The Coaching Inn
471 episodes - English - Latest episode: 1 day ago -Join the 3D Coaching team at our virtual pub where you can listen to conversations with coaching authors, thought leaders and people using a coaching approach at the grass roots.
In addition, you‘ll find our virtual book group and conversations on ethics that can be used as part of the ethics requirements for ICF and other professional coaching bodies.
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Host: Claire Pedrick MCC
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What’s the Connection between Coaching and Home Education? With Kate Caroe
January 24, 2024 08:00 - 40 minutes - 19.2 MBSometimes the best learning about coaching comes when we talk about something else and then make our own meaning. Claire met Kate Caroe at the Out of The Box/ Deep Talk conference in September 2023. Over coffee, Kate shared some of the connections she was making between Home Education and Coaching. So we invited her to come to The Coaching Inn and talk more. Kate hashome educated her 6 children and learned about how to facilitate them to do their own learning, how to keep out of the way...
Noticing and using Archetypes in Coaching with Joanna Lindenbaum
January 17, 2024 08:00 - 31 minutes - 16.5 MBClaire is known for her opinion of much of the use of tools and techniques in coaching. And she’s up to be challenged. So when Joanna Lindenbaum from the Applied Depth Institute asked whether we wanted to talk about using resistance archetypes in coaching, we pulled up a chair at The Coaching Inn and said let’s talk!. We talk about resistance in coaching, and what you notice. There’s mention of systemic practice and ritual. This is about noticing and naming - as an offer, in partnership. ...
S4 Episode 3: Using Archetypes in Coaching with Joanna Lindenbaum
January 17, 2024 08:00 - 31 minutes - 16.5 MBClaire is known for her opinion of much of the use of tools and techniques in coaching. And she’s up to be challenged. So when Joanna Lindenbaum from the Applied Depth Institute asked whether we wanted to talk about using resistance archetypes in coaching, we pulled up a chair at The Coaching Inn and said let’s talk!. We talk about resistance in coaching, and what you notice. There’s mention of systemic practice and ritual. This is about noticing and naming - as an offer, in partnership. ...
S4 Episode 2: Business Builder for Coaches - Do I need a Virtual Assistant? with Kathy Soulsby
January 10, 2024 08:00 - 38 minutes - 17 MBToday’s guest is Virtual Assistant and author Kathy Soulsby. Kathy has just published How to Work with a Virtual Assistant: Outsource Everything but Your Brilliance. If you are wondering about getting support and don’t know how, listen in! This episode is full of insights about what to outsource and how to do it. Kathy started as a VA in 2014 and now leads a team of 30. Contact Kathy Soulsby through Linked In or www.personallyvirtual.co.uk Remember to subscribe or follow The Coachi...
Business Builder for Coaches: Do I need a Virtual Assistant? WIth Kathy Soulsby
January 10, 2024 08:00 - 38 minutes - 17 MBToday’s guest is Virtual Assistant and author Kathy Soulsby. Kathy has just published How to Work with a Virtual Assistant: Outsource Everything but Your Brilliance. If you are wondering about getting support and don’t know how, listen in! This episode is full of insights about what to outsource and how to do it. Kathy started as a VA in 2014 and now leads a team of 30. Contact Kathy Soulsby through Linked In or www.personallyvirtual.co.uk
S4 Episode 1: Courage in Coaching with Melissa Hague
January 03, 2024 08:00 - 41 minutes - 22.8 MBToday, Claire Pedrick MCC is in conversation with Melissa Hague who brings extensive experience in organisational life and a desire to support people to engage in their wor places with courage and vulnerability. Melissa is a certified Dare to Lead facilitator, and has ‘Melissa-d’ her work by doing the inner work that enables her to facilitate other people to do theirs. If you’re interested in the dance of coaching, and how to not be in control with courage, this is definitely one to lis...
Courage in Coaching with Melissa Hague
January 03, 2024 08:00 - 41 minutes - 22.8 MBToday, Claire Pedrick MCC is in conversation with Melissa Hague who brings extensive experience in organisational life and a desire to support people to engage in their wor places with courage and vulnerability. Melissa is a certified Dare to Lead facilitator, and has ‘Melissa-d’ her work by doing the inner work that enables her to facilitate other people to do theirs. If you’re interested in the dance of coaching, and how to not be in control with courage, this is definitely one to lis...
The Human Behind The Leader with Samreen McGregor
December 27, 2023 08:00 - 40 minutes - 23 MBIn the final episode of 2023, Claire Pedrick MCC is in conversation with Samreen McGregor about her experiences growing up in Venezuela and the UK, the challenges of being a global citizen, a third culture child and mother and her work as a consultant and executive coach. This has given her a unique perspective to working on the margins of organisations. Samreen started in private banking and then transitioned into consulting and leadership coaching. Her son’s treatment for a brain tumour s...
S3 Episode 52: The Human Behind The Leader with Samreen McGregor
December 27, 2023 08:00 - 40 minutes - 23 MBIn the final episode of 2023, Claire Pedrick MCC is in conversation with Samreen McGregor about her experiences growing up in Venezuela and the UK, the challenges of being a global citizen, a third culture child and mother and her work as a consultant and executive coach. This has given her a unique perspective to working on the margins of organisations. Samreen started in private banking and then transitioned into consulting and leadership coaching. Her son’s treatment for a brain tumour s...
S3 Episode 92: The Human Behind The Leader with Samreen McGregor
December 27, 2023 08:00 - 40 minutes - 23 MBIn the final episode of 2023, Claire Pedrick MCC is in conversation with Samreen McGregor about her experiences growing up in Venezuela and the UK, the challenges of being a global citizen, a third culture child and mother and her work as a consultant and executive coach. This has given her a unique perspective to working on the margins of organisations. Samreen started in private banking and then transitioned into consulting and leadership coaching. Her son’s treatment for a brain tumour s...
S3 Episode 51: Open Table - Psychometrics and Ethics in Coaching
December 20, 2023 08:00 - 51 minutes - 25.7 MBIn June 2023, William McKee came to The Coaching Inn to talk about psychometrics in coaching. Here is is. It’s our second most popular episode this year and has received lots of feedback and evoked conversation. So we invited William back with some people who expressed interest in going deeper. And that's exactly what we did! We explore the connection between the ethics of coaching and the ethics of using a psychometric tool; the useful and the sacred; psychometrics as power tools and mor...
Open Table: Psychometrics and Ethics in Coaching
December 20, 2023 08:00 - 51 minutes - 25.7 MBIn June 2023, William McKee came to The Coaching Inn to talk about psychometrics in coaching. Here is is. It’s our second most popular episode this year and has received lots of feedback and evoked conversation. So we invited William back with some people who expressed interest in going deeper. And that's exactly what we did! We explore the connection between the ethics of coaching and the ethics of using a psychometric tool; the useful and the sacred; psychometrics as power tools and mor...
Deep Talk in Coaching with Tuula Valkonen
December 13, 2023 08:00 - 30 minutes - 9.6 MBToday Claire is in conversation with Tuula Valkonen, the founder of Deep Talk. They met when Claire delivered the keynote address at the Deep Talk/Out of The Box conference in September and they made lots of connections between Tuula’s work and ours. Today’s podcast is on our YouTube channel as well as our audio channels because there is much to watch as Tuula facilitates Claire to explore using the Deep Talk method. We explore the origins of Tuula’s work as a working counsellor, lingui...
S3 Episode 50: Deep Talk in Coaching with Tuula Valkonen
December 13, 2023 08:00 - 30 minutes - 9.6 MBToday Claire is in conversation with Tuula Valkonen, the founder of Deep Talk. They met when Claire delivered the keynote address at the Deep Talk/Out of The Box conference in September and they made lots of connections between Tuula’s work and ours. Today’s podcast is on our YouTube channel as well as our audio channels because there is much to watch as Tuula facilitates Claire to explore using the Deep Talk method. We explore the origins of Tuula’s work as a working counsellor, lingui...
Coaching as an interim with Andy Riggs and Fi Stevenson
December 06, 2023 08:00 - 22 minutes - 11 MBAndy and Fi are both experienced interims working in many different roles across different organisations. They are also both trained coaches. They had each noticed how they used their coaching skills in different ways in their interim roles. So Claire said ‘Come to The Coaching Inn and let’s talk more…’ We talk about knowing, about not knowing the back story and about not needing to find the whole solution in your role: Which bit do we need to do here? Contact Fi Stevenson A...
S3 Episode 49: The Power of Coaching Skills in an Interim Role with Andy Riggs and Fi Stevenson
December 06, 2023 08:00 - 22 minutes - 11 MBAndy and Fi are both experienced interims working in many different roles across different organisations. They are also both trained coaches. They had each noticed how they used their coaching skills in different ways in their interim roles. So Claire said ‘Come to The Coaching Inn and let’s talk more…’ We talk about knowing, about not knowing the back story and about not needing to find the whole solution in your role: Which bit do we need to do here? Contact Fi Stevenson A...
S3 Episode 48: Coaching When You Don’t Know What To Say with Matt Abrahams
November 29, 2023 08:00 - 30 minutes - 16.3 MBMatt Abrahams contacted Claire via Linked In to say ‘Can we talk about my new book: Think Faster, Talk Smarter: How to Speak Successfully When You’re Put on the Spot‘. It was a no brainer to say yes as we have been doing so much work on not knowing and how to speak when you don’t know what to say! There are some great insights in today’s episodes including the value of what we do outside work that builds our courage and presence inside. For Matt, it’s martial arts. Matt shares his jour...
Coaching When You Don’t Know What To Say with Matt Abrahams
November 29, 2023 08:00 - 30 minutes - 16.3 MBMatt Abrahams contacted Claire via Linked In to say ‘Can we talk about my new book: Think Faster, Talk Smarter: How to Speak Successfully When You’re Put on the Spot‘. It was a no brainer to say yes as we have been doing so much work on not knowing and how to speak when you don’t know what to say! There are some great insights in today’s episodes including the value of what we do outside work that builds our courage and presence inside. For Matt, it’s martial arts. Contact Matt: li...
The Human Behind The Coach Launch
November 22, 2023 08:00 - 46 minutes - 24 MBIf you missed the live launch of The Human Behind The Coach at The Coaching Inn last week, here’s your chance to catch up. This week’s host is Alan Gyle - the voice of The Coaching Inn credits! Karen Foy interviews Claire and Lucia about the book. This episode is also available in full on our YouTube channel Check out www.thehumanbehindthecoach.com And you can buy a signed copy - with a personalised dedication from https://www.3dcoaching.com/shop/hbtc-signed-copies/ Contact ...
S3 Episode 47: The Human Behind The Coach Book Launch
November 22, 2023 08:00 - 46 minutes - 24 MBIf you missed the live launch of The Human Behind The Coach at The Coaching Inn last week, here’s your chance to catch up. This week’s host is Alan Gyle - the voice of The Coaching Inn credits! Karen Foy interviews Claire and Lucia about the book. This episode is also available in full on our YouTube channel Check out www.thehumanbehindthecoach.com And you can buy a signed copy - with a personalised dedication from https://www.3dcoaching.com/shop/hbtc-signed-copies/ Contact ...
S3 Episode 46: Honouring your values with Jamie Fiore Higgins
November 15, 2023 08:00 - 32 minutes - 16.6 MBToday, Jamie Fiore Higgins joins Claire at The Coaching Inn. Jamie worked as a Managing Partner in Wall Street for 20 years. After she left, she wrote: Bully Market - My story of money and misogyny at Goldman Sachs. Jamie is now establishing herself as a coach. We talk about working with integrity and being human. We also notice a connection with William Bridges book Creating You and Company. You can contact Jamie at www.jamiefiorehiggins.com Takeaways Finding one's own recipe ...
Honouring your values with Jamie Fiore Higgins
November 15, 2023 08:00 - 32 minutes - 16.6 MBToday, Jamie Fiore Higgins joins Claire at The Coaching Inn. Jamie worked as a Managing Partner in Wall Street for 20 years. After she left, she wrote: Bully Market - My story of money and misogyny at Goldman Sachs. Jamie is now establishing herself as a coach. We talk about working with integrity and being human. We also notice a connection with William Bridges book Creating You and Company. You can contact Jamie at www.jamiefiorehiggins.com
Business Builder: Branding your Coaching Business
November 08, 2023 08:00 - 33 minutes - 16.7 MBThis week, Claire talks with new coach and long time marketer Keeley Vuong White. Claire and Keeley first met on a coaches walk in the Malvern Hills**. Keeley talks about her year of experimenting and how you’re the brand and it doesn’t have to be corporate because brand is only a tool. We also share our love of breakfast - and what Keeley is learning from her latest (when we recorded) read - Steven Bartlett’s The Diary of a CEO. Contact Keeley Linked In Insta Keeley_VWhite www....
S3 Episode 45: Business Builder for Coaches: Branding your Business with Keeley Vuong White
November 08, 2023 08:00 - 33 minutes - 16.7 MB"Give the world your message, and the right people come back to you. You'll be a magnet for the right person, the right clients." This week, Claire talks with new coach and long time marketer Keeley Vuong White. Claire and Keeley first met on a coaches walk in the Malvern Hills**. Keeley talks about her year of experimenting and how you’re the brand and it doesn’t have to be corporate because brand is only a tool. Takeaways The power of purpose-driven branding and its impact on coac...
Business Builder for Coaches: Branding your Business with Keeley Vuong White
November 08, 2023 08:00 - 33 minutes - 16.7 MBThis week, Claire talks with new coach and long time marketer Keeley Vuong White. Claire and Keeley first met on a coaches walk in the Malvern Hills**. Keeley talks about her year of experimenting and how you’re the brand and it doesn’t have to be corporate because brand is only a tool. We also share our love of breakfast - and what Keeley is learning from her latest (when we recorded) read - Steven Bartlett’s The Diary of a CEO. Contact Keeley Linked In Insta Keeley_VWhite www....
Business Builder for Coaches: Branding your Business
November 08, 2023 08:00 - 33 minutes - 16.7 MBThis week, Claire talks with new coach and long time marketer Keeley Vuong White. Claire and Keeley first met on a coaches walk in the Malvern Hills**. Keeley talks about her year of experimenting and how you’re the brand and it doesn’t have to be corporate because brand is only a tool. We also share our love of breakfast - and what Keeley is learning from her latest (when we recorded) read - Steven Bartlett’s The Diary of a CEO. Contact Keeley Linked In Insta Keeley_VWhite www....
S3 Episode 44: Not Knowing in Coaching with Sandhya Bhat
November 01, 2023 08:00 - 33 minutes - 17.3 MBSandhya Bhat has come to coaching from an HR background. She lives in Pune in India and, having come from a structured background, is interested in the role of not knowing in coaching. We think about the common question: Why would I listen if I don’t need to understand? and recognise that there is a lot of magic in not knowing Contact Sandhya through Linked In Takeaways Embracing the unknown in coaching requires a shift from a structured approach to being comfortable with uncert...
Not Knowing in Coaching with Sandhya Bhat
November 01, 2023 08:00 - 33 minutes - 17.3 MBSandhya Bhat has come to coaching from an HR background. She lives in Pune in India and, having come from a structured background, is interested in the role of not knowing in coaching. We think about the common question: Why would I listen if I don’t need to understand? and recognise that there is a lot of magic in not knowing Contact Sandhya through Linked In
Not Knowing in Coaching
November 01, 2023 08:00 - 33 minutes - 17.3 MBSandhya Bhat has come to coaching from an HR background. She lives in Pune in India and, having come from a structured background, is interested in the role of not knowing in coaching. We think about the common question: Why would I listen if I don’t need to understand? and recognise that there is a lot of magic in not knowing Contact Sandhya through Linked In
Dissonance and Resonance - Coaching and Shakespeare
October 25, 2023 07:00 - 29 minutes - 13.2 MBThis week, experienced coach, coach trainer, and Shakespeare enthusiast Emily Walker joins Claire at The Coaching Inn after they had had an earlier conversation about the sound of coaching. If dissonance and resonance matter in coaching, and if Shakespeare uses them well, what more useful stuff is there for us to learn as coaches? Let us know if you’d like to join an open Table in the future and talk more deeply about this, and about endings and masks and more. Contact Emily through...
S3 Episode 43: Dissonance and Resonance in Coaching with Emily Walker (and Shakespeare)
October 25, 2023 07:00 - 29 minutes - 13.2 MBThis week, experienced coach, coach trainer, and Shakespeare enthusiast Emily Walker joins Claire at The Coaching Inn after they had had an earlier conversation about the sound of coaching. If dissonance and resonance matter in coaching, and if Shakespeare uses them well, what more useful stuff is there for us to learn as coaches? They explore the connection between coaching and Shakespeare's use of dissonance and resonance in his work. They also touch on the importance of metaphors, the r...
S3 Episode 42: Business Builder for Coaches - Starting Up and Scaling Up with Katie Lewis
October 18, 2023 07:00 - 33 minutes - 17.7 MB"It's not about a destination. It's about how can you set yourself up for success in order to really be able to continue to show up as a founder, as an entrepreneur in the day-to-day grind of building a business." Today Claire is talking to Katie Lewis who, with Matthew Stafford, founded 9 others. They host dinners around the world asking people : what’s keeping you up at night? We talk about what makes vulnerability important and how generosity matters in business. This episode is...
Business Builder - Starting Up and Scaling Up - for coaches and businesses
October 18, 2023 07:00 - 33 minutes - 17.7 MBToday Claire is talking to Katie Lewis who, with Matthew Stafford, founded 9 others. They host dinners around the world asking people : what’s keeping you up at night? We talk about what makes vulnerability important and how generosity matters in business. This episode is for coaches, entrepreneurs and anyone in business who hates networking and wants to make connections. Katie and Matthew’s book is Find Your 9others. Contact Katie through their website www.https://9others.com/
Business Builder for Coaches - Starting Up and Scaling Up
October 18, 2023 07:00 - 33 minutes - 17.7 MBToday Claire is talking to Katie Lewis who, with Matthew Stafford, founded 9 others. They host dinners around the world asking people : what’s keeping you up at night? We talk about what makes vulnerability important and how generosity matters in business. This episode is for coaches, entrepreneurs and anyone in business who hates networking and wants to make connections. Katie and Matthew’s book is Find Your 9others. Contact Katie through their website www.https://9others.com/
Coach as Midwife with Rachel Erasmus
October 11, 2023 07:00 - 28 minutes - 14.5 MBLong time friend of 3D and coach Rachel Erasmus joins Claire at The Coaching Inn this week to talk about being a coach and being a midwife. Lots of connections - sensing, walking, breathing. Find out more about coach as midwife. And midwife as coach. And in the same way that not everyone women needs a midwife to birth a baby, not everyone needs a coach to birth their thinking. Contact Rachel through https://www.rachelerasmus.com/
S3 Episode 41: Coach as Midwife with Rachel Erasmus
October 11, 2023 07:00 - 28 minutes - 14.5 MBLong time friend of 3D and coach Rachel Erasmus joins Claire at The Coaching Inn this week to talk about being a coach and being a midwife. Lots of connections - sensing, walking, breathing. Find out more about coach as midwife. And midwife as coach. And in the same way that not everyone women needs a midwife to birth a baby, not everyone needs a coach to birth their thinking. Takeaways The convergence of midwifery and coaching in supporting women through significant life events. The ...
This Week’s Blog - Being In Control - or Not
October 05, 2023 07:00 - 1 minute - 1.51 MB#2minuteread Here's Zoe: There’s much to be said for letting go and learning to become OK with not knowing Sign up to keep in touch with 3D through our weekly ideas. Claire's supervision community is here . From next week we will be moving to one episode a week on Wednesday - with a special guest. Next Week - Rachel Erasmus is talking about coach as midwife and midwife as coach.
Business Builder - What Katie Did Next
October 04, 2023 07:00 - 39 minutes - 16.9 MBJust over a year ago, Katie Muldoon came to The Coaching Inn to talk about what she did in her first year of coaching. Listen back here. And we agreed to do another episode a year on about what she did in her second year. This is worth a listen and is full of surprises! Hear about being a body and having a mind, and lots about learning and integrating learning. Listen to Kirstie Drummond Papworth’s podcast here. Contact Katie: http://www.yellowrattle-coaching.com/ Linked In A...
Business Builder for Coaches: What Katie Did Next (Year 2)
October 04, 2023 07:00 - 39 minutes - 16.9 MBJust over a year ago, Katie Muldoon came to The Coaching Inn to talk about what she did in her first year of coaching. Listen back here. And we agreed to do another episode a year on about what she did in her second year. This is worth a listen and is full of surprises! Hear about being a body and having a mind, and lots about learning and integrating learning. Listen to Kirstie Drummond Papworth’s podcast here. Contact Katie: http://www.yellowrattle-coaching.com/ Linked In A...
S3 Episode 40: Business Builder for Coaches: What Katie Did Next in Year 2 with Katie Muldoon
October 04, 2023 07:00 - 39 minutes - 16.9 MBJust over a year ago, Katie Muldoon came to The Coaching Inn to talk about what she did in her first year of coaching. Listen back here. And we agreed to do another episode a year on about what she did in her second year. This is worth a listen and is full of surprises! Hear about being a body and having a mind, and lots about learning and integrating learning. Takeaways The importance of internal work in building a coaching business The impact of personal growth on coaching pract...
This Weeks Blog - Tailgating
September 28, 2023 07:00 - 1 minute - 1.25 MB#60 second read Sometimes we need to slow down to create a bigger space. And it’s in that space that new insight emerges. Sign up to keep in touch with 3D through our weekly ideas
Coaching and Improv with Pippa Evans
September 27, 2023 07:00 - 40 minutes - 20.5 MBImprov Your Life is one of the top 3 coaching books we recommend because it gets into not knowing - and it’s SIMPLE. Pippa Evans has done something huge for the coaching profession without knowing it. We talk about offering something to another person to do with what they will; being in relation to another without losing yourself. And don’t judge a scene until it’s finished - or you have checked out before the end. A great resource for coaches. And you will make your own meaning from wha...
S3 Episode 39: Coaching and Improv with Pippa Evans
September 27, 2023 07:00 - 40 minutes - 20.5 MBImprov Your Life is one of the top 3 coaching books we recommend because it gets into not knowing - and it’s SIMPLE. Pippa Evans has done something huge for the coaching profession without knowing it. We talk about offering something to another person to do with what they will; being in relation to another without losing yourself. And don’t judge a scene until it’s finished - or you have checked out before the end. A great resource for coaches. And you will make your own meaning from wha...
This Week’s Blog - Revisiting Oxford Part 2
September 21, 2023 07:00 - 1 minute - 1.27 MB#60 second read How often do I tell the same old stories, in the same old way and why I do it. To store the memories? To share my world? To feel seen? What might a new story sound like? Sign up to keep in touch with 3D through our weekly ideas
The Musicality of Coaching with Lucy and Amy Bolster
September 20, 2023 07:00 - 30 minutes - 17.7 MBLucy is training with 3D to be a coach and was instrumental in helping Claire deepen connections between music and coaching. Today Lucy and her daughter Amy join Claire Pedrick MCC at The Coaching Inn. Amy is studying Music at university. On ancient improvised music ‘unless you’re immersed in it, you can’t do it’ ‘It has to go wrong - that’s where the best learning has taken place’ Coaching ‘is a conversation that’s meant to be felt’ Rightsizing is ‘like a tuning fork’ Takeaways Coa...
This Week’s Blog - Apprentices
September 14, 2023 07:00 - 1 minute - 1.42 MB#60second read Deeping our craft takes time, wisdom, practice, and a more experienced eye to support us as we make it our own Sign up to keep in touch through our weekly ideas
Compassion in Coaching and Leadership with Kirstie Drummond Papworth
September 13, 2023 07:00 - 42 minutes - 21.3 MBKirstie Drummond Papworth comes to The Coaching Inn today to talk with Claire about her new book Compassionate Leadership. We have a wide ranging conversation: What makes compassion powerful? We hear a lot about empathic leadership - how does compassionate leadership connect to this? Aren’t coaches already compassionate? Depth, research, wisdom and tips... Contact Kirstie through LinkedIn or [email protected]
This Week’s Blog - Cancellations
September 07, 2023 07:00 - 1 minute - 1.45 MB#45second read There can be a gift in an unexpected cancellation Sign up to keep in touch through our weekly ideas
Open Table: Coaching. Long Covid and Chronic Fatigue
September 06, 2023 07:00 - 26 minutes - 13.6 MBToday Claire is joined by Claire Davies, Cat Gray and Zane McCormack who share personal stories of chronic fatigue and how that informs their coaching. Contact: Claire Davies Cat Gray Zane McCormack And Claire Pedrick
This Weeks Blog - Be kind not nice
August 31, 2023 07:00 - 1 minute - 1.28 MB#simplifyingcoaching 30second read REBI - what tag can we consistently use for this kind of post? Being kind not nice can mean that saying what we see - as an offer - is the greatest gift we can give. Sign up to keep in touch through our weekly ideas