Dynamite Divorce and other matters (DDOM)
55 episodes - English - Latest episode: 2 months ago - ★★★★★ - 4 ratingsCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! Custody and Divorce Lawyers Marjie Nielsen, Barry C. Boykin and Kevin R. Johnson have more than 70 combined years of experience. They know first-hand the court battles, psychological warfare, pain and frustration that parents, spouses, partners and children endure as disputes are resolved in the family-court system. From their perspective as Chicago attorneys, Barry, Marjie and Kevin attempt to bring hope and clarity to a troubled world, where lawyers, judges and other professionals see the best and worst of human behavior on public display.
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Episode 42 with Judge Mark Lopez, retired
May 13, 2024 17:00 - 1 hour - 43.1 MBIn this Episode 42 - recorded on May 8th, 2024, Marjie, Barry and Kevin host retired Judge Mark Lopez, formerly of the Cook County (IL) Circuit Court, Domestic Relations Division. In this wide-ranging discussion, Judge Lopez shares some insights and perspectives from his 22 years on the bench. Some topics are: Should you be scared to appear in Court? How are judges chosen in Cook County? What does a judge look at when deciding cases? Can you take off your shirt in Zoom court? (No.) ...
Episode 41 with Attorney Igor Bozic - "Juvenile Court - a former prosecutor explains"
January 29, 2024 23:00 - 51 minutes - 35.7 MBIn this Episode 41 - recorded on January 19, 2024, Marjie, Barry and Kevin sit down with former prosecutor ('Assistant State's Attorney') Igor Bozic to talk about Juvenile Court -- and the RISKS that parents face in not maintaining a calm, steady atmosphere around their children at home. How does the Illinois child-protection agency (DCFS) begin focusing on you and your family? Screaming, yelling, throwing things in the house. Being overheard by neighbors. Having your kids witness ...
Episode 40 with Dr. Pascale Piron - "OVERthinking and UNDERthinking in family-law conflicts"
September 12, 2023 14:00 - 1 hour - 46.6 MBIn this Episode 40 - recorded on September 8, 2023, Marjie (our new co-host), Barry and Kevin sit down with: Doctor of Psychology Pascale Piron https://emergepg.com/pascale-piron, for a look behind the mental-health curtain. Psychologist, therapist, counselor -- what's difference (other than cost?) Can all of them do counseling? testing? evaluations? Why therapy for kids is good, and how some parents try to sabotage it. Why adults in litigation or family-law conflicts can gre...
Episode 39 - Answering some "Frequently Asked Questions"
August 07, 2023 17:00 - 1 hour - 42.8 MBIn this Episode 39 - recorded on July 20, 2023, Barry and Kevin answer some of the questions commonly asked of them by non-lawyers. There are links included below, including "Illinois Legal Aid Online," for people who would like some online help in preparing legal documents. While some of the questions and answers are specific to Cook County Circuit Court in Illinois, there are also some universal truths and principles that anyone should find useful, as they attempt to navigate a complica...
Episode 38 with Clare McMahon - "Best Ideas and Worst Ideas in Family Law"
December 14, 2022 03:00 - 1 hour - 39.1 MBBack from a summer break, Barry and Kevin are again ready to ruminate and pontificate on the practice of family law. They are joined today by Chicago Attorney Clare McMahon from Hoffenberg & Block , who bravely wades into this wide-ranging discussion about the "Best Ideas and Worst Ideas in Family Law." In this Episode 38 - recorded in early December, 2022, Clare, Barry and Kevin gather around the (virtual) table to debate and explain some basic family-law concepts, as well as more-compl...
Episode 37 - "Drop Dead" and "Escape" clauses, Slippery, variable language and Other Perils
July 06, 2022 19:00 - 49 minutes - 34.2 MBIn this Episode 37 - recorded on a hot day in June, 2022, Barry and Kevin discuss an insider's view of negotiating settlement agreements -- the kind that become divorce judgments, parenting-time orders, and custody ('allocation') judgments. When you receive a 20-page parenting-time proposal, what should you look for? How about "drop dead" ('self-executing') sentences and paragraphs -- which allow the other party to judge when an important line has been crossed (for example, failing to take...
Episode 36 - The Aftermath of Court Orders (and the Before Math)
June 10, 2022 20:00 - 48 minutes - 33.2 MBIn this Episode 36 - recorded in May, 2022, Barry and Kevin discuss what happens after a Divorce, Allocation Judgment or other Court Order has been entered. All that work, all the thinking and negotiating and planning -- so easy to fall apart or not work as planned. Kevin and Barry shares some stories and techniques for smoothing the way to the rest of your life -- your life after Court, when you have to live with the words on paper. ================== Chicago Lawyers ...
Episode 35 - Reviewing a year of podcasts in 2021 - guests, controversy, ideas and secrets
March 05, 2022 18:00 - 38 minutes - 26.3 MB2021 was a busy year for our podcast, with a multitude of guests sharing ideas, hopes, dreams, techniques and behind-the-scenes secrets from their real-world experience. A bunch of lawyers and one Doctor of Psychology, what could go wrong? In this Episode 35 - recorded in February, 2022 without a net, and without a guest, Barry and Kevin remember and summarize the hours and hours of 'Dynamite Divorce and Other Matters' episodes recorded in 2021. ================== Ch...
Episode 34 with Kara Bekelya - "Abuse, Domestic Violence, Truth, Lies, Divorce and Children""
December 31, 2021 14:00 - 51 minutes - 35.5 MBSEE THE LINKS BELOW! Safety and freedom. Who wouldn't want that? But abusive partners, spouses and other family members can put the safety and freedom of you and your children at risk. No one should live in constant fear of physical or emotional harm. Agencies, advocates and the legal system stand ready to help. On the other hand, no one should lose his or her home, children or freedom due to misuse of the legal system or false allegations of abuse. In this Episode 34, record...
Episode 33 PART TWO with Attorney Mark Broaddus - "Guardianship, parents, children, disabilities, power and money"
November 04, 2021 15:00 - 31 minutes - 22 MBParents. Children. Money. Power. Control. Disabled adults. What could go wrong? This podcast is about "Guardianship." It sounds like a blanket of comfort and protection. "Guardianship." The power to decide, for adults and children who can't. Protection against bad decisions and wasted assets sounds good! But having a guardian could mean the loss of control. Can you imagine having another person make your medical decisions, sell your house or spend your money? Who should ha...
Episode 33 PART ONE with Attorney Mark Broaddus - "Guardianship, parents, children, disabilities, power and money"
November 04, 2021 15:00 - 25 minutes - 17.8 MBParents. Children. Money. Power. Control. Disabled adults. What could go wrong? This podcast is about "Guardianship." It sounds like a blanket of comfort and protection. "Guardianship." The power to decide, for adults and children who can't. Protection against bad decisions and wasted assets sounds good! But having a guardian could mean the loss of control. Can you imagine having another person make your medical decisions, sell your house or spend your money? Who should h...
Episode 32 PART TWO with Michael Wood - Unpaid bills and family stress - 'Debt buyers' and the attacks on you
August 20, 2021 16:00 - 20 minutes - 14.3 MBOften added to the legal and emotional turmoil of a divorce, custody, parentage, child-support or other family-law dispute are pressures over unpaid bills and debts. Banks and other creditors sometimes try to collect for a while, but when they give up, they "charge off" the debt and sell it to a "debt buyer" for 3 or 4 cents on the dollar. Then, a semi-automated collection campaign can begin. In this Episode 32, parts One and Two, Recorded on 8/10/2021, Barry, Kevin and guest Michael Wood...
Episode 32 PART ONE with Michael Wood - Unpaid bills and family stress - 'Debt buyers' and the attacks on you
August 20, 2021 16:00 - 23 minutes - 15.9 MBOften added to the legal and emotional turmoil of a divorce, custody, parentage, child-support or other family-law dispute are pressures over unpaid bills and debts. Banks and other creditors sometimes try to collect for a while, but when they give up, they "charge off" the debt and sell it to a "debt buyer" for 3 or 4 cents on the dollar. Then, a semi-automated collection campaign can begin. In this Episode 32, parts One and Two, Recorded on 8/10/2021, Barry, Kevin and guest Michael Wood...
Episode 31 - PART TWO with Kathy Bojczuk - "Call the Parenting Coordinator! Our divorce is over, but my ex keeps fighting!"
July 29, 2021 19:00 - 21 minutes - 14.6 MB"We fought over the divorce, but now that it's over, my ex won't stop fighting about our children! Never a moment's peace! It's always one thing or another -- my ex always looks for exceptions and loopholes in our parenting agreement, and I'm always having to defend my actions and my time with my child! " IS THERE NO END? After a highly-contested court case involving divorce, child-custody or parenting-time, the arguing and name-calling can continue unabated. There's seemingly no escap...
Episode 31 - PART ONE with Kathy Bojczuk - "Call the Parenting Coordinator! Our divorce is over, but my ex keeps fighting!"
July 29, 2021 19:00 - 25 minutes - 17.4 MB"We fought over the divorce, but now that it's over, my ex won't stop fighting about our children! Never a moment's peace! It's always one thing or another -- my ex always looks for exceptions and loopholes in our parenting agreement, and I'm always having to defend my actions and my time with my child! " IS THERE NO END? After a highly-contested court case involving divorce, child-custody or parenting-time, the arguing and name-calling can continue unabated. There's seemingly no escap...
Episode 30 - PART TWO with Dr. Pascale Piron - "My mental health is fine! It's my ex who's unstable!" (Family law through the eyes of a mental health professional)
July 13, 2021 13:00 - 24 minutes - 16.9 MBThis is terrible! First, I'm forced into a court battle for my child's future, now I have to be "evaluated" to see if I'm a good parent? OF COURSE I'm a good parent! It's my ex who's causing all the problems and lying about me! I hope the "professionals" will see that! In highly-contested child-custody and parenting-time cases, a judge will sometimes appoint a mental health professional to gather information and carefully sift through the conflicting and competing narratives and write...
Episode 30 - PART ONE with Dr. Pascale Piron - "I'm a loving and stable parent! It's my ex who's unstable!" (Family law through the eyes of a mental health professional)
July 13, 2021 13:00 - 27 minutes - 18.8 MBThis is terrible! First, I'm forced into a court battle for my child's future, now I have to be "evaluated" to see if I'm a good parent? OF COURSE I'm a good parent! It's my ex who's causing all the problems and lying about me! I hope the "professionals" will see that! In highly-contested child-custody and parenting-time cases, a judge will sometimes appoint a mental health professional to gather information and carefully sift through the conflicting and competing narratives and write...
Episode 29 - PART TWO with Andrea Rice "Moving on after a custody or divorce case"
June 17, 2021 16:00 - 33 minutes - 19 MBI'm still having nightmares about my custody case! How can I get past this? How can I find peace and protect my kids from further trauma? Maybe I should share my inner feelings with my kids and lean on them for emotional support! (WHAT?!) In this Episode 29, PART TWO, Recorded on 6/4/2021, Barry, Kevin and special guest Andrea Rice share their intelligent and well-spoken (at least in their minds!) insights about how parties, partners and chil...
Episode 29 - PART ONE with Andrea Rice "Moving on after a custody or divorce case"
June 17, 2021 16:00 - 30 minutes - 17.3 MBI'm still having nightmares about my custody case! How can I get past this? How can I find peace and protect my kids from further trauma? Maybe I should share my inner feelings with my kids and lean on them for emotional support! (WHAT?!) In this Episode 29, PART ONE, Recorded on 6/4/2021, Barry, Kevin and special guest Andrea Rice share their intelligent and well-spoken (at least in their minds!) insights about how parties, partners and childr...
Episode 28 - Part ONE - with guest Modupe Sobo - "The Judge appointed a lawyer for my little girl!" - Secrets of working with a G.A.L. or Child Rep.
May 04, 2021 13:00 - 32 minutes - 19.5 MBThe Judge is giving my little son his own lawyer? But I'm his parent! I know him better than anyone! In this Episode 28, PART ONE, Recorded on 4/23/2021, Barry, Kevin and special guest Modupe Sobo share their battle-scarred war stories about the 'Guardians ad litem' and 'Child Representatives' that judges often appoint for children in hotly-contested custody and divorce cases. They are appointed to serve as the 'eyes and ears of the court.' ...
Episode 28 - Part TWO - with guest Modupe Sobo - "The Judge appointed a lawyer for my little girl!" - Secrets of working with a G.A.L. or Child Rep.
May 04, 2021 13:00 - 27 minutes - 18.8 MBThe Judge is giving my little son his own lawyer? But I'm his parent! I know him better than anyone! In this Episode 28, PART TWO, Recorded on 4/23/2021, Barry, Kevin and special guest Modupe Sobo share their battle-scarred war stories about the 'Guardians ad litem' and 'Child Representatives' that judges often appoint for children in hotly-contested custody and divorce cases. They are appointed to serve as the 'eyes and ears of the court.' ...
Episode 27 - Part TWO - with guest Patrick Denkwa John - "Kids, we love you but we're breaking up"
March 11, 2021 21:00 - 25 minutes - 17.7 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW! Tell the kids! Don't tell the kids! Hope they don't notice! In this Episode 27, PART TWO, Recorded on 3/5/2021, Kevin, Barry and special guest Patrick Denkwa John expound and explain a tricky, sensitive topic: How to talk to kids about their parents' breakup. Plane crash? Train wreck? Just a parting of the ways? It's tough to talk about! Do...
Episode 27 - Part ONE - with guest Patrick Denkwa John - "Kids, we love you but we're breaking up"
March 11, 2021 21:00 - 27 minutes - 18.9 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW! Tell the kids! Don't tell the kids! Hope they don't notice! In this Episode 27, PART ONE, Recorded on 3/5/2021, Kevin, Barry and special guest Patrick Denkwa John expound and explain a tricky, sensitive topic: How to talk to kids about their parents' breakup. Plane crash? Train wreck? Just a parting of the ways? It's tough to talk about! ...
Episode 26 - Part TWO - with guest Daniel Florey - "Refusing and Accusing" - When a child *is said to be* refusing visitation
February 24, 2021 16:00 - 26 minutes - 18.1 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW! In this Episode 26, PART TWO, Recorded on 2/19/2021, Kevin, Barry and special guest Daniel J. Florey open up the box, spread the pieces on the floor, and attempt to solve a very-difficult puzzle -- one that often arises in custody and visitation disputes: What if the child is (reportedly or actually) refusing to spend time with the other parent? What if there's no evidence of danger? What...
Episode 26 - Part ONE - with guest Daniel Florey - "Refusing and Accusing" - When a child *is said to be* refusing visitation
February 24, 2021 15:00 - 30 minutes - 20.9 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW! In this Episode 26, PART ONE, Recorded on 2/19/2021, Kevin, Barry and special guest Daniel J. Florey open up the box, spread the pieces on the floor, and attempt to solve a very-difficult puzzle -- one that often arises in custody and visitation disputes: What if the child is (reportedly or actually) refusing to spend time with the other parent? What if there's no evidence of danger? What...
Episode 25 - with guest Drew Curle - E-filing stress and hope
February 09, 2021 19:00 - 27 minutes - 19.2 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW! "E-filing" is short for 'electronic filing' of legal documents with the Cook County (Illinois) Clerk of Circuit Court. It's now required, unless you obtain a waiver. But there's hope: E-filing can be done from the comfort of home, with just a computer, an internet connection and a credit or debit card. IF you can figure it out! In this Episode 25, Recorded on 2/1/2021, Kevin, Bar...
Episode 24 - Part TWO - with guest Marjie Nielsen - "Skeletons in the closet" - searching and using criminal information
January 16, 2021 12:00 - 27 minutes - 19 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW! Do you suspect that a person has been arrested? Convicted? Required to register as a sex offender or violent criminal? Is your ex's new boyfriend or girlfriend a risk to your children? How about this "nice" person you just met? Is there something more you should know? How about your past troubles? Are you destined to live with your mistakes forever? Did you know that a free website sh...
Episode 24 - Part ONE - with guest Marjie Nielsen - "Skeletons in the closet" - searching and using criminal information
January 16, 2021 12:00 - 29 minutes - 20.6 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE THE LINKS BELOW! Do you suspect that a person has been arrested? Convicted? Required to register as a sex offender or violent criminal? Is your ex's new boyfriend or girlfriend a risk to your children? How about this "nice" person you just met? Is there something more you should know? How about your past troubles? Are you destined to live with your mistakes forever? Did you know that a free website sho...
Episode 23 - "2020 Year-End Wrap-up" - Kevin and Barry remember a strange year!
January 06, 2021 14:00 - 29 minutes - 20.5 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: In this Episode 23, Attorney Barry C. Boykin and Attorney Kevin R. Johnson expound, debate and disagree on their experiences and lessons learned in this strange pandemic year. Family law is already complex and mystifying, and when combined with 'remote' court appearances, electronic communication and document filing, and the pressure on all of the professionals and civilians involved, it bec...
Episode 23 - "2020 Year-End Wrap-up" - Kevin and Barry remember a strange year!
January 06, 2021 14:00 - 29 minutes - 20.5 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: In this Episode 23, Attorney Barry C. Boykin and Attorney Kevin R. Johnson expound, debate and disagree on their experiences and lessons learned in this strange pandemic year. Family law is already complex and mystifying, and when combined with 'remote' court appearances, electronic communication and document filing, and the pressure on all of the professionals and civilians involved, it bec...
Episode 22 - Part TWO - 'Hear Ye, Hear Ye!' - Put on your best 'Zoom' suit - Preparing and arguing at Hearings
January 02, 2021 18:00 - 23 minutes - 15.9 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: In this PART TWO of Episode 22, Attorneys Barry C. Boykin and Kevin Johnson share their experience with 'hearings,' the court proceedings where lives are changed, futures are determined, and children moved between households. How do you handle the preparation and presentation that persuades a judge to rule in your favor? How do you handle this new 'remote' environment, where email, Zoom and ...
Episode 22 - Part ONE - 'Hear Ye, Hear Ye!' - Put on your best 'Zoom' suit - Preparing and arguing at Hearings
January 02, 2021 18:00 - 25 minutes - 17.9 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: In this PART ONE of Episode 22, Attorneys Barry C. Boykin and Kevin Johnson share their experience with 'hearings,' the court proceedings where lives are changed, futures are determined, and children moved between households. How do you handle the preparation and presentation that persuades a judge to rule in your favor? How do you handle this new 'remote' environment, where email, Zoom and e...
Episode 21 - The Mystery of 'Discovery' Methods
November 29, 2020 21:00 - 34 minutes - 21.5 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! "Discovery" can cause stress and misunderstanding, and take up time and energy. In this Episode 21, Custody and Divorce Lawyers Barry C. Boykin and Kevin R. Johnson discuss and explain some methods of "Discovery" that are used in court cases. Subpoenas for records, Interrogatories, Notices to Produce, Depositions -- all part of the Court Rules, intended to cause information to be revealed and exchanged during...
Episode 20 - Avoid getting overpowered on settlement negotiations
October 12, 2020 16:00 - 23 minutes - 14.8 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! When one parent has an attorney, and the other doesn't, there is a big imbalance of power during negotiations. When that parent without an attorney receives a proposed custody, allocation or parenting-time agreement written by the other parent's attorney, it can be confusing -- to put it mildly. Simple phrases and paragraphs can lay the groundwork for HUGE, BITTER disputes and disagreements, long into the futur...
Episode 19 - The Stepmother Clashes With Cinderella
September 03, 2020 10:00 - 22 minutes - 15.2 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: In this Episode 19, Attorney Barry C. Boykin and Attorney Kevin R. Johnson discuss a BIG problem that can gradually overwhelm a divorced Dad and ruin a 2nd marriage. It's when a teenager from a previous marriage rebels and clashes with the 'stepmother' (Dad's new wife) and causes absolute chaos that can roar through Dad's new household. While issuing warnings about these problems, Kevin a...
Episode 19 - The Stepmother Clashes With Cinderella (avoiding a meltdown with blended families)
September 03, 2020 10:00 - 22 minutes - 15.2 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: In this Episode 19, Attorney Barry C. Boykin and Attorney Kevin R. Johnson discuss a BIG problem that can gradually overwhelm a divorced Dad and ruin a 2nd marriage. It's when a teenager from a previous marriage rebels and clashes with the 'stepmother' (Dad's new wife) and causes absolute chaos that can roar through Dad's new household. While issuing warnings about these problems, Kevin a...
Episode 18 - "Jump Ball!" - the 'UCCJEA' and which state's court controls custody
August 05, 2020 23:00 - 22 minutes - 14.8 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: "I've got sole custody of my kids. I can move anywhere I want!" Not so fast. in this Episode 18, Attorney Barry C. Boykin and Attorney Kevin R. Johnson discuss the twists and turns, wrinkles and repercussions, of the tie-breaking, interstate-custody law known as the 'UCCJEA.' In 49 states, including Illinois, the 'Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act' applies a six-mon...
Episode 17 - In Camera Interviews of Children by Judges
July 25, 2020 13:00 - 23 minutes - 13.7 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: "I want my child to speak directly to the Judge." "Let's have the children tell their story directly to the Judge." "Let the children have a voice -- the Judge should interview the children!" Really! Are you serious? Have you thought this through? In this Episode 17, Attorney Kevin R. Johnson and Attorney Barry C. Boykin discuss, explain and disagree about "in camera interviews" -- one ...
Episode 16 - Custody Case Complexities
July 25, 2020 13:00 - 21 minutes - 12.8 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: A custody court case. A parent's worst nightmare. Where should the children live? Why not switch majority time to the other parent? How about a move to a different state -- hundreds of miles from the other parent? If parents can't agree, the courts stand ready to decide, with sometimes-unexpected results. It's a high-stakes game no parent EVER wants to be part of. In this Episode 16, ...
Episode 15 - Reasonable fees: Man's former divorce attorney seeks $48,000 from him and ex-wife
June 10, 2020 15:00 - 29 minutes - 17.6 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! In this Episode 15, Attorneys Kevin R. Johnson and Barry C. Boykin discuss a divorce case, but NOT the husband v. wife part of the case. Instead, they wrestle with the topic of attorney fees, and what the courts in that case found reasonable. The husband's former attorney, after ending representation, asked the court to award him $48,000 in unpaid fees. The trial and ...
Episode 14 - Language Traps in Parenting-time Agreements
May 30, 2020 21:00 - 25 minutes - 12.5 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: In this Episode 14, Attorneys Kevin Johnson and Barry C. Boykin wrestle with the issue of language in parenting-time agreements. What do a few paragraphs matter? Who's going to read their divorce and parenting-time paperwork afterward -- don't they just throw it in a drawer and muddle along? Who cares? Kevin says that he does, and that anyone in a divorce or custody case with children sh...
Episode 12 - Need that written retainer agreement!
May 12, 2020 16:00 - 12 minutes - 6.04 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! In this Episode 12, Attorney Barry Boykin and Attorney Kevin Johnson AGREE that a written retainer agreement is necessary in a family-law case -- but they DON'T AGREE on when and how the agreement should be handed to the client for signing. What's the problem? Custody and Divorce Lawyers Barry C. Boykin and Kevin R. Johnson have more than 50 combined years of ex...
Episode 13 - On the hook: When does a POTENTIAL client transform into an ACTUAL client? - May 7 2020
May 12, 2020 16:00 - 14 minutes - 7.18 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! In this Episode 13, Attorney Kevin R. Johnson and Attorney Barry C. Boykin agree that it's important to know whether (or not) an attorney-client relationship has begun. Has the lawyer been hired or not? Why does it matter? Who's supposed to be watching deadlines and paying attention to the case? Custody and Divorce Lawyers Barry C. Boykin and Kevin R. Johnson...
Episode 11 - Part ONE - Let me talk to my kid! Phone calls from the absent parent - May 2 2020
May 02, 2020 23:00 - 15 minutes - 8.1 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! In PART ONE of Episode 11, Attorney Barry Boykin and Attorney Kevin Johnson talk about a common dilemma - how much phone time an absent parent should have with the child, when the child is with the other parent. Kevin argues that RIGID adherence to some simple guidelines can reduce conflict between the parents, and stress for the child. Barry argues for a MORE-FLEXIBLE approach, that decency and respect should...
Episode 11 - Part TWO - Away from your child? Want to call? How to make it fun, or at least less awful - May 2 2020
May 02, 2020 23:00 - 11 minutes - 7.31 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! SEE LINKS BELOW: In PART TWO of Episode 11, Attorney Barry Boykin and Attorney Kevin Johnson talk about a common dilemma - how much phone time an absent parent should have with the child, when the child is with the other parent. Kevin argues that RIGID adherence to some simple guidelines can reduce conflict between the parents, and stress for the child. Barry argues for a MORE-FLEXIBLE approach, that decency ...
Episode 10 - Part ONE - Dad stacks the deck against Mom, she loses ALL parenting time - April 2 2020
April 26, 2020 02:00 - 14 minutes - 9.05 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! In PART ONE of Episode 10, Attorneys Kevin R. Johnson and Barry C. Boykin discuss a real situation where the mother of a child was awarded the majority of parenting time and sole decision-making over significant decisions for a young child. Dad got some parenting time, and many years went by. About twelve years later, Dad goes to war. Dad successfully argues to the court, with the support of the child's ther...
Episode 10 - Part TWO - Dad stacks the deck against Mom, she loses ALL parenting time - April 2 2020
April 26, 2020 02:00 - 11 minutes - 6.04 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! In PART TWO of Episode 10, Attorneys Kevin R. Johnson and Barry C. Boykin discuss a real situation where the mother of a child was awarded the majority of parenting time and sole decision-making over significant decisions for a young child. Dad got some parenting time, and many years went by. About twelve years later, Dad goes to war. Dad successfully argues to the court, with the support of the child's ther...
Episode 9 - Total chaos and stress: another name for a flexible parenting schedule? - March 20 2020
April 16, 2020 19:00 - 29 minutes - 20.6 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! In this Episode 9, Attorney Barry C. Boykin and Attorney Kevin R. Johnson find themselves on opposite sides of the fence. On one side, the ex-husband (father of four children) says he wants a totally-flexible parenting schedule that will allow him to take the kids to sports, activities and events they need and want. On the other side is Mom, who wants to be able to make plans that won't be upended by Dad ...
Episode 8 - The landscaper buries his business - March 19 2020
April 16, 2020 18:00 - 19 minutes - 9.54 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! In this Episode 8, Attorney Barry Boykin and Attorney Kevin Johnson discuss part of an actual, anonymized divorce case, where the husband shut down his landscaping business and instead chose a part-time job -- with much less money to pay support to the wife for the minor children. Can the husband do that? "Of course not!" wife says. "I had no choice!" husband says. Who will prevail? Custody and Div...
Episode 7 - On his way out of the marriage, husband drains equity from the house - March 19 2020
April 16, 2020 17:00 - 17 minutes - 8.66 MBCustody! Divorce! Parenting time! Money! Disagreements over children! In this Episode 7, Attorney Barry Boykin and Attorney Kevin Johnson discuss both sides of a thorny problem: After the marriage has broken down, the husband obtains a huge home-equity loan and draws it down, spending and paying until it is almost gone. He even pays off his Mercedes. Now, he suggests a 50/50 split of the remainder as part of the divorce. The wife says THIS IS NOT FAIR, and has other ideas! Cu...