Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS
231 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 months ago - ★★★★★ - 59 ratingsBetrayal is traumatic, and those who have been betrayed by partners living secret lives of sexual addiction deserve to be empowered and supported with knowledge and resources to allow them to move from shock through grief and into growth. On Betrayal Recovery Radio, our host, Dr. Jake Porter, lays out important topics for both sex addicts and their betrayed partners through conversations leading to hope and healing.
Betrayal Recovery Radio is the official podcast of The Association of Partners of Sex Addict Trauma Specialists (apsats.org). Dr. Jake Porter can be reached at drjakeporter.com.
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Navigating the Holiday Season in the Midst of Betrayal with Rebecca Ray
December 15, 2023 18:00 - 45 minutes - 42 MBIn today's episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, we delve into the complexities of the holiday season, a time filled with joy but often marred by the challenges of betrayal trauma. Joined by Rebecca Ray, we'll navigate the delicate dynamics faced by those affected by betrayal, whether as the betrayed or the betrayer. Rebecca Ray is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, licensed in Texas, Colorado, Missouri, and Florida and owner/founder of Ray Family Therapy in Houston, Texas. Rebecca is ...
The Prevalence of Domestic Violence in the Lives of Partners of Sex Addicts | With Lisa Taylor
October 26, 2023 17:00 - 50 minutes - 46.2 MBIn this interview I share the results of my Masters thesis which show that rates of domestic violence are considerably higher in the lives of partners of sex addicts than in the general population. This is significant because women are arriving daily on therapists’ doorsteps seeking help for betrayal trauma, but with their experiences of DV under recognized and under disclosed. Moreover the study looked into what factors were associated with more frequent violence and damaging types of viole...
Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast
October 05, 2023 19:02 - 56 minutes - 51.3 MBWelcome to another thought-provoking episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, hosted by Dr. Jake Porter. In this engaging installment titled "Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast," we delve deep into the complex landscape of betrayal within relationships. Joining Dr. Jake in this enlightening discussion are esteemed colleagues: Wendy Conquest, Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattuone, and Tim Stein. These experts are not only colleagues but also close friends who co-hos...
Considering the Impact for Neurodiverse Couples with Autism and Asperger Traits | with Shawna Meek
August 31, 2023 17:00 - 51 minutes - 47.5 MBOften when doing couples recovery work, the approach is from a neurotypical lens following betrayal trauma and sex addition. This may work for many couples, but what about when these approaches aren’t working for the long term healing of the relationship? Many couples share that it can be frustrating and discouraging especially when both partners in the couple ship desires growth and change. We are going to be talking about another lens and perspective to consider when one or both partners ...
Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training, with Aviva Kohl and Barbara Steffens
August 18, 2023 00:51 - 59 minutes - 54.2 MBIn this podcast episode, we explore the Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training (BTRL), a customized program designed for professionals within religious and faith-based communities. Our interview with Aviva Kohl and Barbara Steffens uncovers the core of BTRL, focusing on the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). Attendees learn to provide response, assessment, and support to those experiencing betrayal trauma, incorporating faith into their approach. The four-day training, s...
Peak Parenting in the Midst of Betrayal & Addiction
August 10, 2023 17:00 - 53 minutes - 48.6 MBSex addiction and betrayal doesn't have to take your parenting to new lows. In fact, by focusing on your core values you can realign your efforts to breathe new life into your parenting. People wonder what to tell the children and how to become a "family in recovery." It is possible to achieve peak parenting by recognizing your weak spots and using tools to combat the things that are pulling you into defeat. Join us as we discuss how to navigate the road of recovery while reaching new, more ...
Recognizing and Responding to Destructive Relationship patterns in your relationship | With Kimberly Day
August 05, 2023 05:08 - 47 minutes - 43.3 MBWhen your partner has a sexual addiction, acting out comes with the territory. Dealing with it is hard, even learning about it can be traumatic. But what about the behaviors INSIDE the relationship? How do you recognize and respond to inappropriate treatment from a partner? How do you become personally and relationally healthier when at least some of the trauma you find yourself experiencing is due to your partner's behavior inside the relationship? Whether overt or covert, whether emotio...
Unraveling Cognitive Distortions: Navigating Healing Post Betrayal, with Pam Blizzard and Dr. Jake Porter | Part 2
July 27, 2023 17:00 - 31 minutes - 29.1 MBIn this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery ...
Unraveling Cognitive Distortions: Navigating Healing Post Betrayal, with Pam Blizzard and Dr. Jake Porter | Part 1
July 21, 2023 17:03 - 30 minutes - 28.1 MBIn this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery ...
Adult Children of Sex Addicts: Hidden Effects on Those in the Periphery - Part 2
July 13, 2023 17:00 - 26 minutes - 24.7 MBThe field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address har...
Adult Children of Sex Addicts: Hidden Effects on Those in the Periphery - Part 1
July 06, 2023 17:00 - 28 minutes - 25.9 MBThe field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address har...
From Crisis to Purpose and Passion with Fran Hopwood | Part 2
June 29, 2023 17:00 - 25 minutes - 23.3 MBIn the second part of this moving interview, Dr. Jake asks Fran Hopwood to reflect on the healing and recovery journey that she and her late husband Richard followed over the last nine years. The focus will be on Richard and his story of transformation and growth as an individual and as part of a coupleship. Richard's early problematic sexual behaviour re-emerged with the advent of broadband internet. After Fran's D-Day in 2013, Richard started his journey of recovery. Early on he realise...
From Crisis to Purpose and Passion with Fran Hopwood | Part 1
June 22, 2023 17:00 - 29 minutes - 27.2 MBIn this moving interview, Dr. Jake asks Fran Hopwood to reflect on the healing and recovery journey that she and her late husband Richard followed over the last nine years. The focus will be on Richard and his story of transformation and growth as an individual and as part of a coupleship. Richard's early problematic sexual behaviour re-emerged with the advent of broadband internet. After Fran's D-Day in 2013, Richard started his journey of recovery. Early on he realised this was more tha...
Taking on the Hard Questions, with Lyschel Burkett, Bonnie Burns, Pam Blizzard, and Dr. Jake Porter
June 08, 2023 17:00 - 47 minutes - 43.6 MB"What if my husband won't see a therapist?" "When should we start having sex again?" "Why is he sober but still not connecting?" In this episode, Dr. Jake interviews the hostesses of the Hope for Wives podcast — Lyschel Burkett, Bonnie Burns, and Pam Blizzard. The three women are able to balance a plain-spoken, no-nonsense telling of the truth with compassion, support, and wisdom. Drawing from both their personal experience and professional expertise, Lyschel, Bonnie, and Pam take on ha...
Returning to You™: A Conversation on Betrayal Trauma with Stacey Sadler, Cheryl Rogers, Kathy Reynolds, and Dr. Jake Porter
May 04, 2023 17:12 - 53 minutes - 48.6 MBOver the last two decades, the way mental health professionals understand and treat the experience of betrayal has radically shifted from an emphasis on co-addiction and codependency to an embrace of the traumatic nature of intimate betrayal. In this conversation with Stacey Sadler, Cheryl Rogers, and Kathy Reynolds, they reflect both personally and professionally on this evolution and discuss how neglecting the treatment of betrayal trauma has consequences not only for the betrayed partner,...
Grief and Mourning as a Collective Experience, with Cat Etherington and Dr. Jake Porter
March 23, 2023 17:00 - 52 minutes - 47.7 MBGrief: The sticky middle piece of the betrayal recovery experience and the place many partners and couples get stuck. It seems that many in Western culture have lost the intuitive communal mourning processes that are still so common in other cultures. We have individualized and privatized our grief and mourning into a strictly personal affair. But there is so much value in the shared and collective experience of mourning, the knowing and being known of letting it be seen. Join Cat and Jake a...
Help. Her. Heal. with Carol "the Coach" Juergensen Sheets and Dr. Jake Porter
March 16, 2023 17:00 - 42 minutes - 39.1 MBCarol the Coach returns to Betrayal Recovery Radio to share more about how to heal from betrayal. In this conversation with Dr. Jake, she focuses on the stages of healing from betrayal trauma and also goes deep into the topic of posttraumatic growth. Carol also gives a sneak peak into her upcoming keynote at the Restoring Hearts Conference. Links in this episode: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com http://chooseconnectionsummit.com http://RestoringHeartsConference.org http://sexh...
Connection: Brain-Based Healing, Empathy, and Authentic Living - with Dr. Windell Gill, PSAP, and Laura Childers, LPC, CCPS
March 09, 2023 18:00 - 57 minutes - 52.9 MBWe are inherently social beings. Our brains are wired to connect, and when we feel disconnected, we struggle. If we feel isolated, our chances of having some type of psychiatric diagnosis increases. In the brain, the mirror neuron network helps us to understand subtleties in social, emotional and linguistic interchanges. The extended mirror neuron network helps us to interpret these subtleties. If our mirror neuron system is dysregulated, we struggle with being able to connect in an authe...
The Unexpected Gift of Betrayal: Friendship, with Lyschel Burket and Dr. Jake Porter
March 02, 2023 18:00 - 50 minutes - 46 MBThe aftermath of betrayal can put all of our relationships into question. Secrecy, confusion, fear of judgement, and shame can lead to the loss of long time relationships as a woman sorts through her pain and tries to make sense of her reality. Join us as we talk with Lyschel Burket, Lead Hope Caster for Hope Redefined and podcast co-host for Hope For Wives. She will talk about the unexpected gift that comes when we are able to find community that can walk in the mud with us in this particu...
Emotional Abuse and Sex Addiction Recovery, with Tamara Lichfield and Dr. Jake Porter
February 23, 2023 18:00 - 44 minutes - 40.6 MBIn marriages and intimate relationships affected by sexual addiction, it is not uncommon for emotional abuse be present. Sometimes the abusive behaviors can increase with more intensity when the one struggling with the addiction becomes "sober" but is not fully committed to recovery. These behaviors are often maladaptive coping mechanisms fueled by shame and stemming from unhealed trauma. Many do not realize they are engaging in these unhealthy coping skills. Also, their intent is not to hu...
"That's Gaslighting!" (Or Is It?) with Sarah Morales and Dr. Jake Porter
February 16, 2023 19:47 - 57 minutes - 52.5 MBWhile GASLIGHTING is now a pop-culture buzz word, AND Merriam-Webster's word of the year, a lot of what is out there is either misinformation, or incomplete information. The result? A LOT of people are incorrectly slapping the label of gaslighting on to situations that are actually NOT a gaslighting experience. The overuse of the word has left most of us with MORE questions than answers. Let's take a few situations and look at whether or not gaslighting is occurring, and if not — why not! ...
How to Understand Your Partner's Sexual Fantasies - with Dr. Jake Porter and Drew Boa
January 26, 2023 18:00 - 57 minutes - 52.4 MBTRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains content that could be upsetting or painful to individuals at particular points in their journey to healing from trauma. Please honor your intuition about whether this is the right time for you to engage this episode. Discovering the specifics of your partner's sexual fantasies or behaviors can be devastating and disturbing. However, fantasies don't have to be scary. Sexual fantasies lose much of their power when you can understand the story behind them...
Unlocking Family of Origin Issues - Part 2, with Dr. Jake Porter
December 08, 2022 18:00 - 51 minutes - 46.7 MB(Part 2 of 2) "Family of Origin" is the term used in counseling work to refer to the relational systems into which we were born and raised. Our families of origin leave lasting impacts on us all. They are the source of so many of our most basic ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. A crucial step in healing for all people is to gain an awareness of our families of origin. This awareness takes us outside our biased perspective as participants and gives us the view of an outside, unbiased ...
Unlocking Family of Origin Issues - Part 1, with Dr. Jake Porter
December 01, 2022 18:00 - 38 minutes - 35.7 MB(Part 1 of 2) "Family of Origin" is the term used in counseling work to refer to the relational systems into which we were born and raised. Our families of origin leave lasting impacts on us all. They are the source of so many of our most basic ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. A crucial step in healing for all people is to gain an awareness of our families of origin. This awareness takes us outside our biased perspective as participants and gives us the view of an outside, unbiased ...
Sexual Intimacy in the Betrayal Healing Process, with Dr. Jake Porter & Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck
November 10, 2022 18:00 - 55 minutes - 50.4 MBEverything about your sexual health is impacted when you are betrayed by someone you love and trust. Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, an ASSECT Certified Sex Therapist, and an APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist. She helps betrayed partners move from unhealthy to healthy sexuality in the healing process after betrayal. Dr. Hollenbeck understands the traumatic impact on you as an individual and as a sexual partner and she offers hope for partners that...
Being Sober Is Not Enough, with Dr. Jake Porter and Dr. Eddie Capparucci
October 20, 2022 17:00 - 53 minutes - 48.7 MBSex addiction is often an intimacy disorder. For many, its roots take hold during the early stages of childhood development when we should be given the instruction and nurturing needed to emotionally bond with others. When this does not happen, we struggle to feel love, or for that matter, feel any emotions. We are emotionally undeveloped. This leaves us lacking the skills and resources needed to emotionally connect on a deeper level. So even if one becomes sexually-sober, if one does not le...
Is Betrayal Trauma Real? Part 2 - with Dr. Jake Porter
October 06, 2022 17:00 - 30 minutes - 28.1 MBBetrayal Trauma is a reality. It’s not weakness of character, lack of forgiveness, or a sign of resentment. The discovery of secret betrayal has a literal, physical affect on the brain and its ability to process and act upon the data we take in as we move through life. In this episode, you’ll hear the second half of Dr. Jake Porter’s keynote presentation on Betrayal Trauma at the XPOSED conference from earlier this year in Portland, Oregon. In it, he discusses what Betrayal Trauma is, how it...
Is Betrayal Trauma Real? Part 1 - with Dr. Jake Porter
September 29, 2022 18:20 - 26 minutes - 23.9 MBBetrayal Trauma is a reality. It’s not weakness of character, lack of forgiveness, or a sign of resentment. The discovery of secret betrayal has a literal, physical affect on the brain and its ability to process and act upon the data we take in as we move through life. In this episode, you’ll hear the first half of Dr. Jake Porter’s keynote presentation on Betrayal Trauma at the XPOSED conference from earlier this year in Portland, Oregon. In it, he discusses what Betrayal Trauma is, how it ...
When Addicts Don't Want the Help They Need, with Tiffany Comiskey and Dr. Jake Porter
September 08, 2022 17:00 - 55 minutes - 51.1 MBBetrayed partners are usually so traumatized by the discovery of their partners' addiction or betrayal that they are trying to just put together the reality of what life is and has truly been. The first phase of healing from betrayal trauma is safety and stabilization. One of the first things that needs to happen is to find out what the betrayed partner needs to feel safe, and that usually means involving the betrayer. But what happens if the ones who did the betraying discard their partners...
Divorce Prevention 101, with Kim Hansen Petroni, CPC and Dr. Jake Porter
September 01, 2022 17:00 - 40 minutes - 37.1 MBDivorce might seem like the obvious answer when betrayal occurs, but there are ways to save a marriage or relationship if the betrayer and partner are willing to step into healing. In this conversation between Dr. Jake and APSATS Certified Partner Coach Kim Hansen Petroni, they discuss the topic of divorce after the betrayal from several angles. Links from the show: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com http://go.boundariessummit.com http://www.coachinghope4u.com http://sex...
What About the Kids? Disclosing Sex Addiction to Children, with Carley Pool and Dr. Jake Porter
August 25, 2022 17:00 - 49 minutes - 45.2 MBOne of the trickiest scenarios recovering addicts and betrayed partners must navigate involves disclosure to children. How much do you tell? When do you share? Who should do it? While there's no one-size-fits-all approach to answer these questions, some principles are generally helpful to those who are facing this reality. In this episode, APSATS-trained Carley Pool, LPC Associate discusses these matters with Dr. Jake. Links from show: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com http://bou...
Core Values for Couples (Part 2), with Dr. Jake Porter
August 18, 2022 17:00 - 49 minutes - 45.5 MB(This is the second part of a two-part series on core values. If you've not yet heard part one, go listen to that first!) Everyone has values. Some people choose their values on purpose. Others fall into valuing things that lead them away from the life they want most. Core values act as guides, pointing us in the direction of our dreams, hope, and expectations. This is true for individuals, but it can be true for couples, as well. Discover the power of shared values in relationships thro...
Core Values for Couples, Part One, with Dr. Jake Porter
August 11, 2022 17:00 - 43 minutes - 40.3 MBEveryone has values. Some people choose their values on purpose. Others fall into valuing things that lead them away from the life they want most. Core values act as guides, pointing us in the direction of our dreams, hope, and expectations. This is true for individuals, but it can be true for couples, as well. Discover the power of shared values in relationships through this episode with Dr. Jake Porter! http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com
Empathy Heals Relationships
August 04, 2022 19:59 - 46 minutes - 42.2 MBIn this conversation on the needs of couples after the discovery of sexual addiction, Dr. Jake is joined by Carol the Coach discuss her ERCEM model, the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model. Jake and Carol talk about the three phases of healing for betrayal trauma, and how the betraying partner can help to heal the relationship, despite being the cause of pain. They discuss what true empathy is, and how it can transform the dynamic of the relationship and open the way to true healing. http:...
Adding Attunement to Empathy, with Julie St.Onge, CPC
July 21, 2022 17:00 - 41 minutes - 38 MBIn Julie's interview, she will discuss why attunement is important, how it can be developed, the three C's of Non-Verbal Communication: context, cluster, congruency. Albert Mehrabian's 55%, 38%, 7% Rule states that only 7% of what we communicate is with words, and yet we focus so many tools on this aspect. The rest of what we say is through signals, micro-expressions, facial reflexes, breathing patterns, and noises. Developing attunement to your partner's distress signals prior to the need ...
Surviving Sexual Betrayal, with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Kathy Reynolds
July 07, 2022 17:00 - 50 minutes - 46.1 MBBetrayal can be devastating to your partner and your relationship, but many couples still love one another and are committed to mending their relationships. In order to do this, it is important for the unfaithful party to understand the traumatic nature of betrayal, and understand how to respond sensitively to their partner's pain. It is also critical they adopt a stance of honesty, transparency and commitment in their relationships. This often includes participating in a facilitated disclos...
Recognizing and Healing from Childhood Neglect, with Enod Gray and Dr. Jake Porter
June 30, 2022 17:00 - 43 minutes - 39.5 MBMany people initially seek therapy for problems in their intimate relationships unaware that attachment patterns established in childhood directly affect behavior in their adult relationships. It is important to dismantle and become mindful of survival strategies unconsciously created in childhood that cause dysfunction in adult life. Neglect and our reaction to it is one of the most subtle and unrecognized of those problems which interferes with our ability to love and be loved. We are nat...
Life Integrity, with Michelle Dyett-Welcome and Dr. Jake Porter
June 23, 2022 17:00 - 45 minutes - 41.3 MBAfter the discovery of sexual betrayal, betrayed partners need much more than "mere sobriety" for trust to be rebuilt. In this episode, Dr. Jake interview APSATS Certified Partner Coach Michelle Dyett-Welcome on the topic of life integrity. By focusing on issues of character and the necessity of core values living, those who have committed betrayal can experience deep healing for themselves, and make a space for the healing of their partners and relationships. Links mentioned in the show:...
What I've Learned So Far: Essential Reflections on Working with Addiction and Betrayal, with Dr. Jake Porter
June 09, 2022 17:00 - 56 minutes - 52.1 MBIn this episode, Dr. Jake reflects on some of the things he's learned over the years he's worked with sex addicts and betrayed partners. He discusses why these lessons are important for both professionals in the field but also those individuals seeking to recovery from the consequences of addiction and betrayal. Dr. Jake expands on these eight lessons: Betrayal is an issue of justice. Disclosures can be healing rather than traumatic. Co-occurring disorders must be assessed, diagnosed, and...
Disclosing Truth After Betrayal, with Dan Drake, Janice Caudill, and Dr. Jake Porter
June 09, 2022 06:07 - 54 minutes - 50.3 MBDiscovery of sexual betrayal erodes safety, trust and intimacy in relationships. This brings devastation to the partner and the relationship. So how do we start the process of healing after sexual betrayal? One major way to begin healing is through a formal disclosure process, facilitated by a professional. In this episode, we’ll explore what a formal disclosure is, as well as the benefits and risks of doing a disclosure. We’ll address best practices in the full disclosure process, including...
Disclosing Truth after Betrayal with Dan Drake, Janice Caudill & Dr. Jake Porter
June 02, 2022 17:00 - 55 minutes - 50.3 MBDiscovery of sexual betrayal erodes safety, trust and intimacy in relationships. This brings devastation to the partner and the relationship. So how do we start the process of healing after sexual betrayal? One major way to begin healing is through a formal disclosure process, facilitated by a professional. In this episode, we’ll explore what a formal disclosure is, as well as the benefits and risks of doing a disclosure. We’ll address best practices in the full disclosure process, including ...
Resiliency in the Wake of Trauma, with Sara Schulting-Kranz and Dr. Jake Porter
May 26, 2022 17:00 - 54 minutes - 49.5 MBOur difficult life experiences and traumas, including those we have collectively experienced in the last few years, have created an opening for personal growth, healing, and an opportunity to connect within our community in a way that we were never offered in the past. Through her own experience of walking through personal devastation and loss while healing in nature, Sara shares the principles she’s developed and uses to guide men and women on healing retreats in the Grand Canyon and Alaska....
Putting Together the "Plan" After Betrayal w/ Tiffany Comiskey & Dr. Jake Porter
May 05, 2022 17:00 - 47 minutes - 43.9 MBWhen someone is suffering from Betrayal Trauma, they are typically frightened, angry, confused, sometimes frozen in a state of shock wanting to just feel safe. So safety and stabilization is the immediate mission with a betrayed partner. Throughout the healing process the partner will constantly be pointed back to the issue of safety because that is the root to being able to trust again. Regardless of how long she has been on her journey, she can have a plan, which will be formable as she mov...
How Intimacy Clarifies Grief and Empowers Growth
April 21, 2022 17:00 - 49 minutes - 45 MBBoth the addict and the partner suffer from the loss of time, meaning, and clarity. Connecting together through pain, shame, and helplessness (vulnerability) enables them to recreate a shared story of suffering and recovering together. Learning to grieve one's own losses is critical for individual recovery; learning to grieve shared losses is critical to relational recovery. When the addict, in particular, learns to walk through the partner's experience there is an empathic exchange that rec...
Understanding Grief After the Discovery of Betrayal, with Dr. Jake Porter
April 14, 2022 17:00 - 59 minutes - 54.5 MBGrief is an inevitable part of the healing processes for those who have been impacted by the discovery of betrayal, as well as for those who have done the betraying. Grief and mourning, the second phase of APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model, is where those who have experienced loss begin to create a new meaning that leads to healing and the ability to move forward. In this episode, Dr. Jake discusses grief as it relates to betrayal trauma. Discovery insights from clinical theories o...
When Self-Help Hurts, with Dr. Jake Porter and Jessica Guillory
April 07, 2022 17:00 - 49 minutes - 45.4 MBRecovery is meant to be a journey, not a destination. Healing is not an end unto itself, but a process needed to make another way of living possible, without the weight of trauma and addiction. In this conversation between Dr. Jake and Jessica Guillory, an APSATS-trained LPC, they discuss how people can begin to see signs that efforts for recovery might be getting in the way of post-traumatic growth.
Addiction & Betrayal Q&A, with Dr. Jake Porter and Andrea Rogers, CPC
March 31, 2022 17:00 - 1 hour - 55.3 MBThe twin processes of recovery from sex addiction and healing from betrayal trauma can be complicated. The complexity of the wounds, both individually and relationally, can leave people feeling disoriented and lost. In the Q&A session, Dr. Jake Porter and APSATS Certified Partner Coach Andrea Rogers take on those questions from actually folks in the trenches of the recovery process. Links mentioned during the show: http://APSATS.org https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com http://drjakeporte...
Couples Heal with Empathy, with Carol the Coach and Dr. Jake Porter
March 24, 2022 16:00 - 57 minutes - 52.2 MBCouples who have suffered the consequences of sexual addiction and betrayal have quite the journey ahead. While traditional models of recovery focus on parallel processes of recovery for the addicted and betrayed partners, Carol the Coach's new model — ERCEM — helps couples begin healing together through the power of empathy. Links mentioned in the show: APSATS.org ChooseConnectionSummit.com https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com/ DrJakePorter.com
Tell the Truth: Using Polygraphs Effectively w/ Stephen Cabler & Dr. Jake Porter
March 17, 2022 16:00 - 57 minutes - 52.2 MBThe use of polygraphs in sexual addiction recovery has been a long-debated subject, but one with increasing use by many clinicians and coaches. Many disclosure processes now take advantage of polygraph technology as a tool to increase effectiveness. In this conversation with polygraph examiner Stephen Cabler, Dr. Jake draws out some basics about how to use polygraphs effectively in the recovery process.
Effective Advocacy After Spiritual Trauma w/ Stacey Sadler and Dr. Jake Porter
March 10, 2022 17:00 - 50 minutes - 46 MBA sadly common experience of betrayed partners is finding additional trauma rather than support when they go to leaders of their faith communities. Though they often mean well, religious leaders sometimes end up furthering the damage done to coming to them in crisis after the discovery. Betrayed partners need to understand the dynamics of spiritual trauma in order to process and heal from the harm they've received. In this episode, Dr. Jake interviews APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Speci...