn't necessarily make sense to me because I didn't appreciate patients when I was younger. And every, since I hit like 40 patient has the hump a huge, huge part of my life.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (12:48):

Oh, just wait. Youth is wasted on the young. I remember that. That was a huge one.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (12:55):

So what, what made you decide to write this book? Was there a specific, um, incident yeah. Something in life that happened or just some things that had been on your mind, you just wanted to get out finally.

D.B. Marshall (13:06):

Well, believe it or not, people have always told me that I should write a book based on just my life and my upbringing not faced a lot of different obstacles. And to me, they weren't obstacles until I started hanging around with other people. So in short we would poll. Okay. And so in a black community, you know, sometimes we have poor, we have Pope. And so PO is, is poor than poor, if that makes sense. So with that said, you know, we had the powder milk, the welfare cheese, uh, I mean the food stamps, I don't know if you all remember, but the food stamps used to actually be paper, like real paper with different colors. And so with that said, I went through a number of things and the thing that really, really took me there was the divorce. So I got divorced. Maybe it's been six years now.

D.B. Marshall (13:58):

And we were married for 10 years. And me personally, I really don't believe in divorce. I feel like, look, if we love each other, is there, if there is an odor of love, I'm going to work it, you know, I'm going to figure out what we can do. Unfortunately, that's my value. And I had to understand that's not everyone else's valued. And so what that said, it really hit hard. And in addition to that, there was some other things that was going on. I was dealing with racism. I was dealing with discrimination. I was dealing with, um, I remember going to work one day in a car, came out of nowhere and I had to avoid, um, from the car hitting me and I, my car ended up in a ditch and they literally had to get a tow truck and pulled me in my car, out of his ditch.

D.B. Marshall (14:41):

He was just so much that was going on. And so at that particular time, I said, you know what? I just shut down. And I went into a depression for about three, a little over three months. And so I took FMLA and took 12 weeks off and I didn't go to work. And here's the thing I had to make sure I did the work because when I went back to work, although I wasn't in the same position where I experienced the discrimination and racism, I still had to go back to the same organization in which I experienced the discrimination and racism, if that makes sense. So I had to make sure that I had the necessary tools to go back to deal with certain things that I knew that was going to trigger me. Yeah. And so that started the process of the book.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (15:25):

Okay. Yeah. Very interesting. I guess it's, um, you know, and that's the time to take, to be very introspective. I think it's good. You know, I think what you mentioned though, is that, you know, getting yourself in that right place because coming out of a bad situation and doesn't matter, you know, there's so many of them, but if we come out of it, throwing yourself right back into it, before you have a chance to heal and get yourself right. With the position, you can even just send you further into those depressions. I'm sure that's correct. Yeah.

D.B. Marshall (16:00):

Yeah. And so you have to make sure that, you know, you have to make sure that you do the work. So I run into so many people who just don't do the work and, you know, we just kind of talking about diets and we were talking about food and stuff. So, you know, we see all of these commercials, just diet, emergencies, diet commercial. And, um, one thing I talk about in the book is like, facts are facts. You have to really understand what you're eating and you have to understand labels and you have to understand marketing and advertising that is on these packages because you know, their job is to pull you in to spend money and to these products. But most, most times when people do that, they start a particular program. And when they start that program, they ended up in a situation where they're doing it for all the wrong reasons. Um, they really haven't dealt with the psychological aspect of may being overweight or however it's affecting you. Right. Um, cause there's different reasons. And so when you don't deal with the psychological part, I don't care how many dieticians you get on. You're going to end up in the same particular place. So you have to first reprogram your mind. And once you change your thoughts, then you can change the feelings in the actions and the behaviors.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (17:08):

Yeah. Yeah. And that's the most difficult part. And you know, like myself, you know, I've considered the surgeries over the years for sure. But, um, I've always thought that I even, the surgery won't help you, but in the short run, if you don't change what you think, because eventually you just go back to your old ways and then you have a lot more complications. And so that's one reason that, you know, we're striving really hard to change the behaviors where we can live this life from now on. It's not something that's very temporary, uh, or very, uh, you know, has an end date or an expiration. Cause the other thing about diets and programs and things like that I feel is that there's an end time. And then you have to go back to the real world to real life. And if you haven't figured out how to handle that, then it it's, it's a very short-lived victory for you.

D.B. Marshall (18:04):

Yeah. It'd be so nice if we can have, you know, all, um, Beyonce is coming. I don't know why, but why. So she have all of these professional people around her to make sure that she is maintained, but that's her work. Right. That's what she did pays to do. She gets paid to dance, entertain into look good. And so unfortunately we don't have those resources. And so we have the one worker full-time job at the sit here and determine what needs to go into our mouths and into our bellies. Then we got to turn around and we have to cook it. Then when we cook it, we got to hope that it tastes

Terry - Feeding Fatty (18:41):

That's my life right there. And Roy always says it does, I must say,

D.B. Marshall (18:47):

Yeah. So there's a trial and error right there. And so for me, one of the things that I did is that I eventually stopped eating because it tastes good. I didn't live to eat. I now, you know, eat because it's just the right thing to do. And now I can eat something. It don't necessarily taste good. So I can literally put a bunch of greens into my shake and eat that with no sweetener, like none. And I'm okay with that. But it took three to four years to get to that point. Yeah. So initially I started out with a bunch of fruit and just one vegetable. Then when I got used to that, I took out a fruit, added another vegetable. Then you learn what vegetables are, bitter, which ones are not so bitter, which one is stringy and you kind of like move from there.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (19:40):

Yeah. We've been, we've been messing with smoothies, you know, trying to do different smoothies and, and not put as much sweet stuff in it. Um, so we're kind of in that, in that learning mode, still about tasting good, cause you know, not much of a kale person

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (19:58):

And I don't know about other people that, you know, have weight issues or eating problems, but I think you, you hit on what mine is. Is that food, uh, food is fun. I mean, that's, you know, it's like there was a period in life that, you know, you went out to eat or to be with friends to talk, socialize, but then, you know, and, uh, I've shared this example before, but um, one day Terry was out running around and I thought she was going to stop at the Chick-Filet and bring home a spicy chicken sandwich for me. But she called me, you know, when she was almost home and she's, I said, Oh, he got some lunch. And she said, uh, yeah, there's a salmon and some salad in the fridge. And I'm just telling you that the air just went out to me. The life just was out of, I was so excited about this Chick-fil-A sandwich and then the salmon and the salad were awesome. There was nothing wrong with it, but it was just the excitement of that. So anyway, it's funny that I don't know, like I said, other people, but a big part of me is I feel like, well, I'm not having fun if we're not out eating and trying and doing new things

D.B. Marshall (21:08):

And that, and that's very true. So most of eating is socialization, right? And it's one of the things that brain communities, family neighborhoods together is when we sit down, um, and make a meal and Oh my God don't even get me what potlucks, but then there's downside to that. So, um, I want you guys to do this. When you sit down and you eat, I want you to analyze your food, right. I want you to go research more. I want you to analyze it and I want you to be able to tie and get a little post-it or something and identify what I call the feel-good foods. Okay. And so then, then you identified the not some feel good. And so you're probably going to realize that the feel-good foods are cards, right? It's the thing that sit on your stomach and you get lazy and you be like, Oh, they are so good.

D.B. Marshall (22:04):

And you rub your belly, take it down. And so those are the things and the reason that they are for feel-good foods and we get sleepy and take that because I bleed chemically, you know, really reduces that inner G within our system that make us yeah. And so once we get to that point where, um, we can identify those particular foods, I always tell people, just be mindful of what you put on your plate. And so, I mean, you can either get the play and actually label it, you know, feel good food. Cause we used to say meats, carbs and vegetables and stuff. No, actually label it. And it will remind you, okay, I need to get a small portion of this and a little bit more of that. And you realize you won't get tired as fast. You won't get snippy because a lot of the times the car turns into sugar. It's the sugar that actually either, you know, bring us down or actually increase our energy.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (23:04):

Okay. Yeah, no, I like your point too, about, um, you know, coming off of stuff gradually. And I think that's a good thing like with the field, good is, you know, you may start out with half your plate, is that feel good? But if you just kind of narrow that down over time, uh, you could probably kind of wean yourself off of it where you're not. So, you know, I hate to say dependent, but I guess it is, you know, food and carbs are carbs are very addictive. I've heard that they are addictive as a lot of drugs are because they give us that that feel good and that, uh, you know, they give us that little pick me up that we're all looking for too and sugar and caffeine, all of right.

D.B. Marshall (23:47):

I completely agree in what you do and things like that. And I always tell people say the feel-good foods for those very stressful times, you know, like either way out, because that trust me, they come in, there's no way you're going to live on this earth and you are not going to be hit with something unexpected. And I try to do my best to do that. So for lent, I gave up Reese's peanut butter cups and Pepsi, I love Reese's peanut butter cups and Pepsi, right. Full of carbs. And so with that said, that's my go-to when I'm feeling some kind of way I go to Reese's peanut butter cups and um, yeah.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (24:22):

Canceled Lindt for this year. Right. COVID and then 20, 21, you know, I thought they canceled it for this year. Now your peanut butter cups down.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (24:38):

Yeah. It, um, I guess it's, uh, the that's and that's kind of where patients I think comes in or where we talk about patients. It's our, maybe the gratification that we, you know, we think we have to, uh, well, we do, we have to limit that intake of that bad stuff, but, um, we just have to reach deep down inside to, to get that willpower in order to know that it's the best for us. And sometimes that's, that's difficult as well. It's like, even though we're eating something bad, we know we shouldn't be eating it. We know there's a healthier choice, but it's just that, um, the willpower to do what we know is right,

D.B. Marshall (25:16):

Right. We have to understand that some of us don't possess that willpower. Right. And so then that's when they come and we have to make sure we have accountability partners too, to just make sure they kind of checking us, checking in on us, just to make sure we're doing what we supposed to do,

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (25:30):

Which kind of comes full circle to the, uh, the part about, you know, having to admit our weaknesses. Cause a lot of us, you know, we don't want to admit that we need that help or that we have a problem, you know, with that eating or with that specific food. But we have to, at some point you just have to let all that go and say, yeah, I need that help.

D.B. Marshall (25:51):

Yeah. And you know, and sometimes changing the wording to where actually helped change your mindset and also change your emotion and change your behavior. And so I, I no longer use weakness. So I talk about this in a book. So I always tell people to know your strength and your weaknesses. Right. But, and to, to kind of speed that up, Dan started exploring what weakness is. And so oftentimes society has actually conditioned us to believe like, you know, you're less than, or you're not good enough, so we can kind of change a weakness to me, an opportunity. I think we can look at things a little bit differently, right? So this is my strength and these are the opportunities. And to me, a weakness is nothing but an opportunity that you are in a process of trying to master. And that's part of your self discovery, right? You continue to work on this particular thing. That opportunity is there. If you live in and you breathe in and you can move, that's an opportunity to change.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (26:44):

That is really good. I like that.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (26:46):

Yeah. Because we could take, instead of it, well, you know, I'll just, I won't, I'm wanting a pizza. And so instead of taking that as a failure, that I'm going to eat a pizza, I could take it as an opportunity that I can eat something else, eat something healthy and get those carbs

Terry - Feeding Fatty (27:01):

Eight, that'd be ground Turkey that I'm going to wish up for dinner or something.

D.B. Marshall (27:06):

And it goes back to what you are, what you said with your pastor. He said, yeah, we have these thoughts, but we still have the decision. Right. So it gives you that authority. And that's what we have to understand. We have to start learning to walk into walk and speak with authority because I don't think we do that enough. And yeah, you may fall off the bike when you try to do that. But guess what? Tomorrow is another day and you can try it again.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (27:28):

Yeah. Yeah. That's another big thing is the, well, I came off the tracks yesterday and did it. And so you, you know, like for me, you kind of break that momentum and then it's easier to mess up tomorrow instead of, you know, control alt delete, get it out of your mind. We had a situation yesterday, whatever that was, but today is going to be different and you got to come out fighting again.

D.B. Marshall (27:53):

No, I completely, I completely agree. Um, it's never, it's never too late. I appreciate it all the time. It's never too late. I remember watching the episode, uh, Matt, um, Oprah's masterclass and she had Morgan Freeman on there and he was telling me, we kind of explaining how he became an actor in his fifties. I was like, what?

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (28:12):

I read that not long ago that he was in his fifties before he even started, which is crazy.

D.B. Marshall (28:18):

Exactly. And I was like, look, I just started 47. And you know, I've been beaten up, you know, I, I'm not, I'm going to be honest. I dyed my beard, just hide my gray.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (28:30):

I was going to say, it looks good.

D.B. Marshall (28:35):

Yeah. Thank you. But you know, you know, when we're changing and we meaning these, um, I call it age and milestone. It doesn't feel good. It's like you almost lose in control of who you used to be. And that's a very difficult process. And so when I saw that with Morgan Freeman, I was like, he landed his first star road and it's been driving miss Daisy. You know what? It just, it just motivated me to keep going.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (28:58):

I, I did. I actually watched that the other day. Um, that was such a good movie at, well, I could go on anyway. You say, you said Beyonce and Morgan Freeman and I'm there. I like, I be on say, Oh, I'm part of the beehive. Yup. Now I'm looking at, sorry, I probably should've put reaching on it.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (29:22):

You know, aging is a whole big part of this too. I think it's, uh, well, you know, in our younger years it was easier to transition to, you know, go out and lose a few pounds or, you know, we're more active where it seems like, uh, you know, especially with the COVID and everything we've been going through. Uh, we're just not out about as much. And, uh, you know, thank goodness the cold weather seems to be behind us. So we're hoping to be able to get out and walk around the neighborhood a little bit more. But, um, yeah, you know that, and I know we've, you know, we have guests on that. I realize that there's a separation between, uh, you know, we can't always exercise our way to losing weight and being slim. It's, you know, 80% of it's what we put in, but what I can tell you for myself is that if I'm out being walking and exercising and being healthy, it is so much easier for me to eat. Right. Just because I feel better about myself, where, you know, when you're kind of locked in the house on a winter day and you're watching some TV, you know, that's when all the, uh, all those foods that we shouldn't be eating, that's when they're all the very best.

D.B. Marshall (30:34):

Well, I'm going to give you something to try. I did this with one of them. I don't know if I told you I am a, um, an intern clinician. So I'm in the process of getting my, um, clinical license. Okay. But one of the things that I encourage, one of my patients, because she has her favorite show. So what's your favorite show, Roy?

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (30:52):

Oh my gosh. Closer. Yeah. The Clover,

D.B. Marshall (30:56):

The closer I are looking at the closer, there's no reason when you're looking at it. Cause it's you going to look at that everywhere, right? Yeah. I'm assuming it comes on every week you get down, you get you a mat and you start doing leg lifts when you started doing crunches and you know, and you can just move your legs while you're actually looking at it. And then when the commercial time comes to commercials, it's usually three to four minutes. Then you can get up and you can do some jumping jacks. So you can do some squats, but you can do something. So, you know, those are times that, you know, you can won how that instrument mama was the closer, but to also have that intimate moment with herself, that's something that I, I encourage people. There's no reason to look at your favorite shows and sit down and eat chips.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (31:38):

Well, I was just going to say, I was going to say, when you're, I'm doing leg lifts, that's going to make it hard to eat chips, but we're on crunch now, but that's an excellent idea is, and I'm guilty as anybody of not thinking, you know, not taking those little opportunities that we don't have to do a lot of strenuous something, uh, you know, crazy. But just like you said, just getting down in the floor, just moving around and, uh, stretching, you know, that's something else that we've talked about quite a bit, but I just, um, feel extremely tight. And that's one thing that I feel would help me a lot better. A lot more is just a stretch. And, uh, you know, I'd been over the other day doing something and I like to throw my back out just because I was so tight that, uh, anyway, I just always feel like I do better, you know, when I'm in that physical moment and doing really good, you know, I don't, you don't want to come home and eat, I guess, because the endorphins that are released through the exercise probably are some of the ones that you get from whatever you're eating as well.

D.B. Marshall (32:43):

Yeah. And that's real good. And, um, that is a awesome, awesome, um, topic or a mentionable that you just stated it's stretching. So that's something that I just recently got into and I'm learning that we should stretch more as we become older. Um, just because the way that the body works, things become really tight. We don't exercise as much. And so if you can, all of us, you know, I encourage you, if you're at 40 years old, that you really just get into yoga and stretching because it acts in your life big time.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (33:17):

Okay. Yeah. And there's actually a shop that's opened up here close to us. We went and tried it. Uh, it's a place that they stretch you out and, you know, they have like a, uh, um, I guess it's a little bit different than a massage table, but kind of like an exam table, but they stretch your legs, your back your arms. And, uh, it's amazing how I was a little sore, but it really felt good just to get stretched out really good.

D.B. Marshall (33:41):

And, um, another couple of things I just want to mention. So for men, I always encourage men over the age. Uh, I would say 40 as well to, um, get your, to Tasha on levels check. Um, studies shows that I touched her on levels peak at 25. And so when we see a decrease in our two top small, it's easier for us to pick up fat and in fact increases tremendously. So a lot of times a lot of the stuff happens. Ady erectile dysfunction that happens, um, tired being tired and or sad. Just a lot of stuff kind of happens because their body is transitioning. Um, and for women, I always encourage women, probably the age of 40, just to make sure that they are doing any type dude, like strength training, just make sure they're doing strength, training and light, light weightlifting. And I say that for like weightlifting, because women's shared, right? So you all have your menstrual cycles and things of that. And when you share that, because you've been sharing so much, your bones get more brittle as you age. And so that's why a lot of older women deals with osteoporosis than men. So they deal with, but the bone issues. So just to make sure that you are doing something that, um, that is weight bearing and building a muscle, because we know that women muscles are a little bit harder to develop in men because of the Totara thrown in the extra numbers. Right?

Terry - Feeding Fatty (35:06):

Yeah, it does. That's true. I mean, I, I just re I have off and on for the last couple of years taking calcium, but I've been taking it pretty, pretty good for a few months now, you know, daily, I did, I had a checkup and of course that's one of the things that the doctor was talking about. Cause I've, you know, I've got aches and pains, you know, and if I don't get out and walk, I don't much like to go to the gym other than to use use, um, you know, to walk, to walk there. But I do love to walk around where we live. Um, and if I don't get out and do that, I can, I can so tell a difference. But, uh, yeah, the calcium definitely has been helping as far as with some of my aches and pains, the ones that can be helped,

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (35:52):

You know, something that's been kind of on my mind to the last, uh, last few days is, uh, w we were looking up some questions that people ask all the time and once what, uh, you know, what is considered a low carb diet. And so it kind of talked a little bit about it, but I think it's important to mention that, you know, when we veer off or when we make changes, the first thing we always say is, you know, we're not doctors. So always seek out, you know, a medical professional, registered dietician or nutritionist, but, um, people, I think there's a domino effect that when you cut something are increased, something, it changes the macro and micro nutrients that you receive. And, you know, it's important. We always recommend getting, um, you know, getting an app or marking it down, however, you can track it.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (36:39):

But, you know, they got some apps that are good because that way you can see that, um, you can actually be doing more harm to yourself. You may be losing weight like you want, but, you know, there are things that you could be messing up in that process. So it's always, uh, I think it's always advisable just to watch those nutrients to make sure you're getting as much of everything, you know, and, uh, I think iron is another one for women that, that they have an issue with where men don't and, you know, like my doctor said, be, be careful of iron because, you know, you can do too much of it for the men. And so again, it just, um, we just have to be very careful about tweaking all this stuff and not, you know, I think the moderation is probably the key word for anything that we want to try to do.

D.B. Marshall (37:27):

Yeah. It goes back to pacing, your strides, what we were talking about earlier. It's like, it's a pace always, always, you know, get your animals. The animal is going to give you a lab person. A doctor is going to pretty much give you recommendations or where you need to go. So I completely understand what you're saying about that. Um, in my opinion, um, and it's just an opinion. I always, when people are struggling with the carbs, I encouraged him to kind of wean off of carbs and increase the fats. Right. So the carbs have the sugar that's processed in your system and the fact necessarily we don't, so you have the avocados, you have your olive oils and things of that. Well, we've always been taught that carbs, give you energy, what fat does too. Yeah. Right. Nobody never talked about fat when we were growing up. Right.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (38:07):

You know, and there's, um, you know, there's been some anecdotical anecdotic. Yeah,

Terry - Feeding Fatty (38:13):

Yeah, yeah. Anecdotal. Yeah.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (38:16):

But dance will say that, uh, you know, there's been some evidence that you can look at the, um, the increase in Alzheimer's and trace that back to the beginning of our low, uh, low, fat fad that we had in the late seventies and early eighties.

D.B. Marshall (38:34):

Yeah, absolutely. Right. It's funny, you said, I just wrote a whole blog on how, um, fats actually help with all times. And so if you have a healthy fat content, um, and understand, there are difference between saturated and unsaturated because they are two completely, two different things. You know, I'm just looking at it as just fast. But if you go out there and you get the healthy fats, um, they can definitely hurt help with, uh, cognition, the brain condition, and you can decrease your chances of experiencing dementia and Alzheimer's Alzheimer's itself. Yeah, that's true. Yeah.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (39:11):

So anyway, I just, uh, you know, I just always like to put that out there is that, you know, making these subtle changes, but, uh, it, it can be good, but we just don't want to be, uh, you know, we just don't want to go crazy because so many people are like, well, I think it's, it gets, again, it gets back to patients is like so many people are like, all right, I'm cutting all my carbs out. I'm not ever eating another one. And, uh, you know, they expect that they've been putting weight on for 10 years and it's like, well, they cut carbs out yesterday. And then they're looking at you today. Like, well, why haven't I lost all that weight that I put on? You know,

Terry - Feeding Fatty (39:45):

Over the last 10 years I have true dad doesn't work today.

D.B. Marshall (39:49):

It's always healthy to like, create that baseline. So the baseline would be when you go to the doctor and they say, Hey, you know what? I've got a thought, you know what I'm saying? You don't have hypertension. You don't have high cholesterol because you need to know all of that information before you start implementing any kind of diet. Now I'm real good about going to my physicians. Um, you know, twice a year, I that's just, just for me. Yeah. And that insurance don't always pay for it, you know, but you know, sometimes I pay out of pocket, but you have to understand where you're going and you need someone or a professional expert to monitor you while you've making these subtle changes. Because like you said, you throw something out of whack and you, all of a sudden, you feeling sad. Are you depressed in your chemical imbalance? It's just going to just, you're going to start all over again.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (40:35):

Right. And if you have, and if you're on medication also, I mean, you just have to, you just have, there's so many factors that have to be weighed out before you make any changes. ADA. Yeah. Eight is barking.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (40:47):

The clock, the dogs are going off. They're like alarms, when it's time for them

Terry - Feeding Fatty (40:51):

To eat. They know I

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (40:53):

Was just going to speak to your, uh, you know, the carbs about you saying coming off those gradually. Cause I've got kind of, it's a comical story, but, uh, it's been about three or four years ago when my doctor diagnosed me with type two diabetes and he said, look, I want you to get your carbs down and try to stay between 40 and 60 a day. And I'm like, okay. So that was on like a Thursday, Wednesday or Thursday. And so, uh, Friday and Saturday as I'm working around the house, I start feeling terrible. I mean, like I felt like right at the top of my head was fixing to blow off. And I thought I was having some kind of a, uh, high blood pressure event. And I was like, Oh my gosh, I'm fixing to have a stroke and dying, you know? So I just, like, my goal was just to live through the weekend and, you know, get back to see this guy.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (41:41):

And so I called him up Monday. I'm like, I've got to come see you. And he's like, well, you're just here thirsty. What's up. I said, well, so I feel like I'm having a stroke or something. My head's fixing to blow off. And he started laughing. He's like, have you been holding your carbs down? And I said, yeah, I've been trying to keep between 40 and 60. He said, yeah, you're just having carb withdrawals. He said, you know, he said, he said, carbs are so addictive that he said, it's just like a drug that, you know, you come off of it. He said, you're going to feel bad for three or four days or maybe even a week. But he said, stick with it and you'll get yourself through it. So I always laugh about that, that, you know, we don't realize how addicting. And, uh, like you said earlier, these companies formulate foods in order to sell more of them. And so sometimes the things that we eat, uh, you know, that's something, when you start looking at carbs, you will find that they are hidden

Terry - Feeding Fatty (42:36):

Everywhere. Really has a where

D.B. Marshall (42:41):

The devil, I call him the devil is what I call them devils because they are hitting like, you know, there's carbs and fruit, there's carbs and vegetables like you, when you really sit down and I'm, and I talk about this in the book, you know, the facts are facts. You sit down and read. You'll be like, Oh my God, I did not know that they had that sugar count or that, um, carb count. But they are every single way you can't get away from them.

Terry - Feeding Fatty (43:06):

Banana banana has like 20 carbs in it. Yeah.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (43:10):

Yeah. And you know, I think it's good to say. Two's like the banana instead of eating a whole one, you know, we've just kind of cut back to where we can eat a quarter or half at a time. And that's what, um, sometimes I feel like I have the all or nothing mentality. It's like, well, that whole banana is bad. So we just can't eat any of it. That's not true. Maybe we don't need the whole thing. Let's just portion out to take a piece that we need from it. Yeah.

D.B. Marshall (43:35):

Um, yeah, I don't do it. It's it's, you're setting yourself up to fail when you do that, when you try to remove it, because you don't even realize how much your body actually urines and depend on it until you completely remove it. And then you're just walking around and you bugging out and you're snapping over snacks, everybody, like, what is wrong with me today? Do you stop eating the banana?

Terry - Feeding Fatty (43:58):

Right? Yeah. You're just conditioned to it because that's what you've been doing. And that's how you've been doing it. Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (44:05):

What DB, thank you so much for your time. I know you've been very generous and stayed with us a little longer, but we appreciate it. It's a great conversation. So, uh, before we let you go, a couple of questions first off is what is a tool or a habit, or what's something that you do every day in your daily life that you feel adds a lot of value.

D.B. Marshall (44:25):

One of the things that I do, and you might find that a little crazy, but I literally get on Facebook and I go into my messenger and I usually send them random, good mornings. And I love you or hellos. You'll be surprised how many people go throughout the day with no one saying I love you. And so, since I am a product of love and I also see myself as a universal servant, I extend love. And so I randomly go on Facebook and I just say, good morning, or Hey, or I love you have anybody said, I love you. And then I get the weirdest responses. They be like, huh? What? Okay. It's foreign to them.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (45:02):

That's awesome. I love that. Cool. I do too. I love that. Now. We just certainly never know where people are in the journey. And sometimes that well-placed good morning or I love you can really do a lot to brighten up people's day. So I love that. Let's all start.

D.B. Marshall (45:19):

I say this. Believe it or not. I stopped three people from committing suicide, attempting suicide. Not doing that. Yeah.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (45:28):

That's awesome. All right. Well, let's make a commitment this week. We'll send out more of those messages like that and see if we can, that would be a good trend to pick up on love and kindness. Yup. Yup. All right, DB. Well, thanks a lot. So tell everybody course, how can they reach out and talk, tell us about the book, how they can reach out and get ahold of you.

D.B. Marshall (45:49):

Awesome. So I'm on every social media platform, LinkedIn Instagram, Facebook, where the love, loves pursuit, P U R S U I T a T L. The ATL short for Atlanta. So lovespursuitATL. You can find out a lot of different things that I'm doing, um, because I am doing a, like I'm in the community all the time. In addition to that, um, lovespursuitatl.net is where you can purchase. My book. Book actually will be the launch on March the 17th next week. [inaudible], you know, I'm on this campaign trying to encourage everybody like, Hey, I tried to become a best seller. I've been on that campaign there. So those are the two, well, all the places in which you can reach me.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (46:39):

Okay. Awesome. Well, we certainly appreciate that. Y'all reach out, pick up a copy, get on your social media this week and let's spread a little love and a little, a little happiness and joy where we can, we never know who needs that in our life. So congratulations on the book. Congratulations. And also we'll say that you are finishing up your dissertation, so we wish you well with getting that taken care of. Yes. We want to remove that. We want to remove that label that we talked about prior to that we want to remove the ABD after your name

D.B. Marshall (47:15):

Acronyms or something else.

Roy - Feeding Fatty - Want To Make a Positive Change Perceive Your Weakness as an Opportunity (47:17):

Yeah. That's all right. All right. Well, that's going to do it for another episode of feeding fatty. Uh, this is Roy necessary, so you can always find us at www.feedingfatty.com we're on all the major social media platforms. And we are also on all the major podcast platforms, iTunes, Google, Stitcher, Spotify for not on one that you listened to reach out, we'll be sharing it. You added also a copy or a video of this interview will go up on YouTube when we release as well. So until next time, take care of yourself.

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