Crystal Paine Show
259 episodes - English - Latest episode: 12 days ago - ★★★★★ - 480 ratingsThe Crystal Paine Show is dedicated to helping you embrace life right where you are and take practical steps to get where you want to go. Crystal says, "My hope is that this podcast will serve as an inspiration to your week, a pause in your day to slow down and reflect a little, a looked-forward-to part of your weekly routine, a place where we can connect on a deeper level… and ultimately, my desire is that you come away from listening to each episode feeling motivated to bloom where you are planted and take intentional steps to move in the direction you are longing to go." Crystal is a wife, mom of 6, foster/adoptive mom, speaker, New York Times bestselling author, and online entrepreneur, best known for founding MoneySavingMom.com.
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108. How to Love Someone You Disagree With
January 19, 2021 11:28 - 31 minutes - 28.7 MBRecently, on Instagram, I got asked the following question, "How do you handle friendships and disrespect in this political turmoil and pandemic." I shared the slide above to answer it, but I had so many more thoughts swirling in my head as I wrote the answer that I realized it would be the perfect topic to tackle more in-depth in a podcast episode. So this week on the podcast, Jesse and I share what we have learned and are learning about how to love someone you disagree with and how not t...
107. Better Habits: 5 Steps to Start & Stick With Them
January 12, 2021 11:00 - 39 minutes - 35.9 MBAs I talked about yesterday, good habits done consistently can completely change the trajectory of your life. (And the inverse of that statement is also true.) So, how do you start with stick with better habits? In this week's podcast episode, Jesse and I tackle that topic along with sharing an update on our Christmas break, Jesse's hunting trip, an audiobook we both listened to, and two updates we made to our home recently. Here are the five suggestions we gave for starting and sticking...
107. 5 Steps to Start & Stick With Them
January 12, 2021 11:00 - 39 minutes - 22.8 MBCreating and sticking to new habits isn’t the easiest thing in the world, but in many cases it’s much needed. Which is why I wanted to take the time to share my tips for deciding on which habits you want to change and to do it effectively. First of all, don’t try to change your whole life in one go. Pick one or two habits to start with and make those changes. In fact, if you’ve never tried to change a habit in the past, pick something small, make the change and then move on to something bi...
106. 10 Things We Learned in 2020
December 15, 2020 11:26 - 37 minutes - 34.6 MBMy word that I chose for 2020 was SAVOR. Little did I dream how much of my year was going to be able to live that word out so literally! From so much time at home and so many things cancelled, to so much time spent rocking and holding and feeding babies, to so much unexpected family time, this year was the perfect year to choose to savor the gifts right in front of me. Our year looked very different in so many ways — and yes, there was loss and hard things — but I look back and see so mu...
105. Holding Both Grief and Gratitude
December 08, 2020 08:00 - 37 minutes - 34.4 MBIn this week’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I sit down and talk about what this last week has been like for us. We open up candidly about how the grief of saying goodbye to Champ has profoundly impacted us. We share what has been helping us, how we are processing this loss, what has been helping us, and how we are holding both grief and gratitude at the same time. And because we didn’t want the whole episode to be heavy, we also talk about our road trip to Kansas, chocolate...
104. Sharing Some Good News!
December 01, 2020 10:00 - 36 minutes - 33.6 MBI was sitting with a few women recently and we were sharing some heavy things in our lives and big feelings. After a little while, I said, "Does anyone have any good news to share?" It's so easy to focus on the hard and difficult things. And I think we do need to acknowledge our feelings and not try to stuff down the difficult things, slap on a happy face, and pretend we're okay. But at the same time, I also think it's so good -- and important -- even on hard days and during sad or overwhe...
103. Forgiving What You Can't Forget (with Lysa TerKeurst)
November 17, 2020 11:44 - 34 minutes - 31.8 MBForgiveness is certainly not the easiest topic to cover for anyone, but what if the ultimate betrayal was laid at your feet. How would you react then? For Lysa TerKeurst it led to authoring a book all about using forgiveness to heal and grow after a terrible experience. Lysa found out several years ago that her husband was being unfaithful. Not just once or twice, but had been repeatedly unfaithful along with having a substance abuse problem. When she found out she was devastated. The ...
102. Soul Care During Stressful Seasons
November 10, 2020 11:00 - 31 minutes - 28.9 MBThere is a lot going on in the world right now — and there is a lot going on in our home, too. In the middle of the noise and rush of life, it can be easy for our souls to get neglected. In today’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I talk about how we’re prioritizing soul care during what can feel like a stressful season. We talk about some R&R’s for our soul and challenge you to think of what soul care might look like for you right now. In addition, we share an update on Cham...
101. Honest Confessions of a Control Freak
November 03, 2020 11:33 - 30 minutes - 27.8 MBJesse and I have both struggled with being what you could call "control freaks" in our life. I like to have a plan and I like other people to go along with my plan. Jesse's control shows up more in wanting to be able to control decisions other people make or to make sure that everything is always okay with me and our kids -- and when it's not, he feels a lot of stress and like things are spinning out of control. Fostering has been such a good exercise for us in learning to let go of our ne...
100. Raising Worry-Free Girls (with Sissy Goff)
October 27, 2020 10:39 - 32 minutes - 30 MBIf you or someone you love -- especially your kids -- struggle with anxiety or worry, you do not want to miss this episode of The Crystal Paine Show. I'm joined by Sissy Goff, the author of Raising Worry-Free Girls. In our conversation, Sissy talks about how to spot signs of anxiety in our kids, how our approach can help or hurt our kids, what to do if your child is struggling with perfectionistic tendencies or stressing over grades, why anger and frustration in our kids can be a sign of a...
99. Answering Your Burning Questions
October 20, 2020 11:00 - 32 minutes - 29.7 MBIt’s been a while since we’ve answered your burning questions and this is one of your favorite types of episodes! So Jesse and I had fun answering another batch of questions you all have submitted recently. In this episode, we talk about how old we are, how long Champ will be with us, what to do if you want to have kids and your spouse doesn't, when we start talking about the birds and the bees with our kids and how we approach it, how school is going for our kids, plans for international ...
98. Staying Calm in the Midst of a Volatile Election Season
October 13, 2020 09:00 - 23 minutes - 21.4 MBI’m a big fan of doing our civic duty and voting. But you know what can make a bigger difference? How we live our every day lives. I’ve seen a lot of pundits and talking heads putting a lot of blame for problems on politicians. While elected officials can and should be held responsible for their choices and actions, we also have a responsibility as individual citizens to be a part of the solution. If we say we are pro XYZ, what are we actually doing in our every day real lives to make a ...
97. How We Chose Our Kids' Names
October 06, 2020 10:31 - 29 minutes - 26.9 MBAfter a few heavier/deep topics on the last few episodes, we had fun doing a more lighthearted podcast episode this week! So many people have asked how we chose our kids' names, so Jesse and I had fun sharing some of the stories behind their names in this podcast episode. Plus, we also share about Jesse subbing at the kids' school, our recent sleep struggles, a book I recently read and found fascinating, a book Jesse is reading, plus some electrolytes I've been loving. In This Episode: ...
96. Standing Strong (with Alli Worthington)
September 29, 2020 07:00 - 27 minutes - 25.3 MBYou aren’t enough — in your own strength. But, in Christ, you can do ALL things! As Alli Worthington says in her new book, Standing Strong, “You may not feel able to stand strong. You may be filled with self-doubt. When you hear others talk about great women of God, you may say, ‘Oh, that’s not me.’ “But friend, it is you. You are more than you think you are. “A superpower exists inside you. If you are a believer, the Holy Spirit lives in you. We can’t keep walking around feeling power...
95. Our Rules for Kids & Phones
September 22, 2020 10:10 - 32 minutes - 30.2 MB"Do you let your kids have phones? If so, how do you protect your kids and what kinds of apps or parental controls do you have in place?" I get some kind of variation on this question multiple times every week. Since this topic is one that really depends so much on the family and the situation and each individual child, I was hesitant to share what we do at our house. However, after we continued to get so many questions on this, Jesse and I decided to delve into this topic on this week's e...
94. How to Stop Living in Fear
September 15, 2020 10:44 - 26 minutes - 24.5 MBEvery day, in every hard situation, we can choose faith or we can choose fear. We can choose to focus on the what if’s, worry about what might happen, and fret over the worst case scenarios. Or, we can remind ourselves of how God has been faithful in the past and trust that He is going to continue to be faithful and good in the present and future — even in dark, difficult, or even downright impossible situations. Our circumstances do not change God’s character. I don’t...
93. A Woman's Highest Calling (with Jamie Ivey)
September 08, 2020 13:01 - 30 minutes - 27.8 MB“A woman’s highest calling is not marriage or motherhood.” @jamieivey says this in her latest book and on this week’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show. I wholeheartedly concur. But while most of us probably agree with this statement, how often do we let marriage and motherhood become completely all consuming — whether it’s the overwhelming longing to be married and/or have a baby or in how we walk out our roles as a wife and/or mom. We can let our spouse’s happiness or our kids’ success...
92. How to Change Your Life in 15 Minutes a Day
September 01, 2020 07:00 - 22 minutes - 21 MBWant to change your life in some way? It starts by consistently changing one small thing... Get up 15 minutes earlier every day. Go to bed 15 minutes earlier daily. Exercise for 15 minutes every day. Invite one person over for coffee every week. Eat one salad every day. Drink two more glasses of water every day. Read for 15 minutes every day. Spend 15 minutes playing with your child every day. Work on that organizing project a little bit every day. Spend 5 minutes praying every mo...
91. How to Have a Great Morning Routine
August 25, 2020 10:13 - 29 minutes - 26.8 MBIt's the beginning of a new school year for us and many of you. With that, come new routines -- whether you are homeschooling or your kids are going to school in-person. In this episode, Jesse and I share strategies for having a better morning routine and how to set up a morning routine that serves you and your family well. We talk about why a successful morning begins the night before, how to tackle the hardest things first, and the importance of creating more than one morning routine. ...
90. Our Best Advice for Brand-New Homeschool Parents
August 18, 2020 10:26 - 28 minutes - 26.4 MBThis school year looks a lot different for many families. Some of you are never planned to homeschool and your school went virtual so you've been unexpectedly doing school at home. Some of you made the choice to homeschool this year as that was what you felt was the best choice for your family. In this week's podcast episode, Jesse and I share some of our best advice for brand-new homeschool parents. While we are currently not homeschooling, we have been asked again and again to share some...
89. An Update on Our Foster Care Journey
August 11, 2020 12:58 - 37 minutes - 34.1 MB(See more pictures and videos of Champ here.) A year ago, we were in the middle of our foster care home study and praying for who God would bring into our home for us to love on. We were at peace about pursuing this path, but we were still apprehensive and wondering what it might mean for our future. There were so many unknowns, so many what if’s, and so many things outside our control. I look back on this last year and the 5 children we’ve had the privilege to have in our home — 4 for...
88. Answering More Burning Questions
July 29, 2020 04:14 - 30 minutes - 27.7 MBYou all love it when we do Answering Your Burning Question podcast episodes. It's been awhile since we've done one, so I posted recently on Instagram asking for questions you’d like Jesse and I to answer on the podcast and you had lots of great questions. We went through as many as we could on this episode -- including talking about Kathrynne's new job, budgeting, where we'd love to travel, how we find time for intimacy (this was the number one asked question!), where would we love to trav...
87. How to Parent a Passive Child
July 21, 2020 10:00 - 32 minutes - 29.9 MBA few weeks ago, Jesse and I recorded a podcast episode sharing our thoughts on parenting a strong willed child (or a "strong child", as we prefer to call them). We got so many great responses from people about that episode, but one was a question from a mom asking if we could talk about how to parent a child with the opposite type of personality -- one that is more passive and people-pleasing. This was such a great suggestion and Jesse and I loved getting to talk about this and give some...
86. How to Talk to Your Spouse About Money (with Shaunti Feldhahn)
July 14, 2020 09:00 - 29 minutes - 26.9 MBAs promised, Shaunti Feldhahn is joining me on the podcast this week to talk all things marriage and communication around money. Shaunti and her husband Jeff are researchers who have worked together for years on numerous books and research projects. Their latest project surveyed thousands of couples on the topic of marriage and money. Throughout three years of research, they discovered five game-changing insights on what is at the root disagreements and tension surrounding relationships an...
85. Jesse's Advice for Raising Financially Responsible Kids
July 07, 2020 10:43 - 32 minutes - 29.4 MB"I would love for you to do an episode with Jesse sometime on how he's taught your kids about budgeting, money, setting up a bank account, etc." This request came in a few weeks ago, and I knew it would be a perfect podcast topic! So, in this episode, I interview Jesse on how has has instilled wise money management principles in our kids -- especially as they have gotten older and have begun earning their own money. He shares his thoughts on budgeting, when to have your kids open up t...
84. Our Family's Favorite Games
June 30, 2020 10:31 - 28 minutes - 25.7 MBBoard games and card games can be such a great way to have some frugal fun! Best of all, once you've invested in a game, you can play it over and over and over again -- without ever spending another dime! In this week's episode of the podcast, Jesse and I share our family's top five favorite games. We had a very hard time narrowing the list down to just five, but we did it (well, we did mention a few other favorites at the end, because we just couldn't help ourselves!) The games we picke...
83. How to Parent a Strong-Willed Child
June 23, 2020 10:00 - 32 minutes - 29.9 MB"Could you share some parenting advise for raising my enneagram 8 daughter? She is very headstrong and persistent, but has a complete disregard for rules and regularly challenges authority. As an enneagram 5 (and people pleaser), I do not understand the way she thinks. We have gone around and around and I've tried to get to the heart is the issue. But it seems her bottom line is she is going to do whatever it takes to get what she wants. How do I help channel her perseverance and tenacity ...
82. Our Favorite TV Shows
June 16, 2020 12:00 - 32 minutes - 29.8 MBOne of the things our family loves to do together is watch shows and movies. Recently, someone asked what our favorite shows are to watch together as a family. So, we all talked together as a family and put together a list of some of the shows we've most enjoyed together. On this week's podcast episode, we share that list + we talk about why we don't have a TV in our living room and how we approach being intentional and careful in our TV-watching. We also talk about a book we're finishin...
81. Kierstyn's Birth Story
June 09, 2020 13:18 - 39 minutes - 36.4 MBWe’re back! Jesse and I have really missed recording podcasts, but it was also nice to take a break and figure out a good rhythm of having three older kids and two babies. In this episode, we not only share Kierstyn's birth store but we also answer the questions many of you have asked over and over (such as why we chose to go with an OBGYN versus a midwife, what was different about this birth compared to the other births, if COVID-19 impacted the birth/hospital experience in any way, etc....
80. Parenting in the Middle of a Pandemic
April 21, 2020 10:44 - 28 minutes - 26.5 MBA lot of you have asked for my thoughts on how we’re dealing with the Pandemic as parents. In this week's episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I share some of the ways we're approaching parenting right now and what's working for us. As always, every child is different and you know your kids best, so I’m only sharing how we are approaching things at our house... and these principles can be applied to many different seasons of upheaval. Here are some of the strategies we share in t...
79. Our Craziest Travel Stories
April 14, 2020 07:00 - 39 minutes - 35.8 MBI usually have almost endless ideas for content. However, with the world in so much upheaval, I've struggled with how to be a podcaster. Should I only talk about the pandemic because it's impacting everyone's lives or should I go ahead with producing normal content? As I was grappling through this, I decided to ask for feedback and thoughts on Instagram on what you would like for us to share on the podcast during this weird season of unknowns. I heard from SO many of you and the resounding...
78. Creative Ideas for Family Fun at Home
April 07, 2020 10:48 - 33 minutes - 31 MBBy popular request, we had fun this week sitting down and talking about some of our favorite creative family fun things to do at home. If you are looking for some simple ideas of things you can do at home (or in the car) while still social distancing, you don't want to miss today's podcast episode! We also give you an update on what's happening in our lives, how we're adjusting to life with one newborn, and talk about how we're seeking to focus on our blessings and blessing others during t...
77. Answering your burning questions as a family (Quarantine Edition)
March 31, 2020 09:29 - 32 minutes - 29.8 MBSince we all have been home pretty much 24/7 recently self-isolating, we thought it would be fun to do a laid-back family episode for the podcast week. I asked on Instagram what questions you'd love for us to discuss as a family, and you all submitted such great ideas. In this episode, we talk about: Our individual pet peeves (and Jesse schools us on the origin of "pet peeve") How the kids feel about fostering One tradition the kids loved from when they were younger (their answer tota...
76. BIG updates from our house (with a guest appearance by Kathrynne)
March 24, 2020 07:00 - 35 minutes - 32.9 MBWell, like I’ve alluded to other places online, the past two weeks have been packed full of so many different, unexpected things. Some good, some hard, some just plain different than what we expected. It feels almost as if we’ve lived through an entire month in just a week’s time. In this week’s podcast episode, we sit down and talk about some of the BIG updates/changes/unexpected things that happened at our house recently, including: getting a long-term placement from foster care for a p...
75. Parenting with Confidence (with Becky Keife)
March 17, 2020 10:05 - 29 minutes - 26.6 MBI know that the whole world is kind of in upheaval right now and there's a lot of unknown and uncertainty. I debated whether to go ahead with publishing this podcast that was planned for the week as it didn't really have much of anything to do with what's going on in the world. However, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that probably some of you would like a break from the incessant stream of news. Also, I know that many families are going to be hunkering down over the next ...
74. Fear, Unknowns, & Courage (tornadoes, COVID-19)
March 10, 2020 07:00 - 31 minutes - 28.4 MBEarly Friday morning, Kathrynne (15) got on a plane to fly to Suriname (in South America) for 9 days with a teacher and a small group of girls from school. (This picture was taken at a park there yesterday.) This is the girl who — just 5 years ago — was scared and completely uncomfortable to be around kids her age. This is the girl who has struggled with so many panic attacks and anxiety. The girl who was incredibly angry with us when we made the decision to put her in school after always ...
73. Overcome Burnout and Get Your Joy Back (with John Eldredge)
March 03, 2020 11:29 - 29 minutes - 27.3 MBFeeling burdened, weary, tired, or heavy-hearted today? Try the One-Minute Pause! Here’s how it works: Set a timer for 60 seconds. Take a few deep breaths. Then, verbally release the weight of what you are carrying. “I release my stress or worry over my job to You, God.” “I release my fear over my child’s future to You, God.” “I let it go.” Literally let yourself breathe out your fear, stress, worry, tension and breathe in God’s care and carrying of You. This simple practice isn’t goin...
72. How to Fall in Love With Your Life
February 25, 2020 11:14 - 31 minutes - 28.6 MBToday’s culture is often one that feels so fast-paced. We are busy and strapped for time. What is this frenetic pace doing to our souls? I’ve been reading Get Your Life Back by John Eldredge and the first chapter of his book and the questions he asked inspired this episode. Many of you know that I'm currently working on a new book. As part of the writing process, I’m going through old Instagram posts -- many that I wrote 4 to 5 years ago. It was fascinating to me to read so many of these...
71. "How do you stay so positive?"
February 18, 2020 11:31 - 28 minutes - 26.1 MB"How do you stay so positive?" I've been asked this question by multiple people in multiple ways recently so Jesse and I decided to devote a podcast episode to the topic. I thought it would be insightful for us to both talk about this, because I tend to be more of glass half full kind of person while Jesse is more of a glass half empty person. But it's been so cool to watch Jesse intentionally work to develop more of a positive outlook on life. He shares how he has done that and how it...
70. How I Read 15 Books in January
February 11, 2020 10:00 - 27 minutes - 25.1 MB"How did you manage to read 15 books in January?" I've gotten this question over and over again the past two weeks. Truth be told, I had to stop and ask that question myself when I got to the end of January and realized I had finished 15 books in the first month of the year! As I reflected on the last month, I realized that there are 4 tweaks I made in January to how I approached reading that made a big difference... even though they were really minor tweaks. How I'm Fitting In More Rea...
69. Answering all your pregnancy questions
February 04, 2020 10:00 - 35 minutes - 32.4 MBOver the past few months, we've gotten lots of questions about this very unexpected and surprise pregnancy. So we decided to devote a podcast episode specifically to answering these questions. We had so much fun answering them in this week's podcast -- and talking about the books we're reading and two things that are saving our lives right now. In this episode, we share: A body wash I'm loving How Jesse finally came to the dark side and joined me in loving joggers Books we're reading ...
68. Secrets to a Happier Marriage (with Matt and Lisa Jacobson)
January 28, 2020 11:25 - 28 minutes - 26.5 MBLast week, Jesse and I shared some of our favorite tips and tricks for keeping the spark alive in your marriage on the podcast. We didn’t want to stop there, though. This week, we invited Matt and Lisa Jacobson to come share their perspective and secrets on how to keep your marriage alive and thriving. Matt and Lisa have been married 27 years, have eight children, and are speakers, podcasters, and authors who are passionate about the topic of marriage. In this episode, they share their per...
67. Romance and Intimacy: 10 Ways to Keep the Sparks Flying
January 21, 2020 11:25 - 29 minutes - 27.3 MBI reached over last night and took his hand and said, “I really like you.” It might seem like such a simple gesture, but after 17 years of marriage, I’m so grateful that we don’t just love each, we LIKE each other, too. A good marriage doesn’t just happen; it requires two very different people to be willing to put forth time, effort, and sacrifice. To choose their spouse everyday — on the good days and the bad days. To be faithful and loving on the dark and difficult days. To look ...
66. How to Break Up With Your Phone
January 14, 2020 09:34 - 33 minutes - 31.1 MBAbout a week and a half ago, Jesse dropped his phone in the lake while duck hunting. To our surprise, instead of this being something that was a sort of frustrating expense and inconvenience, it turned into an unexpected blessing. On this episode, Jesse and I talk candidly about how addicting the phone can become, changes we've implemented to spend less time on our phones, and what has been working for us (as well as some things we are trying!) We also share some of how we are approachin...
65. Our Journey to Becoming Foster Parents
January 07, 2020 11:27 - 39 minutes - 36.1 MBOur Journey to Becoming Foster Parents “What’s your plan for foster care? How many kids are you planning to accept at a time? What ages of kids are you planning to foster? Are you hoping to adopt from the foster care system?” These questions and many more have been asked by very well-meaning, caring people over the last few months as we’ve shared the news that we were becoming foster parents. If you know me, you know I’m a planner. I’m a to do list queen. I love having order and organi...
64. My Word for 2020 (+ my goals for this week!)
December 31, 2019 11:36 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MBLike usual, as the year winds down and we head into November, I start thinking of what over-arching theme I want to pursue in the following year. My word for the year came pretty easily to me, as it often does. I sat with it for a few weeks to make sure I really loved it. And then I asked Jesse for his thoughts. He agreed that the word seemed fitting for 2020. So without further ado, my word for 2020 is: Savor. What Does Savor Mean? There are a variety of definitions for savor, but th...
63. What Worked and What Didn't Work in 2019
December 17, 2019 12:14 - 33 minutes - 30.5 MBNote: I said in the episode that next week we'd be talking about foster care next week. Well, I completely forgot that next week was Christmas! Whoops! We'll be taking next week off for Christmas but then we'll be back the week of New Year's with an episode on our Word of the Year for 2020. And then the following week, we promise to do the foster care episode! Thank you for your grace! We’re nearing the end of the year and it’s time to reflect on this year to prepare for next. This is the...
62. How to Talk to Your Kids About Money
December 10, 2019 11:37 - 32 minutes - 29.4 MB"When do you start talking to your kids about money and how old should they be before you talk to them about it?" We get this question often and we decided to tackle it head on in today's podcast episode. And by that, I mean we talked about a number of things that might be a little be controversial. :) We approach the conversation of money with our kids much like we approach anything else in our parenting -- with the desire to lead by example and raise future adults. In this episode, we ...
61. Christmas Traditions & What We're Doing Differently This Year (a conversation with our kids)
December 03, 2019 11:40 - 24 minutes - 22.3 MBOne of the most requested podcast episodes has been for us to talk about our Christmas traditions, what Christmas looks like for our family, and how we do gifts for our immediate and extended family. In this episode, we sat down with Kathrynne, Kaitlynn, and Silas and had a discussion on our favorite Christmas memories, why we make a December Bucket List, what we chose for our bucket list this year, some things we're doing differently for Christmas this year, how we do gifts, and what Chri...
60. What to do When You Fail
November 19, 2019 08:00 - 24 minutes - 22.7 MBWhat do you do when you experience failure in your life or your business? One of our wonderful listeners asked how you get back up and keep going after failure, and Jesse and I had a lively and honest discussion around this in this week's episode of the podcast. Failure is a part of life, but it shouldn’t define who we are. For instance, for a long time, Jesse identified as a lawyer and that title made up his identity in many ways. If he failed or if he perceived a failure, that lack would...