Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS
231 episodes - English - Latest episode: 5 months ago - ★★★★★ - 59 ratingsBetrayal is traumatic, and those who have been betrayed by partners living secret lives of sexual addiction deserve to be empowered and supported with knowledge and resources to allow them to move from shock through grief and into growth. On Betrayal Recovery Radio, our host, Dr. Jake Porter, lays out important topics for both sex addicts and their betrayed partners through conversations leading to hope and healing.
Betrayal Recovery Radio is the official podcast of The Association of Partners of Sex Addict Trauma Specialists (apsats.org). Dr. Jake Porter can be reached at drjakeporter.com.
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Episodes
Are You Being Abused in Your Relationship with a Sex Addict with Carol the Coach
December 27, 2018 19:00 - 57 minutes - 52.7 MBIf you are wondering if you are being abused in your relationship...this show will help you learn about techniques that SA's may use to keep you from discovering them.
Improving Your Concious Relationship with God with Carol the Coach
December 25, 2018 02:00 - 1 hour - 59.1 MBAre you having trouble feeling a solid connection with God? Listen as Carol the Coach speaks with experts who will deepen your relationship with your Higher Power.
How Can We Suppport Partners with Carol the Coach
December 20, 2018 19:00 - 57 minutes - 52.3 MBDon't you wish that there was a "Do's and Don'ts List" for people who work with partners? Professionals, pastors, friends and family are well meaning but they often times are unclear as to how to support a woman who is suffering from sexual betrayal. Lyschel Burket has put together a list of Do's and Don't to help anyone who is on the front line and wants to have some healthy guidelines for helping Partners heal and deal with partner betrayal.
How Can We Support the Kids Through Sexual Addiction with Carol the Coach
December 13, 2018 19:00 - 59 minutes - 54.7 MBKids are smart and they can sense or know when Discovery has occured yet they tend to get lost in the shuffle once betrayal trauma surfaces. Carol the Coach interviews Jessica L. Eidens,CSAT, CCPS who is a specialist helping families get through the pain, tension and stress that comes with problematic sexual behavior.
Is Micro-Cheating a Form of Sexual Addiction with Carol the Coach
December 06, 2018 19:00 - 57 minutes - 52.6 MBToday, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck who is a specialist in helping couples heal from relational betrayal. She is going to discuss the topic of Micro-Cheating and discussing how you can identify it in your relationship.
Faith Related Re-Traumatization with Carol the Coach
November 29, 2018 19:00 - 59 minutes - 54.8 MBAlthough well meaning, people in your faith community can betray you because they don't have enough education and information about partner betrayal and trauma. Carol the Coach interview's Karen Trifiletti who has made it her mission to help faith communities become more partner sensitive. She helps partners to deal with the retraumatization that can occur with her faith community when well intentioned pastors or leaders victimize the partner or give bad advise. Listen as Karen gives examples...
Here are Some Important Resources for Partners with Carol the Coach
November 22, 2018 19:00 - 1 hour - 56.4 MBHappy Thanksgiving...I am with my family today but I am airing a show on partner resources to help guide you to accessing more support. Talk to you next week at our regular time! Carol
How Can the Couple Deepen Their Relationship with Carol the Coach
November 15, 2018 19:00 - 48 minutes - 44.2 MBCarol the Coach is interiewing Christian Hutcheson, an expert in couples therapy. Dr Christian believes that she has found a technique that moves couples into deeper recovery when they have reached a plateau in their couples work.She believes that she has found the secret to enriching the couples relationship and she wants to share it with you!
Rebuilding Your Sexual Relationship with Carol the Coach
November 08, 2018 19:00 - 59 minutes - 54.6 MBI am training Clinicians and Coaches this week so this is a replay of a show that talks about how to build your sexual relationship in a way that makes you feel safe! We will see you back next week for live Betrayal Trauma Radio.
EMDR Can Help You Calm the Triggers with Carol the Coach
November 01, 2018 18:00 - 54 minutes - 49.8 MBEMDR is a wonderful therapy designed to help you integrate the traumatic experience in a manner that allows you to recall the memory without feeling intense trauma. EMDR was created to help you integrate the traumatic experience so that you process trauma and build more resiliency. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Cheri Hammer who has a specialty of working with betrayal trauma and teaching partners how they can manage their triggers to live calmer lives.
Emotional Regulation and Shame Resiliency in Partner Recovery w/ Carol the Coach
October 25, 2018 18:00 - 58 minutes - 53.9 MBJudy Kelly is an LCSW and a CSAT who is trained in Dr. Brene Brown's work on shame resiliency. She works with couples experiencing sexual addiction and wants to help partners work through emotional self regulation and shame resiliency. Carol the Coach will be inteviewing Judy on her Daring Greatly and Rising Strong Workshops that she does to promote healing and good self-esteem.
Getting Claity by Understanding Gaslighting with Carol the Coach
October 18, 2018 18:00 - 58 minutes - 52.3 MBWhile gaslightiing is something that is an issue in many, many relationships, the gaslighting experience is not always the same. Like most things, there is a scale or a degree that a sex addict may use gas lighting to maintain his addiction. Listen as Carol the Coachh interviews gaslighting expert Sarah Morales who wants to share the red flags so that you will be able to identify it. She maintains that you must know what it really is so that free yourself from the harmful effects.
Getting Clarity by Understanding Gaslighting with Carol the Coach
October 18, 2018 18:00 - 57 minutes - 52.3 MBWhile gaslightiing is something that is an issue in many, many relationships, the gaslighting experience is not always the same. Like most things, there is a scale or a degree that a sex addict may use gas lighting to maintain his addiction. Listen as Carol the Coachh interviews gaslighting expert Sarah Morales who wants to share the red flags so that you will be able to identify it. She maintains that you must know what it really is so that free yourself from the harmful effects.
How to Use Trigger Busters in the Relationship with Carol the Coach
October 11, 2018 18:00 - 59 minutes - 54.7 MBOne of the greatest casualties to sexual addiction is when a partner has to deal with triggers. Dorit Reichental has developed a Trigger Busters technique that sex addicts can use with their partners to assist in managing the triggers. Listen as she and Carol the Coach dialogue about how a husband can be the support she needs to quiet the triggers!
A Partner Gives Back with Carol the Coach
October 04, 2018 18:00 - 52 minutes - 48.4 MBSo many partners want to give back to other partners but are not sure how to start. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Coach Cat who shares her own personal story of being a partner, and having limited supports to get her through the crisis. What did she do? She got the needed training to work with partners and give back by becoming APSATS trained and creating curriculum for the Naked Truth Project in the UK. She is living proof of how you can grow stronger from this crisis!
How Do I Stop These Triggers with Carol the Coach
September 27, 2018 18:00 - 58 minutes - 53.4 MBPartners of sex addicts experience an emotional roller coaster due to the unique and powerful trauma of sexual betrayal. Lisa will be explaining to Carol the Coach the phenomenon of triggering and the potential damage this can cause, outlining her favorite methods for successful namigation of these occurrences i the daily lives of partners.
Rescuing Partners from the Trauma Triggers with Carol the Coach
September 13, 2018 18:00 - 57 minutes - 52.3 MBAnyone who has experienced the trauma of betrayal knows the reality of the dreaded triggers that plague the lives of partners. In the context of the relationship in which the betrayal occurred, these triggers often merge with the addict's own relational trauma scripts which greatly affects a partners sense of safety. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews "Trigger Expert" Jake Porter, who has a method that your spouse can use to make you feel safe and help work you through the trigger.
A Sex Addict, His Polygraph, and His Recovery with Carol the Coach
September 06, 2018 18:00 - 1 hour - 55 MBListen as Carol interviews a sex addict who wants to share his recovery from addiction and the role the polygraph has played in his healing and growth. He wants to communicate the powerful and positive impact the polygraph has had on his recovery and sexual brokenness and the positive impact it has made on his life and marriage.
Using A Partner Sensitive Approach with SA's and Partners
August 30, 2018 18:00 - 58 minutes - 53.8 MBCarol the Coach will be interviewing Tim Stein MFT, CSAT, CCPS who has made it his mission to deal with the aftermath of sexual addiction by using a partner sensitive approach. He will be discussing the benefits to sex addicts, the betrayed partners and the relationships of incorportating a partner sensitive approach into the sex addict's individual and group therapy work.
What the Church Can Do to Support Partners with Carol the Coach
August 23, 2018 18:00 - 56 minutes - 51.8 MBCarol the Coach will be interviewing Lyschel Burket who is a Lead Hope Caster for Hope Redefined Ministries, an organization that assists Churches in providing partner sensitive guidance when sexual betrayal has occured. Lyschel discovered first hand how churches, although well meaning, did not provide the proper guidance to partners and she has made it her mission to educate churches to minister to partners to restore hope and mend deeper wounds that occur as a result of partner betrayal.
Partners and Sexual Trauma with Carol the Coach on Betrayal Recovery Radio
August 16, 2018 18:00 - 56 minutes - 51.6 MBThere is a growing awareness, research and appropriate treatment modalities about the traumatic impact of learning of a loved one's addiction, However, there is a distinct absence of research seeking more information about the sexual impact of the addiction on the partner's sexual experience. Carol the Coach is interviewing Jeanne Vattuone who will be helping us understand sexual trauma and how this effects partners and how they can heal from it.
A Partners Journey with Carol the Coach
August 09, 2018 18:00 - 55 minutes - 50.4 MBToday, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Evelyn who has a story to share about loving a sex addict who has been in and out of recovery. She wants you to know that despite the intense pain behind her story, she has managed to grow stronger. She has vowed to help other women on this journey. She is currently writing a memoir to help provide a guide that will empower other women.
Vulnerability and Intimacy After Betrayal with Carol the Coach
August 02, 2018 18:00 - 59 minutes - 54.3 MBCarol the Coach will be interviewing Marie Kriebs an expert in intimacy disorders, partner betrayal and vulnerability. As an APSATS trained therapist, she believes it is important to educate betrayed partners about healthy intimacy and the importance of personal growth and self awareness. She will be sharing some of the myths about vulnerability and helping our listeneers toidentify how and when they can be more vulnerable.
Discovering your Spouse's Secret Betrayal with Carol the Coach
July 26, 2018 18:00 - 56 minutes - 51.6 MBRelationship Betrayal Trauma Recovery is essential for a person to heal from the wounds of being betrayed by their spouse or intimate partner. However, knowing what to do when you discover the secret betrayals can be overwhelmingly confusing. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck who specializes in helping individuals and couples heal the wounds of Relationship Betrayal. Today she is going to help partners understand what to do from discovering their spouse's secret bet...
When Can We Work on Our Relationship with Carol the Coach
July 19, 2018 18:00 - 1 hour - 57 MBThings have changed and what we know at APSATS is that once an addict is in good recovery, we need to start working on the early fundamentals of couples work to help the partner feel safe. Listen as Jeanne Vattuone talks about the principles of working with the coupleship after discovery, recovery, and disclosure
Boundaries Are Essential For You and Your Spouse with Carol the Coach
July 12, 2018 18:00 - 43 minutes - 40 MBBoundaries are essenntial in good sexual addiction recovery. Not only do they keep you safe, but they let your spouse know what the consequences are if they are violated. Carol and Pam have hammered out some good boundaries and consequences that have worked well in Pam's family. Find out how to create healthy boundaries or fine tune the ones you already have!
Can Polygraphs Really Help a Sex Addict Stay Sober with Carol the Coach
July 05, 2018 18:00 - 1 hour - 55.2 MBCarol The Coach will be interviewing David Robbins who is a certified polygrapher and uses them regularly to help sex addicts build trust in their wives and to increase the accountability factor that helps to keep them sober. He has given over 200 polygraphs to sex addicts and finds it particularly helpful after disclosures. Listen to this facinating interview and decide if you want to use polygraphs in your relationship!
Couples Can Survive Sexual Addiction with Carol the Coach
June 28, 2018 18:00 - 1 hour - 55 MBCarol the Coach interviews Coach Karen who has lived through partner betrayal and shares her inspirational story of how she and her husband healed together. She explains that recovery work is necessary for both the partner and spouse but then they must work on the coupleship to regain the intimacy that they lost. Coach Karen will share some thoughts, tools and suggestions for those who are beginnng to navigate this road back and desire to know what true reconciliation might look like.Listen...
Are Women Who Love Sex Addicts in Abusive Relationships with Carol the Coach
June 21, 2018 18:00 - 56 minutes - 51.3 MBCarol the Coach will be interviewing Anne Blythe, Founder and CEO of Betrayal Trauma Recovery which helps women dealing with the abusive nature of their relationship with ography users. Anne explains that coming to grips with the fact that you’re in an abusive relationship is a process, and Betrayal Trauma Recovery aims to help women through the process and get to safety - hopefully with their relationship in tact because BTR believes people can change. To ensure your emotional, physical, and...
The Devastation of Partner Betrayal Your Source for Healing
June 14, 2018 18:00 - 54 minutes - 49.6 MBToday, Carol will be interviewing Barbara Steffens, APSATS President, who will be sharing the history of why she started APSATS and how partners of sexual addiction can seek the safety they deserve. Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman discovers that the man she loves has been compulsively visiting adult websites,chatting on line or having multiple affairs must deal with the devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact...
Betrayal Recovery Radio Presents Partner Betrayal 101
June 06, 2018 22:30 - 13 minutes - 12.2 MBThis is a description of the show that we have created for you as you deal with being a partner of a sex addict and work through the trauma and drama in your life. You didn't cause this, you can't cure it but you can keep yourself safe and we are going to help you figure out how to do it!