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Trusting the Process
April 24, 2024 09:00 - 11 minutes - 10.1 MBHeavenly Father has designed a wonderful plan that includes learning and growing by our own experience. Part of that plan includes the natural process of maturing. Just as we cannot force a plant to grow before it's ready, there are some things we cannot teach our children before they are mature enough to understand. Sometimes we, in our enthusiasm to be good parents, feel the need to teach every little thing using a system of rewards and punishments. But the truth is that, if we pro...
Your Most Important Job
April 17, 2024 09:00 - 23 minutes - 21.1 MBIt's no secret that being a mother is a demanding job. But there is one thing that I've observed will get mothers feeling frustrated, overwhelmed and resentful faster than anything else: trying to control the wrong things. In today's episode we'll identify some of the things that are not your job to control, and we'll talk about the one thing that is always yours to control. That thing is, in fact, your most important job. Link to my book here.
Surviving a Slump
April 10, 2024 09:00 - 20 minutes - 19.1 MBI find myself lately in a bit of a slump. It's not the first, and I know it won't be the last. So today's episode is kinda for you, but kinda for me. I'm sharing some of my tried and true strategies for getting through a slump in as healthy of a way as possible.
As a Woman in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
April 03, 2024 09:00 - 23 minutes - 21.5 MBChances are, you're aware of some controversy surrounding the recent general Relief Society broadcast, and some things posted on the church's Instagram page. For me, it has been a good catalyst for personal reflection. How do I feel about these issues? What is my experience as a woman in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints? How can I use these questions as an opportunity to deepen my faith? This episode is my response to the controversy. Some conference talks I referenc...
Savannah Davis: the other side of the story
March 27, 2024 09:00 - 49 minutes - 45.6 MBThis is another one of those super fun (for me) episodes where I interview my kids. Today you'll meet Savannah. She is 24 years old, about to graduate from BYU, and is a single mom to 1 year old Marceline. She is strong and courageous and compassionate. I look up to her so much! I think you'll love this conversation with Savannah.
Having No Opinion
March 20, 2024 09:00 - 13 minutes - 12.1 MBDid you realize that it's an option to not have an opinion about some things? Not only is it possible, it's a really valuable skill to have! Today we'll talk about when, why, and how to use "no opinion" as a tool to lower stress and improve relationships.
What You Really Want
March 13, 2024 09:00 - 18 minutes - 17 MBThe scripture I chose for my mission plaque is still a favorite: D&C 58:27-28 "Verily I say, men should be anxiously engaged in a good cause, and do many things of their own free will, and bring to pass much righteousness; For the power is in them, wherein they are agents unto themselves." If we want to truly be agents unto ourselves, if we want to really maiximize the gift of agency, then it is important that we know what we really want, and that we choose to do the things that will hel...
The "Ideal" Family
March 06, 2024 11:00 - 19 minutes - 18.2 MBI recently went to Hawaii with my family for vacation. And guess what I learned? Even in paradise, my family isn't perfect. HA! There is no such thing as an ideal family, unless we change our definition of what that means.
Becca Greer
February 28, 2024 10:30 - 40 minutes - 37.3 MBHaving my son Caleb on the podcast was so much fun, I have decided to bring on as many of my children as I can. Today's conversation is with my oldest daughter Becca, who is just an incredible person. We're talking about her memories of our home as she was growing up; about what worked and what didn't. She has some pretty great insights.
The Lord's Storehouse
February 21, 2024 10:30 - 17 minutes - 16.3 MBSometimes when life feels heavy, we WANT to turn our burdens over to the Lord, but we just don't know how. I created this guided meditation as a tool to help you release some of the negative emotions that you may be carrying around. If you hate meditating, you can just skip this one ;) But for me, practicing meditation has been a game changer in learning to still my heart and my mind and connect with God in a whole new way.
When Life Feels Heavy
February 14, 2024 11:00 - 19 minutes - 18.3 MBBeing a human has never been easy. And with the world as chaotic and noisy as it is these days, it makes sense that sometimes life can feel overwhelming. Thankfully, God has not left us alone. Through His spirit and the words of His prophets, He has given us tools for thriving in these "latter days." We know what to do when life feels heavy. Here are the talks I reference in the episode: "Joy and Spritual Survival" by Russell M. Nelson "Happiness, Your Heritage" by Deiter F. Uc...
Interpretation of Tongues
February 07, 2024 11:00 - 16 minutes - 15.3 MBToday we're talking about the gift of "interpretation of tongues," but not in the way you're probably thinking. All of us hear peoples' words or observe their actions, and we make it mean something. If we leave our brains unsupervised, our interpretations can often be unhelpful. Being intentional in how we interpret the words of others is a gift we can cultivate. It's a skill that helps us develop charity and creates better relationships. Moroni 7:45
Don't Forget to Remember
January 31, 2024 11:00 - 15 minutes - 14.4 MBMaybe it's my age, but I find it hard to remember things sometimes. Even really important things. Apparently, Laman and Lemuel had the same problem. We have been counseled many times in the scriptures to remember. In today's episode, we're talking about why that is really important counsel for faithful parents. Henry B. Eyring's talk here. Sign up for a free ministering session here.
Parenting with Flexibility
January 24, 2024 11:00 - 23 minutes - 21.4 MB"Blessed are the flexible, for they will not be bent out of shape." -Anonymous Today we're talking about the valuable skill of flexibility in parenting. Why is it so important, and why is it so hard?? Also... go check out my new website HERE
Helping Teens with Their Goals
January 17, 2024 11:00 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MBI don't know if your kids are like mine, but when they become teenagers they hate all of my ideas. If they know I want them to do something, they will often choose the exact opposite. How, then, are we supposed to encourage them to set goals? How do we help them progress if they tune out every suggestion? I have 3 tips for you today that I think will help.
A Christmas Meditation
December 20, 2023 11:00 - 11 minutes - 10.4 MBSometimes the Christmas season gets to be so busy and so stressful that we forget to be still and spend time with the Savior. This is a guided meditation I've posted here before. It's one that I love to use every year at this time. Think of it as my personal Christmas gift to you!
The Work of Waiting
December 13, 2023 11:00 - 27 minutes - 24.9 MBLife seems to be a lot about waiting. We don't seem to have much of a choice about that. What we DO have a choice about, is HOW we wait. In today's episode I'm talking about learning to wait in a higher, holier way. It's possible for waiting to be restful, or even joyful! Here are some of the scriptures I mention in the episode: Luke 21:19 Psalm 37:7 D&C 98:1-3 Jacob 5 D&C 133:45
Mindset is Everything
December 06, 2023 11:00 - 15 minutes - 14.3 MBThis episode may be a bit of a pep talk to myself. I KNOW that we are free to choose our mindset, but I'm currently having to work really hard to keep from getting stuck in stress and overwhelm. Today I'm using some examples from my own life to model how to intentionally shift your mindset.
Tips for Extended Family Gatherings
November 29, 2023 10:30 - 16 minutes - 15.1 MBSometimes the most important relationships in life are the hardest to get right. Never is that reality more blatant than at the holiday season, where we spend lots of time with our extended families. Today I have three tips for you that will make your time with family feel so much better. The episode I mention about setting boundaries with adults can be found here.
Gratitude and Wonder
November 22, 2023 11:00 - 14 minutes - 13.6 MBToday we're talking about the magic that happens when we combine the emotions of gratitude and wonder. "You will never be happier than you are grateful." Gary B. Sabin Quote by Deiter F. Uchtdorf here. Book a free consultation session with Christi here.
Charity
November 15, 2023 10:30 - 13 minutes - 12.4 MBTo continue our conversation about living joyfully, today's episode is all about charity. See Moroni 7:44-48 To schedule a free consultation session, click here.
Hope
November 08, 2023 10:30 - 15 minutes - 14.2 MBWe can't possibly live joyfully without hope! Today's episode is about hope as a commandment, a tool, a skill and a blessing. Quote from Henry B. Eyring "My promise to you is one that a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles once made to me. I had said to him that because of choices some in our extended family had made, I doubted that we could be together in the world to come. He said, as well as I can remember, "You are worrying about the wrong problem. You just live worthy of th...
Living Joyfully
November 01, 2023 10:00 - 22 minutes - 20.2 MBThis episode is the first in a mini-series about living joyfully. We'll talk about JOY as: A commandment A tool A skill A blessing I referenced so many good talks in the episode, but the one that you simply MUST re-read is from Russell M. Nelson "Joy and Spiritual Survival."
Understanding Anxiety and Big Feelings
October 25, 2023 10:00 - 41 minutes - 37.7 MBI have a special guest today! Jill Freestone and I are talking about helping our kids (and ourselves) with anxiety and other big feelings. As a life coach, Jill Freestone focuses on helping teens and adults handle anxiety and big emotions. Jill has additional training in anxiety, emotions, relationships, mindfulness, meditation, trauma, somatic processing and much more. She loves her work, but her happy place is in the outdoors. She is an avid hiker, biker, and outdoor adventurer. She is...
Magic Words to Use With Teens
October 18, 2023 10:00 - 19 minutes - 17.7 MBSadly, there are no magic words that will get our teenagers to agree with us and do everything we want them to. But over the course of raising SIX teenagers (so far), I have found a few phrases that really feel like magic in how well they work to diffuse power struggles and improve communication. I'll give you a quick bullet point list here. Listen to the episode to hear real life examples of when I use these phrases. That sounds hard. What are you going to do? I know I can't control ...
Stay by the Tree
October 11, 2023 10:00 - 16 minutes - 15.3 MBI just loved Sister Tamara W. Runia's talk from last week's General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. She talked about the same things that I have felt so inspired to talk about here on the podcast, and also in my book and my Faithful Family Foundations classes. In today's episode we're talking about what it looks like to "stay by the tree," and with smiles on our faces, beckon to those we love.
Intentional Parenting
October 04, 2023 10:00 - 9 minutes - 8.31 MBSometimes, in our effort to be "intentional parents," we think we have to be in charge of everything. We sometimes mistake nagging and controlling for teaching. Today's episode is just a quick reminder that sometimes being intentional means knowing which things to let go.
Problem Solving vs. Rumination
September 27, 2023 10:00 - 23 minutes - 21.7 MBHave you ever been stuck in what feels like a loop? Where your brain goes around and around and can't seem to give it a rest? If you're human, the answer is probably yes. Sometimes our brains think they are being really helpful by asking the same question or replaying the same scenario over and over. We think we are trying to problem solve, when what we are really doing is ruminating. Today we're talking about the difference between those two. We'll talk about how to catch yourself...
How to Love People Better
September 20, 2023 10:00 - 21 minutes - 19.3 MBWouldn't it be fun to live in a world where we loved everyone? In today's episode I'm talking about three things that make it hard for us to love others in the way we want to. If you want to go a little deeper on this topic, you may like to listen to episode 38. For more information on The Sister Project, go to @thesisterproject.us on Instagram.
Caleb Davis: The Other Side of the Story
September 13, 2023 09:30 - 36 minutes - 32.9 MBThis is the most fun I've ever had recording an episode! You've heard many stories about Caleb on this podcast. It felt only fair to let him tell his side of the story!
Good Inside
September 06, 2023 09:30 - 20 minutes - 19 MBToday's episode is a bit of a book review. I've been reading Good Inside, by Dr. Becky Kennedy. I love the foundation of her work: the belief that all children, and all PEOPLE, are good inside. I'm sharing just a couple of my favorite take-aways from this really great parenting book.
Moving Mountains
August 30, 2023 16:00 - 10 minutes - 9.22 MBI learned something today about moving mountains. Here are the scriptures I refer to in the episode: 2 Kings 6:17 Isaiah 2:3 Isaiah 56:7 Isaiah 57:13 Amos 4:13
Not Ashamed of the Gospel
August 23, 2023 10:00 - 12 minutes - 11.3 MBFrom Romans 1:16 "For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation unto every one that believeth." Today's episode is meant to be a little pep talk about living and teaching the gospel with clarity. Quote from Bonnie Oscarson here. Quote from Russell M. Nelson here.
How to Say the Right Thing
August 16, 2023 09:30 - 15 minutes - 14.5 MBWhat do you do when you really want to do or say the right thing, but you don't know what that is? Do you ever get paralyzed because you're so afraid of doing it wrong? If you do, you're not alone! In today's episode, I'm talking about a conversation I had recently with one of my clients. I think her experience will be helpful for you! To learn more about my Faithful Family Foundations class, go here. Fill out the form to get all the details!
Young Adults and Dating
August 09, 2023 09:30 - 42 minutes - 38.4 MBJulie Balkman is a certified life coach who works with LDS young adults. She helps them get out of the dating game and into a real relationship that lasts. She has interviewed 120 young adults about dating and is currently writing a book about this experience. I personally have a bunch of young adults in my family, and who they date and marry is something that is on my mind often. Julie's insights about what is on the minds and hearts of young adults was insightful. We talk about what ...
Open Minded AND Grounded in Truth
August 02, 2023 09:30 - 30 minutes - 27.6 MBWe know it's important in these crazy times to stay grounded in truth. Quote from President Nelson here. But to really discern between truth and error, and to be able to evolve with the restoration, we also need to be open minded. Quote from President Nelson here. In this episode I offer some thoughts about why both are important, and how to balance two things that sometimes feel like opposites. If you want more information about my Faithful Family Foundations course, fill out the ...
Tools for Calming Your Brain
July 26, 2023 09:30 - 21 minutes - 19.7 MBThis is a repost of a popular episode from September of 2022. These are practical tools that you can use when your anxiety kicks in or your survival brain feels like it's overly active. Quote from President Nelson is here.
Clean Pain, Dirty Pain
July 19, 2023 09:30 - 24 minutes - 22.2 MBThink about your first instinct when you feel a negative emotion. Do you shove it down or try to ignore it? Do you think about it nonstop to the point of wallowing in it? We all have moments when we do those things. But today, I'm here to tell you that emotional pain does not mean that something has gone wrong. Part of being human is that we get to experience this wild ride of emotions-positive and negative. *Note that I'm not talking about mental illness, trauma response, or other ci...
Dealing with Disrespectful Teens
July 12, 2023 09:30 - 22 minutes - 20.9 MBThis is a re-airing of episode 35 from May of 2021. My clients often want help knowing how to handle disrespectful behavior in their teenager. One thing we know from the scriptures is that the way to have genuine power and influence in someone's life is not through coersion or power struggles. Proving we are stronger and trying to demand respect is not the same thing as teaching or earning genuine respect. True respect and the right to be an influence in our childrens' lives is gained ...
Setting Boundaries with Adults
July 05, 2023 09:30 - 29 minutes - 26.7 MBThis is a re-airing of a popular episode form 2020. When is it acceptable to set boundaries with other adults in our lives? And how do we make sure other people honor our boundaries? (That is actually a trick question!) We'll answer both of those questions in today's episode.
Unselfishness
June 28, 2023 09:30 - 17 minutes - 16.1 MBUnselfishness sounds like the goal, right? It seems like what we should always be striving for. While agree that it is important to give of ourselves and make sacrifices for the good of others, there is a healthy way and an unhealthy way to do this. Today we're talking about how to give a good gift and about the importance of balancing unselfishness with taking care of ourselves.
How to be a Peacemaker
June 21, 2023 10:00 - 25 minutes - 23.3 MBIn the most recent General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, President Russell M. Nelson taught us that, "One of the best ways we can honor the Savior is to become a peacemaker." Today we're talking about what it means to be a peacemaker- AND what it doesn't mean. We'll talk about some actionable steps we can take that will help us follow the counsel of our prophet. The book I reference is The Anatomy of Peace, by the Arbinger Institute.
Preparing Teens for Healthy Intimacy in Marriage
June 14, 2023 10:00 - 47 minutes - 43.8 MBI'm so excited to share this episode with you! I have long admired the work and the expertise of Dr. Finalyson-Fife. She is strengthening marriages by helping (mostly LDS) couples understand and improve their intimacy. This episode was my chance to pick her brain and ask her all of my questions. I wanted to know how to prepare our kids for healthy intimacy in their future marriages. I want us to give them a better foundation than many of us were given. We talk in this episode about ho...
The Power of a Faithful Mother
June 07, 2023 10:00 - 13 minutes - 12.3 MBI wrote a book! This episode will give you a little sneak peek. Here is the book summary: As covenant women and mothers in the latter days, we have a holy work to do. Our prophet has invited us to create homes that are sancutaries of faith, Yet as the world rages around us and we see the adversary at work on our precious children, it's easy to become discouraged. We may wonder where we should focus our energy, or worry that our best efforts won't be enough. That is exactly what our ene...
What is Needed
May 31, 2023 09:30 - 15 minutes - 14.6 MBI think sometimes we are asking ourselves the wrong question as parents. If we think about parenting as a system of rewards and punishments in an attempt to control behavior, we will be asking ourselves "What does my child deserve?" But does our Heavenly Father give us what we deserve? Or does He give us what we need in order to become better? I think it's the latter. (For more about this in a gospel context, go listen to Brooke Snow's podcast episode "Transactional Gospel vs. Uncondit...
The Power of Play
May 24, 2023 09:30 - 39 minutes - 36.2 MBAndee is a mom of 6, a reformed yeller, a best-selling author, and the creator of Connect Method Parenting: a breakthrough parenting framework that leverages connection as the primary mechanism for influencing children. Her approach helps parents discover why their kids don't listen and shows them the step-by-step process of regaining influence and building relationships that will last a lifetime. With hands-on experience raising her own children (ages 14-23) and over 10 years of experie...
The Power of Positivity
May 17, 2023 09:30 - 18 minutes - 17 MBSometimes in our efforts to correct our kids' behavior, we accidentally slip into the habit of criticising and nagging. The good news is that there is a better way! A way that strengthens the relationship, builds self-esteem, and is more fun for everyone involved. Today I'm talking about the power of positivity in parenting our children. It's a reminder I need over and over, so I thought I'd share it with you. "Catch your children doing something right, instead of something wrong. Remi...
Communication with Teenagers
May 10, 2023 09:30 - 18 minutes - 17.3 MBDo you ever feel like getting your teen to open up to you is like pulling teeth? Like they'd rather be ANYWHERE than hanging out with you? First of all... you're not alone. Wanting to separate from their parents is a normal, healthy, stage of development for teens. But that doesn't mean they don't need us, or that we want our relationship with them to disappear! Today I'm talking about things we can do as parents to create a more inviting atmosphere for our teenagers to want to talk to...
Wanting and Needing
May 03, 2023 09:30 - 13 minutes - 11.9 MBThis episode is not going to tell you that the cute throw pillows you found at Target are not a need. Today I'm talking about how we think about other people's behaviors. There is a difference between wanting your child to make good choices, and needing them to make good choices. One leads to happiness, the other to misery.