Dating, Marriage and Divorce Conversations (DMD)
51 episodes - English - Latest episode: 3 months ago - ★★★★★ - 19 ratingsAnalyzing, navigating, and trouble-shooting all stages of our romantic lives.
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Attracting Love: The Role of Personal Growth, Positivity, and Manifestation in Relationships
January 29, 2024 20:00 - 41 minutes - 25.6 MBHave you ever wondered what truly fuels the sparks of attraction? Join us as Rachel Burnham (dating coach) and Leorah Elin (matchmaker) share their insights into the dynamic world of dating and relationships. In a candid conversation, we unravel how our personal histories, attitudes, and the energy we emanate deeply influence our romantic connections. Learn why positivity and self-growth aren't just feel-good terms, but essential elements in magnetizing the love life you desire. Navigating...
Anatomy of Relational Intimacy
January 23, 2024 12:00 - 17 minutes - 11.8 MBEmbark on a journey with me, Igor Meystelman, as we unravel the complexities of relational intimacy that go far beyond the bedroom. Imagine a bond so intricate and profound, where emotional and physical closeness weave together, creating a tapestry of connection that is the bedrock of any romantic partnership. Throughout this episode, we illuminate the path to understanding and nurturing these non-physical aspects of intimacy, challenging the conventional wisdom that underscores gender roles...
Hacks to supercharge my Relational Self
January 15, 2024 01:00 - 16 minutes - 11.6 MBEmbark on a journey to the heart of healthy relationships as we wrap up the season with an in-depth look at the pillars that support a fulfilling romantic partnership. Together, we'll explore the significance of boundaries, akin to property lines that define personal space, and dissect the complexities of enmeshment within family dynamics. Uncover the power of self-differentiation, and learn how it empowers us to maintain our unique identity while nurturing deep connections with others. Salv...
Healthy Relationship: What does Self-esteem have to do with it?
January 09, 2024 02:00 - 17 minutes - 11.9 MBHave you ever stopped to consider how your self-esteem is the bedrock of your relationships? In this episode, we unearth the profound ways in which our sense of self-worth intertwines with our connections to those we cherish. We explore why self-esteem is more than just feeling good about ourselves —it's about understanding that our value doesn't hinge on others' perceptions or our own missteps. We delve into how fostering a deep, unconditional positive regard for ourselves can lead to healt...
Unveiling Our Relational Selves: The Journey from Early Attachments to Authentic Relationships
January 01, 2024 03:00 - 24 minutes - 16.7 MBEmbark on an enlightening odyssey with me, as we navigate the intricate web of our relational selves and the profound impact of our early attachments on our adult relationships. Ever pondered the possibility of measuring relational intelligence, akin to IQ or EQ? We delve deep into this concept, examining how our 'clean slate' at birth evolves through experiences and attachment styles, shaping our interactions and connections. Our journey uncovers the developmental influences that craft our...
Unearthing Love and Connection Amidst Crisis: A Jewish Perspective with Leorah Elin and Rachel Burnham
October 17, 2023 14:00 - 1 hour - 46.4 MBWhat if you had the power to navigate the complex world of dating and marriage, even amidst challenging times? This episode uncovers authentic ways to balance personal joy and the guilt and stress of our current reality, drawing from the wisdom of Jewish discussions and expert advice. We tackle the concept of dating and the the powerful tools that can help us hold onto seemingly opposing emotions simultaneously, providing comfort and stability in an uncertain world. Have you ever felt stuck...
Unearthing Love and Connection Amidst Crisis: A Jewish Perspective
October 17, 2023 14:00 - 1 hour - 46.4 MBWhat if you had the power to navigate the complex world of dating and marriage, even amidst challenging times? This episode uncovers authentic ways to balance personal joy and the guilt and stress of our current reality, drawing from the wisdom of Jewish discussions and expert advice. We tackle the concept of dating and the the powerful tools that can help us hold onto seemingly opposing emotions simultaneously, providing comfort and stability in an uncertain world. Have you ever felt stuck...
Understanding and Counteracting Domestic Violence with Shaya Kraus
October 02, 2023 21:00 - 57 minutes - 39.7 MBWhat if your relationship could be transformed from a power struggle to a harmonious partnership? Join us as we unravel the complexities of marriage and relationships with Shaya Kraus, a mental health professional, and clinical supervisor at the Rambam Family Health Center. His wealth of knowledge and experience, specifically in couples counseling, and domestic violence awareness, play a pivotal role in guiding us through this journey of understanding the elements that make or break relation...
Interview with Miriam Campbell on Strengthening Family Ties and Personal Growth
September 20, 2023 17:00 - 1 hour - 32.9 MBAre you ready to transform your parent-child relationship? Join me as I host a fascinating conversation with Miriam Campbell, founder of Skills for Connection, who enlightens us on the art of fostering robust connections. Miriam's journey from being a speech therapist to a social worker serves as the backbone of our discourse, where she generously shares her insights and tools utilized to enhance relationships and communication skills among parents and children. Our conversation takes an in...
Seasons of a Relationship - Natural Cycles of a Romantic Relationship
June 30, 2023 04:00 - 25 minutes - 17.6 MBDo you remember the flutter of excitement, the spark of connection when you first met someone special? That's the magical season of courtship that can be rekindled at any age and any stage of your relationship. Join me, Igor Meystelman, for a heartfelt exploration of the seasons of relationships. We'll journey through love and intimacy, acceptance and celebration in the context of our older selves, proving that courtship isn't just for the young. I'll also share insights on how marriages evo...
Embracing Our Humanity: Navigating Emotional Cutoff and Self-Differentiation in Relationships
June 11, 2023 23:00 - 25 minutes - 25.6 MBDo you ever find yourself resorting to emotional cutoff in relationships? Curious about what's truly driving this behavior? This thought-provoking episode dives into the complex subject of emotional cutoff, enmeshment, self-differentiation, and their impact on our ability to recognize and appreciate our own value, as well as the value of others. We share insights on why people rely on emotional cutoff, the motivations behind it, and whether it's a healthy reaction, while also discussing the ...
Strengthening Family Dynamics: The Power of Spousal Connection in Parenting
June 08, 2023 21:00 - 30 minutes - 23.3 MBHave you ever wondered how the strength of your spousal relationship impacts your parenting and family dynamics? In today's episode, we shed light on this crucial connection and introduce our upcoming Parent Empowerment program, a six-part series designed to fortify the foundation of your family through the relationship of the spouses. Discover the concept of Mirroring and its potential to enhance understanding and communication in your partnership, as well as the significance of spending me...
Four things that destroy a relationship and how to avoid them!
May 29, 2023 23:00 - 24 minutes - 17 MBIn this episode, we take a closer look at what John Gottman refers to as the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. When any of these 4 factors exist in a relationship, they cause tremendous, and sometimes, irreversible harm to the relationship. The good news is that the more we understand how these factors exist in our relationships, the more we can do something about resolving or neutralizing these forces. Hope you enjoy! Support the show
Episode with a Dating Coach and a Matchmaker
March 16, 2023 23:00 - 1 hour - 54.5 MBIn this episode, we took another deep dive into the challenges of the dating world. I had an opportunity once again to sit down with Mrs. Leorah Elin (a veteran matchmaker) and Mrs. Rachel Burnham (a dating coach). Mrs. Leorah Elin, a noted shadchan, dating coach, kallah teacher, and educator from Waterbury, Connecticut, has been successfully making shidduchim for over 22 years. Leorah’s warmth and kindness make her a highly sought-after shadchan and her expertise includes successfully mat...
Mind-Body Connection - Insights from Rena Reiser
November 23, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 48.5 MBRena Reiser helps women tune into their inner wisdom to create space for Hashem's shefa to flow into their lives. Download her free Tune In Journal + meditation at www.tuneinjournal.com: and find her podcast "Tune In with Rena Reiser" on your favorite podcast app. In this episode, I had an opportunity to sit down with Rena Reiser and her husband Rabbi Yonason Reiser to discuss this very important concept of how the body-mind connection impacts us and then in turn impacts our relationships....
Everything I need to know and wish I knew about Dating!!!
November 17, 2022 03:00 - 2 hours - 94.1 MBIn this episode, I had an opportunity to sit down with Mrs. Leorah Elin (a veteran matchmaker) and Mrs. Rachel Burnham (a dating coach) to a difficult and sensitive conversation and discuss the challenges facing those who are in the dating scene. We touched on many topics and aspects of dating. Hope you enjoy! Mrs. Leorah Elin, a noted shadchan, dating coach, kallah teacher, and educator from Waterbury, Connecticut, has been successfully making shidduchim for over 22 years. Leorah’s warmth...
Making Marriage a Priority
November 11, 2022 04:00 - 25 minutes - 17.7 MBCouples manage to make everything else a priority in their lives, except for their relationship. This episode explores what the starting point must be to begin the transformation from passive existence to proactive ownership of our romantic relationships: Mindset. Support the show
Interview with Rabbi Dr. Yosef Lynn - Part 2
November 02, 2022 03:00 - 43 minutes - 29.7 MBI had the privilege to have Rabbi Dr. Yosef Lynn as a guest on my podcast. He has been a Dean of Students at Yeshiva Machon Yaakov in Jerusalem for the last 18 years. He is also a co-author of 2 books: Not a Partnership; and Nurture their Nature. He is a sought-after speaker and workshop presenter, and he regularly runs a successful Marriage Mastermind program. I had an opportunity to take a deep dive with Rabbi Dr. Yosef Lynn on all phases of a romantic relationship. In this Part 2, we fo...
Interview with Rabbi Dr. Yosef Lynn - Part 1
September 30, 2022 23:00 - 35 minutes - 24.5 MBI had the privilege to have Rabbi Dr. Yosef Lynn as a guest on my podcast. He has been a Dean of Students at Yeshiva Machon Yaakov in Jerusalem for the last 18 years. He is also a co-author of 2 books: Not a Partnership; and Nurture their Nature. He is a sought-after speaker and workshop presenter, and he regularly runs a successful Marriage Mastermind program. I had an opportunity to take a deep dive with Rabbi Dr. Yosef Lynn on all phases of a romantic relationship. In this Part 1, we fo...
The Noble Roles of being a Husband and a Father - Proper Perspective
September 15, 2022 13:00 - 26 minutes - 18.1 MBAs men, we are constantly confronted with the challenge of figuring out how to prioritize our competing responsibilities: being a husband, being a father, being a provider. Some feel confused, some feel frustrated, some misprioritize these competing roles. This episode explores what it is like to be a man while trying to successfully perform multiple roles, and how to maintain the right mindset and perspective so that the roles we do take on give us vitality and meaning. Support the show
Self-Esteem Part 3 - Real Life Scenarios
September 13, 2022 19:00 - 24 minutes - 17.1 MBIn this episode we explore giving awareness to our levels of self-esteem. Interactions with our spouses, children and co-workers constantly provide us with an opportunity to assess whether our sense of self-esteem is defined by the outside world, or we have a healthy sense of the Self and thus can mount a good defense against external intruders (critics, nay sayers, etc.). The more we are aware, the more we can make a change! Support the show
Thinking about DIVORCE? Must listen to this before you speak to a divorce attorney
September 08, 2022 12:00 - 32 minutes - 22 MBDivorce is a very painful and grueling process. The more informed you are, the more you'll feel confident in being able to engage the divorce process with your ex in an effort to make the best decision for you and your family. In this episode I briefly touch on the Key Categories that you need to be aware of before you hire an attorney: CUSTODY, VISITATION, CHILD SUPPORT, EQUITABLE DISTRIBUTION, MAINTENANCE. "Attorney Advertising" Support the show
Self-Esteem Part 2 - Roadmap to Healing
August 12, 2022 04:00 - 14 minutes - 9.93 MBAfter taking a deep dive into the profound impact that our Self-Esteem has on our personal and relational lives, this episode explores what the healing journey can look like for someone who want to repair and heal their self-esteem. Support the show
Results vs. Service - Torah Perspective
August 10, 2022 17:00 - 13 minutes - 9.37 MBWe live in a world that is constantly pushing us to be results-oriented. One harmful outcome of that journey is the loss of appreciation and enjoyment of manifesting our various life roles: being a parent, being a spouse, being a friend. These roles are not just about some results to be achieved. These roles are meant to bring a sense of purpose, fulfillment, and pride in our lives simply from manifesting these identities. This episode explores the dichotomy of Results vs. Service paradigms ...
Self-Esteem Part 1 - Diagnosing
August 04, 2022 23:00 - 14 minutes - 10.1 MBThis episode explores the crucial role that Self-Esteem plays in our relationships, especially romantic ones. Healthy Self-Esteem is a pillar on which almost anything can be built. Unhealthy self-esteem creates a human being who is constantly searching for approvals, needs others to affirm their self-worth, and is in pain when others do not like them. When one enters into a romantic relationship with someone else with low self-esteem, there is a never-ending insatiable craving to be approved...
Enmeshment v. Self-Differentiation
June 17, 2022 19:00 - 15 minutes - 11 MBWhy is my inner world so deeply impacted by my partner's words and actions? Why am I so deeply affected? In this episode we explore two very important concepts: Enmeshment vs. Self-Differentiation. When we are enmeshed, we are not able to draw healthy boundaries between ourselves and others. When we are self-differentiated, we are able to maintain sense of self and self-integrity, despite the issues that might be presented by our partners. I also share a few Imago Dialogue techniques for a c...
My interview on Hope to Recharge Podcast - Part 2
June 16, 2022 00:00 - 1 hour - 47.1 MBThis if Part 2 of my interview with Matana Jacobs, who is a host of Hope to Recharge podcast. Part 2 takes a closer look at Imago theory and techniques in the relationships context. Support the show
My interview on Hope to Recharge Podcast - Part 1
June 16, 2022 00:00 - 1 hour - 45.2 MBMatana Jacobs, host of the Hope to Recharge podcast invited me to be a guest on her show where we discussed my and my wife's personal journey with Imago and how it impacted my life. Support the show
Am I being Relational or Transactional with my partner?!
June 09, 2022 18:00 - 13 minutes - 9.38 MBThis episode explores two most common ways couples show up to their relationships. Sometimes we are transactional, i.e. just seeking to complete a transaction. Sometimes we are relational, i.e. seeking deep and meaningful connection. How do we shift from being transactional and become more relational in our romantic lives. Support the show
How to neutralize hurtful speech - Torah perspective
January 14, 2022 04:00 - 13 minutes - 9.31 MBThis episode explores an all too frequent issue of hurtful speech. In this episode I share a Torah perspective of how one can work on a mindset to overcome hurtful speech dilemma and instead show up with empathy and compassion. Support the show
Mirroring - Foundation of all Good Relationships
January 13, 2022 18:00 - 20 minutes - 13.8 MBThis episode explores one of the most fundamental and yet most challenging things in a relationship: How do I leave my own World and enter the World of my spouse? The tool that gets us there is called Mirroring. This is something that is crucial for a relationship to achieve for on it everything else is built. Support the show
Imago during Challenging Times
January 13, 2022 05:00 - 14 minutes - 10.1 MBClients often ask me how I apply Imago techniques and tools in my own life. In this episode I share how my wife and I have used Imago to help navigate a very challenging period in our lives as a couple and as a family. Support the show
Roadmap from toxicity to deep connection
November 11, 2021 17:00 - 27 minutes - 18.6 MBThis episode creates a concrete roadmap for couples to practice shifting their relationships from toxic energy to deep and meaningful connection: Step 1: Awareness of our childhood wounds and their impact on my present relationships Step 2: Safety and how to practically create it in a relationship Step 3: Action step to solidify the safety and connection Support the show
Safety Dialogue with my wife Leora
October 26, 2021 00:00 - 20 minutes - 14.3 MBThis episode demonstrates a Safety Dailogue that so many couples need to practice, as it is the bedrock of any good relationship . After all, if we do not feel safe with each other, then how are we going to create true intimate, vulnerable, and safe space between us?!!! Support the show
Do you live with me or your perception of me?
October 21, 2021 04:00 - 13 minutes - 9.21 MBSupport the show
Am I needy? or am I normal?
October 14, 2021 19:00 - 13 minutes - 9.3 MBThis episode explores the typical tension that arises between romantic partners: where is the healthy balance between seeking connection and becoming needy in an unhealthy way? Support the show
Are you dating me or your agenda?
September 12, 2021 07:00 - 13 minutes - 9.44 MBThis episode explores the unhealthy dating patterns when people approach dating life as a transaction in which each side gets something, rather than focusing on meeting the other person and getting to know his or her world. Support the show
So you want to Discover Yourself? Invest in a deep relationship
September 03, 2021 04:00 - 14 minutes - 10.2 MB. People regularly turn to individual journeys and travel to secluded locations as a way to "find themselves." This episode explores the way a deep and meaningful relationship is a great way to also explore oneself and do self-work and self-healing. If a relationship is properly approached, then we can actually improve ourselves while building a great relationship. Such work is not mutually exclusive. Support the show
Mindset Work Part 1 - Awareness
September 01, 2021 05:00 - 17 minutes - 12.2 MBThis episode explores the first essential step of Mindset work: Awareness. Achieving awareness is a more complex and challenging task than meets the eye. But without awareness, very few thins can be recognized, analyzed and ultimately healed. Support the show
Male and Female Paradigm
August 24, 2021 03:00 - 13 minutes - 9.56 MBThis episode explores the symbolism of the Male and the Female paradigm, and how these essential characteristics play out in our personal and romantic lives. If we come to recognize and appreciated these timeless forces, then we can channel them toward building deep and vibrant bonds. Support the show
Goals vs. Identity? Choose Identity for Enduring Success
August 20, 2021 23:00 - 14 minutes - 9.71 MBThis episode explores the mistaken emphasis placed on Goals, and how by orienting one's focus toward Identity-driven life, creates sustaining success in all areas of one's life, especially in one's romantic life. Support the show
"Holding Space" - a divine attribute
August 11, 2021 04:00 - 14 minutes - 9.69 MBThis episode explores an extremely powerful concept of "Holding Space" for another person, particularly a significant other. The road to true self-discovery and authentic healing is not by having views and perspectives imposed on another, rather the journey is one based on stepping back and creating space within which the other can explore, stumble and go through self-discovery and real healing. We are all desperate for such places and spaces. Let's create such spaces for our loved ones, an...
Judging for Success, arriving at Failure
July 27, 2021 03:00 - 19 minutes - 13.1 MBThis episode explores the role of judgment in our lives. People frequently judge themselves. Such self-critique often leads a person into a negative place, and for some it results in a state of mental and emotional paralysis. There is a way to move oneself away from such a harmful existence, neutralize this mindset, and put oneself on a path of true flow and creativity. Such transformation can take place while deeply connecting to one's relationship partner. Support the show
Successful Dating: Missing link
July 23, 2021 04:00 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBIf there is an almost 70% divorce rate, then one of the questions we must ask ourselves is: What is missing in during the Dating stage of our romantic lives? This episode explores how people go about their dating phase and identifies a missing link that if tackled by dating individuals, will greatly decrease the divorce rate. What is the missing link? The "Imago Date." Support the show
Did I marry the wrong person? Religious Perspective
July 07, 2021 21:00 - 17 minutes - 11.8 MBAs we push ourselves to expand in our thinking and self-awareness, we often come to a place of wonderment whether we married the right person. This is a very natural and healthy step in one's relationship journey. This episode takes a look at how this specific question is tackled from a religious perspective. Support the show
Self Worth and its Impact on a Relationship
July 05, 2021 20:00 - 16 minutes - 11 MBBefore we can work on our relationships, we need to have an honest conversation with ourselves about our self-worth. The extent to which we perceive our value is the extent to which we are available in our relationships. This episode explores self-worth and its impact on the quality of a romantic relationship. Support the show
Am I experiencing myself or my spouse?
July 01, 2021 04:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MBVery often we react to our partners without questioning why we react the way we do. This episode explores what actually plays out in this aspect of the relationship dynamic. Support the show
Perception and its role in relationships.
June 28, 2021 23:00 - 19 minutes - 13.5 MBHow perceptions affect us in our day to day interactions with other people, particularly with significant others, children, and family members. Useful communications tools are provided to learn to neutralize and remove false perceptions and make our way toward a meaningful and genuine connection with significant others. Support the show
Timing is Everything
June 24, 2021 04:00 - 8 minutes - 6.21 MBThe role how and when we attempt to engage our partners in a conversation. This episode provides practical tips and tools to work on the timing piece of the communication puzzle. Support the show
Safety is the Foundation
June 24, 2021 04:00 - 12 minutes - 8.62 MBThe role of feeling safe in the relationship as a foundation necessary for partners to share their fears and dreams. This episode explores practical steps to establishing safety in a relationship. Support the show