Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide
428 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 days ago - ★★★★★ - 129 ratingsThe Empowered Relationship Podcast helps you turn relationship challenges into opportunities and sets you up for relationship success, satisfaction, and intimacy.
This podcast is designed to inspire, motivate, and guide individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.
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ERP 223: How To Deal With Difficult Emotions - Part One
July 07, 2020 04:17 - 37 minutes - 30.5 MBDealing with difficult emotions can feel uncertain, scary and extremely uncomfortable, especially when we have not had positive experiences with experiencing and expressing our emotion in the past. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: The tendency to want to suppress, deny, avoid and reject our painful emotions. How avoiding painful and difficult emotions leads to more suffering and problems in the long-term. Learning to turn towards painful emotion can be terrifying, e...
ERP 222: How to Deal with Triggers in Relationship An Interview with Dr. David Richo
June 30, 2020 10:00 - 38 minutes - 36 MBDavid Richo Ph.D. is a Psychotherapist, Writer, and Workshop Leader. He teaches at a variety of places including Esalen and Spirit Rock Buddhist Center. He shares his time between Santa Barabara and San Francisco in California. Dave combines psychological and spiritual perspectives in his work. In this episode, David Richo and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The 3 common triggers: fear, anger, and sadness. The valuable lessons you can learn from your triggers. What happens when we ...
ERP 221: How To Recognize and Work with Self-Sabotage in Relationship An Interview with Brianna Wiest
June 23, 2020 10:00 - 43 minutes - 40.3 MBBrianna Wiest has traveled internationally as a journalist, written for Fortune 500 companies, and has spoken in cities around the continental United States. She is the author of five books, her latest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery is being published in 2020. Her dream is to use the power of words to help people awaken to their fullest potential, build emotional intelligence and fulfill their life purpose. In this episode, Brianna Wiest and Dr. Jessica...
ERP 220: How to Reconnect Emotionally with Your Significant Other
June 16, 2020 22:02 - 36 minutes - 29 MBIn this episode, I am answering a listeners's question in how to reconnect emotionally with his wife. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: The four stages of separation distress. The benefits and value of going slow to maintain emotional balance and regulation. How to reveal and soften to help create safety. The importance of being emotionally present and attuned to your significant other. Where men often get stuck in connecting emotionally, especially when there ...
ERP 219: The Human Need for Belonging
June 10, 2020 01:14 - 30 minutes - 24.9 MBToday, I am referencing Dr. Vivek Murthy's book, Together, to offer some added support for the larger conversation around institutional racism, oppression and social justice. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: The right of human belonging and humanization. The role of disconnection, dehumanization, fear and distrust that plays into our experience. How do we build trust, repair and relationship together. "The challenge of the remainder of our century is how are we as a...
ERP 218: Black Lives Matter
June 02, 2020 19:16 - 3 minutes - 3.05 MBToday, I am pausing from the regularly scheduled episodes to stand in solidarity for Black Out Tuesday and Black Lives Matter. On the Empowered Relationship podcast, we address principles that support healthy relationship. The importance of safety, respect and reverence for people expands beyond intimate connection. We are all a part of a human family. When harm, injury, abuse, injustice occurs, it affects us all whether we turn towards it or we turn away from it. As we talk about on...
ERP 217: How To Deal With Stonewalling In Relationship
May 26, 2020 22:52 - 35 minutes - 28.1 MBToday, I am giving more attention and support to a listener's question, who writes "How do you deal with a partner who stonewalls?" In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: What stonewalling is and what it entails. Common dynamics and patterns that lead to one partner withdrawing or stonewalling. What is often underneath the stonewalling behavior and what it feels like on the receiving end. Research findings about the differences between men and women as it relates to ston...
ERP 216: What To Know About Loneliness And Relationship
May 20, 2020 03:42 - 34 minutes - 28 MBIn last weeks episode, ERP 215, we discussed how connection to other people really begins with our connection to ourself. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: What loneliness is and how we experience it. The 3 dimensions of loneliness, and how we need all three to thrive. How our expectations and cultural messages influence loneliness. The consequences and health risks of loneliness. "Medicine and technology may fail us at times, but human connection grounded in love...
ERP 215: How to Deal with Being “Alone Together”
May 13, 2020 16:05 - 38 minutes - 52.9 MBWhen I saw the #alonetogether, I questioned "Is this really what we are all feeling? If anything, it seems like the majority of us are feeling "togetheralone." In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: With the division in perspectives and approaches right now, it can be hard to know how to move forward (with both supporting the economy and people's health and safety). The challenges of separation, distance, lack of connection and contact that people are experiencing right now....
ERP 214: How to Advance the Development of Your Relationship - An Interview with Dr. Tom Habib
May 05, 2020 10:00 - 55 minutes - 51.5 MBDr. Tom Habib is a clinical psychologist specializing in couple’s therapy. Tom has published papers on a Couple’s Line of Development (Integral Leadership Review, Aug-Nov, 2016, revised 2018) in addition to other publications on other topics. He has presented at the Integral Theory Conference, at the Integral European Conference where he was recognized for the Best Practitioner Paper, Honorable Mention. Tom is currently serving as the chair for the International Consortium of Integral Sch...
ERP 213: How Shame and Grandiosity Relate to Self-esteem: An Interview with Terry Real
April 28, 2020 10:00 - 58 minutes - 53.7 MBTerry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist and author. Particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men, his work on gender and couples. He published the national bestseller: I Don't Want To Talk About It, the first book written on the topic of male depression. He has been in private practice for thirty years and he is the Founder of The Relational Life Institute, where he teaches therapist trainings and workshops for couples In this episode, Terry Real and Dr. Jes...
ERP 212: How to Manage Political Differences in Relationship - an Interview with Craig and Debbie Lambert
April 21, 2020 10:00 - 51 minutes - 47.3 MBThe Mindful Couple. Craig has over 30 years of experience dedicated to helping couples rekindle their love, deepen their intimacy and strengthen communication as a couples therapist, and Debbie is a relationship educator and coach. Through Lambert Couples Therapy, they have worked with thousands of couples, helping them understand the often unconscious underpinnings of relationship conflict. They are based in San Diego. In this episode, Craig, Debbie, and Dr. Jessica Higgins discus...
ERP 211: How To Get Rid of Shame to Increase Pleasure In The Bedroom - an Interview with Ian Ferguson
April 14, 2020 10:00 - 51 minutes - 47.4 MBIan Ferguson is an intimacy coach and teacher of the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ platform, designed to radically transform how we talk about and experience sex. Ian is an expert on clearing shame and ending struggles that keep people from experiencing a deep intimate connection and sexual satisfaction. Through the Erotic Blueprints, he and Jaiya Ma have provided a 'Rosetta Stone' for people to clearly articulate their desires and experience erotic fulfillment. In this episode, Ian ...
ERP 210: How Emotionally Intelligent Men are Key to a Lasting Relationship with Kyle Benson
April 07, 2020 19:00 - 42 minutes - 38.8 MBKyle Benson is an Intentional Intimate Relationship coach providing practical, research-based tools to build long-lasting relationships. Kyle is best known for his compassion and non-judgmental style and his capacity to see the root problem. In this episode, Kyle Benson and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The importance of tuning in to the information our bodies give us to improve our health and our lives. How men who are emotionally engaged generally have more stable relationship...
ERP 209: How Unresolved Grief Affects You and Your Relationship - an Interview with Donna Lancaster
March 31, 2020 10:00 - 44 minutes - 41.1 MBDonna is one of the Co-founders and facilitators of The Bridge Retreat and has been working with individuals, couples and groups for almost 30 years. Donna is passionate about the subject of grief and the grieving process which she believes offers the missing link for many in their search for wholeness. This interest stemmed from her own very personal experience of ‘depression’ which she suffered from for many years and now knows to have in fact been unprocessed grief. In this episo...
ERP 208: How To Find Balance And Direction
March 25, 2020 03:51 - 38 minutes - 31 MBNo doubt, we are all feeling the stress of the COVID-19 crisis. I reach out to you today to be in community with you, as we are all being impacted. With the threats looming, it is easy to feel scared, uncertain, and a sense of loss. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How the way with deal with a challenge can be more important than the challenge itself. How to f...
ERP 207: How To Get Out Of Financial Debt When Working Together As A Couple - An Interview With Ericka Young
March 17, 2020 10:00 - 38 minutes - 35.3 MBEricka Young is a recognized expert in financial coaching and helps families significantly improve their finances and their future. As founder and president of Tailor-Made Budgets, she teaches debt freedom through her e-newsletters, personal coaching, group programs, and speaking engagements. In this episode, Ericka Young and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How most people see debt as “normal,” but it breeds shame and embarrassment. Once you reach your breaking point, getting out ...
ERP 206: What Is The Relationship Between Porn And Lovemaking
March 11, 2020 00:38 - 31 minutes - 25.9 MBTypically, we don't think about porn being related to lovemaking. However, many people are experiencing relationship challenges related to the use of porn. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How the use of porn has changed over time. Our paradigm about and consciousness around porn. What happens when we don't examine how and why we use porn. How porn suppo...
ERP 205: Overcoming Money Issues And Creating Abundance Together An Interview With Simone Milasas
March 03, 2020 11:00 - 45 minutes - 41.8 MBAbout Simone Milasas: Simone Milasas is a lady who knows how to be a woman, who sees the joy of possibility and future and knows that there is the prospect of possibility in every choice you choose. Simone is the author of Joy Of Business translated into 13 languages and best-selling book Getting Out Of Debt Joyfully translated into 5 languages. She is currently working on her 3rd book with Brendon Watt called; Relationship. Are you sure you want one? Simone currently travels the world fac...
ERP 204: Lessons learned from Renew Breakup Bootcamp an interview with Amy Chan
February 25, 2020 11:00 - 45 minutes - 41.5 MBLearning more about your attachment and communication styles can give you and your partner the power to transform a challenging relationship. About Amy Chan: Amy Chan is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing the heart. She is also the Editor-in-Chief of JustMyType.ca - an online magazine that focuses on the psychology behind love, lust and desire. Marie Claire calls her "A relationship expert whose work is like t...
ERP 203: Discussing the film Ordinary Love with Lisa Barros D'Sa and Glenn Leyburn
February 18, 2020 23:54 - 26 minutes - 21.9 MBIn this episode, I talk with Lisa Barros D'Sa and Glenn Leyburn about the film Ordinary Love. Bleecker Street's ORDINARY LOVE, starring Academy Award® nominees Lesley Manville (“Phantom Thread”) and Liam Neeson (“Schlinder’s List”). Following its critically acclaimed debut at TIFF, ORDINARY LOVE hit theaters on Valentine's Day, February 14th, and follows the story of an everyday couple with a remarkable love. The film is directed by Irish filmmaking duo Lisa Barros D’Sa & Glenn Leyburn ...
ERP 203: Discussing the film Ordinary Love with Lisa Barros D'Sa and Glenn Leyburn:
February 18, 2020 23:54 - 26 minutes - 21.9 MBIn this episode, I talk with Lisa Barros D'Sa and Glenn Leyburn about the film Ordinary Love. Bleecker Street's ORDINARY LOVE, starring Academy Award® nominees Lesley Manville (“Phantom Thread”) and Liam Neeson (“Schlinder’s List”). Following its critically acclaimed debut at TIFF, ORDINARY LOVE hit theaters on Valentine's Day, February 14th, and follows the story of an everyday couple with a remarkable love. The film is directed by Irish filmmaking duo Lisa Barros D’Sa & Glenn Leyburn ...
ERP 202: How To Nurture Your Sexual Intimacy And Connection In Relationship
February 11, 2020 23:49 - 44 minutes - 35.8 MBSharing sexual intimacy and love making with your significant other can be such a profound and prominent way to express love and passion within your bond. And yet, there are so many things that make the process of coming together in an open, flexible, and engaged way challenging. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How our expectations, assumptions and judgements in...
ERP 201: How To Handle Your Partner Going Against Your Wishes
February 04, 2020 20:25 - 39 minutes - 32.5 MBIn this episode, I will be addressing a listener's question in a little more depth. If you do not resonate with the example shared, then please replace "tattoo" with something that your partner has done that is against your wishes. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: The benefits of working through the power struggle phase. Navigating the two main conflicting ne...
ERP 200: How To Use Your Emotional Intelligence For Connection, Part Two
January 29, 2020 04:36 - 29 minutes - 27.4 MBIn Part 2 of this series, Jessica dives deeper into the how-tos of building emotional connectivity with our partners in order to reaffirm trust and safety while negating criticism. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: Healing the intimacy disconnect between unspoken fear and defensiveness. Why humans are designed to be in bonded relationships. Dr. Susan Johnson’s re...
ERP 199: How to Use Your Emotional Intelligence for Connection
January 21, 2020 05:27 - 31 minutes - 25.8 MBAll too often we get stuck in disconnect patterns when painful emotions arise in relationship. Most of the time, we don't even know we are hurting because we are only aware of our reactions...anger, frustration, criticism etc. When we lead with our reactions, our partner doesn't see our pain, and does not know how to help. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: What would...
ERP 198: How To Apply Success Principles To Relationship an interview with Noah St John
January 15, 2020 00:11 - 50 minutes - 41 MBAbout Noah St John: Noah St. John, author of 15 books including the NEW book Power Habits®: The New Science for Making Success Automatic® Noah St. John is known as "The Power Habits® Mentor" and is famous for helping people get rid of their head trash and make more money. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Noah St John and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How people end up starving themselves of ...
ERP 196: 5 Essential Elements Of Love - Part Two
December 31, 2019 22:05 - 41 minutes - 33.9 MBToday, we are continuing the conversation about how to cultivate a more loving presence through the Five A's offered by David Richo. The Five A's are Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, and Allowing. If you missed episode ERP 195: 5 Essential Elements Of Love - Part- One, I encourage you to listen to it before listening to this episode, as it gives context for this conversation as well as discusses the first 2 A's. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcrip...
ERP 195: 5 Essential Elements Of Love
December 24, 2019 20:48 - 33 minutes - 27.5 MBIn the book, "How To Be An Adult In Relationships - Five Keys to Mindful Living," David Richo offers us 5 essential practices of love. David calls these practices the "Five A's," which are attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. "What we need for the building of a self is precisely what we need for happiness in our adult love relationships." by David Richo (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) ...
ERP 197: How to engage in more conscious communication with Robert MacNaughton
December 24, 2019 02:57 - 41 minutes - 57.5 MBAbout Robert MacNaughton: Robert MacNaughton is an executive leadership coach and facilitator who teaches about how to skillfully reconcile seemingly contradictory world-views in relationships, organization, and culture. Robert is an authority in the fields of Integral business, behavioral development, and experiential education. Robert focuses on supporting leaders with execution strategies, designing work culture, and navigating interpersonal conflict both personally and professionally. ...
ERP 194: How to Alchemize your Triggers into Insight – an Interview with Tobin Zivon
December 17, 2019 11:00 - 59 minutes - 54.7 MBAbout Tobin Zivon: Tobin Zivon has been a love, intimacy and sacred sexuality coach for over two and a half decades. The author of The Art of Mindful Living, Tobin helps groups, couples and individuals blossom to their highest potential. His brilliance shines most brightly when working with men, women and couples in the realms of love, intimacy and sacred sexuality. Tobin has been lovingly nicknamed the “couples whisperer” and has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to...
ERP 193: How to access “you” (your true essence) in relationship – an Interview with Amy E. Smith
December 10, 2019 11:00 - 45 minutes - 42.2 MBAbout Amy E. Smith: Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love. With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcrip...
ERP 192: How To Resolve Financial Anxiety In Your Relationship – an interview with Lindsay Bryan-Podvin
December 03, 2019 11:00 - 47 minutes - 44.3 MBAbout Lindsay Bryan-Podvin: Lindsay is a financial therapist dedicated to bringing couples the knowledge they need about personal finances to deepen their relationships. I'm passionate about helping couples feel at peace with their money. It's my mission to open up a dialogue with my clients to talk about their money beyond the dollars and cents so they can feel darn good about how their money is working for them. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear ...
ERP 191: How to Drastically Change your Experience in Relationship – an interview with Larry Bilotta
November 26, 2019 11:00 - 49 minutes - 45.9 MBAbout Larry Bilotta: Married over 45 years in an age of divorce, Larry Bilotta is an authority on understanding people, marriage and relationships. Larry lived 27 years in a marriage made in Hell, but in the 28th year, fell in love…with his wife! As one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage, today, Larry holds the key to bringing a marriage back from the brink of divorce - even AFTER the papers have been filed. (Please listen to the podcast episode...
ERP 190: How to shift out of chaos in relationship – An Interview with Dr. Laura Louis
November 19, 2019 11:00 - 38 minutes - 35.8 MBAbout Dr. Laura Louis: As a licensed psychologist, Dr. Laura Louis is a widely sought-after speaker specializing in helping couples press the reset button after infidelity. Her five-step training program, Marriage Matters, has helped couples reawaken their connection. Affectionately deemed the “Marriage Architect”, Dr. Louis gives couples the tools to build their marriages. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) ...
ERP 189: How being “selfish” may be the best thing you do for your relationship – an interview with Dr. Laura Dabney
November 12, 2019 11:00 - 45 minutes - 42.1 MBAbout Dr. Laura Dabney: Dr. Laura Dabney has been a psychiatrist in Virginia Beach, VA for almost twenty years and has treated patients in more than a dozen cities across Virginia. Her psychiatric expertise has been featured on radio, podcasts, websites and in print media. She received her MD from Eastern Virginia Medical School and has been Board Certified in Psychiatry. She has made a career of taking on psychiatry’s toughest challenges all while ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, ...
ERP 189: How being “selfish” may be the best thing you do for your relationship – an interview with Dr. Laura Dabney
November 12, 2019 11:00 - 45 minutes - 42.1 MBAbout Dr. Laura Dabney: Dr. Laura Dabney has been a psychiatrist in Virginia Beach, VA for almost twenty years and has treated patients in more than a dozen cities across Virginia. Her psychiatric expertise has been featured on radio, podcasts, websites and in print media. She received her MD from Eastern Virginia Medical School and has been Board Certified in Psychiatry. She has made a career of taking on psychiatry’s toughest challenges all while ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, ...
ERP 188: The Benefits of Having a Tough Conversation – an interview with David Wood
November 05, 2019 11:00 - 35 minutes - 49.1 MBAbout David Wood: After life as a consulting actuary to Fortune 100 Companies, David built the world’s largest coaching business. becoming #1 on Google for “life coaching.” David Wood believes the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and even love – in both work and life. David coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams - even prison inmates - to amazing results AND connection. One conversation at a time. (Please listen to the pod...
ERP 188: The Benefits of Having a Tough Conversation – an interview with David Wood
November 05, 2019 11:00 - 35 minutes - 49.1 MBAbout David Wood: After life as a consulting actuary to Fortune 100 Companies, David built the one of the world's largest coaching businesses, becoming #1 on Google for “life coaching.” David Wood believes the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and even love – in both work and life. David coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams - even prison inmates - to amazing results AND connection. One conversation at a time. (Please list...
ERP 187: The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages with Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey
October 29, 2019 10:00 - 48 minutes - 44.8 MBAbout Dr. Marcus Warner: A conference speaker and author who has spent over thirty years helping people and organizations navigate some of life's toughest challenges. As the president of Deeper Walk International he has helped develop dozens of resources that deal with recovery, leadership, and family life. About Chris M. Coursey: The president of THRIVEtoday, a non-profit focusing on training leaders and communities in the nineteen skills that make relationships work. Chris is an o...
ERP 186: How to Prioritize the Most Important Element of Your Relationship – an Interview with Rabbi Manis Friedman
October 22, 2019 13:11 - 51 minutes - 47.2 MBAbout Rabbi Manis Friedman: World-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher, Rabbi Manis Friedman uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. Rabbi Friedman started an organization called “It’s Good to Know” which reaches thousands of people every month through his online classes and events. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Rabbi Ma...
ERP 185: How To Live An "UnHidden" Life - An Interview With Robert Kandell
October 15, 2019 03:15 - 46 minutes - 43 MBAbout Robert Kandell: Robert Kandell is an interpersonal communication expert, speaker, podcaster and the author of the bestselling book, unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them. Since 2002, Robert’s mission has been to help people find themselves and use their internal power to live their best lives. He is the host of the podcast, Tuff Love, where he puts his compassionate, hard-hitting insight to work helping people move forward in their lives with clarity. In this episode...
ERP 184: How to Deal with Sexual Incompatibilities an Interview with Dr. Lonnie Barbach
October 01, 2019 20:32 - 50 minutes - 46.6 MBAbout Dr. Lonnie Barbach: Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, was co-director of clinical training at UCSF medical centers sexuality program and is currently in private practice. She has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause. Her best-known books include: For Yourself, The Erotic Edge, The Pause and Going the Distance, co-authored with her partner, David Geisinger, Ph.D. She is also cof...
ERP 183: The Return of the Gentleman with Dr. Dain Heer
September 20, 2019 10:00 - 58 minutes - 81.2 MBIn this episode, Dr. Dain Heer and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: What a gentleman is and what it means to be a holistic you. Masculinity and how it appears in relationships. The masculine and feminine traits that we all possess and embracing them in our lives. How to look at the judgments, rules, and expectations we live by and work with them, so that you can connect with what is truly you. Getting present with the secrets within yourself – “today’s secret is tomorrow’s lie.” ...
ERP 182: How To Encourage Your Partner To Go To Therapy
September 15, 2019 01:07 - 54 minutes - 44.3 MBSeveral listeners have posed the question “How do I get my partner to go to therapy?” Or “How do I get my partner to go to therapy with me?“ Today, I am going to give you some guidelines to consider when approaching this conversation with your significant other. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: How difficult it is to watch someone you love hurting, in pain, and struggling. Or how pain...
ERP 181: How Do I Know If My Relationship Is Over?
August 29, 2019 15:45 - 48 minutes - 39.1 MBSHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? Unfortunately, there may come a point in relationship, where we are in enough distress, discontent and disconnect, that we question our relationship or marriage. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) DISCUSSED IN THIS EPISODE: Four relationship dealbreakers (in general) that extremely difficult to overcome. Often, we need to say no to unhealthy patterns, to take a stand for health and c...
ERP 180: What If I Think My Partner Has A Personality Disorder? An Interview With Gabrielle Usatynski
August 17, 2019 12:20 - 53 minutes - 43.2 MBGUEST GABRIELLE USATYNSKI: Gabrielle Usatynski, MA, is a Licensed Professional Counselor at Power Couples Counseling in Boulder, CO. She has been in private practice since 2008 and specializes in couples therapy. She is trained in PACT (a Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy). Gabrielle has been named 2018 and 2019 Best Marriage Counselor of Louisville by the Louisville Awards Program. She teaches a masterclass on personality disorders in couples therapy to other clinicians in th...
ERP 179: 4 Keys to Effective Communication – An Interview with Bento Leal
August 08, 2019 10:00 - 51 minutes - 47.5 MBIn this episode, Bento Leal and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How Bento got involved in the field of relationship skills. Some of the biggest problems in interpersonal communication. The 4 Keys to Effective Communication. The number one skill for everyone. It’s not just about receiving information, it’s about getting where the other person is coming from, especially on an emotional topic. Listen all the way through, don’t get defense or take it as an attack to try and hurt yo...
ERP 178: How to Offer Comfort to Your Significant Other - Part Two
July 29, 2019 18:59 - 35 minutes - 28.7 MBLast week’s episode (177), I discussed how difficult it can be when feeling distressed, threatened, and reactive to engage in comfort with a significant other. As one of my clients puts so well “Why would I want comfort from you, when you are they one that is causing me pain!” Many of us did not get the experience of having comfort when we were young. Thus, we developed ways to deal with it, but more importantly, we don’t have an internal system that we can trust to turn towards comfort...
ERP 177: How to Offer Comfort to Your Significant Other.
July 18, 2019 20:51 - 47 minutes - 38.8 MBDiscussed In This Episode: During stress, ways we get it wrong when we try to comfort our partner. How offering physical and emotional closeness is one of the most powerful ways to offer comfort. Ways to provide physical closeness (i.e. hugging, holding, sitting close). General ways to offer emotional closeness: 1. Accept and listen to your partner. 2. Understand the hurt. 3. Be with the pain. 4. Offer reflection and validation. 5. Offer care and help. 6. Show remorse, if ...