Not all confidence is created equal. There’s the kind you get from positive engagement on social media, for example, and the kind that’s built through learning something new, and challenging yourself to adapt to changing situations. That’s one of the key messages from this week’s guest, mental performance coach Ceci Clark. She spent years working with Army Special Operations and later, the Cleveland Indians, and says that stepping into uncomfortable moments is what makes us feel truly alive.

It’s important to foster a willingness and ability to challenge yourself. That’s because life won’t always go exactly the way you hope it will, or follow the steps you’ve planned for. It often forges its own unexpected path forward, and it’s up to you to be able to learn and evolve alongside it. It’s OK to feel nervous or unsure, she says, because the most important thing is what you do with those feelings. Do you turn back or give up when things get tough? Or do you make the choice to pull yourself forward and keep going?

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