9 - Moving From Dreaming To Dating

This week we’re talking about what I think is the most important piece of DRD framework for getting results, Taking Action. Yes, actually taking all that you desire for dating and relationships and doing something, even taking risks and possibly failing at times, but moving forward toward what you want.  This is important for you to hear: I think most people have a hard time initiating dating, or as I say, putting yourself out there. It’s scary and awkward and who wants to feel that?

But What Else Are You Going To Do?

Think about this, if you’re not taking any action to try to meet people and date, what else are you going to do to get what you want? The love of your life is not going to show up on your doorstep.What is one small thing you do to get yourself in the dating mode? Tell a friend you’re ready to date and to keep her in mind among her friends. Check out various dating apps. Join a new group or volunteer activity as a way of meeting new people.Whatever it is, do something to move from dreaming about dating and relationships to doing.

Remember to Work on Your Beliefs While You Take Action 

If you listen to episodes 4 and 5 we talk about positive beliefs about yourself and about ways to build dating confidence. You really need to continue this mental work while you take action. The believing and the doing go hand in hand.Chances are you may take action to date while you feeling scared and vulnerable. This is totally normal. Rely on your positive thoughts and increasing confidence in these moments.Tell yourself you have what it takes and then go and do it.

Where Do We Go From Here? 

Now that you decided, okay I actually do need to do something about dating, organize yourself and your plan to date.I’m going to recommend the 3,2, 1 plan for you and here how it goes. You’re going to choose three affirmations for yourself to help grow your dating confidence. You’re going to next pick two beliefs about either yourself, your disability, or your mindset about relationships that need an overhaul. Then you’re going to decide on one action you’re going to take to get in the dating scene.

Resources

Podcast SurveyFree download - 3, 2, 1 Plan

Credits

Music by: https://www.purple-planet.com "Successful Motivation"
Artwork photo by Elevate

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Music by Successful Motivation |
Artwork photo by Elevate