Unsolicited Advice- Self-Care for Type Six 

Unsolicited Advice- Self-Care for Type Six 

 

In the 68th episode of Enneagram & Coffee, host Sarajane Case talks about Self Care for Enneagram type six including, things that can happen if neglected, how to sabotage self-care, and how to build self-care

Episode Highlights: 

 

Few things can happen if you neglect self-care.  First, you feel the need to always be prepared for the worst.  Second, you may find yourself in a season of feeling indecisive, wanting someone to give you certainty outside of yourself. Third, you let people stay in your life who don't deserve to be there.  Finally, moving to the lower side of type 3, where you are achieving a lot of things but don't why you are doing such. You may feel competitive to prove yourself so much for reassurance or validation that you're doing enough. When building on a state of self-care, listen to your needs, validate your feelings, give yourself what you need, then you can start to see your worth outside of the roles that you play. Self-worth doesn't have to exist in the constructs of what you've agreed to be in this world.   With self-care, you have enough time with yourself to increase your relationship with your intuition.  With self-care, you don't welcome people who make you second guess your intuition.  Self-care makes you live with the high side of type 9, so you may have that peace with what is. Anyone who wants to reap the benefit of your loyal friendship will be on board with your self-care.  Losing the side of presence, trying to be prepared by predicting the future will take you out of this space.  Looking outside of yourself for an authority figure for certainty can prevent you from getting in touch with your intuition. Not spending time alone can sabotage self-care.  Finding your worth through the roles that you play is superficial energy that can destroy self-care.  Take action on building self-care.  Practice presence by using your five senses and connect to reality.  Date yourself and communicate your needs.  Practice your intuition by activities such as having anything that you want or driving your car in any direction your intuition points you to.  Limit your council and go to people who you trust, people who don't give you a black and white answer but ask you back what you wanted.  Meditate who you are outside of your title, imagining yourself without your name, job description, or your roles that you play.  Expanding your circle of influence can cause confusion and conflict in your decision making.   Control is an illusion and guesses that we make, causing us to live through trauma, pain, or sadness.

3 Key Points:

There are few things that can happen if self-care is neglected which directly impacts decision making and self-worth. Build self-care and take action by listening to your body and see your worth outside of your roles. Spend time more with yourself and build strong connections with your intuition.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

 

"Once someone gets through the golden gate it is like, it's almost impossible to get them out." - Sarajane Case "Sometimes those people are not as loyal to you as you are to them."- Sarajane Case "When you're building on a state of self-care, you're listening to your needs, you're validating your feelings, you're giving yourself what you need." - Sarajane Case "Your worthiness doesn't have to exist in the constructs of what you've agreed to be in the world."- Sarajane Case "I don't need other people to affirm that I am making the right choice. I know what's best for me because I am the only one who is me. "- Sarajane Case "I know who I am, and the roles that I am drawn to will support that."- Sarajane Case "Our attempt to predict the future is really our attempt to maintain control, and control is an illusion. "- Sarajane Case "Have moments to connect with this ultimate vision of your purpose, and your power, and vulnerability. "- Sarajane Case

Resources Mentioned:

 

Sarajane Case Instagram, Website