Black Millennial Marriage
211 episodes - English - Latest episode: 8 days ago - ★★★★★ - 336 ratingsWe are Mikey and Randie Chapman, and your hosts of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast. This podcast was created as a way to stay connected to one another. It was also formed so that we could have representation, meet other couples, and provide a space to talk about our 10+ years of relationship experience, including our years of marriage, and all we’re learning, unlearning, and loving about marriage.
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BMM 039: Hey Stranger
March 17, 2019 23:20 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Randie’s been a literal food source and Mikey’s been in class, and so for their first regular episode since Drew’s birth, the couple decide to talk to one another. They ask each other a string of questions ranging from a simple “How are you,” to “What are three emotions you’ve felt these past two weeks,” and it gets honest and emotional. It’s not all serious though. For his love story, Mikey reads a listener’s drunk story a...
BMM Mini 011: Labor of Love Pt. 1
March 10, 2019 13:21 - 37 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts For their first mini as parents to a newborn, the couple detail day 1 of Randie’s labor and delivery story. From counting contractions in the early a.m. to having to rent a hotel room, Drew’s entry into the world was one for the books and they can’t wait to tell you all about it. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever el...
BMM Mini 009: Next Time Around
February 25, 2019 05:26 - 28 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts For their first mini EP of 2019, the couple reflect on what they hope to do differently for their next pregnancy. From having a food budget to making sure they have a better postpartum plan, Mikey and Randie have goals and promise to do better the next time around. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen i...
BMM 038: Let That Man Be a Man
February 18, 2019 07:45 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts In this week’s episode, Mikey and Randie discuss the “Let That Man Be a Man” ideology. They talk about what it means to let each other be who they are and also the different types of guilt men and women experience when a relationship doesn’t work out. It’s a free-flowing conversation and they hope you enjoy. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-st...
BMM 037: Issa Notice
February 10, 2019 16:32 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts As if throwing a baby in the mix wasn’t crazy enough, Mikey put in his notice at work and the Chapmans have started a Patreon. Life is getting real exciting and brand new in the Bat Cave and 2019 may just be the year of redemption. Tune in to hear all about it. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen is th...
BMM 036: The Bat Cave
February 04, 2019 06:11 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Moving back in with parents is the ultimate goal, right? Ha. Wrong. And yet for the couple’s first move of the new year, they’ve done just that. Don’t worry, it’s temporary and it’s a hell of a story. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen is the first step. Items Mentioned: Happy Black History Month!...
BMM 035 Memory Lane: Jealous Much?
January 28, 2019 08:04 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Mikey and Randie are back with their last memory lane episode for January, but before the flashback they talk about Netflix’s Fyre documentary. The couple not only highly recommend the film but they also provide three things they took away from the production. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen is the...
BMM 034 Memory Lane: What We’re Loving About Marriage
January 18, 2019 04:18 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Mikey and Randie are back with a memory lane episode, but before the flashback they respond to a listener’s feedback and have their first fight or flight of the new year. What’s the fight about you ask? Just something Mikey let slip when they were talking about birth control options. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherev...
BMM 033 Memory Lane: Must Love Sex
January 07, 2019 21:47 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Mikey and Randie could never really leave their extended fam, and so that’s why they’re dropping a memory lane episode while they’re on break. It’s not all old news though. Before the throwback episode begins, the couple reads a listener’s email and responds to her question about dealing with external jealousy. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5...
BMM 032: We Can’t Believe We Made It
December 31, 2018 17:49 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts For the couple’s last episode of 2018, they reflect and play snippets from their favorite moments of the year. They later talk about their favorite episode, play bloopers they swore they’d never reveal, and give each other constructive criticism and praise when it concerns the podcast. Before the show ends, Mikey and Randie show gratitude to their listeners, share their podcasting and personal plans for next year, and rev...
BMM Mini 008: Baby, You’ve Changed
December 25, 2018 04:00 - 36 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts For their final mini episode of 2018, the Chapmans detail things they’ve learned from their two babies and discuss how they feel equipped and unequipped for parenthood. They end the episode with some PDA that makes Mikey get a little emotional, and they hope you enjoy. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you liste...
BMM EP 031: No, I Love You (More)
December 18, 2018 06:05 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts This may be the couple’s most freestyled episode yet. For episode 031 Mikey and Randie get into topics they believe can be divisive in relationships like: who does the most work, who has it worse: men or women, and more. The conversation is eye-opening for the both of them and it takes Randie out of her shell while making Mikey feel right at home. Are you excited to add this couple to your list of relationship favorites? P...
BMM EP 030: Tell Me More
December 10, 2018 07:42 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts When you tell your partner you want to know everything, do you really? Mikey and Randie do, and in this episode they discuss why they require full transparency. They also discuss the pros and cons to this kind of communication, and later provide their own personal tips and tricks to achieve relationship transparency. Are you excited to add this couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-star...
BMM Mini 007: Baby Education, Fears, & Paranoia
December 03, 2018 02:20 - 44 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts In this episode the couple provide highlights from their childbirth education class and their hospital tour. Later, they discuss the elephant in the room a.k.a. the first baby. Mikey and Randie admit to (inadvertently) keeping Drew at an emotional distance because of the grief surrounding the first baby, but admit they can’t contain their joy no matter what they do. It’s a conversation they’ve needed to have, ending with ho...
BMM 029: I’ll Miss You
November 26, 2018 18:37 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Have you taken advantage of your opportunity to have loud sex? Mikey and Randie have and there are no regrets. However, they know the opportunity will dwindle next year when they become parents to a newborn. That…and other things. That’s why, in this episode, the couple say goodbye to all the things they’ll have to quit or compromise on when baby Drew arrives. Don’t worry it’s not all sad. When you mix new parents to be wit...
BMM 028: Who TF Am I Having Kids With?
November 19, 2018 04:03 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Ever thought about what type of trash kid you were? Mikey and Randie do, and in this episode they play the “about to be new parents game” (completely made-up). The couple ask each other a string of questions ranging from: “Tell about a time you knowingly manipulated your parents” to “What’s the worst thing you did to a sibling?” in hopes to get an idea about what the new baby will put them through. It’s funny and insightful...
BMM Mini 006: Name Reveal
November 18, 2018 16:00 - 25 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts In this episode the couple drop their fear and tell the world their daughter’s name. If you love it, let them know. If not, sleep on it. You’ll get over it and it’ll grow on you. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen is the first step. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-millennial-marr...
BMM Mini 005: Conscious Parenting
November 05, 2018 05:07 - 50 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts In this episode the couple dive into Randie’s obsession with Dr. Shefali’s book, The Conscious Parent. So inspired by their findings, they list things their parents got right when raising them and things they want to do differently in their own families. From wanting to give their children choices to honoring who their children are as opposed to who they hoped they would be, Randie and Mikey get each other thinking and hope...
BMM 027: Relationship Horror Stories PT. 1
October 29, 2018 02:50 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts In this episode, the couple get in the Halloween spirit and share relationship horror stories. Tune in and hear about the craziest thing Mikey has done for sex, Randie’s worst night ever, and stories from listeners that hit the horror nail on the head. It’s a funny episode with an even funnier fight or flight that ends with a loving PDA segment. Are you excited to add this couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pre...
BMM Mini 004: The Birth Plan
October 22, 2018 23:21 - 28 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts In this episode the Chapmans talk about their water birth plan. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen is the first step. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-millennial-marriage/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
BMM 026: The Relationship Check-In
October 15, 2018 17:04 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Do you have an organized way you check-in with your spouse, partner, or friend? The Chapman’s do and in this episode, the couple share the results of the first relationship check-in they’ve had in nine months. For their check-ins the couple rate sex, money, communication, podcast, and vacation on a scale of 1-5 and explain the reasons for their ratings. They also leave room to discuss anything else they may not have touched...
BMM Mini 003: It’s a Girl
October 08, 2018 03:41 - 43 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts The Chapmans are having a baby girl and as expected, they’re really excited. In this episode Mikey and Randie detail their latest ultrasound appointment, discuss why they think they’ve been given a daughter, and later talk about what they think their new addition will teach them. It gets deep and sweet and they hope you can handle their joy that a girl is on the way. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your l...
BMM 025: Never Gonna Give You Up
October 02, 2018 03:10 - 58 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Marriages end, especially (sometimes) after a baby and in this episode the couple talk about the work they intend to do to keep their marriage intact once Baby Chapman gets here. After all, wouldn’t it be a shame to break up after everything they’ve been through? Randie thinks so. Later in the episode, Mikey and Randie discuss never wanting to consider the other irrelevant–especially after reading the definition–they then t...
BMM 024: “I’m Good, Luv”
September 24, 2018 16:07 - 1 hour - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts In this episode, the Chapmans decide they need to lighten up. So, they provide a list of 6 things in total they always wanted, never got, and thank goodness. Hindsight is 20/20 and trouble don’t last always and this is their reminder. Can you relate and are you excited to add this couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen is the first step. Suppo...
BMM Mini Episode 002: Awkward Sex
September 17, 2018 06:10 - 36 minutes - 1 ByteListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Sometimes you just wanna be f*cked, right? Well, that’s how Randie’s been feeling, but sex while pregnant is well . . . awkward. In this episode, the couple discuss what they find awkward about pregnant love making and later laugh their way through a quick game of Paper, Scissors, Rock–hoping to find a resolution to their awkward problem. Finally, they end the mini episode with some PDA because in the end it’s all love. Are you exci...
Episode 04: Everything you say is great
September 14, 2018 15:42 - 2 minutes - 1.49 MBHe’s too sound asleep, Mr. Stubb; go thou down, and wake him, and tell him. I must see to the […]
Episode 03: Action is the foundational key to all success
September 12, 2018 15:42 - 2 minutes - 1.58 MBNext morning the not-yet-subsided sea rolled in long slow billows of mighty bulk, and striving in the Pequod’s gurgling track, […]
Episode 02: Everything you can imagine is real
September 11, 2018 15:42 - 2 minutes - 2.05 MBNext morning the not-yet-subsided sea rolled in long slow billows of mighty bulk, and striving in the Pequod’s gurgling track, […]
Episode 01: Turn Lights Down For a Moment
September 10, 2018 15:42 - 3 minutes - 2.06 MBUpon this every soul was confounded; for the phenomenon just then observed by Ahab had unaccountably escaped every one else; […]
BMM 023: It’s a Hard Knock Life
September 09, 2018 22:14 - 1 hour - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Podcasts When it rains it pours. Rather than wait until the storm has passed, the Chapmans discuss their current trials and tribulations ranging from the (happy) shock of a second pregnancy, Mikey’s mental health, Randie’s recent…self employment, money woes, and their relationship with guilt and shame. The fight or flight segment is as entertaining as ever and as always the couple close the episode with some PDA. Are you excited to add Mikey ...
BMM Mini Episode 001: The Perfect Time?
September 03, 2018 04:23 - 30 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Podcasts For the couple’s first mini episode they give advice to a listener eager to have a baby, and talk about the flawed logic of waiting for the perfect time to start a family. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen is the first step. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-millennial-marriage/donations Ad...
BMM 022: The Interview
August 27, 2018 00:20 - 1 hour - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Ever wanted to know more about who Mikey and Randie are, individually? If the answer is yes. Tune in. In this episode the couple ask each other a string of questions ranging from “Are you brave and what’s a brave moment you’re proud of?” to “What are you currently struggling with right now?” With these questions, Randie and Mikey give more insight into themselves and hope the listeners enjoy the conversation. Fight or Flight is back ...
BMM 021: So. . . We’re Pregnant
August 19, 2018 23:17 - 1 hour - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Baby Champan is due Feb. 2019 and the Chapmans couldn’t be happier. In this episode, Mikey and Randie detail how and why they started trying, how they found out they were pregnant, their initial reactions, and how they told their family. The couple also discuss why they decided to keep the pregnancy a secret for a time and end the episode answering listener’s questions. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of re...
BMM 020: The Proposal
July 30, 2018 03:45 - 56 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Podcasts What do you get when you have a graduation that doesn’t go as planned and no food to ease the pain? A great proposal, that’s what. The Chapmans have received a lot of questions about their marriage proposal, and in this episode they give listeners all the details. Tune in to hear the couple discuss one of their favorite memories and afterwards, pick a side during the passionate fight or flight discussion. P.S. Mikey and Randie will ...
BMM 019: Jealous Much?
July 23, 2018 01:19 - 52 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Randie doesn’t think that jealousy should be normalized, but Mikey thinks a little bit is healthy. In this episode the couple get honest about jealousy before and in marriage and laugh it up as they discuss who Randie believes Mikey will marry if she dies and why Mikey wants to be the only one to take up Randie’s time. He may even be a bit envious of the dog. But you’ll have to listen to get all the details. Are you excited to add th...
BMM 018: What We’re Loving About Marriage
July 16, 2018 03:41 - 53 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music In this episode the couple take a break from talking about the difficulties of marriage, and dive into what they’re loving about their union. They also play a few voicemails and share their results from the “Love Language” quiz. They end the episode with a funny fight or flight segment and some sweet PDA. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTune...
BMM 017: What We’re Unlearning About Marriage
July 09, 2018 00:10 - 43 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music In this episode the couple push through a cold and answer a listener’s question about what they’re unlearning about marriage. From no one’s perfect to marriage doesn’t have to be tragic, Mikey and Randie give their list while trying not to breathe too hard in the mic. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen is the ...
BMM 016: A Crazy Ass Night
July 01, 2018 17:32 - 52 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Drunk and in love, Mikey and Randie share a story about a crazy night. In this episode the couple reminisce about a time they each got way too drunk. Randie and Mikey discuss the problems that arose when they mixed partying with tequila and share a few lessons they’ve learned. Later, the Chapmans are challenged by a family member who leaves a voicemail for the fight or flight segment and things get interesting. Are you excited to a...
BMM 015: Sometimes You’re Hard to Love
June 24, 2018 21:26 - 54 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Are you hard to love? Sometimes Mikey and Randie are. In this episode the couple practice accountability and detail all the things that’s hard to love about themselves. Randie and Mikey discuss where these flaws originate and how they do their best to keep themselves in check. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you liste...
BMM 014: The Rumor Mill: Skepticism & Long-Distance
June 17, 2018 19:05 - 1 hour - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music It ain’t always been breezy. In this episode Mikey and Randie combine two listener episode ideas to bring you the truth about the skepticism they received when they began dating in high school, how it affected them, and how they pushed past it. The couple also tell listeners about how they survived long-distance, what some of their struggles were, and how they made it work. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list...
BMM 013: A Friendship Application
June 12, 2018 01:12 - 54 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Have you been traumatized by a friendship? Mikey and Randie have. That’s why, in this episode, the couple have questions. Together, Randie and Mikey bring 10 questions to the table that they need couples to answer before they enter the Chapman circle. They detail why these questions are important and ask listeners for their feedback. Do you think they’re crazy? Do you have a set of questions you need answered before you become frie...
BMM 012: Things to Do Before You Get Married
June 03, 2018 15:09 - 54 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Everyone has a bucket list and so do the Chapmans. In this episode the couple talk about 10 things they believe every couple should do together before they get married. From arguing in front of a parent to having sex in an unconventional place, Mikey and Randie laugh it out as they reminisce on all the things they did before their wedding and how it helped them in the long run. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your ...
BMM 011: A Bad Day to Not Be Pregnant
May 27, 2018 14:07 - 1 hour - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Mother’s Day was rough for the Chapmans and they’re here to tell you all about it. In this episode, Mikey and Randie detail Mother’s Day from start to finish and explain how the memory of their pregnancy loss dampened the day. They discuss the argument they had, what they learned, and their plan to move forward. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars o...
BMM 010: Worst Lap Dance Ever
May 20, 2018 15:26 - 50 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Who chews gum during a lap dance? Randie did. But that’s not the only reason it was a fail. In their BIG 10 episode, Mikey and Randie talk about keeping it sexy and travel down memory lane to retell the story of the time Randie surprised Mikey with a lap dance. It was a great gesture, but everything that could go wrong did go wrong. The couple laugh it up as they reminiscence and give listeners all the face-palming details. Will y...
BMM 009: Dear Mama
May 13, 2018 20:59 - 1 hour - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Mikey and Randie love their mothers. In this episode the couple talk about their good relationships with their moms, but how getting there wasn’t always easy. Well, it was for Mikey when it concerns Randie’s mom but not so much for Randie with Mikey’s mom—(in the beginning). The Chapman’s discuss jealousy, epiphanies, and more. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and...
BMM 008: Must Love Sex
May 06, 2018 14:19 - 57 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music What’s your sex deal breaker? Mikey and Randie have the same one. Also, do you think married people make sex look boring? Questions that need answers. In this episode the couple discuss why it’s important to them to communicate about sex and how a sex game helped them realize what they were getting right and wrong. The couple detail the things they’re cool with, won’t do, and would like the other to do more of, and Randie divulges t...
BMM 007: Just Married? Good Luck.
April 29, 2018 06:43 - 1 hour - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Celebrating their second year of marriage, Mikey and Randie reminisce about how shit got real in their first year of marriage just like everyone said it would. In this episode, Mikey and Randie talk about advice they received when they got married, problems they had that they didn’t expect, and why they were dumb to think nothing would go wrong. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? ...
BMM 006: Fighting Clean Fails
April 21, 2018 19:43 - 1 hour - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music It’s hard to fight clean when things are being thrown at you. In this episode Mikey and Randie define what fighting clean means to them, tell a story about the time they fought dirty, and detail what they learned from the experience. Their dog chose a side, will you? Are you excited to add this millennial couple to your list of relationship favorites? Pressing play and rating 5-stars on iTunes and wherever else you listen is the f...
BMM 005: Threesome or Nah?
March 24, 2018 19:39 - 57 minutes - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Don’t we all have threesome-clone fantasies? Randie does. In this episode Mikey and Randie discuss their thoughts on sharing your partner and then discuss and negotiate the conditions necessary to participate in a threesome. Mikey’s past is slightly exposed while Randie sheds light on her clone fantasies and questions if there are other definitions for monogamy. Tune in to hear how Mikey might need a lot of alcohol and why Randie ...
BMM 004: Plot Twists & Lemonade: Our Miscarriage Story
March 23, 2018 19:32 - 1 hour - 2.06 MBListen to us on: iTunes | Stitcher | Google Play Music Before launching the podcast, Mikey and Randie planned to tell listeners they were pregnant but plot twists and life’s chaos changed everything. In this episode the couple talks about their pregnancy, pregnancy loss, and how losing the baby felt like death. Mikey and Randie detail how their families reminded them that they were still alive and talk about all they’ve learned lately. Are you excited to add this millennial couple to y...